What goes around comes around. Letting Karma handle it or Do you step in?

[yob_hcaeb]

Has anyone ever been taken aback by someone they loved deeply, only to realize they became a complete stranger—cold, cruel, and unrecognizable? That’s what happened to me. A relationship ended due to the other person’s actions, and I bore the emotional fallout myself.

 

Throughout the relationship, it was toxic, one-sided, and manipulative. I was okay as long as they felt loved, but the truth was the opposite. It started with lies—lies about things that didn’t even exist. No matter how much I gave or compromised, it never worked.

 

Surprisingly, I can’t even recall exactly how the relationship ended. Despite my efforts to salvage it, I ended up embroiled in police and court cases, accused of causing emotional distress, anxiety, and fear for personal safety and privacy.

 

Here’s the twist: someone who fears for their safety wouldn’t go home after work for their own protection. Yet, while claiming concern for personal safety, they could go out, meet someone from a dating app, check into a hotel, and spend the night with them—while the person knew I was their partner. I wasn’t able to confront or “catch” them, which left me feeling powerless.

 

On top of that, I reached out to a mutual friend for clarification, but he refused to help—even though I had helped him in the past when he needed it. The disappointment and betrayal feel overwhelming.

 

At this point, I’m drained, hurt, and confused. How can a person behave like this? Do I just wait for karma to take its course, or should I intervene?

[Steve5380]

1 hour ago, yob_hcaeb said:

Has anyone ever been taken aback by someone they loved deeply, only to realize they became a complete stranger—cold, cruel, and unrecognizable? That’s what happened to me. A relationship ended due to the other person’s actions, and I bore the emotional fallout myself.

 

At this point, I’m drained, hurt, and confused. How can a person behave like this? Do I just wait for karma to take its course, or should I intervene?

 

Are you healthy?  You preserve your body integrity, with all body parts intact? You have a roof over your head?  Are you able to get food, clothes, etc.?  Are you free from HIS influence, presence? 

 

If so, you qualify for the feeling of happiness.  This is a feeling that we should cultivate, even against all the negatives in our life.  The negatives of the past are simply in our head, they don't exist anymore because they are "past".  Even if you haven't tried it before,  concentrate in the moment and try to feel happiness, joy, optimism.  This feeling may last for a few seconds, minutes, hours.  The important thing is recognizing that it exists, and that we can induce it.  Practice makes perfect...

 

See how the hurt goes away if it is not physical. Drained should disappear soon.  Confused can vanish as soon as you stop thinking about HIM.  Positive thoughts can replace all of these, if you let them come in.  And HIS KARMA?  Isn't this HIS fuc*ing business?  Why should you care about it?   And... intervene?? For what purpose, if you are free from HIM?  Instead, you can create a lot of positive karma for yourself  by throwing away his memory and replacing it with positive feelings of optimism, self-esteem, confidence in the future, 

[cbm]

This is your side of the story. I'm curious to know the other person's perspective. I don't think police will grant protection order without valid reason right?

[doncoin]

You know that confronting the other person, the 3rd party, is not going to change your bf/partner. Even if the 3rd party ends the relationship, your toxic partner is just going to find someone else. Instead of sticking around with him and wait for karma to take its course, you should end it immediately and put a stop to all the hurt and confusion; unless of course, you secretly enjoy putting yourself in these emotional rollercoaster rides. Then, you really need to go seek professional help on why you put yourself in these toxic relationships. 

[yob_hcaeb]

Hi everyone, I really need advice because my mind feels completely blank. Recently, I discovered that my partner was seeing someone else before we ended our relationship. It seems they started meeting up on and off during our first rough patch. To make things worse, the other person even had their sexual encounters recorded and posted on OnlyFans.

 

On top of that, the one friend I thought I could rely on hasn’t really been there for me at all, even though I’ve always supported him throughout our friendship. I feel completely lost right now.

[egal]

perhaps you should move on and forget about them.  they are not worth your time and energy

[Afiqster]

Totally agree with it… move on

[radiusulnar]

Sorry to hear about the heartbreak. It's cliche but time does heal everything. Move on. You deserve happiness and deserve better.

[Nivek]

I'm watching this lady to help me with healing.

 

https://youtu.be/npAZvkcHYdQ?si=kDiJ40uLqBrtmVIc

 

Or this lady:

 

https://youtu.be/BTIb7gwKLlo?si=hoHieCvqOD9f0hB3

 

Maybe they can help you learn something about yourself.

Edited September 21, 2025 by Nivek

[yob_hcaeb]

Why want to do such things? Shall disclose so there won't be more victims 

1 hour ago, Nivek said:

I'm watching this lady to help me with healing.

 

https://youtu.be/npAZvkcHYdQ?si=kDiJ40uLqBrtmVIc

 

Or this lady:

 

https://youtu.be/BTIb7gwKLlo?si=hoHieCvqOD9f0hB3

 

Maybe they can help you learn something about yourself.

 

[Damienzo]

4 hours ago, yob_hcaeb said:

Hi everyone, I really need advice because my mind feels completely blank. Recently, I discovered that my partner was seeing someone else before we ended our relationship. It seems they started meeting up on and off during our first rough patch. To make things worse, the other person even had their sexual encounters recorded and posted on OnlyFans.

 

On top of that, the one friend I thought I could rely on hasn’t really been there for me at all, even though I’ve always supported him throughout our friendship. I feel completely lost right now.

*hugss*

Take it as blessing in disguise that you see through him and broke off. You will find a better guy 

[Nivek]

1 hour ago, yob_hcaeb said:

Why want to do such things? Shall disclose so there won't be more victims

Sorry I don't understand what you mean....

[Magicerife]

Are you talking about the same ex you’ve been posting about in your other threads? Because honestly, this is getting confusing.

 

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Almost a year ago you already found out he cheated on you. Yet now you’re saying you only just discovered he was seeing someone else before the breakup. Which is it? Back then, people already told you to move on, but you chose to stay and “beat the odds.”

 

Then in your more recent thread, you mentioned he filed a protection order against you. If that’s true, the court wouldn’t have granted it unless there were real grounds of harassment or distress. Despite all that, you’re still here posting about him and now calling him a slut.

 

At this point, it doesn’t look like you want advice. It looks like you’re stuck reliving the same story for attention. If you really want to get better, stop feeding the drama. Cut off all contact, stop checking up on him, and stop writing threads about him. Redirect that energy into something that actually builds you up. Gym, hobbies, meeting new people, therapy or even raunchy casual sex if you need help breaking the cycle.

 

And to be blunt, everyone else here isn’t helping by entertaining this cycle either. The more attention you get, the longer you stay stuck.

 

The bottom line: he’s moved on. It’s time you did too. The best “advice” anyone can give now is simple: let go and move on.

 

Amen.

 

 

 

Edited September 21, 2025 by Magicerife

[doncoin]

@Magicerife I think that @yob_hcaeb thrives on being the victim. It could be an unconscious action, where they don't really believe that they are worthy to be loved and treated well; especially amongst Asians, where suffering is seen as grit, enduring hardships to validate self-worth. 

[radiusulnar]

3 hours ago, doncoin said:

where suffering is seen as grit, enduring hardships to validate self-worth

 

Hence the legend of the asian work horse in western offices

[singalion]

On 9/21/2025 at 6:17 PM, yob_hcaeb said:

Hi everyone, I really need advice because my mind feels completely blank. Recently, I discovered that my partner was seeing someone else before we ended our relationship. It seems they started meeting up on and off during our first rough patch. To make things worse, the other person even had their sexual encounters recorded and posted on OnlyFans.

 

On top of that, the one friend I thought I could rely on hasn’t really been there for me at all, even though I’ve always supported him throughout our friendship. I feel completely lost right now.

 

Your relationship ended roughly a year ago and you still can't let go. 

 

If your only reaction is to harass your ex and now even threatening to doxx him here, then it is clear, you're not the victim but the attacker. 

 

You seem the type of person nobody can stand as a boyfriend due to your obsessive / possesive behaviour. 

 

Stop stalking your ex further as nobody owns another person. 

 

Same you now blame your best friends because they tried helping you while you actually felt they would/should support your malicious revenge attempts on your ex (and his new bf). 

 

Stop pretending your ex harmed you when he was simply fed up with your childish behaviour and ended the relationship. 

 

(If you still can't get over the fact that your relationship to him has ended) do yourself a favour and seek psychological help soonest. 

 

What other people post on onlyfans is none of your business as it doesn't involve you. 

 

 

Edited September 22, 2025 by singalion

[singalion]

 

On 9/12/2025 at 11:58 PM, doncoin said:

You know that confronting the other person, the 3rd party, is not going to change your bf/partner. Even if the 3rd party ends the relationship, your toxic partner is just going to find someone else. Instead of sticking around with him and wait for karma to take its course, you should end it immediately and put a stop to all the hurt and confusion; unless of course, you secretly enjoy putting yourself in these emotional rollercoaster rides. Then, you really need to go seek professional help on why you put yourself in these toxic relationships. 

 

TS is most probably not the innocent beach_ boy he pretends to be. 

His ex bf might  not even be the toxic one but no other than him himself. 

 

Instead of letting go, TS is stalking his ex, observing every of his move and that for nearly one year now (after the end of the relationship).

 

TS feels the hurt party and doesn't want to allow his ex to live a happy life as TS doesn't want to realise that the relationship has long time back ended. 

 

TS is driven by revenge the sort of if he's not happy, then his ex shall not be happy also. 

 

It is always easy to blame others for your own failings. 

 

This episode has nothing to do with karma but is a case of lack of self reflection and accepting realities. 

 

You can't hold on things that have long time gone...

 

[G_M]

Merged Beach_boy's post into 1.