STD from cruising activities

[Guest crn]

Are people not worried of contracting diseases when engaging in such activities especially those unplanned ones

[cbm]

They're not worried at that point in time because they're not really, fully, actively aware of the risks involved. They're thinking with their dicks, not their brains.

 

 

[mate69]

Calculated risks

[juicyass]

13 hours ago, Guest crn said:

Are people not worried of contracting diseases when engaging in such activities especially those unplanned ones

 

Will you not get STD when you are engaging in planned ones? lol. 

[Pubico1]

16 hours ago, cbm said:

They're not worried at that point in time because they're not really, fully, actively aware of the risks involved. They're thinking with their dicks, not their brains.

 

 

Honestly cruised or planned … it’s all for the dicks …. So all got risks so long as semen, blood or even direct skin to skin contact take place … zero risk only when truly monogamous or just zero play whole life … even use of protection is just protection as best possible … no such thing as zero risk tbh 

[bodybuildMLY]

Fyi, even if you are on PreP, you will still be exposed to other infections and viruses like syphillis, gonorrhea, herpes, crabs, etc. So be careful if you have mutiple sex sessions. 

[Sexyass]

18 hours ago, Guest crn said:

Are people not worried of contracting diseases when engaging in such activities especially those unplanned ones

You can only minimize risks, but it won’t be zero.

 

how low the chance, depends what you do.

 

you need a condom at a bare minimum, and best if you are on PreP and have access to PEP in case failures.

 

also helps if you are HPV and monkeypox vaccinated.

 

on the opposite extreme would be behaviors unplanned, meaning raw breeding with no condom. In a sauna or other environment with multiple strangers. The risk of catching something than becomes extremely high.

 

think many people on this forum express fantasies ~ but I suspect they remain as fantasies. Cos if truly acted upon for real, then yes they should be worried about contracting diseases. And if they are NOT, well, maybe they won’t be the type of partner you would want to meet either….

[Guest Xyz]

Pure hj should be fine right 

[cbm]

15 minutes ago, Guest Xyz said:

Pure hj should be fine right 

HPV can spread through that way. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_papillomavirus_infection

 

Hands

Studies have shown HPV transmission between the hands and genitals of the same person and sexual partners. Hernandez tested the genitals and dominant hand of each person in 25 heterosexual couples every other month for an average of seven months. She found two couples where the man's genitals infected the woman's hand with high-risk HPV, two where her hand infected his genitals, one where her genitals infected his hand, two each where he infected his own hand, and she infected her own hand. Hands were not the main source of transmission in these 25 couples, but they were significant.[112]

[mate69]

PrEP

Doxy

Hep A, B vaccination

Mpox vaccination

HPV vaccination

 

Get these ^, and then the fear will be eradicated hahaha

Edited July 24 by mate69

[cbm]

23 minutes ago, mate69 said:

PrEP

Doxy

Hep A, B vaccination

Mpox vaccination

HPV vaccination

 

Get these ^, and then the fear will be eradicated hahaha

 

None of those protect against HSV, herpes.

 

Having sexual activities with someone, whether if it's someone you know or a stranger from cruising, is all about risk management. There is no such thing as zero risk.

 

The point I was trying to put across in my previous post is that many are not fully aware of the risks involved. If your base knowledge is shaky from the start, how can you do proper risk management.

[Clive]

The premise of the OP seems to be that cruising is of higher risk, but that is not necessarily true.

 

Casual Sex

Cruising = Casual Sex, that is having sex with a stranger you do not really know. This is not that much different from other forms of casual sex, such as,

• Meeting on dating apps
• Meeting at saunas

In all these cases, the risks arising from the encounter is uncertain, and one needs to take precautions.

 

Non-Casual Sex

For non-casual sex, then it would be with a long-time partner or perhaps friends with benefits. Even then, you cannot control their activities unless you are in an exclusive relationship. So similar risks may still exist

 

Cruising is Generally Intentional

In my personal opinion, one generally has to plan to have sex, even if there is a component of chance. Like you need to wash-up and be clean (I hope so...), and if you are bottoming you would want to additionally ensure that you are prepped. So most would cruise prepared, rather than be window shopping and accidentally find themselves up close with cocks in the washroom.

 

Specific STI Risks

The main STI risk is HIV as it is a life-long condition (although very controllable with U=U) if infected. The risk with this is anal sex - there isn't any real risk (read as no risk) of HIV transmission with oral sex. So it depends on the type of sex - some people just do oral when they cruise.

 

For more involved penetrations, daily HIV PrEP is highly effective and  is more protective than condoms against HIV. People who engage in casual unprotected sex will likely be on HIV PrEP (and I assume this would be the expected standard in the gay community nowadays, otherwise please consider it seriously).

 

The remainder of STIs can be discussion for another day but essentially they are either treatable (syphilis, gonorrhoea, chlamydia), not as consequential (HPV) or inevitable (herpes).

 

Note: Herpes is very common. Quick google search will show that worldwide about 60+% of people under age 50 have oral herpes (HSV-1), more than 20% of people aged 15 to 49 have genital herpes (HSV-2 or HSV-1). It is more of a nuisance, rather than causing any major health threat in a healthy person

[Guest Abc]

Tempted to giving/receiving hj thru understall should the chance come

Any advice to reduce the risk

[fenghou]

On 7/23/2026 at 11:06 AM, juicyass said:

 

Will you not get STD when you are engaging in planned ones? lol. 

i think OP's point is, if it is planned you can be on PrEP and DoxyPEP,

but if you suck off the random cute guy you happen to bump into BY CHANCE..... it is a different story

[Home_SG]

Everything happens for a reason. Fated means fated 

[AskMeNot]

It really depends on what you do. If you only just use your eyes to cruise, then you are very, very safe from STD. 

[Sexyass]

On 7/24/2026 at 1:51 PM, mate69 said:

PrEP

Doxy

Hep A, B vaccination

Mpox vaccination

HPV vaccination

 

Get these ^, and then the fear will be eradicated hahaha

Yes, and no

 

think @cbm made the right point.

 

you can cover a LOT of things with the regime listed.which is the great news part.

 

however, they don’t protect against herpes, and a couple others asymptomatic yet consequential infections like MG (mycoplasma genitalium ) Trich , gardnerella etc.

 

think whether casual or planned, using a condom barrier will solve most problems.

 

if doing raw, just be aware even with the full regime ( and TBH, how many bothered to get that many vax? ), there are others as listed above not covered in the vaccination and PreP gives zero protection against.

 

Sorry if i been beating the dead horse. But as a bottom, it’s harder to test and treat these infections as it happens inside our ass…as compared to Top. Hence also the need for regular full screens, if one ever indulges in unprotected sex with a unknown partner.

 

 

[bluerunner]

On 7/23/2026 at 3:40 PM, bodybuildMLY said:

Fyi, even if you are on PreP, you will still be exposed to other infections and viruses like syphillis, gonorrhea, herpes, crabs, etc. So be careful if you have mutiple sex sessions. 

You brought up a very valid point. 
Some ppl think he is indestructible when he is on PreP. 🙊🙄

[fattycatty162]

whats the std risk of getting a handjob and ur nipples sucked ?

[OziBoi]

So people tell you they are on prep but how do you know? Is it a game of Russian roulette! How do you ask them to prove it? 

Edited July 28 by OziBoi

[cbm]

2 hours ago, OziBoi said:

So people tell you they are on prep but how do you know? Is it a game of Russian roulette! How do you ask them to prove it? 

 

PrEP only protects the person taking it, not the other party. Don't gamble and depend on others. Take PrEP yourself. 

Edited July 28 by cbm

[doncoin]

As I have said before, and I will said it again, if STD is a major concern, then it is best to abstain from sexual contact with another person, and stick to masturbation. 

 

Most STD or STIs are treatable. As many have pointed out, the moment you come in close contact with another person, there is always some chance for an infection. If you think you have gotten something, go see a doctor, take the antibiotics, get a follow up blood test done, and you are good.  

[mate69]

58 minutes ago, cbm said:

 

PrEP only protects the person taking it, not the other party. Don't gamble and depend on others. Take PrEP yourself. 

 

This ^

A lot of people have major misconceptions around taking PrEP 

[cbm]

Yes STIs are manageable with a big caveat: this requires you to have ample money to go for regular testing, treatments, medicines, consultation and related items. Some infections are lifelong and you can end up spending a lot of money managing the STI.

[notd]

If you're worried about contracting something, stick to epidermal-level hanky pankies, which isn't a lot frankly.

 

Nipple-sucking, dry humping or intercrural sex. Frotting (???) Getting guys to kiss you on the neck.

 

[OziBoi]

15 hours ago, cbm said:

 

PrEP only protects the person taking it, not the other party. Don't gamble and depend on others. Take PrEP yourself. 

It’s also not 100% effective in protection! Better than nothing I guess! Think I’ll stick to the safer play. 

Edited July 29 by OziBoi

[cutejack]

On 7/27/2026 at 8:49 PM, fattycatty162 said:

whats the std risk of getting a handjob and ur nipples sucked ?

So boring.Don't bother la. Surely clean one. Just suck it n open yr leg. Just get the top to wear condom can oredi. Will be good.

Edited July 31 by cutejack

[doncoin]

So, just for clarity, you have to be HIV- to be on PrEP. If you think logically, if you are on PrEP, and the person you're having sexual contact with is also on PrEP, then chances of a HIV infection is pretty much close to zero. However, it does not rule out the other STIs.  

 

 

[ToughGuy]

On 7/22/2026 at 11:43 PM, mate69 said:

Calculated risks

X= 500y + 15z...??😂😂😂😂😂 

[ToughGuy]

On 7/28/2026 at 11:15 PM, cbm said:

Yes STIs are manageable with a big caveat: this requires you to have ample money to go for regular testing, treatments, medicines, consultation and related items. Some infections are lifelong and you can end up spending a lot of money managing the STI.

But for some, fun first, dispite being aware of the risk, think of treatment later 🤦🏻🤦🏻🤦🏻 

[Sexyass]

On 7/29/2026 at 12:48 AM, OziBoi said:

It’s also not 100% effective in protection! Better than nothing I guess! Think I’ll stick to the safer play. 

Scientifically…. It’s 99.9% effective in protecting the taker of PreP from contracting HIV if taken correctly.

 

and as Doncoin accurately stated： it’s a doctor prescription drug that cannot be given to a user UNLESS the person tests HIV negative.

 

However: does not protect against other STI, so if going raw, then this is something to be aware of.

 

 

[mate69]

Doxy is meant for the lowering of probability for getting C, S or G

 

[funky beaver]

18 hours ago, mate69 said:

Doxy is meant for the lowering of probability for getting C, S or G

 

People also need to be aware that doxyPEP is a type of antibiotic.

 

Although according to CDC page, antimicrobial resistance from doxyPEP are still being study, just need to be aware of this risk.

[SociNerd]

On 7/28/2026 at 7:56 PM, OziBoi said:

So people tell you they are on prep but how do you know? Is it a game of Russian roulette! How do you ask them to prove it? 

i had the same doubts before. so i usually show people my pills/bring them along, vice versa

[Sexyass]

6 hours ago, SociNerd said:

i had the same doubts before. so i usually show people my pills/bring them along, vice versa

Yes exactly that.

[cbm]

7 hours ago, SociNerd said:

i had the same doubts before. so i usually show people my pills/bring them along, vice versa

 

1 hour ago, Sexyass said:

Yes exactly that.

 

Can help me understand what does doing this do? I'm not sure what the purpose is. 

 

1) Showing pills doesn't mean that the person has taken them.

2) The pills might not be PrEP pills. They might be multivitamins or some other thing. 

3) PrEP protects the person taking it, not their partner. Him proving that he takes PrEP is protecting himself. How are you protecting yourself?

[SociNerd]

5 hours ago, cbm said:

 

 

Can help me understand what does doing this do? I'm not sure what the purpose is. 

 

1) Showing pills doesn't mean that the person has taken them.

2) The pills might not be PrEP pills. They might be multivitamins or some other thing. 

3) PrEP protects the person taking it, not their partner. Him proving that he takes PrEP is protecting himself. How are you protecting yourself?

i show them my bottle lol. it is up to the individual to be educated about all of these before proceeding. why would u have the pills if u dont consume them thats just weird. if i’m on prep, i’m protected yes, so that simply means that if i am protected then so are you. u dont have covid and met your friend who also doesn’t have covid, ofc nothing is gonna happen

[cbm]

"it is up to the individual to be educated about all of these before proceeding"

 

This is the point I'm trying to put across. You agree that it is up to the individual to know. But the problem is you don't really know or choose not to know.

 

"why would u have the pills if u dont consume them"

This is an assumption. It's not assurance.

 

COVID is not HIV. The logic of COVID protection is about vaccines. Take the vaccine, prevent giver from transmitting. There's no vaccines for HIV. Take PrEP, prevent receiver from getting infected. 

 

Showing the bottle doesn't prove anything. Please stop doing that. It may give people who don't know any better false beliefs about their safety. 

Edited August 5 by cbm

[PlayersGroup]

3 hours ago, cbm said:

Showing the bottle doesn't prove anything. Please stop doing that. It may give people who don't know any better false beliefs about their safety. 

 

Oziboi's original question: "So people tell you they are on prep but how do you know?"

 

Answer is nothing is for sure..

 

@SociNerd says "I bring along and show them my prep bottle". Fair answer. For me I share my latest test results and my prescription. 

 

He isnt giving anyone false beliefs. I am not giving others false beliefs. We attempt to give additional info as assurance where possible. It is up to the other person to believe or not.

 

1. It is reasonable to say "Everyone has the responsibility to protect themselves and know the risks of having sex".

 

2. It is reasonable to say: "I dont feel assured whatever the other person tells me. Doesnt work for me." If that's who you are.

 

3. But honestly, it is not reasonable to expect people who put in effort to give additional info and say: "Unless you give everyone 100% foolproof evidence, please stop doing that for others."

 

As adults having an active sex life, of course people have to understand nothing can be 100% and there is always risk. What people show us and tell us, we weigh the risks, our own bodies, we decide.

[cbm]

3 hours ago, PlayersGroup said:

 

Oziboi's original question: "So people tell you they are on prep but how do you know?"

 

Answer is nothing is for sure..

 

@SociNerd says "I bring along and show them my prep bottle". Fair answer. For me I share my latest test results and my prescription. 

 

He isnt giving anyone false beliefs. I am not giving others false beliefs. We attempt to give additional info as assurance where possible. It is up to the other person to believe or not.

 

1. It is reasonable to say "Everyone has the responsibility to protect themselves and know the risks of having sex".

 

2. It is reasonable to say: "I dont feel assured whatever the other person tells me. Doesnt work for me." If that's who you are.

 

3. But honestly, it is not reasonable to expect people who put in effort to give additional info and say: "Unless you give everyone 100% foolproof evidence, please stop doing that for others."

 

As adults having an active sex life, of course people have to understand nothing can be 100% and there is always risk. What people show us and tell us, we weigh the risks, our own bodies, we decide.

 

This only confirms that people are using inaccurate parameters when they are calculating risks. Their risk management is flawed.

 

It's worrying when the expectation is "you should know what you're getting yourself into" when the proponents themselves don't fully know or choose not to know.

 

[Sexyass]

Let me spend some time to explain.

 

If your potential partner shows you his bottle of Prep, couple logical deductions:

 

(1): if for Real: that means (a) he took the time and money to see a doctor, and prove HE is HIV negative. (b) by taking PreP, he cant get HIV from YOU. 

 

to the extent that you know his real name, and can match his real name to the bottle, then you at least know, he is HIV negative, and wants to protect himself. (note exclusions of other dieases)

 

(2) If Fake: then means either he gave you fake name, or even for some strange reasons, decide to not use real PreP and use say M&M Candies instead. then yes, in this “he is a psycho scenario” you are fucked.

 

then the question becomes: why arent YOU on PreP ? 💁 (since both Top and Bottom can use)

 

cos why must you depend on your partner taking PreP to protect yourself ?

 

the only 100% sure thing we will all individually know and control for sure is this:

 

- i took a blood test and confirm i am HIV negative

- i took the time and money to get a prescription of PreP which i take correctly and thus protect me 99.9% from HIV (but not other STI)

- anything else, i need make sure a condom is used.

 

thats it.

 

everything else about the other partner is just speculation.

 

If really depending on someone else to provide the protection: i would strongly suggest you do your checks, and make sure you not dating a psycho who is jumping through all those hoops, just to lie to you about his PreP usage (for some bad reasons which we no need speculate).

 

ie Please protect yourself, and not have your protection being dependant on another. Unless you very sure being in normal relationship with a loving partner etc. Dont rely on others in a random sauna sex scenario if you want to be absolutely sure.

 

Now the opposite is true: if i meet someone who wants to raw breed me, i do inform him of my PreP status and use. I do show him my STI test result. And i will also ask him to show his STI result to me.

 

But its up to him whether someone like me is believable. He may choose NOT to believe me, in which case the default decision is always “use condoms”, which i respect.

 

i cant force others to believe me and put their life in my hands either.

 

So i guess this is a way of saying, both parties need take self responsibility for their health. PreP is one tool among many, just not a wonder drug.

 

Hope the above makes sense. 

 

 

 

 

 

[PlayersGroup]

1 hour ago, cbm said:

 

This only confirms that people are using inaccurate parameters when they are calculating risks. Their risk management is flawed.

 

It's worrying when the expectation is "you should know what you're getting yourself into" when the proponents themselves don't fully know or choose not to know.

 

Actually, what is ur idea of accurate parameters ah?

[Expired Btm Uncle]

You can get eye needle or aka stye just by looking at naked guy when cruising.