fab Posted January 14, 2019 Report Share Posted January 14, 2019 31 minutes ago, Guest guest said: China is 无神论， there is positive and negative side to being 无神论。 discuss? 无神论 Is no problem. 无德论 is big problem. Quote 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted January 14, 2019 Report Share Posted January 14, 2019 I came out to my family about 20 years ago. I am pretty fortunate that my family is accepting, though in the early years whenever a relationship ended, my mother would suggest that i start dating girls instead. Anyway, now whenever I am back home, my bf and I, are accepted and embraced by the whole extended family. Not everyone's family will be as open and accepting as mine. For some LGBTQ youths, there will be challenges as highlighted in the article, and battling the traditional mindset of parents can be daunting. At some point, my family figured that as long as I am happy, that is ultimately what's most important and the gender of the person I choose to be with is irrelevant. If you choose to come out, plan ahead. Make sure you are safe, and feel safe to share. Quote Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
auscent Posted January 16, 2019 Report Share Posted January 16, 2019 Sometimes parents reject kids being gay because they see that being gay in society is not easy, more obstacles than being straight. Good intentions I suppose. mate69 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JakeChun Posted January 16, 2019 Report Share Posted January 16, 2019 I don't tell my family yet coz I afraid that my family couldn't accept it. I need more time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mate69 Posted January 16, 2019 Report Share Posted January 16, 2019 2 hours ago, JakeChun said: I don't tell my family yet coz I afraid that my family couldn't accept it. I need more time. take however long u need. it's your life, not anyone else's. good luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garyl Posted January 17, 2019 Report Share Posted January 17, 2019 Need to tell? Is it a generational thing for younger to tell? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamesbear Posted January 17, 2019 Report Share Posted January 17, 2019 i still regret telling my parents tho Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garyl Posted January 17, 2019 Report Share Posted January 17, 2019 No need tell lor.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Manstar4me Posted January 17, 2019 Report Share Posted January 17, 2019 On 12/26/2018 at 9:10 PM, fab said: I don't believe in coming out to parents. I m sure they more or less already know. My friend's dad told him to beware of flasher in the neighborhood. 2 minutes ago, Garyl said: No need tell lor.. I agree with Garyl. Its your private side for a reason. Unless your planning to introduce someone to your family. Keep it private. Once you are confident to be out and proud and can deal with all the consequences then go for it. Until then, don't feel like your hiding a dirty secret. It's part of who you are. Love yourself for that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted January 17, 2019 Report Share Posted January 17, 2019 14 hours ago, auscent said: Sometimes parents reject kids being gay because they see that being gay in society is not easy, more obstacles than being straight. Good intentions I suppose. Well as they say, the way to hell is paved with good intentions. I get the good intentions, and you cannot really fault parents for that. It can be misguided, but it is how it is. Quote Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest DADT Posted January 17, 2019 Report Share Posted January 17, 2019 If don't ask, don't tell but I suspect especially mother's natural instinct surely more or less already know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Creevie Posted January 17, 2019 Report Share Posted January 17, 2019 2 hours ago, Guest DADT said: If don't ask, don't tell but I suspect especially mother's natural instinct surely more or less already know. U r so right. Anyway just be fillial. They will come to know in time that you are still you, at the core. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted January 19, 2019 Report Share Posted January 19, 2019 gotta watch this! got a standing ovation (nt at the end , but at the front) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Willing Posted January 21, 2019 Report Share Posted January 21, 2019 On 1/17/2019 at 8:40 AM, Garyl said: Need to tell? Is it a generational thing for younger to tell? Probably...those that were born in the 70s and early 80s would most likely keep it to themselves... don't feel the need to declare to the world!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest anti mosquito detergent Posted January 21, 2019 Report Share Posted January 21, 2019 On 1/14/2019 at 11:02 PM, fab said: 无神论 Is no problem. 无德论 is big problem. No morals is subjective, what for being so judgmental like some people judging Nightingale for fantasising about students. Right or wrong? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TallSgDude Posted January 22, 2019 Report Share Posted January 22, 2019 My “coming out” wasn’t planned. In fact, it was very abrupt. Mom was asking if I had a girlfriend and I just blurted that I am gay. LOL. I was 24YO then. Mom was in denial at first for a few days; then reprimanded me that being gay is a sin and not allowed as written in the bible, yada yada yada... Interestingly, it was my dad who intervened and told her that “our kids have grown up and they make their own decisions. Let them be.” After a few months, mom grew to accept the reality progressively. Long story short: mom eventually accepted that I am gay and fucking men (which she is uncomfortable with as anal sex is “dirty” to her; plus the “bible” stuff). Did she accept and embrace me eventually? Yes, she did. Coming out could be easy or difficult. I would suggest one should only come out when one wants to. Even then, do not be “pressured” by the western culture to “come out”. It’s a fine balance between the pressure and Asian nuances (save face lah, paiseh lah etc ). Good luck to anyone coming “out”! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alponsu Posted January 22, 2019 Report Share Posted January 22, 2019 I still have not come out yet but maybe my parents suspect? Or at least I hope they suspect Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crispy96 Posted January 22, 2019 Report Share Posted January 22, 2019 On 1/17/2019 at 8:40 AM, Garyl said: Need to tell? Is it a generational thing for younger to tell? I personally feel VERY annoyed at your notion that coming out is a generational thing. You keep going around implying people that they are childish and all that, without realizing that you yourself were young once. That is ageism. You can surely give your point of view as an older man, but you don't need to disregard younger peeps' concerns and opinions. The need to come out to parents varies from person to person, I get it. You can simply just say you yourself don't feel the need to. Young people need nurturing, not bashing from you. Anyway, if you want to defend yourself by saying that it is due to the circumstances that make things easier for young gays to come out: Yes, it is easier for us. So those who are not the bravest can muster enough courage to come out. But no, not only our generation has the "need to tell". The fight for LGBT rights has been for decades, probably longer than your age. Coming out helps with the gay guy's personal life a whole lot (which probably you don't get to see or even hear about from your social circle, but it's alright that's not to blame) and also helps with the movement of LGBT rights. Again, you can agree or disagree, feel free to discuss/debate, but please, leave your ageism out. It is subtle but not beneficial for the community Different generations have different ways of thinking, which all have their own strengths and weaknesses. Be a graceful and mature man Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garyl Posted January 22, 2019 Report Share Posted January 22, 2019 (edited) 3 hours ago, Crispy96 said: I personally feel VERY annoyed at your notion that coming out is a generational thing. You keep going around implying people that they are childish and all that, without realizing that you yourself were young once. That is ageism. You can surely give your point of view as an older man, but you don't need to disregard younger peeps' concerns and opinions. The need to come out to parents varies from person to person, I get it. You can simply just say you yourself don't feel the need to. Young people need nurturing, not bashing from you. Anyway, if you want to defend yourself by saying that it is due to the circumstances that make things easier for young gays to come out: Yes, it is easier for us. So those who are not the bravest can muster enough courage to come out. But no, not only our generation has the "need to tell". The fight for LGBT rights has been for decades, probably longer than your age. Coming out helps with the gay guy's personal life a whole lot (which probably you don't get to see or even hear about from your social circle, but it's alright that's not to blame) and also helps with the movement of LGBT rights. Again, you can agree or disagree, feel free to discuss/debate, but please, leave your ageism out. It is subtle but not beneficial for the community Different generations have different ways of thinking, which all have their own strengths and weaknesses. Be a graceful and mature man Bro.. just one sentence, instead of a lengthy rebuttal. #1- It is a question mark. #2 - you can search my posts.. i never bash younger or anyone.. Breathe...... Edited January 22, 2019 by Garyl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crispy96 Posted January 22, 2019 Report Share Posted January 22, 2019 5 hours ago, Garyl said: Bro.. just one sentence, instead of a lengthy rebuttal. #1- It is a question mark. #2 - you can search my posts.. i never bash younger or anyone.. Breathe...... I wrote a long one to make sure my ideas come across, so I don't need to exchange thoughts back and forth excessively. #1- it sounded more like a rhetorical question (at least to me) #2- I might have mistaken you with someone else. I can't distinguish all the torsos LOL. Paiseh. If that is the case, my apologies. I was breathing very calmly ._. Annoyed, yes, but I think my comment was civilized still? no? I might come across as too aggressive but nevermind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest duj Posted November 3, 2019 Report Share Posted November 3, 2019 Came out last weekend to my father and he didn't take it seriously. He said if I'm not joking he will disown me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest887 Posted November 4, 2019 Report Share Posted November 4, 2019 23 hours ago, Guest duj said: Came out last weekend to my father and he didn't take it seriously. He said if I'm not joking he will disown me. Im sorry to hear that :( ..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
feedersmiracle Posted November 4, 2019 Report Share Posted November 4, 2019 On 11/3/2019 at 10:05 PM, Guest duj said: Came out last weekend to my father and he didn't take it seriously. He said if I'm not joking he will disown me. Time to start saving up and living on your own as independent. You can say that you are joking now, then later when you are prepared, you can leave the family. At that point you can see their reaction, although it might be too late cuz you already made your choice to leave. Quote Speaking loudly, suffers softly. Smiles so wide, cuts unseen inside.Bitin' the bullet, but never kick the bucket. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Mary Posted November 5, 2019 Report Share Posted November 5, 2019 On 1/17/2019 at 8:40 AM, Garyl said: Need to tell? Is it a generational thing for younger to tell? I wonder too. Is your life , do what you want Tell for what ? To bring about, sad, sorrows, anger and worst guilt upon parents especially mum. They just want acceptance, but to achieve this in the name of " being honest" and bring about so many pains your parents ....... worth ah ? U dont tell, continue your life, continue bring home your bf as good friend, maybe even move and stay with him , said, for work convenient stay w friends nearer to workplace .......everybody is happy ......... I have been with my BF 9 years, staying together, never come out to my family of 14 . But every big occasion he is involved. U think my family dont know by now ?? they fact that I didnt come out, everybody is happy , cordial ,,, why not ? What is the benefits of coming out to your family I still dont know ..... someone enlighten me ?? So far all I heard was rejection, sadness and stress. I hasnt heard of one that " wow great" u finally found someone , now mum is happy for you , dont have to worry you will be alone and lonely .......... OH why didnt you tell me earlier , we would like to meet his parents too ...... any planning when to buy property together ?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted November 6, 2019 Report Share Posted November 6, 2019 On 11/5/2019 at 12:21 PM, Guest Mary said: I wonder too. Is your life , do what you want Tell for what ? To bring about, sad, sorrows, anger and worst guilt upon parents especially mum. They just want acceptance, but to achieve this in the name of " being honest" and bring about so many pains your parents ....... worth ah ? U dont tell, continue your life, continue bring home your bf as good friend, maybe even move and stay with him , said, for work convenient stay w friends nearer to workplace .......everybody is happy ......... I have been with my BF 9 years, staying together, never come out to my family of 14 . But every big occasion he is involved. U think my family dont know by now ?? they fact that I didnt come out, everybody is happy , cordial ,,, why not ? What is the benefits of coming out to your family I still dont know ..... someone enlighten me ?? So far all I heard was rejection, sadness and stress. I hasnt heard of one that " wow great" u finally found someone , now mum is happy for you , dont have to worry you will be alone and lonely .......... OH why didnt you tell me earlier , we would like to meet his parents too ...... any planning when to buy property together ?? "Any plan to have kids soon? I can't wait to have grandchildren!" Lol. Seriously I also believe in don't ask don't tell. Quote 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest John Posted November 7, 2019 Report Share Posted November 7, 2019 19 hours ago, fab said: "Any plan to have kids soon? I can't wait to have grandchildren!" Lol. Seriously I also believe in don't ask don't tell. At my age, anyone who ask me stupid, irrelevant or just to satisfy their curiosity questions, if I am in good mood, or I care about that person feeling, I will answer subtly 1. If this question important to you ? 2. If I am not in good mood or they are not important to me, - "If you are free do some charity work, good for u and society" ( indirect, whose business ?) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
feedersmiracle Posted November 7, 2019 Report Share Posted November 7, 2019 1 minute ago, Guest John said: At my age, anyone who ask me stupid, irrelevant or just to satisfy their curiosity questions, if I am in good mood, or I care about that person feeling, I will answer subtly 1. If this question important to you ? 2. If I am not in good mood or they are not important to me, - "If you are free do some charity work, good for u and society" ( indirect, whose business ?) Saving the second sentence to my sassy ass vocabulary. Thanks 🙏🏻 Quote Speaking loudly, suffers softly. Smiles so wide, cuts unseen inside.Bitin' the bullet, but never kick the bucket. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted November 7, 2019 Report Share Posted November 7, 2019 Anyone’s dad come out to them? Almost everyone has a gay feeling, straight married people included. Don’t assume your dad is pure straight, I’ve a friend who has 3 children and is a hungry btm. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jiriki Posted November 8, 2019 Report Share Posted November 8, 2019 On 11/6/2019 at 3:45 PM, fab said: "Any plan to have kids soon? I can't wait to have grandchildren!" Lol. Seriously I also believe in don't ask don't tell. Me too. Coming out is like forcing people to hear stuff they don’t want to hear. I believe most parents would have some idea as to whether their kids are potentially gay. They choose not to ask then you shouldn’t force the uncomfortable truth to them. Some things are best left unsaid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GachiMuchi Posted June 23, 2020 Report Share Posted June 23, 2020 Cube3 and yuquidam 2 Quote http://gachimuchi2008.blogspot.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GachiMuchi Posted June 23, 2020 Report Share Posted June 23, 2020 同志情侶該同居嗎？台灣→新加坡 跨國男友見習夫夫生活甘苦談 Taiwan + Singapore Gay Couple Cohabitation Quote http://gachimuchi2008.blogspot.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StockBottom Posted June 23, 2020 Report Share Posted June 23, 2020 55 minutes ago, GachiMuchi said: 同志情侶該同居嗎？台灣→新加坡 跨國男友見習夫夫生活甘苦談 Taiwan + Singapore Gay Couple Cohabitation Which condo huh? At 3:38 ... Aiyah basically the same problems as most husband and wife lah ... and it's obvious who's the husband and who's the wife. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2020 Report Share Posted June 23, 2020 28 minutes ago, StockBottom said: Which condo huh? At 3:38 ... Aiyah basically the same problems as most husband and wife lah ... and it's obvious who's the husband and who's the wife. Who is the husband and wife? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FattChoy Posted June 23, 2020 Report Share Posted June 23, 2020 (edited) 4 minutes ago, Guest guest said: Who is the husband and wife? I find them both are like les. Fem lesses who share a flute... Kidding. Edited June 23, 2020 by FattChoy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StockBottom Posted June 23, 2020 Report Share Posted June 23, 2020 https://www.instagram.com/andeecys/?hl=en Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2020 Report Share Posted June 23, 2020 4 minutes ago, FattChoy said: I find them both are like les. Fem lesses who share a flute... Kidding. I find them both looks like btm. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted June 23, 2020 Report Share Posted June 23, 2020 6 minutes ago, Guest guest said: I find them both looks like btm. 1 is btm, the other 1 is more btm. No pun intended. Quote 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2020 Report Share Posted June 23, 2020 Just now, fab said: 1 is btm, the other 1 is more btm. No pun intended. That's why i think also. But it can be two btm as couple also can right? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mate69 Posted June 23, 2020 Report Share Posted June 23, 2020 aiya let's just be happy for them lah Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JC9 Posted June 23, 2020 Report Share Posted June 23, 2020 Tw guy is the top. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2020 Report Share Posted June 23, 2020 Just now, JC9 said: Tw guy is the top. Usually the guy who looks like btm always is the top. And the guy looks like top actual is btm. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimochi Posted June 23, 2020 Report Share Posted June 23, 2020 Guess the Singapore guy is bottom. . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2020 Report Share Posted June 23, 2020 16 minutes ago, Kimochi said: Guess the Singapore guy is bottom. . Why you think he is more btm than the other guy? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimochi Posted June 23, 2020 Report Share Posted June 23, 2020 3 minutes ago, Guest guest said: Why you think he is more btm than the other guy? A feeling. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2020 Report Share Posted June 23, 2020 3 minutes ago, Kimochi said: A feeling. First look on his appearance, i though the sg guy more like top, but after that a feeling he is more like btm. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest eee Posted June 23, 2020 Report Share Posted June 23, 2020 轮流攻受☺️ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted June 23, 2020 Report Share Posted June 23, 2020 Your all know the SG guy may post here too right? Quote 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted June 23, 2020 Report Share Posted June 23, 2020 I just realise he's this guy. https://mustsharenews.com/rejected-sg-model-armani/ yuquidam 1 Quote 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gayleo Posted June 23, 2020 Report Share Posted June 23, 2020 9 hours ago, fab said: Your all know the SG guy may post here too right? Lol here only got uncles la. Young SG gays where got come see blowing wind Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted June 23, 2020 Report Share Posted June 23, 2020 Can Singapore have sex same marriage? The answer is clear NO. The Pink Dot is only limitation Gov't can give. Singapore culture will never accept gay. Still want to challenge 377A? Singapore is still not ready! Unless, there is a change in Gov't. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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