dreamcatcher59 Posted March 28, 2007 Report Share Posted March 28, 2007 I am in love with two person and i sometimes find it hard to make a choice. Leaving the other one will break his heart and vice versa. I am in a confuse astage as i spoken to both of them and they refuse to share BF. I am just lost for words. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reflection Posted March 28, 2007 Report Share Posted March 28, 2007 I am sure if the other 2 agree to be 1st wife and mistress, it will solve your problem. Whilst you have choices, many out there are waiting for heaven to rain men...Anyway, I only experienced once as one of the 2 husbands and I gave up the fight as it is tiring!这些日子以来从你信中我才明白这些日子以来在你心中已经有了另一个男孩我知道爱情不能勉强但是我还是无法释怀认识你只不过是最近的事情感觉上却好像是早已和你熟悉可是我不断想起你的另一段感情我是不是该离开你我不想介入别人故事我是不是该离开你我不想和别人分享你请你告诉我我问我自己 z Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Not Easy Posted March 28, 2007 Report Share Posted March 28, 2007 Torn Between Two Lovers - Mar MacGregorThere are times when a woman has to say what's on her mindEven though she knows how much it's gonna hurtBefore I say another word let me tell you, I love youLet me hold you close and say these words as gently as I canThere's been another man that I've needed and I've lovedBut that doesn't mean I love you lessAnd he knows he can't possess me and he knows he never willThere's just this empty place inside of me that only he can fillTorn between two lovers, feelin' like a foolLovin' both of you is breakin' all the rulesTorn between two lovers, feelin' like a foolLovin' you both is breakin' all the rulesYou mustn't think you've failed meJust because there's someone elseYou were the first real love I ever hadAnd all the things I ever saidI swear they still are trueFor no one else can have the part of me I gave to youI couldn't really blame you if you turned and walked awayBut with everything I feel inside, I'm asking you to stayTorn between two loversFeelin' like a foolLovin' both of you is breakin' all the rules----------------------------------------------------------I am sure how you wish that each one of them is born in another time, another place. Straighten up your thoughts and weigh your options - dun let each one of them slip away leaving you with nothing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted March 28, 2007 Report Share Posted March 28, 2007 Don't be greedy... you are breaking people's heart!Unless both of them willing share you with the other, which is unlikely.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boya Posted March 28, 2007 Report Share Posted March 28, 2007 i have my fair share of such experience. being one of the two snatchers as well as the one being torn between the other two. yes yes dream catcher, it can feel abit flattering at first but once that attention period has past, guilt sneaks in and you start to feel a wee bit guilty about wanting to have your cake and eat it too.ask yourself these -1 why am i in such a situation in the first place? did i allow it to happen?2 why am i doing this to myself (hack care the other 2, u r always more important!)3 m i enjoying this? if yes, what reasons? if no, then u better bloody wake up!if u can answer the above 3 questions, then u would know wat to do. if u dun, then u won't find any answers in this thread anyway. :smokin: Serve my fellow bottom men well ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fullmoon Posted March 28, 2007 Report Share Posted March 28, 2007 if you should choose one of those men, my suggestion would be that you make a list of the goods and the bads from both men. it might make the decision easier. hopefully... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest PSS Posted March 28, 2007 Report Share Posted March 28, 2007 Let's change position, if happen your dream guy ask you to share him with another guy, will you agree or you prefer to have him all, think & you will get the answer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oralb Posted March 29, 2007 Report Share Posted March 29, 2007 let me give a simpleton ansthe person you loved the most is yourself. you enjoy the love and affection being showered by the 2 guys. you loved their attention. in fact you wanted both of them to share 1 of you. the best of both world, that's what you wantedput it bluntly, you dont love the 2 guys as much as you think. i am not a moralist, in fact i think all of us are selfish and love is selfish, but putting this into a forum and proclaiming to be a victim ("lost for words"...?) definitely priceless...you want an ans, here's one - give the both of them up, let them find true happiness elsewhere. When I Think It, I Do It, I Win It! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TopChinese Posted March 29, 2007 Report Share Posted March 29, 2007 OralB is right. Anyway why do you have to choose? Both of these guys know about you and the other guy. Have they forced you to make a choice? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest MYsuperRABBIT Posted March 29, 2007 Report Share Posted March 29, 2007 if you should choose one of those men, my suggestion would be that you make a list of the goods and the bads from both men. it might make the decision easier. hopefully... i think this is a good answer... 2mee, Love is a CHOICE ! but there r pros n cons here too pros1- you can focus on loving him 2- He gets 100% of your love 3- U get to know more of him to name few cons1- YOu may know know him until u r together with him 4 a long time 2- HE MAY NOT B WAT HE IS NOW(WE ALL WEAR MASK, AREN'T WE?)JUST TO NAME 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonely Posted March 29, 2007 Report Share Posted March 29, 2007 I don't think making a list makes sense. You can't quantify a feeling. Love is irrational most of the time. He may have 1001 bad points and you still fall hopelessly in love with him.I feel that there is no way you can love the both of them equally. I am sure you like one of them better, maybe you don't even know it yourself. I guess you have to find out who. Jealousy is when you realise the things you don't have.Envy is when you realise the things you'd never have. -Nip/Tuck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reflection Posted March 29, 2007 Report Share Posted March 29, 2007 This reminds me of the blind men who feel every part of the elephant....In life, we cannot have everything....some guys may not satisfy you at beds but you know they will stand by you, care for you, etc in times of your needs.Be realistic and wake up from dream. I think the problem is not the other 2 persons but YOU.....You probably - have fear and insecurity of what if you make the wrong choice- greedy for something in each of the 2 persons- are manipulative- dont know what you wantPls sort out your thoughts/feelings before they become more confused z Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cubby74 Posted March 29, 2007 Report Share Posted March 29, 2007 I was in this situation before i met my current bf.lets call this person D. D have a bf, he is a flight steward. So he tells me that whenever his bf files all his time is devoted to me. But when his bf is around, he has to accompany him. Intially i was very much in love with him. so I sort of agree. But i gradually felt that i am being used. Though he does care and love him, but he can never leave his bf. he told me his bf threatened to die if he leaves.So in the end i left him, coz i realise that he is selfish. and i love myself too much to do this. Now i have a loving bf and i love him too. See happy ending does exist! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted March 29, 2007 Report Share Posted March 29, 2007 I say fxxk it....do a manwich. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest_guest Posted March 29, 2007 Report Share Posted March 29, 2007 Perhaps all 3 of you will be much happier without each other now that you reached this stage!Don't create any triangle and get stucked in one! Wake up! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boxers Posted March 30, 2007 Report Share Posted March 30, 2007 let me give a simpleton ansthe person you loved the most is yourself. you enjoy the love and affection being showered by the 2 guys. you loved their attention. in fact you wanted both of them to share 1 of you. the best of both world, that's what you wantedput it bluntly, you dont love the 2 guys as much as you think. i am not a moralist, in fact i think all of us are selfish and love is selfish, but putting this into a forum and proclaiming to be a victim ("lost for words"...?) definitely priceless...you want an ans, here's one - give the both of them up, let them find true happiness elsewhere. Agree with OB.I think you are very selfish when it comes to r/s. I am sure there's one that you love more than the other. It could never be exactly equal. Even parents will favour one child more than the other. Ask yourself the question. Who do you love most? Then give up the other and let him find his true love, rather than to share 0.5 of you. "Do what you wanna do in life despite what others say, it's your life anyway." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Asura Posted March 30, 2007 Report Share Posted March 30, 2007 I am in love with two person and i sometimes find it hard to make a choice. Leaving the other one will break his heart and vice versa. I am in a confuse astage as i spoken to both of them and they refuse to share BF. I am just lost for words. I the first place, you have allow yourself to fall for 2 person. I am very sure that one guy may have somthing which the other don't have and you like it very much.True to say, in love and r/s, one is selfish, but you have over done it. I think it is only fair that the 2 refuses to share BF. You are the one who is in a difficult situation cause you have cause it yourself.Have a good heart, if you love them that much, let one of them go, heart broken he maybe, but he will find someone soon, if he is such a good person that you fall for him, that also love him like you do or even more.Seems like to you, love is to have and to hold, but love is also giving and sacrificing... It's just me.... Asura... don't fear, but be very afraid.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fisherman Posted March 30, 2007 Report Share Posted March 30, 2007 Hi maybe let me share my experience. When i fell in love with my 1st BF, i din know that he was attached.We were happily together for about 6 months and i din notice anything wrong untill one day he told me he actually had a BF who is currently overseas and will be back very soon.At that moment of time i was shock and he even showed me his BF photo. I was very very very hear break and very very sad that i have no mood to study my ACCA exam, and i failed my exam because of this.it was really really very very hurting especially when i love him so much. Few yrs later i received a call from him, he told me hr broke off with his BF and he still got feeling for me, ask me if i wan to be his BF, at that time i am not attached, i was mad and told him off by telling him " I AM NOT YOUR RESERVE".he kept call me a few time but i rejected him many time. For my next relationship, i will ask " Are you attached", if you are i won't wan to have any connection with him.so please please dun play this kind of game. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TopChinese Posted March 30, 2007 Report Share Posted March 30, 2007 Thanks for sharing your story.. fisherman. Very sad indeed. My ex has never forgiven me all these years for leaving him to be with another man. He didn't realise I was trying to be fair to him. That I can not give him myself totally when I'm in love with another man. He was even prepared to share me with this other guy but I know I have to let him go because he deserved someone who can be with him 100%. Hot 3somes aside, I don't think I have enough to give two men my love and my heart. Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fisherman Posted March 30, 2007 Report Share Posted March 30, 2007 Hi i have found the man that i really love and be loved. Come to think abt it, if he din leave me, i will not be able to find my right man, my true love. anyway dun step 2 boats, is not healthy.cheers Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boxers Posted March 30, 2007 Report Share Posted March 30, 2007 Hi maybe let me share my experience. When i fell in love with my 1st BF, i din know that he was attached.We were happily together for about 6 months and i din notice anything wrong untill one day he told me he actually had a BF who is currently overseas and will be back very soon.At that moment of time i was shock and he even showed me his BF photo. I was very very very hear break and very very sad that i have no mood to study my ACCA exam, and i failed my exam because of this.it was really really very very hurting especially when i love him so much. Few yrs later i received a call from him, he told me hr broke off with his BF and he still got feeling for me, ask me if i wan to be his BF, at that time i am not attached, i was mad and told him off by telling him " I AM NOT YOUR RESERVE".he kept call me a few time but i rejected him many time. For my next relationship, i will ask " Are you attached", if you are i won't wan to have any connection with him.so please please dun play this kind of game. True, cos if you becomes his bf, you can never be sure he dun have another spare outside. A leopard will never change its spots. "Do what you wanna do in life despite what others say, it's your life anyway." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boxers Posted March 30, 2007 Report Share Posted March 30, 2007 Thanks for sharing your story.. fisherman. Very sad indeed. My ex has never forgiven me all these years for leaving him to be with another man. He didn't realise I was trying to be fair to him. That I can not give him myself totally when I'm in love with another man. He was even prepared to share me with this other guy but I know I have to let him go because he deserved someone who can be with him 100%. Hot 3somes aside, I don't think I have enough to give two men my love and my heart. Good luck. He might not have realised it at that point of time cos he will be sad and angry etc. However after some years, he will know that its good for him.Just like myself, I now really glad that my previous exes broke up with me! Haha. "Do what you wanna do in life despite what others say, it's your life anyway." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dreamcatcher59 Posted April 7, 2007 Author Report Share Posted April 7, 2007 i know it is difficult to love 2 guys at the same time. Anyway i settle it and choose one that i love most. we are happy. Except that i broke another guy heart i know the pain he felt inside him. My dearest i am sorry. we are not meant to be together as we fight so often with out every compromise and ahve no solution to our relationship. :thumb: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest SBF Posted April 7, 2007 Report Share Posted April 7, 2007 I like to share my experience too. There was a time when i had 2 dates. I knew one guy about a few weeks eariler than the other. However, this guy and me are not really compatible as we quarrel often. Anyway, we were not bf yet. However, he called me so often that i begin to feel something between us. Then i got to know another guy, i actually wanted to know him slowly and see if we are compatible before going steady. However, he fall for me so quickly and started calling me dear the 2nd time we met. He has such a sweet and accomodating nature that won my heart over. But i really cant handle this....i feel torn between two parties and i am really the one who suffers the most. I just cannot take the guilt feeling. Then immediately, i decided to tell the second guy that i wish to slow things down. He reacted very adversely and cut off all communication with me. Actually, i have his interest at heart when i told him that. I do not wish to hurt either parties before i decide. But, i the end, i am the one who got hurt. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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