Guest Bored Posted October 25, 2017 Posted October 25, 2017 my bf is a few years younger than me but he is like an uncle who likes to do the same things and eat the same things every time we meet. we attached only 4 months! he is very certain abt this rs and now wants to move in. I am very scared. any advice? I am 34 and he is 29 Quote
sum1outhere_03 Posted October 25, 2017 Posted October 25, 2017 (edited) hmmm have you spoke and communicated with him first your expectations before coming to forum for advice? More often than not the replies will come in as trolls (just to speak the truth before this post gets flooded) PS: have you been thankful that you have a bf when most of us does not? Edited October 25, 2017 by sum1outhere_03 Quote Will you be my valentine's?
hornybit Posted October 25, 2017 Posted October 25, 2017 Why are you scared? And moving in after dating for 4 months I guess it's too early Quote
Guest Yuzu Posted October 25, 2017 Posted October 25, 2017 51 minutes ago, Guest Bored said: my bf is a few years younger than me but he is like an uncle who likes to do the same things and eat the same things every time we meet. we attached only 4 months! he is very certain abt this rs and now wants to move in. I am very scared. any advice? I am 34 and he is 29 Is he an Engineer? Quote
Popular Post lonely57 Posted October 25, 2017 Popular Post Posted October 25, 2017 40 minutes ago, Guest Yuzu said: Is he an Engineer? im in engineering line and im 25... im also quite boring just like what ts described. i guess most engineers are that way.. i say most not all. Marineboy, Hanabishi, loacker and 5 others 2 6 Quote
EasleyLim Posted October 25, 2017 Posted October 25, 2017 I feel like 90% of the r/s issues raised in BW could be resolved with a "have you tried talking to your partner about this?" padlock71, cmlf, minkle and 1 other 3 1 Quote
CherieLove Posted October 25, 2017 Posted October 25, 2017 (edited) 50 minutes ago, EasleyLim said: I feel like 90% of the r/s issues raised in BW could be resolved with a "have you tried talking to your partner about this?" Agreed. Miscommunication or not communicating at all when a problem arises cause more damage than just 'talking it out' with your partner. I mean, it shouldn't be hard since it is your partner right? Edited October 25, 2017 by CherieLove Quote
fab Posted October 25, 2017 Posted October 25, 2017 2 hours ago, Guest Bored said: my bf is a few years younger than me but he is like an uncle who likes to do the same things and eat the same things every time we meet. we attached only 4 months! he is very certain abt this rs and now wants to move in. I am very scared. any advice? I am 34 and he is 29 Date him. Quote 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿
Ben Ben Ben Posted October 25, 2017 Posted October 25, 2017 2 hours ago, Guest Bored said: my bf is a few years younger than me but he is like an uncle who likes to do the same things and eat the same things every time we meet. we attached only 4 months! he is very certain abt this rs and now wants to move in. I am very scared. any advice? I am 34 and he is 29 I am engineering trained. i am exactly the same as your bf. boring ah Quote
yoyo74 Posted October 25, 2017 Posted October 25, 2017 Whats wrong with doing the same thing and eating the same thing every time? How many different things do you want to do together with him? Maybe you should state clearly what same thing he keep doing that bores you. If you want to know both of you are compatible or not might as well let him move in to test out. If not compatible than ask him to move out. Tell him about such decision first. Quote
Guest boyfriend Posted October 25, 2017 Posted October 25, 2017 engineering may be a boring ass job, but its no different from most other jobs. ppl can have lots of other interests besides what they do for their profession. find out what he topic interests him, be it anime, games, tv, music, fashion, current affairs, etc. Quote
Geralt Posted October 25, 2017 Posted October 25, 2017 Yeah I guess you need to talk to your bf about this. You need to set goals or something so that you can look forward on things. Can confirm engineers are quite boring (I myself an engineer and am boring sometimes) but when we are motivated to do things, we became more focused and inspire to finish it. So I guess you need to communicate more to your bf about this so that at least your r/s wont be stagnant Quote
Ben Ben Ben Posted October 26, 2017 Posted October 26, 2017 7 hours ago, Geralt said: Yeah I guess you need to talk to your bf about this. You need to set goals or something so that you can look forward on things. Can confirm engineers are quite boring (I myself an engineer and am boring sometimes) but when we are motivated to do things, we became more focused and inspire to finish it. So I guess you need to communicate more to your bf about this so that at least your r/s wont be stagnant Engineer = boring Quote
lovehandle Posted October 26, 2017 Posted October 26, 2017 3 minutes ago, Ben Ben Ben said: Engineer = boring quite true! but behaviours can be slowly modified , if someone is there to guide Quote
bigdanbeam Posted October 26, 2017 Posted October 26, 2017 I dont agree that doing same things and eating same food everytime is boring. As long as i enjoy it, its up to the other party/parties to accept it Quote
hellopanda Posted October 26, 2017 Posted October 26, 2017 i’m not an engineer, but i like to eat the same damn food and do the same damn things all the time. my bf couldn’t stand it too... Quote
bigdanbeam Posted October 26, 2017 Posted October 26, 2017 24 minutes ago, hellopanda said: i’m not an engineer, but i like to eat the same damn food and do the same damn things all the time. my bf couldn’t stand it too... Perhaps you can share with TS how ur bf handle it since TS is facing the same issue which he considers a problem Quote
Guest Sport-coholic Posted October 26, 2017 Posted October 26, 2017 (edited) As long as the sex part is not boring. Edited October 26, 2017 by Sport-coholic Quote
loacker Posted October 26, 2017 Posted October 26, 2017 i'm an engineer, i visited the same food stall for mixed rice during weekdays for dinner until the seller can recognise me and know what type of gravy i wan without i utter a word.. i also frequent those few retails shop often and also went for the selected shopping mall, the route would be always the same.. altot sometime if really bloody free, i will spent some time to explore a bit other areas..other wise i would normally go for the tried n trusted way.. Fiacla 1 Quote
Guest Ni Na Posted October 26, 2017 Posted October 26, 2017 16 hours ago, Guest Bored said: my bf is a few years younger than me but he is like an uncle who likes to do the same things and eat the same things every time we meet. we attached only 4 months! he is very certain abt this rs and now wants to move in. I am very scared. any advice? I am 34 and he is 29 He is probably trying hard to save and people under this category are usually deemed "Boring" because they do not have (nor want to) be seen too spendrift with the unnecessary. They also tend to wear the same clothing most of the time. Try having relationship with a minimalist, you will find them "boring'" too. If there is no chemistry, should just move on instead of giving him false hope. Your bf is more suitable for people who live a simple life. Quote
lovehandle Posted October 26, 2017 Posted October 26, 2017 4 hours ago, bigdanbeam said: I dont agree that doing same things and eating same food everytime is boring. As long as i enjoy it, its up to the other party/parties to accept it that is true too e.g. there are some good food that all love to eat it being repetitive and boring is diff from having the love of the same good food and appreciating every bits of it while there are certain generalisations about engineers, there r diff type of engrs, eg food engr, System engr Quote
Guest 小肥猫 Posted October 26, 2017 Posted October 26, 2017 18 hours ago, Guest Bored said: my bf is a few years younger than me but he is like an uncle who likes to do the same things and eat the same things every time we meet. 我喜欢每天吃鱼，你觉的我闷吗? Quote
CherieLove Posted October 26, 2017 Posted October 26, 2017 3 minutes ago, Guest 小肥猫 said: 我喜欢每天吃鱼，你觉的我闷吗? 吃鱼=/= 闷 但如果天天做一样的事， 你不会觉得那个人的生活方式很闷&平淡吗? Quote
Guest 猫星人 Posted October 26, 2017 Posted October 26, 2017 3 hours ago, Guest 小肥猫 said: 我喜欢每天吃鱼，你觉的我闷吗? 可是你每天吃的是“不同”的鱼呀…… 有时还跑出去偷腥…… Quote
snowball Posted October 26, 2017 Posted October 26, 2017 (edited) Posted 21 hours ago my bf is a few years younger than me but he is like an uncle who likes to do the same things and eat the same things every time we meet. we attached only 4 months! he is very certain abt this rs and now wants to move in. I am very scared. any advice? I am 34 and he is 29 -------------------------------###########--------------------############----------------------------############---------------------- 那如果有一天， 你深爱的人背着你偷吃或有了新欢，到时可别cry father cry mother, 因为你那张同样的老脸，他也会看腻玩腻，不是吗? Edited October 26, 2017 by snowball Quote
abang Posted October 26, 2017 Posted October 26, 2017 Don't expect to change him.. Yes he may sound boring to you but really, if a man can stick to a routine, you should be thankful. Not everyone is as adventurous as you are. I, for one, would not want to try Bungee Jumping (although I'd done it in my 30s) again but seriously, am I boring? I will still go for roller-coaster rides instead. So having the same food is boring, huh? Perhaps he has a budget and he wants to control his expenses. Next time, you pay for an alternative food type and ask him to join in. See whether he enjoys tucking in into your food.... by then, you know the real reason behind his boring habits! Quote
blowmenow Posted October 26, 2017 Posted October 26, 2017 so many engineers here... wow! engineers = AJ Quote
Guest Guest e Posted October 26, 2017 Posted October 26, 2017 OP, I'm like your bf. When a person who loves routines wants you to be part of his routine, you will be loved forever. For you to post your question here, I guess you are considering a break up. If it happens, please have a proper closure, otherwise, it will become his routine to be in search of the real reason. Quote
sappora Posted October 26, 2017 Posted October 26, 2017 that means your bf is pretty predictable, which could be a good thing. He is not fickle minded. You can easily guess what he likes and what he usually does, of course there will be lack of varieties and surprises. What did your bf say about you? Quote
bryanta1098 Posted October 27, 2017 Posted October 27, 2017 (edited) On 10/25/2017 at 8:16 PM, Guest Bored said: my bf is a few years younger than me but he is like an uncle who likes to do the same things and eat the same things every time we meet. we attached only 4 months! he is very certain abt this rs and now wants to move in. I am very scared. any advice? I am 34 and he is 29 .. Edited December 23, 2017 by bryanta1098 for privacy Quote
thorzguy Posted October 27, 2017 Posted October 27, 2017 Do not attempt to change a person. Neither attempt to change yourself to suit him. The 2 key component are: communication and acceptance. These 2 must work, in order for any relationship (be it your family, bf, friends, colleagues etc). Sounds easy, tough to execute. Don't give up, keep going. Quote
Guest Boring Posted October 27, 2017 Posted October 27, 2017 Boring boyfriends are usually the most devoted ones. Those guys who give excitement and surprises are usually those who will go around and hunt for “food” Quote
snowball Posted October 27, 2017 Posted October 27, 2017 u should be glad that your bf is simple & predictable, if your bf likes playing mind games, you can be frustrating & confusing, 简单的爱是最真和幸福的 Leanmeat 1 Quote
lonely57 Posted October 27, 2017 Posted October 27, 2017 On 10/26/2017 at 6:26 PM, abang said: Don't expect to change him.. Yes he may sound boring to you but really, if a man can stick to a routine, you should be thankful. Not everyone is as adventurous as you are. agreed. if he can stick to a boring routine.. he wont be bored of u. therefore he is likely to be more loyal. 20 hours ago, blowmenow said: so many engineers here... wow! engineers = AJ more like most of the population are engineers who fail in life so they are stuck with engineering as a safety net. most.. not all. have to emphasize this.. =x Fiacla 1 Quote
Guest boringbf Posted October 27, 2017 Posted October 27, 2017 can i have ur bf if u think he's boring? Quote
abang Posted October 27, 2017 Posted October 27, 2017 老饼话家常： 我们同志圈里的男性友人很多， 但男友嘛， 知己难逢。 我以过来人的身份来提醒你： 抱紧眼前人。。 *** I'm surprised that this beautifully-haunting tune was composed by George Lam. 本應相愛本應相襯 命裡注定同行卻未能 捨不得不愛把不得一世 唯願抱緊眼前人 匆匆一世深深一吻 就此以後無從愛別人 若只得今晚可偷偷走近 誰又理得天鎖禁 Repeat** 愛你就算將跌入永遠黑暗 但這一刻抱緊 多麼確實無用再覓尋 浮沉人在世快樂循環又傷心 但願愛得最動人 一宵的愛一生的印 儘管最後如同過路人 捨不得不愛巴不得一世 唯願抱緊眼前人 Lam sang this tune at her remembrance concert.. Quote
Ben Ben Ben Posted October 27, 2017 Posted October 27, 2017 My plus point is faithful my bad point is too faithful Mique75ts 1 Quote
Mique75ts Posted October 28, 2017 Posted October 28, 2017 On 10/25/2017 at 8:16 PM, Guest Bored said: my bf is a few years younger than me but he is like an uncle who likes to do the same things and eat the same things every time we meet. we attached only 4 months! he is very certain abt this rs and now wants to move in. I am very scared. any advice? I am 34 and he is 29 How about u doing the changes each time u guys meet. Suggest new places to eat, new places to hang out or even plan a different route to go hm or jus experiment with anything new together.. Do sumthing silly to together, anything that can gives the relationship more zest. Relationship needs a lot of work deary. And yurs it's only 4mths honeymoon period is the best.. Xoxo Quote
lightsmith32 Posted October 28, 2017 Posted October 28, 2017 On 26/10/2017 at 10:22 PM, EasleyLim said: I feel like 90% of the r/s issues raised in BW could be resolved with a "have you tried talking to your partner about this?" I love this quote. If only people tried this cheat code. Kimochi 1 Quote
robin Posted October 28, 2017 Posted October 28, 2017 4 months into a relationship & finds it boring... can’t imagine if you have to be with him years down the road. If 2 people have chemistry, even taking an evening walk without much conversation will be an enjoyable one. As much as I do not like asking people to break off, as a matter of fact, no point wasting each other’s time caindukker 1 Quote
Guest Fatty Posted October 28, 2017 Posted October 28, 2017 Please dump him asap. Why are you dating an uncool and nerdy engineer? You deserve someone better. Quote
bigdanbeam Posted October 29, 2017 Posted October 29, 2017 Lol. Im sure the uncool and nerdy engineer deserves someone better too Quote
Bi-Azee Posted October 29, 2017 Posted October 29, 2017 I am not an engineer, but i can relate to TS's bf. I dont get bored doing the same thing or eat the same food everyday. People expects me to be adventurous and outgoing because im in the creative line. But actual fact, im just a simple, minimalist, introverted person, who speaks little. And im happy with that call me boring...i dont care haha Quote
Guest yttaF Posted October 29, 2017 Posted October 29, 2017 4 hours ago, Guest Fatty said: Please dump him asap. Why are you dating an uncool and nerdy engineer? You deserve someone better. Exactly ... especially since PAP doesn't want any more local engineers anymore. Look at how the SMRT suffered due to the serious lack of engineers last time. Only now then they hire engineers in truckloads. Please dump him asap. You should go date the SMRT senior executives instead!! Quote
Ben Ben Ben Posted October 29, 2017 Posted October 29, 2017 10 hours ago, Guest yttaF said: Exactly ... especially since PAP doesn't want any more local engineers anymore. Look at how the SMRT suffered due to the serious lack of engineers last time. Only now then they hire engineers in truckloads. Please dump him asap. You should go date the SMRT senior executives instead!! Berry good or b good PAP deserve it! More cock up! Quote
Guest BOR-ING Posted October 29, 2017 Posted October 29, 2017 Give me a boring boyfriend anytime At least he won't stray, and he's here to stay Quote
Bi-Azee Posted October 29, 2017 Posted October 29, 2017 43 minutes ago, Guest BOR-ING said: Give me a boring boyfriend anytime At least he won't stray, and he's here to stay Can i fill in the form and apply? Lol blowmenow 1 Quote
Guest lyrebird Posted October 29, 2017 Posted October 29, 2017 my bf and I also like to order the same things when we go to the same places. We have our usual haunts. Once in a while we will do something new together - explore a new area, travel, do something different - cycling, picnic, cook for each other, hiking. Doing challenging things together once in a while lets us see each other's imperfections and is great to keep us understanding each other more and growing together. Quote
Aikuchi Posted October 29, 2017 Posted October 29, 2017 Have you asked yourself why you're in the relationship? At both your ages, neither has much excuse to be naive about what you want from each other or uncertain about what kind of relationship you both want to be in, Being honest with yourself about your reasons to be with him is important even before you can formulate any kind of open communication in the first place. In my experience, 4 months is still too early to consider anything serious, This includes major changes like moving in together or hastily getting bored of the person. Quote
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