Guest conflicted Posted March 31, 2018 Posted March 31, 2018 Any opinion on this? is there anything i can do to reduce the lust?
silverguy Posted March 31, 2018 Posted March 31, 2018 Regardless of str8 or gay, after being attached, that does not exempt you from finding other people attractive. Main point is, what is responsible behavior towards your boy friend?
hazilyhasty Posted March 31, 2018 Posted March 31, 2018 Treat him like a real person instead of a piece of meat—then you're realise that lust is just a bridge you have to get over with. sayfirst 1 If the world don't suck we'd all fall off.
cutejack Posted March 31, 2018 Posted March 31, 2018 3 hours ago, hazilyhasty said: Treat him like a real person instead of a piece of meat—then you're realise that lust is just a bridge you have to get over with. Lust is just a bridge sia....another philosopher.
Guest play play Posted April 1, 2018 Posted April 1, 2018 really can fuck with someone whom you have been friend-zoned by him and vice versa? it's awkward, and can potentially ruin the friendship. even if manage to look pass that and fuck with him, what about your bf? either way, you'll be unfair to one of them. think of that and the lust would probably disappear. if you wanna have sex with someone else other than bf, find tourists/visitors for safe ons. no attachment and no exposure.
Ben Ben Ben Posted April 1, 2018 Posted April 1, 2018 Streamline the process. Make your Best Friend as your bf then you can lust and love him at the same time
Seungjun Posted April 1, 2018 Posted April 1, 2018 Talk to your partner about it and see if you all willing to go open lor. It's pretty common these days. Just fucking. No strings attached. Get it out of your system and you'll feel better. bigdanbeam and sayfirst 2
Guest Sigh Posted April 1, 2018 Posted April 1, 2018 Most of the replies here reflect the sad state of our gay community. Understand the difference(s) between lust and love, and things would become clearer. Ultimately it is your life. Do whatever you want; but don't forget the consequences. You do X to people, people can also do the same to you. How would you like to be treated? By the way, experiencing lust isn't something exclusive to gay people. Straight people lust as well. All the best
Guest Sigh Posted April 1, 2018 Posted April 1, 2018 13 hours ago, silverguy said: Regardless of str8 or gay, after being attached, that does not exempt you from finding other people attractive. Main point is, what is responsible behavior towards your boy friend? This.
Guest someone Posted April 1, 2018 Posted April 1, 2018 10 hours ago, Seungjun said: Talk to your partner about it and see if you all willing to go open lor. It's pretty common these days. Just fucking. No strings attached. Get it out of your system and you'll feel better. This. If you still lust after someone other than your bf, meaning you dont love your bf. Then should ask him for open rs, else break up. Better for both you and him. When you love someone, you wont lust after anyone else.
Guest Just do it Posted April 1, 2018 Posted April 1, 2018 Lust after someone else other than your bf does not necessarily mean one doesn’t love his bf. bf May be more of companionship than a sex partner. Sometimes these sexual desires may not be satisfied by bf, hence rely on others to fulfill it, treating those hook ups as sex toys for example. If really been thinking of having sex with this Friend behind your bf, just get it over and done with. Once establish sex is bad, then you can go back to normal life with bf. If sex is good and is a better companion than bf, then just break up and go steady with that Friend.
Guest Sad Posted April 1, 2018 Posted April 1, 2018 Whatever you decide to do, I hope you DON'T do it behind your bf's back, like the guest above me suggests. Have a CONSENSUAL open relationship arrangement IF it's really what you both want. But DON'T do anything behind his back aka CHEAT on him. It's wrong and unjustifiable.
Seungjun Posted April 1, 2018 Posted April 1, 2018 Yea don't do it behind back. Not cool and also disrespectful. Bf know about it is ok. Just try to float the idea. Many guys these days are understanding. We all got needs sometimes. Can relate to that. Of course, don't kpkb if your partner does it too. Must be fair.
Guest Just do it Posted April 1, 2018 Posted April 1, 2018 What’s the difference? As stated in the title, “attached but still lust after my good Friend”. That thought process already doesn’t make him a good bf even without cheating behind his bf’s back. by talking to bf about it may even be given an ultimatum. One should realize sex is just another play thing/social interaction if love is not involved.
snowball Posted April 1, 2018 Posted April 1, 2018 if so, do not expect your bf must be faithful to you, cos you are not a good bf material too Meneedyew 1
Guest Barton Posted April 2, 2018 Posted April 2, 2018 If by "faithful" you mean "sexually exclusive," then yes it's important but not necessary. If by faithful you mean emotionally committed, then it's essential. The key ingredient, though is Trust..
Guest Guest Posted April 2, 2018 Posted April 2, 2018 40 minutes ago, hannibalism said: just watched the latest episode of suits (one of the best shows on TV now...), and i think one line bears repeating here: if we can't tell each other the hard truths, what are we doing here? Any link?
SazNura Posted April 3, 2018 Posted April 3, 2018 Lusting over someone does not mean you have to fucked him. Forget it , your object of lust if he is good friend to you will probably tell you don't waste your time. he is not your partner in crime. However do not be a prick and find this as a reason to find excuse why your bf is not the perfect partner for you
Guest Staycommitted Posted April 3, 2018 Posted April 3, 2018 Do married men want to fark every pretty girls they see? Most won’t but a few will stray. Lust is just after all lust, just keep it in somewhere in ur heart and be faithful to ur bf. Long term commitment is really rare in gay society and we have to strive to improve this
Guest Are you desirable first? Posted April 3, 2018 Posted April 3, 2018 Bunch of pretentious people. Want to do it then do it. There’s always someone better than your bf. Question is what in your opinion/belief, that you having a bf is all about. Want to be faithful? Have all the sex you want before settling down so you won’t feel bad about yourself for not having played enough. That is of course, subjected to whether others are willing to hook up with you. If you know you have a Low market value, then please, put on a chastity belt and give your bf the key.
Guest not hiding Posted April 3, 2018 Posted April 3, 2018 On 01/04/2018 at 7:31 AM, cutejack said: Lust is just a bridge sia....another philosopher. Sure, after the lil bird is soft again cannot cross over to the other side of the river... But lust is not a bridge ; it's a beach that never ends... 2) The question of the threadstarter was actually what he can do against his lusty feelings for his friend. Answer : not sure. maybe reflect on the things you don't like on him...
Guest Posted April 3, 2018 Posted April 3, 2018 19 minutes ago, hannibalism said: link to? i think he refer to the link of series u watching.
SazNura Posted April 3, 2018 Posted April 3, 2018 (edited) you could honestly try reverse theraphy . eveytime you find yourself lusting after your friend bite some food you absolutely hate. everytime you think of your bf you eat something sweet and delicious. associate what you like with your bf and anyone one else you lusting as nasty and foul. sometime love is sacrifice . Edited April 3, 2018 by SazNura
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