By Guest Guest
Hey, I'm been pretty worried about my non-existent dating life that I'm not really sure where to turn to and hope the guys on this forum would be able to give some advice.
I'm in my mid-20s. I've been single for the past few years. The last time I had a boyfriend or dated was in university when it was easy to meet lots of new people.
Now I'm starting to worry if there's something wrong with me, or at least, what I can do about my situation.
The first thought is maybe I'm unattractive, but I genuinely don't believe that's the whole reason (at least I hope not).
I don't think I'm unattractive per se, but maybe...unattractive to gay guys? It seems in Singapore (and most places), gay men are attracted to muscular, masculine jock-types.
I'm actually not ugly, I'd say I'm moderately good looking. But the thing is I'm 'cute'.
'Cute' like those K/J/C-Pop flower boys. I've been told this numerous times throughout my life by friends & strangers. Random people would come up to make a comment about me being 'cute' or 'pretty'. When I travel in China or Japan, random people would come and ask to take pictures with me & some would ask if I'm some type of idol.
I know it sounds insanely up myself to be saying these things but I really want to convince you that I'm not ugly.
In any case, I used to take these comments as a compliment, but now that I'm in my mid-20s, I'm not so sure I want to keep being 'cute'.
I'm not overly muscular (but not super skinny either). My personality isn't very feminine, but it's not very butch either. I'd say I'm very average, although I'm a bit short (170cm).
It's just my face is very 'sweet'.
I look like these guys:
In the straight world, people won't say these guys are ugly...but in the gay world, it's not usually the kind of guys most gay men find attractive.
So..I'm just kinda wondering...is there a market for guys like this? And if so, where? How do I find them? What do I go to meet them and how do I start dating them?
I've been out of the market for so long I really don't know where to start. Please help. Any advice would be really appreciated. Thank you
Was having a discussion with my friend on this highly debated topic that was fuelled by the recent revision of laws in Japan banning corporal punishment contrasted with the failure of passing a similar bill in the Philippines.
The questions I have are:
1) What is your most memorable moment of being punished as a kid? What did you do and how were you punished for it?
2) What were some creative techniques your parents used to discipline you with?
3) Do you agree with corporal punishment? Would you employ it with your own (hypothetical) children in the future haha?
Wonder if there's a change in mindset from our parents' generation till today...
By walk around
Not sure if I'm starting this topic in the correct board, hope you guys can share your thoughts or experiences;
I've bumped into a long lost friend last month when I attended the CNY friends gathering, let's named him N.
Back in uni days, we weren't close either. Never spoke to each other, not even a hi-bye-friend; but I know the presence of this handsome guy (of course I do! hehe). During the gathering, I've got a butterfly inside my stomach because he was just sat in front of me, face-to-face; oh ya! he did flash his gently smile with me; I then return him a gentle smile with manners as well. At almost the end of the gathering; some of them left home, while few of them went to the club. We stayed in the restaurant with some nonsense topics, and when we are ready to go home, he gave me a 'Hey!' at the carpark. We started a short conversation and he passed me his number, he asked me to text him when I'm home.
We dated the next day for a meal, I'm awkward because he expresses that he knows I'm gay; he also admitted that he likes guys too. He then told me that he will be outstation for work after that, and we only could talk to each other on WhatsApp with on-and-off messaging, he seems busy at work. A week later, he got back from work and he dated me for dinner! Okay, I ended my stories here, I don't want to seems like your grandfather telling how he got to know your grandmother story. HEHE
How can I kick the relationship start? or maybe that's too early for us? Is about a month times since the gathering we both 'get each other contact'... I got drove crazy when dealing with all this love love thingy! Need advice
My best regards from Kuala Lumpur