Do you think a couple (one likes spicy and the other can't take chili) can be together?

[Guest spicy]

Do you think a couple (one likes spicy and the other can't take chili) can be together?

 

Yes, I'm the one who can't take chili. Laksa without chili is my threshold.

 

Can't expect my partner to always the one giving in. Does anyone have solution for this?

 

[For Fun]

Why must a couple having a same taste?

Solution? Order two different bowls of laksa?

[Kimochi]

2 hours ago, Guest spicy said:

Do you think a couple (one likes spicy and the other can't take chili) can be together?

 

Yes, I'm the one who can't take chili. Laksa without chili is my threshold.

 

Can't expect my partner to always the one giving in. Does anyone have solution for this?

 

Same stall eat different menu ?? If only sell Laksa then hoseh loh its either you learn to eat some spicy or eat other. If you learn to eat spicy and he knows that you are trying, he will be very touched because he knows you are trying to accommodate. To save. To compromise. He will be very touched and will sex you jialat jialat ~ that is if you are coming from your heart. 

[zyjd]

seriously? That shouldn't be a problem at all if your relationship with him is strong.

 

I'm the one who loves spicy and my bf isn't very tolerant of it. Over time, he's grown to appreciate aglio olio, MLXG (with the smallest spice level), while I've learnt to take my sarawak kolo mee sans chilli. But that's 'coz both of us make each other try just a bit of our food.

 

At the end of the day, though, the food isn't really all that important? I think what matters is we still enjoy each other's company very much, half a decade on.

[upshot]

There's a saying...

 

"Variety is the spice of life" 

 

No pun intended. Enough said.

[Guest Derelict]

Opposites attract.

[Guest Cum cum]

One eat cum while another don’t eat cum. Nothing wrong right! 
 

if both also like to eat cum then Jiat luck Lo. Where to find cum to feed both hungry pax.
 

So good to complement each other! Those got no chilli one u eat, those hot chilli one he eats! 

[Guest guest]

No, the relationship is destined to fail. We all know that insignificant differences in taste over silly things are insurmountable. 

[Guest Guest]

If such a petty thing like this can be an issue, think on the slightest argument that can happen in the relationship.  

 

What has happened to "Don't fret on small stuffs" in Life?

[fab]

à la carte instead of table d'hôte

[Guest Huh?]

It was like saying a Top and a Bottom cannot be a perfect buddy?

[singalion]

On 12/15/2020 at 10:19 PM, Guest spicy said:

Do you think a couple (one likes spicy and the other can't take chili) can be together?

 

Yes, I'm the one who can't take chili. Laksa without chili is my threshold.

 

Can't expect my partner to always the one giving in. Does anyone have solution for this?

 

 

My question is:

Is the only thing you don't have in common?

 

In my personal opinion I think you have not yet discovered what love is about.

If such an item is already the big issue in your relationship then I don't think there is much future for you.

 

You need to learn very soon there are many factors which make up for a relationship and love.

 

Is food the only thing that keeps your relationship together?

 

There should be other areas in common where you spice up your relationship.

 

If any of you can't accept the other only because someone prefers to eat spicy while the other doesn't, what to say. Isn't it a small thing that can be resolved?

 

If you cook something, then just cut some chili padi for your bf and let him dump it into his food and he is happy (even if it might spoil the beautifyl taste of your cooked dish). but isn't it better to share the table with someone and exchange some smiles and be happy together?

 

There are other issues which seem more serious to me, like partners having different religions or ethnic backgrounds.

There are couples where one is a meat lover and the other a vegetarian.

Did it come to your mind that even such differing people can make a relationship work and learn what love is about.

 

You might be a book worm reading on the different philosophical ideas and your bf an addicted tv soap opera watcher. He might like fantasy movies while your prefer crime movies or comedies.

 

Take an effort. Even if you don't like all what your partner likes, but join him as he will join you on what you like (and even if one of you falls asleep), at least you are together and share a moment.

 

Even for dining out your partner can always ask for some chili powder or freshly cut chili padi.

And if your bf does the cooking, then if he loves you then he will only add the spicy things into the food after he prepared a meal which suits both of you.

 

 

Learn more how you can compromise around your differences. Your feeling to someone is more important.

 

By the way often things change in a relationship. Your partner who was a submissive bottom might turn to a dominating top in 6 years. Better be aware that there will be other areas where you differ or don't join common traits.

 

Who wants to live a boring life with a clone?

The differences spice up your relationship and one day (if you really love him) such matters won't be any issue any longer.

 

Find the things to make you both happy, ok...

 

Edited December 17, 2020 by singalion

[Guest sgman]

My partner and I have been living together for 2 decades.

I don't take spicy and he likes spicy.

I don't drink alcohol, and he likes to drink wine.

 

We seem to be going just fine.

[p2468]

On 12/16/2020 at 8:17 PM, Guest Cum cum said:

One eat cum while another don’t eat cum. Nothing wrong right! 
 

if both also like to eat cum then Jiat luck Lo. Where to find cum to feed both hungry pax.
 

So good to complement each other! Those got no chilli one u eat, those hot chilli one he eats! 

Haha

[Guest guest]

Can always separate the chilli then your partner can add whatever amount he wants.

[mate69]

So mafan

Might as well save the hassle and be alone and independent

[Guest Six]

It may not pose major problems but still is a minor road bump, think about this: both having small issues outside then this little "don't eat spicy food" would trigger a bit inside when you suddenly have spicy cravings but you know he doesn't want so you can't satisfy your cravings at that moment. 

 

Trust me, life is much easier if both can eat spicy food, hate the same political party, like the same porn, have the same sex drive and many similarities have more pros than cons. 

 

Those who say opposite attract are not sincere in giving advice. If that is the case, wouldn't love a woman right now who doesn't eat what you like nor listen to your favorite songs?

 

Same as friends, we prefer to have the similar frequency and laugh at the same jokes. But we only don't want them to fuck the same guy because we're selfish to share the man we love. 

 

[Guest differences]

I feel like differences sometimes make you want to work harder to make the relationship work. The single source powering this relationship and is the common one you share which is attraction.

 

Same for friendships. I have friends who have very different interests from me, but these friendships turn out to be stronger than the ones which I share common interests with.

[Guest Mamman]

Me like spicy. My bf likes sweet. We've been together for 5 years.

[Guest More Spice]

Just to share ... me and my partner is 37 years apart , he used to ask me why I choose him ..  

and that upset me ... 

 

i told him that we can't escape from our own feelings no matter how much he want to denied .. and when you fall in love , the feelings always goes both way .. 

 

I'm proud of having him as my partner and I'm being thankful even though it's a LDR situation , I trust him without any doubt. 

 

We video call everyday , feeling love everyday with him .. he came to visit every 1-2 month. 

 

Somehow he became my motivation ... he had become part of my family ... 

Im sure he and I love each other .. the feelings , the existence .. even though our financial gap was really huge but we're equal in terms of being each other's side ... 

[fab]

On 12/15/2020 at 10:19 PM, Guest spicy said:

Do you think a couple (one likes spicy and the other can't take chili) can be together?

 

Yes, I'm the one who can't take chili. Laksa without chili is my threshold.

 

Can't expect my partner to always the one giving in. Does anyone have solution for this?

 

 

Not an issue if you be the btm all the time.

[Guest Hehe]

On 5/26/2022 at 11:39 PM, Guest More Spice said:

Just to share ... me and my partner is 37 years apart , he used to ask me why I choose him ..  

and that upset me ... 

 

i told him that we can't escape from our own feelings no matter how much he want to denied .. and when you fall in love , the feelings always goes both way .. 

 

I'm proud of having him as my partner and I'm being thankful even though it's a LDR situation , I trust him without any doubt. 

 

We video call everyday , feeling love everyday with him .. he came to visit every 1-2 month. 

 

Somehow he became my motivation ... he had become part of my family ... 

Im sure he and I love each other .. the feelings , the existence .. even though our financial gap was really huge but we're equal in terms of being each other's side ... 

 

Aiyo you young one or the old one. 37 years apart is like choosing a daddy to love. 

 

Cute when young but when the old one become like grandpa it's like a son loving a grandpa