Age matters

[Guest It happens]

13 minutes ago, Guest HappyMature said:

I always thought this forum is meant for matured… when did all these youngish started invading? 😬 and some can be very rude after one reveals the age. Simply no more reply. 🥲 

The ageist mentality began during the internet boom time. Everyone thought they have an ocean of options, within the tip of their fingers.

[Guest HappyMature]

2 hours ago, Guest It happens said:

The ageist mentality began during the internet boom time. Everyone thought they have an ocean of options, within the tip of their fingers.

How true. I just turned 50. In my teens,  I’m open to all ages and all ages open to me. In my 30s, I’m open to all ages, all ages open to me. In my 40s, I’m open to all ages, selective young ones open to me. Now entering 50s, I’m still open to all ages but market shrunk already. I dread going into my 60s to be called ah pek by the young ones and laughed at for ogling at them. 😂

[singalion]

6 hours ago, Guest HappyMature said:

How true. I just turned 50. In my teens,  I’m open to all ages and all ages open to me. In my 30s, I’m open to all ages, all ages open to me. In my 40s, I’m open to all ages, selective young ones open to me. Now entering 50s, I’m still open to all ages but market shrunk already. I dread going into my 60s to be called ah pek by the young ones and laughed at for ogling at them. 😂

 

Maybe you require to adapt the age of your sex partner.

Being 60 one day and chasing the 20s might not lead to success.

 

As always, it is helpful to seek some non sexual gay friends or a circle to compensate for the loss of sexual activity.

And be happy of any youngster dating you, I m sure it will still happen on times.

 

[Steve5380]

8 hours ago, Guest HappyMature said:

How true. I just turned 50. In my teens,  I’m open to all ages and all ages open to me. In my 30s, I’m open to all ages, all ages open to me. In my 40s, I’m open to all ages, selective young ones open to me. Now entering 50s, I’m still open to all ages but market shrunk already. I dread going into my 60s to be called ah pek by the young ones and laughed at for ogling at them. 😂

 

50 may or may not be mature yet.  Although it is an age where you can start searching for a life partner, not merely a sex partner.  Having found the right life partner for you, then you should worry less about the 60s, the 70s, the 80s, except for what you should give increasing priority:  your health.

[Guest More specific]

16 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

Having found the right life partner for you, then you should worry less about the 60s, the 70s, the 80s, except for what you should give increasing priority:  your health.

Cop out answer.  How do you define a partner.  Someone abusive, abrassive, evasive and elusive?

[egal]

have we passed our prime, no matter what age we are now?  lol

 

or is it the money, charisma, bod, personality etc that plays a more important role, lol

 

dreamz on

[Steve5380]

6 hours ago, Guest More specific said:

Cop out answer.  How do you define a partner.  Someone abusive, abrassive, evasive and elusive?

 

It is much less important if he is somewhat abusive, abrasive, evasive, elusive... as long as he LOVES you. 

[Steve5380]

6 hours ago, egal said:

have we passed our prime, no matter what age we are now?  lol

 

or is it the money, charisma, bod, personality etc that plays a more important role, lol

 

dreamz on

 

How relevant is it we have passed or not our prime FOR OTHERS?  How important should be THE OTHERS?

 

We can be living at our prime at most ages during our life.  And there are multiple kinds of "prime".  Even an octogenarian can be living at some prime/s.  

[radiusulnar]

judging by the frequency of the opening lines, "hi. age?" age certainly matters

[HC-B]

I find that people who dictate their encounters with other men on the rule of age are making a statement about type and preference (of the season, presumably).

 

Nothing wrong with that — whatever age that rocks or floats your boat, so be it.

I just don’t buy it and I reject it and I don’t do it in turn to others by asking of them upfront.

But then again, I don’t really care or give two hoots about online or social connects, so such rules just wash over me!

 

But based on personal F2F cruising or connecting encounters, the age approach is self confining, self restrictive, self reducing, self limiting.

 

Some of the more slow dance romantic and relaxing and joyous encounters I have had had been with men much much younger than me.
 

And some of more heartfelt and vigourous and physically arousing and soulful experiences I have had had been with men way way older than me.

 

There’s more to igniting male chemistry between two different men than just the rule of age.

Edited August 29, 2024 by HC-B

[Guest Reality]

Most of the time, in the gay world, profiling individual is like playing a game of throne.  

 

Age please?

(If you pass the above initial stage, than you moved on to the next)

 

Photo please?

(If you fail this 2nd stage, move on and block the other person immediately,  and move on)

 

Stats please?

(This 3nd phase is equally damning, if you fail this phase, the above 2 successful stages became irrelevant)

 

Nationality?

(This is 4th controversial stage,   it indirectly associated you with certain skin color, race, rellgon, culture, habbit 

and you are walking on thin line of being blacklisted at this point regardless of the above successful 3 phases of questioning)

 

Chemistry?

(Finally, you are then allowed to chat, exposing yourself even more, so that the asker can test chemistry which may take hours or even days.  You were both so happy, and hopeful. When you thought you saw light at the end of the tunnel, you get blocked for no apparent reason.  The reasons could be anything under the sun, you are Bottom, you don't have a car, you are staying with your parents, you are jobless, you are smoker, alcoholic, you don't like certain movies or certain books or certain politicians, or certain foods...the list goes from here to the end of the universe, and you left floating in space to trying to make sense out of it...........

 

New searches for new soul began, the wheel kept turning to bring you back to phase 1,  again and again. You wear off slowly, from acceptable age to unacceptable age as time passes by.  If you have not given up, you are not living in reality. 

 

I rather play "black myth Wukong"  with higher success rate.

                                                             

End of Story.   

 

 

[Steve5380]

18 hours ago, Guest Reality said:

Most of the time, in the gay world, profiling individual is like playing a game of throne.  

 

Age please?

(If you pass the above initial stage, than you moved on to the next)

 

Photo please?

(If you fail this 2nd stage, move on and block the other person immediately,  and move on)

 

Stats please?

(This 3nd phase is equally damning, if you fail this phase, the above 2 successful stages became irrelevant)

 

Nationality?

(This is 4th controversial stage,   it indirectly associated you with certain skin color, race, rellgon, culture, habbit 

and you are walking on thin line of being blacklisted at this point regardless of the above successful 3 phases of questioning)

 

Chemistry?

(Finally, you are then allowed to chat, exposing yourself even more, so that the asker can test chemistry which may take hours or even days.  You were both so happy, and hopeful. When you thought you saw light at the end of the tunnel, you get blocked for no apparent reason.  The reasons could be anything under the sun, you are Bottom, you don't have a car, you are staying with your parents, you are jobless, you are smoker, alcoholic, you don't like certain movies or certain books or certain politicians, or certain foods...the list goes from here to the end of the universe, and you left floating in space to trying to make sense out of it...........

 

New searches for new soul began, the wheel kept turning to bring you back to phase 1,  again and again. You wear off slowly, from acceptable age to unacceptable age as time passes by.  If you have not given up, you are not living in reality. 

 

I rather play "black myth Wukong"  with higher success rate.

                                                             

End of Story.   

 

 

 

Reality, Guest?    I find that this "reality" takes away much of the fun.

 

I have never seen the need for online dating, and I have never done it.  I like the in-person chase,  mostly but not exclusively in gay saunas and bars.  Here, what matters is not age but attractiveness.  This No. 1 parameter that leads to contacts, brings out another: personality, character.  

[Guest Truth be told]

4 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

Here, what matters is not age but attractiveness.  This No. 1 parameter that leads to contacts, brings out another: personality, character.  

Don't try to console yourself, you are not 18, but 81.  I know, truth hurts.

[Steve5380]

6 minutes ago, Guest Truth be told said:

Don't try to console yourself, you are not 18, but 81.  I know, truth hurts.

 

HA HA HA.... how CUTE!   I am drifting towards 82,  and I am not 18.  Think of a SYMETRY in life.

 

I am entitled to be living in "my second childhood".  If I will live until 100,  now I am living in my 18th year and getting younger.  In 18 years I will be back to a newborn, ready to make the transition to the afterlife!   

 

I stand by what I wrote, that what matters is attractiveness, not age.  I like younger people for sex, but I have always been attracted to some seniors.  To their spirit, their character, their... soul.  SEX has nothing to do here.  It loses importance for seniors anyway,  and you, if not a senior,  can always jerk off.    

 

So... ATTRACTIVENESS goes beyond sex,  and I get hints that I am attractive even at 81!  

[Guest Red Flag]

11 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

So... ATTRACTIVENESS goes beyond sex,  and I get hints that I am attractive even at 81!  

This sounds familiar,  you are trapped in a love spam. Please report to the authority immediately.

[Steve5380]

58 minutes ago, Guest Red Flag said:

This sounds familiar,  you are trapped in a love spam. Please report to the authority immediately.

 

Love spam ??  NO. I have never loved spam, except when I was very little. Occasionally we opened a can of spam when  there was not much else to eat, and I liked that fatty meat.  But as an adult, I reject that low quality protein.

 

What is happening to me as a Senior is that I am entrapped in love.  I didn't care much for love ( I'm not talking about sex ) when I was young,  but now I find myself feeling much love.  For other people, for animals, for nature, for life.  ( I suspect that it has much to do with my consumption of mega doses of Lactobacillus Reuteri, like predicted by Dr. William Davis )  

[Guest Solo]

On 8/30/2024 at 10:43 AM, Guest Reality said:

Most of the time, in the gay world, profiling individual is like playing a game of throne.  

 

Age please?

(If you pass the above initial stage, than you moved on to the next)

 

Photo please?

(If you fail this 2nd stage, move on and block the other person immediately,  and move on)

 

Stats please?

(This 3nd phase is equally damning, if you fail this phase, the above 2 successful stages became irrelevant)

 

Nationality?

(This is 4th controversial stage,   it indirectly associated you with certain skin color, race, rellgon, culture, habbit 

and you are walking on thin line of being blacklisted at this point regardless of the above successful 3 phases of questioning)

 

Chemistry?

(Finally, you are then allowed to chat, exposing yourself even more, so that the asker can test chemistry which may take hours or even days.  You were both so happy, and hopeful. When you thought you saw light at the end of the tunnel, you get blocked for no apparent reason.  The reasons could be anything under the sun, you are Bottom, you don't have a car, you are staying with your parents, you are jobless, you are smoker, alcoholic, you don't like certain movies or certain books or certain politicians, or certain foods...the list goes from here to the end of the universe, and you left floating in space to trying to make sense out of it...........

 

New searches for new soul began, the wheel kept turning to bring you back to phase 1,  again and again. You wear off slowly, from acceptable age to unacceptable age as time passes by.  If you have not given up, you are not living in reality. 

 

I rather play "black myth Wukong"  with higher success rate.

                                                             

End of Story.   

 

 

Agree. I think I have passed the phase of need to have some, to invest into the emotions space. I feel I don’t owe anyone explanation to why I’m like this that why I couldn’t give this and that. No expectations no disappointment. 

[Steve5380]

12 hours ago, Guest Solo said:

Agree. I think I have passed the phase of need to have some, to invest into the emotions space. I feel I don’t owe anyone explanation to why I’m like this that why I couldn’t give this and that. No expectations no disappointment. 

 

You don't need to be a Senior to have reached this stage.  It can happen much earlier without problems.  And although you don't owe explanations,  you can give them if you have enough self-confidence.

[Guest Rocky]

7 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

And although you don't owe explanations,  you can give them if you have enough self-confidence.

Speaking with a cold rock is not an indication of confidence; rather, it is a waste of time that could be spent on something more worthwhile.  Have you tried talking to a rock?  I know I didn't and I wouldn't.

[singalion]

On 8/30/2024 at 10:43 AM, Guest Reality said:

Most of the time, in the gay world, profiling individual is like playing a game of throne.  

 

Age please?

(If you pass the above initial stage, than you moved on to the next)

 

Photo please?

(If you fail this 2nd stage, move on and block the other person immediately,  and move on)

 

Stats please?

(This 3nd phase is equally damning, if you fail this phase, the above 2 successful stages became irrelevant)

 

Nationality?

(This is 4th controversial stage,   it indirectly associated you with certain skin color, race, rellgon, culture, habbit 

and you are walking on thin line of being blacklisted at this point regardless of the above successful 3 phases of questioning)

 

Chemistry?

(Finally, you are then allowed to chat, exposing yourself even more, so that the asker can test chemistry which may take hours or even days.  You were both so happy, and hopeful. When you thought you saw light at the end of the tunnel, you get blocked for no apparent reason.  The reasons could be anything under the sun, you are Bottom, you don't have a car, you are staying with your parents, you are jobless, you are smoker, alcoholic, you don't like certain movies or certain books or certain politicians, or certain foods...the list goes from here to the end of the universe, and you left floating in space to trying to make sense out of it...........

 

New searches for new soul began, the wheel kept turning to bring you back to phase 1,  again and again. You wear off slowly, from acceptable age to unacceptable age as time passes by.  If you have not given up, you are not living in reality. 

 

I rather play "black myth Wukong"  with higher success rate.

                                                             

End of Story.   

 

 

 

You're really a friendly guy!

 

You must be the only one who adds "please" to the questions...

 

Usually it just goes: Age?, Stay where?, Looking ? , U from? , Stats?, U host? , Pic? ...

 

 

[singalion]

Those who don't mention any age on dating apps, I will automatically assume that they are above 35y.

 

But I find it ridiculous (if not pathetic) when you ask on the age and the guy doesn't reply to it ...

 

Age matters mostly.

But there are points that may give exceptions, such as the level of horniness, having a place to host for fun, or the size of the tool. Let's say it's 7.5" and you're a size queen bottom, I am sure he will extend his age limit by 10 years... if the guy is still in a good shape. 🤣

Edited September 3, 2024 by singalion

[Guest Fairy Tales Expectations]

2 hours ago, singalion said:

 

You're really a friendly guy!

 

You must be the only one who adds "please" to the questions...

 

Usually it just goes: Age?, Stay where?, Looking ? , U from? , Stats?, U host? , Pic? ...

 

 

It is just a subject title, to help people understand the topic better.  Be assured that people who goes Age?, Stay where?, Looking ? , U from? , Stats?, U host? , Pic? ...belongs to the same group of chatters.   They're not going anywhere, and you frequently see the same guys hanging around the chat area and inquiring in the same way and wind up coming across as impolite.  You should avoid such individuals who are looking for unicorns in gay chat rooms, if you have no already find them unrealistic in their expectations.

[ERFAbangBear]

Can't speak for anyone else but I prefer older men lol. I think I may have daddy issues growing up but yeah from my experience, the younger dudes are mostly inexperienced in sex, figuring shit out or confused. But I will say to balance out the conversation a little, the topic of conversations due to generational gap could be of concern especially since its very likely they have a different mentality than yours.

[egal]

what age gap r ok for yall

[bigboyclubsg]

3 hours ago, ERFAbangBear said:

Can't speak for anyone else but I prefer older men lol. I think I may have daddy issues growing up but yeah from my experience, the younger dudes are mostly inexperienced in sex, figuring shit out or confused. But I will say to balance out the conversation a little, the topic of conversations due to generational gap could be of concern especially since its very likely they have a different mentality than yours.

the older guys i've met say the craziest most problematic shit at times

[ERFAbangBear]

56 minutes ago, bigboyclubsg said:

the older guys i've met say the craziest most problematic shit at times

can't relate but then again my pool of older men/daddies are not a lot

[egal]

tht is a good thing, 

[Steve5380]

4 hours ago, ERFAbangBear said:

can't relate but then again my pool of older men/daddies are not a lot

 

4 hours ago, egal said:

tht is a good thing, 

 

Why is this a good thing?  Older men can be attractive too, es ist alles egal.

 

Hopefully, one day you will be among the older men/daddies too.    Because the alternative is...  to be nothing!

[Guest Needle in the haysack]

5 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

 

Why is this a good thing?  Older men can be attractive too, 

 

Far from it.  Many elderly men I noticed are loud, noisy, grumpy, dirty, inconsiderate, quarrelsome, self-centered, disrespectful, weird, unhygienic and trouble maker.   The attractive, clean, quiet, and courteous ones are very very very rare in Singapore.

[Steve5380]

28 minutes ago, Guest Needle in the haysack said:

Far from it.  Many elderly men I noticed are loud, noisy, grumpy, dirty, inconsiderate, quarrelsome, self-centered, disrespectful, weird, unhygienic and trouble maker.   The attractive, clean, quiet, and courteous ones are very very very rare in Singapore.

 

I am so sorry that you have so few attractive older men in Singapore!

 

I wrote: "older men can be attractive too".  So your "Far from it" means that you don't believe that they can.   But then, when you say that they are very very very rare,...  you are contradicting yourself.   Please make up your mind.

[Guest Needle in the haysack]

50 minutes ago, Steve5380 said:

 

I am so sorry that you have so few attractive older men in Singapore!

 

I wrote: "older men can be attractive too".  So your "Far from it" means that you don't believe that they can.   But then, when you say that they are very very very rare,...  you are contradicting yourself.   Please make up your mind.

3 X Rare to the point of nearly non-existence.  Is that clearer to you now?

[Steve5380]

10 hours ago, Guest Needle in the haysack said:

3 X Rare to the point of nearly non-existence.  Is that clearer to you now?

 

OK.  I recognize that attractive octogenarians are rare.  All my life have I felt kind of rare ( this comes with being gay? ), but I don't complain.

[NeitherHereNorThere]

Age and other factors (looks, ethnicity, body shape, penis size, curvature, perky ass etc) may be important to those who know they have options and not lacking in fun. When there are young meats around in Shogun, many will flock to them, cos there's comparison. The key to success is to differentiate yourself in the market.

 

So good to be young.. hahaha

Edited September 20, 2024 by NeitherHereNorThere

[Guest wahahahahaa]

On 9/8/2024 at 10:35 PM, ERFAbangBear said:

can't relate but then again my pool of older men/daddies are not a lot

You need to be gentle when you TOP them, the senior may be a little fragile to handle.  Instead of Piak Piak sound, you may hear creaking or cracking, like potato chip.....wahahahahahaa...

[ERFAbangBear]

2 hours ago, Guest wahahahahaa said:

You need to be gentle when you TOP them, the senior may be a little fragile to handle.  Instead of Piak Piak sound, you may hear creaking or cracking, like potato chip.....wahahahahahaa...

I dunno what fragile men you've been around or are referring to that's about to turn to dust but I'm talking about strong experienced stallions that can pound and take a pounding 

[radiusulnar]

For those looking for sugar daddies, the daddies would generally be older to be able to sustain the desired lifestyle.

[Guest Inclusive]

1 hour ago, radiusulnar said:

For those looking for sugar daddies, the daddies would generally be older to be able to sustain the desired lifestyle.

Don't forget about the sugar "auntie" too.

[Steve5380]

On 9/20/2024 at 2:07 AM, ERFAbangBear said:

I dunno what fragile men you've been around or are referring to that's about to turn to dust but I'm talking about strong experienced stallions that can pound and take a pounding 

 

It could be that  Guest wahahahahaa  is trying to escape reality, because the "fragile old man" he met turned out to be a strong Senior who topped him in a millisecond without giving him time to declare his preferences.

[Guest Cjris]

I hate all these filters. Nobody looks like they do in real life anymore. Nothing wrong with a filtered picture sometimes but not every single picture in your photos.

[Guest RedMagic]

As per topic. What are your views on this? Let's discuss!

[fresh7up]

I've known a top that swears he will not have sex with anyone older than him. He's late 20s and he said that he roughly know how old a person is by touching their body/ hair/ face eg. Feeling their skin. He have that experience from the dark mazes he frequents to at the saunas.

Little did he knew that he's having sex with me a 42 yr old guy on multiple occasions. I did not disclose my real age with him since he didn't bother too much about it.

So yea, age is just a number.

Edited December 29, 2024 by fresh7up

[radiusulnar]

2 hours ago, fresh7up said:

age is just a number

 

Inspiring anecdote. One is as young as one "feels" to another.

[GayNomad]

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Edited December 30, 2024 by GayNomad

[Beerguy]

45 minutes ago, GayNomad said:

I think most people will judge based on face rather than age? Because one can be old and still have a gorgeous face.

 

But if one has a not so ideal looking face, he probably has a bit of challenge to overcome. Maybe consider going for facial, cosmetic surgery?

Yes, you said it. I also think most people prefer an older gorgeous face compared to a young not so ideal one. 

 

And don’t need to be gorgeous, pleasant face will do.

[ethancsg]

14 hours ago, Beerguy said:

Yes, you said it. I also think most people prefer an older gorgeous face compared to a young not so ideal one. 

 

And don’t need to be gorgeous, pleasant face will do.

I do agree. I met a 50 yo dont look like 50 yo. I thought he was only 40+. 

[robin]

A mature who is well maintained physically (not referring to muscles), financially stable, able to hold a good conversation, that will be a steal! Wouldn’t it be? 
 

For those who are entering or already in mature phase, why don’t you work towards or be that one? 

Edited December 30, 2024 by robin

[Steve5380]

On 12/29/2024 at 3:11 AM, fresh7up said:

I've known a top that swears he will not have sex with anyone older than him. He's late 20s and he said that he roughly know how old a person is by touching their body/ hair/ face eg. Feeling their skin. He have that experience from the dark mazes he frequents to at the saunas.

Little did he knew that he's having sex with me a 42 yr old guy on multiple occasions. I did not disclose my real age with him since he didn't bother too much about it.

So yea, age is just a number.

 

That top is quite inexperienced.  It is not too easy to guess an age by the looks,  it is even harder to do it by touch!  But if at 42 your body feels like a late 20s...  you are on the right track! 

 

4 hours ago, robin said:

A mature who is well maintained physically (not referring to muscles), financially stable, able to hold a good conversation, that will be a steal! Wouldn’t it be? 
 

For those who are entering or already in mature phase, why don’t you work towards or be that one? 

 

Shouldn't we rather live a free life of youth, enjoying it while it lasts,  instead of "caring physically", try to make money, be educated for an intelligent conversation?  Don't we live only once???   NO!  Absolutely NOT!.  

 

Yes, we live only once  (that we know).  But this life has many periods that can be very fulfilling,  not just "youth".   To live carefully when young, say till the late 20s, should not be a burden.  We can have first-class sex in moderation, we can enhance our fitness, we can study a profession that we are gifted and passionate about.  This can be a success.  Then in the following 30 years till the late 50s we can avoid much change physically, and we immerse in our profession and/or our marriage and children.  In the following two decades, till the 70s, we slow down and calm down making use of our previous achievements,  and then in the last two decades,  till 100,  we can enjoy the happiest time in our life by a) with less or no libido we are not bothered by the needs of sex, nor how attractive we are/are not.  b) we gain more UNDERSTANDING of what life is about and in our self-evaluation of our life we find it to be a success,  and c) our ambitions and expectations are at a minimum, but we can still have plans, objectives.  All this is best achieved if we manage to stay healthy throughout life, and just one day our heart stops.

[Kopi Gao]

8 hours ago, ethancsg said:

I do agree. I met a 50 yo dont look like 50 yo. I thought he was only 40+. 

But 40+ not "far away" from 50 .... 🤔 .... unless really got huge difference .... 👍 ... maybe some people can become haggard and look old in 5-6 years' time? 😱😬😱

[Sweetie Pie]

35yo is just about right for many many things.   Make full use of the opportunity before it advanced into the challenging 40s,

[egal]

generational gap