What Is Good Change for Blowingwind, The Forum?

[IkuTube]

Personally, this Forum has served me well as an LGBT person, long before I become an official member since 2007.  This Forum survived few others of similar platform that existed way back to early 2000.  With hindsight, BW does provide a purpose, a good sense for good growth - albeit our differences.

 

Questions to all members:

 

01.  What does this Forum mean to you guys?

 

02.  Moving forward, what can be a good change for this Forum?

 

TIA for any inputs!

 

[HavleLife]

I usually come in and read to kill time in the office. 😅

[Why?]

Not every change is beneficial. If the size, colors, and functionality of the current Forum have worked successfully for decades, then keep things as they are without adding any more cosmetics. Otherwise, the tone is strange and visually unsettling, like traveling to a different world that feels off. 

Why do I frequently visit this place?   I have no idea, and I just can't help but give in to all the temptations, both good and terrible and everything "In-Between".
 

[sphere]

1. What does this Forum mean to you guys?

 

This forum is like a 'second home/refuge place' where I could be myself, no need to hide, no need to put on a 'facade' in front of others - just being me. It is a place where I come to when I have some time to spare in between work and at home.

 

Of course, it was never smooth sailing throughout (because of some quarrelsome members around), but nevertheless, it has come a long way and still 'surviving' today, I do hope it will continue on 'forever' - a forum where we all could belong eh, haha.

 

 

2. Moving forward, what can be a good change for this Forum?

 

Hmm... someone asked me about this recently and I thought I could put it here instead, haha.

 

Actually, instead of change, I thought could 'revive' something from the past that I've read, which was kind of popular & successful back then - the BW Anniversary Party. I think the last one was 10th Anniversary Party in 2015 (here)?

 

While I believe the moderators could be busy to continue now, they could involve volunteers to organise this event, especially the younger BW members - who might be energetic/enthusiastic to run the show? Of course, adding on some sponsors for simple door gifts or even prizes too?

 

I thought such social gathering (yes, nothing sexual eh, haha) could bond the community and also get to know more people/friends in the process. Reading how some of the BW members enjoyed and benefited from previous sessions, it could be a good event to bring back, at the same time, allowing the younger and older members to mingle around.

 

The 'revival' could start small, such as maybe just a simple BBQ at a beach (no need to be too elaborated) and having some simple ice-breaking games, or something like a potluck session is fine (just need a function room or something)? Just a suggestion eh, haha.

 

[will post here again, if there is any possible 'change(s)' that comes to mind, haha]

 

[kidster]

1. What does this Forum mean to you guys?

 

Firstly, I would like to thank the admins. It's a thankless job but you guys keep things going over the decades.

 

Being discreet and don't have many gay friends, this forum serves as a very valuable resource and safe environment for me to find answers, ask questions and learn from other people experiences. In fact, it's a website I check daily to figure out "how things work" within the gay community. More often than not, I realise I'm not the only one facing the same problem after reading the responses which made me feel more assured of myself.

 

There are a few members I deeply appreciate who selflessly spend time and share their personal stories, practical solutions and useful info. Some have a different take in life and consistently give good constructive advice. @Doncoin is I would like to thank for his words of wisdom always. I would want to buy him a drink if we have a chance to meet in person.

 

Of course, there are also disruptors who made almost every thread out of topic. I shall not mention who but I did not see his posts recently. I sincerely wish he can't remember his login password.

 

2. Moving forward, what can be a good change for this Forum?

 

I hope nothing changes. Things are disappearing too fast in Singapore. BW is the only nostalgic forum left besides HWZ.

 

As gays, we can't confine in our straight friends. For e.g., bbr, bi relationship problems, they won't understand. We need a channel where we can talk without being feeling judge and release our emotions. A channel to share our sorrows and receive consolation from people who understood us to avoid getting into depression which I think we have higher risk of getting it than the straights given all the ups and downs and unjust treatments we have to deal with sometimes.

[AppleEater]

i think this forum is amazing. 

 

If you were in the same age group as me or older, you will appreciate how difficult it was for a gay man in his teens/early 20s back in the late 80s/early 90s without the proliferation of information over the internet as today. It was trial and error, word of mouth, grope in the dark..... LOL. 

[AppleEater]

On 4/18/2026 at 12:00 AM, sphere said:

1. What does this Forum mean to you guys?

 

This forum is like a 'second home/refuge place' where I could be myself, no need to hide, no need to put on a 'facade' in front of others - just being me. It is a place where I come to when I have some time to spare in between work and at home.

 

Of course, it was never smooth sailing throughout (because of some quarrelsome members around), but nevertheless, it has come a long way and still 'surviving' today, I do hope it will continue on 'forever' - a forum where we all could belong eh, haha.

 

 

2. Moving forward, what can be a good change for this Forum?

 

Hmm... someone asked me about this recently and I thought I could put it here instead, haha.

 

Actually, instead of change, I thought could 'revive' something from the past that I've read, which was kind of popular & successful back then - the BW Anniversary Party. I think the last one was 10th Anniversary Party in 2015 (here)?

 

While I believe the moderators could be busy to continue now, they could involve volunteers to organise this event, especially the younger BW members - who might be energetic/enthusiastic to run the show? Of course, adding on some sponsors for simple door gifts or even prizes too?

 

I thought such social gathering (yes, nothing sexual eh, haha) could bond the community and also get to know more people/friends in the process. Reading how some of the BW members enjoyed and benefited from previous sessions, it could be a good event to bring back, at the same time, allowing the younger and older members to mingle around.

 

The 'revival' could start small, such as maybe just a simple BBQ at a beach (no need to be too elaborated) and having some simple ice-breaking games, or something like a potluck session is fine (just need a function room or something)? Just a suggestion eh, haha.

 

[will post here again, if there is any possible 'change(s)' that comes to mind, haha]

 

 

I also agree with Sphere that events seem missing.... I was quite disappointed to find nothing under the events tab when i clicked it... thought maybe the calendar can also be better used if moderators/users can fill it up with events in singapore and across asia pacific or perhaps even include those OSIC events i read in another thread... kinda like a collaboration or sorts.  so the calendar becomes like a one stop site for all gay related events and happenings.

 

[Why?]

11 minutes ago, AppleEater said:

 

I also agree with Sphere that events seem missing.... I was quite disappointed to find nothing under the events tab when i clicked it... thought maybe the calendar can also be better used if moderators/users can fill it up with events in singapore and across asia pacific or perhaps even include those OSIC events i read in another thread... kinda like a collaboration or sorts.  so the calendar becomes like a one stop site for all gay related events and happenings.

 

It is possible for commercial activities to pass for "events," and I don't think this forum is the right place to offer free marketing without receiving payment.

[Kimochi]

38 minutes ago, AppleEater said:

 

I also agree with Sphere that events seem missing.... I was quite disappointed to find nothing under the events tab when i clicked it... thought maybe the calendar can also be better used if moderators/users can fill it up with events in singapore and across asia pacific or perhaps even include those OSIC events i read in another thread... kinda like a collaboration or sorts.  so the calendar becomes like a one stop site for all gay related events and happenings.

 

Moderator not that free loh .. you help them find events calendar and fill in ah?

[AppleEater]

1 hour ago, Kimochi said:

Moderator not that free loh .. you help them find events calendar and fill in ah?

 
no idea if mods are free or busy… I just give suggestion since mod asked for inputs 

[IkuTube]

Thanks guys!  Do know that Mods are reading this thread albeit all our day job.  Do keep your ideas coming!

 

Simply, this thread is about deeper reflection to gauge how effective the Forum has had served the community. 

 

With the reflection, the idea of change is coined too.  Change, after all, is an engine for progress.  As is, the Forum - as I see it, has become a home for the community.

[Why?]

2 hours ago, IkuTube said:

 

Simply, this thread is about deeper reflection to gauge how effective the Forum has had served the community. .

The same can also be said about how the community (members) can effectively serve this forum. by posting more intelligent stuffs other than sex.   🤫
The symbiotic relationship here is real.

Edited April 19 by Why?

[Guest Welcome Back]

I think guests has always been a part of the history here and having guest visitors posting again will be a good change for the forum.

[Glyph]

On 4/18/2026 at 12:00 AM, sphere said:

Actually, instead of change, I thought could 'revive' something from the past that I've read, which was kind of popular & successful back then - the BW Anniversary Party. I think the last one was 10th Anniversary Party in 2015 (here)?

 

Wah...which time capsule did you pull this out from? 😰

[Guest Wake Up]

Shutting this forum down is a good change! hahahaha

 

Look at how your members are not even bothered to comment on this thread.  They are taking this Forum and the mods for granted and for free.  And look at the spammer @JayRoss55 who even passed remark that the old guards (including the Mods) 'enforce unwritten rules' in his thread "10 Types of People In The Blowingwind".

 

Are the Mods planning for change for this Forum?

[sphere]

16 hours ago, Glyph said:

 

Wah...which time capsule did you pull this out from? 😰

 

Hmm... maybe from a parallel universe?

But since you are back, then we're all in the same universe already lor, haha.

[you know better from that quoted post eh  ]

 

[HC-B]

1. Gathering, sieving, filtering, assessing wisdom of and knowledge/ information from the crowd, to make informed decisions or just getting different perspectives. It’s beneficial and entertaining at the same time…

 

2. Do something about the image size capacity limit and uploading format to the entire platform, for crying out loud! It’s a total irascible pain…

[feilyxnixx]

I vaguely remembered the members from 10+ years ago (u know who u are , some of u are here , myself included 🤣) , they always did an open-jio for food/drinks/neil rd outings/etc in the chatroom.

 

End up? Its always the same few that attended. Reason? Most of the people in the forum either flykite or were just kb warriors.

 

Then those that attended were taken as genuine positive-vibes ppl , start forming their own cliques and moving on with their lives together , thus ending the chatroom trend. 

 

There is no need to change anything related to this forum. Just pray for better humans. 🤔

Edited April 24 by feilyxnixx

[absboy]

A few members brought up the idea of gathering. I personally think it's going to lead to nowhere if there is no common interest or purpose. It will probably end up with people joining a few times at most to see if he could find his type for LTR / ONS. If he don't like what he sees, he will most likely stop coming.

 

Interest-based kind of group gatherings might have higher chance of continuity as you are attracting the right audience with aligned goals.

 

My top concerns for now are the following even though some seem distant but it take years of relationship building to prepare for the future. 

1. Can I or should I retire in Singapore due to the ever increasing costs of living and considering ageism is very unforgiving in Singapore? 
2. Who could be my "next-of-kin" to accompany me for medical appointments? Even a simple procedure like colonoscopy requires someone to accompany. If not, the hospital won't proceed with the day surgery.
3. Health problems due to aging - How to be preventive instead of reactive after witnessing our aged parents do nothing much due to lack of knowledge?
4. Challenges faced by a caretaker for our aged parents - Single gay son often ends up being the one sacrificing his well-being, income and future planning for ownself.

Some of the above-mentioned topics are already widely discussed on the forum. Perhaps we could start meeting "serious people" from the the threads.

[bluerunner]

On 4/24/2026 at 8:21 AM, HC-B said:

1. Gathering, sieving, filtering, assessing wisdom of and knowledge/ information from the crowd, to make informed decisions or just getting different perspectives. It’s beneficial and entertaining at the same time…

 

2. Do something about the image size capacity limit and uploading format to the entire platform, for crying out loud! It’s a total irascible pain…

 

First of all, a BIG THANK YOU to many of the mods who have been extremely hard working and have put in a lot of time and effort in maintaining this forum without letting his PMS affecting his impartiality. Kudos. 🥰

 

On top of my mind, I do agree with item #2 mentioned by @HC-B. Perhaps, it's something that mods can consider to enhance user experience?

Since AI is the buzz-word now, any possibility for this forum to utilize AI/gen-AI? Any chance to tap of any grant out there since Gahmen is pushing hard for every everyone to adopt AI?

 

It's hilariuos to see that there are other users, besides me, finding our "10 reasons to anything under the sun to start a topic" @JayRoss55 annoying AF. 🤣

 

For more better years ahead in BW...... hope a kind mod will remove that "demerit" point that was given to me more than a decade ago? 😉😇😝

Cheers.

💋

[Glyph]

20 minutes ago, bluerunner said:

For more better years ahead in BW...... hope a kind mod will remove that "demerit" point that was given to me more than a decade ago? 😉😇😝

Cheers.

💋

 

Done. 🙂

[bluerunner]

7 hours ago, Glyph said:

 

Done. 🙂

Thank you so much! ❤️😘

[IkuTube]

Throwing out these foods for thoughts.

 

Will this be a good change for the Forum?

 

A.  To change the Forum's logo?

 

Anyone would like to contribute for a new logo?

 

B.  To change the Forum's motto?

 

Currently, it is read 'Blowing Wind is a Forum for the Mature Singapore Gay Man'.

 

To be relevant to the modern days, what would be your recommendation?

 

TIA again!

[IkuTube]

On 4/21/2026 at 5:03 PM, Guest Wake Up said:

Shutting this forum down is a good change! hahahaha

 

Look at how your members are not even bothered to comment on this thread.  They are taking this Forum and the mods for granted and for free.  And look at the spammer @JayRoss55 who even passed remark that the old guards (including the Mods) 'enforce unwritten rules' in his thread "10 Types of People In The Blowingwind".

 

Are the Mods planning for change for this Forum?

 

Interesting!

 

[Why?]

1 hour ago, IkuTube said:

B.  To change the Forum's motto?

 

Currently, it is read 'Blowing Wind is a Forum for the Mature Singapore Gay Man'.

 

 

If individuals of all ages are allowed to participate, the adjective "mature" can is outdated.  The term "Singapore" is only significant if we wish to keep concentrating on homosexual news that is exclusive to Singapore. If not, can "Asian" replace it to include gay people from all Asian countries?

 

I still like the bacground color of this forum, it is a non invasive, friendly color.  The forum logo is acceptable, but the ADS logo

 

 

Looks SO MEH. 🙄

[mijsdlog]

1. It is a resource e.g. recommendations on LGBTQ - friendly businesses, finding out what the community thinks of various issues. I think it is valuable especially for the deeply closeted who then come to understand they are not alone

2. The interest-based discussion forums are still pretty ok. The open forum has become a spam center. Possible to put a cap on the number of threads one can start per week (tracked by account or ip address)? Or have a vetting process, which probably needs to be AI-assisted, before any new thread topic submitted is allowed to appear? Don't reward post count. Displaying it is in itself a reward. Rewarding post count won't boost meaningful engagement - and will likely exacerbate bullshit posting that is already something that is difficult to control. All those ranks and badges are confusing and not particularly meaningful. We only need one reaction: 'like' - people who want to express more than like, or to express dislike or disagreement should need to state it. Have a minimum and a maximum word count for postings - I wonder if there are ready discussion board management tools to flag out and remove '!@#$%^&$#$%^&*(' or gibberish. 

[Guest report spammer]

I find the rules of this forum unclear and enforcement inconsistent.

 

You have someone spamming the entire forum for months with unrelated topics and none of the admins stops him but when others members repost the same post repeated times, they got warnings or had their accounts terminated. Why like that?

 

So may I ask what's your definition of spamming? It's so hard to find the topic I'm looking for. I have to scroll through the pages of rubbish and wasting everyone time except his.

[sum1outhere_03]

01.  What does this Forum mean to you guys?

 

For masseurs like us, good place to start on advertising our work. Also many topics to discuss, which is great  

For many others, it's self-entertaining  

 

02.  Moving forward, what can be a good change for this Forum?

 

1) Technical side -

a) From time to time, we face some downtime, sometimes unannounced. Can be quite frustrating if we see the page blank or loading infinitely.

Just curious, is this forum hosted in the cloud? Or is this on some server you guys need to maintain? Can suggest going to the cloud, scaling can be done seamlessly.

(That can also increase the size of uploads , but potential work needs to have some constraints on what to upload) 

 

Good to have, perhaps a channel for willing contributors to inform when there is a downtime  to leave the confused with more clarity

 

b) I find the guest post unnecessary. While I understand some registered users could do similar, it's the guest users which I personally find somewhat annoying. Not sure if others would agree. Some cases could feel like "fire uncontrolled". 

 

2) Maintenance side -

a) Are you guys open for donations? Some of us do not have any business, so very unlikely to register in the ad space.

 

b) Do you guys need volunteers to maintain this forum? If a team is needed besides mods, perhaps can consider pulling human resources?  

 

c) Can we spam likes 😆, I think it's less harmless than spamming posts  

 

d) Some good to have:

- Allow self-deletion of posts. Sometimes we can post by mistake. Unfortunately, unable to do so, can only put a . and update.

- Chat: Is there a go offline and remember selection? I dont use chat.

 

e) Understand you don't police every post, but do you guys look into spammers like those reported above?

 

Sorry abit lor sor. Thanks for reading  

Edited Sunday at 03:54 AM by sum1outhere_03

[Vometra]

Please do something about that spammer and its clones first. I now avoid the main forum, for good reason. The concept of fair use should be applied here, with the emphasis on fair.

 

I support the idea of short gathering/dinner. No need for everyone to like everyone or share commonality, it's not matchmaking, just a short meet to mingle.

Edited Sunday at 07:36 AM by Vometra

[feilyxnixx]

maybe someone should address this concern first. 

 

yes i wont deny the topics are good. 

yes i wont deny some of the conversation/discussion/etc makes sense or logic.

 

but as humans , majority looks at surface , and i dont think anyone will want to look at spams. do you yourself look at spams in real life?

 

be frank , how many of us look at this and straight away click on the X button. 

 

Edited Sunday at 10:43 AM by feilyxnixx

[Guest Steve]

Eh, steady, but let me be blunt ah. Those people who just shout "spam lah, spam lah" but never contribute any better topic themselves, they also not any better, you know? If you think something is lousy, then step up and show a good example, don't just anyhow throw stones from the side. Otherwise, you're just making noise for nothing, like kopitiam uncle complain everything but never help cook. So ya, can reprimand them lah, but at the same time, those posting also must make sure they don't give others reason to call spam in the first place. Fair and square.