Discussion on Grindr App + "right now" function (compiled)

[dboy84]

probably like me. Just getting bored and looking for someone to chit chat.

[indfun1]

Some are fake profiles or profiles that immediately delete when you ask more details .. one actually showed me his dick then showed me “his pic” which was actually my friends pic lol and I know my friebd does not have that dick size lol busted 

[Guest Discrete]

How to download Grindr without a Google account to prevent getting caught?

[fitfun23]

dm me

On 7/16/2020 at 12:45 PM, Guest Discrete said:

How to download Grindr without a Google account to prevent getting caught?

 

[Guest Handsome hunk]

Anyone noticed that? Have to block countless because they post nice torsos but after show their face can get nightmares.

[nerddev22]

well i have a slim body but handsome (they said) face instead. you gotta be so lucky if you have both. anyways nothing bad about it

[Kimochi]

1 hour ago, Guest Handsome hunk said:

Anyone noticed that? Have to block countless because they post nice torsos but after show their face can get nightmares.

Where's your handsome face? NPNT . And why are you guest? Mean high chance not trustworthy posts already. 

[clesonpoison]

20 minutes ago, Kimochi said:

Where's your handsome face? NPNT . And why are you guest? Mean high chance not trustworthy posts already. 

Most likely got rejected by guys with hot body so come to forum troll to comfort himself 

[Sport1]

Can you get caught by downloading Grindr?? 

[BudakFit]

Sometimes I tell myself it would show my face body pic or just body. It seem that those just show body have more messages then those who like me post face shirtless body pic. 
 

experiment I try if I put whole body with clothes no messages. If I just put bodypic I was mistaken catfish etc...then when I put my face shirtless bod then got messages. 

 

I Guess those discreet judge people easily by looking our face shirtless body...and majority prefer taller guys like 172 above haha no wonder below 165cm fun size like us seem not laku that is why we are single haha 

 

 

 

[leantonedboy]

I have met some really with nice toned, gymfit body but have very decent looking face. 

 

I think it really depends on different people because the topic is very subjective, “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”. 

 

For me personality counts. Comes after having a good bod hehe

If you have a Greek-god like bod and a decent face but your attitude sucks, then sorry i don’t entertain Hahah

 

Cheers! 

[wkayz]

3 hours ago, Guest Handsome hunk said:

Anyone noticed that? Have to block countless because they post nice torsos but after show their face can get nightmares.

 

Sounds like you think you think very highly of yourself, as your guest ID suggests 

So you have to "BLOCK" those who you think not as good looking as you?

[Guest guest]

any more tips to get really hot guys and not just a poser?

[Guest Growlr]

 Try growlr if u r looking for relationship 

all fat gays there are so ugly

if u really fancy one , that means u are in love

[Looking123]

I don't use these apps. Not a fan of people disappearing. I suppose my chances of finding someone are reduced even further. Will just keep an eye out during normal course of everyday living. 

Edited July 31, 2020 by Looking123

[doncoin]

I think apps like Grindr are great for hooking up and that is that. However, I also think it is much better to meet people through activities, i.e. workouts, hobbies etc. where you have something in common to start from. 

 

Grindr to me is great when I am traveling for work in different cities. But to meet guys locally, I find activities a better option or through friends and work events. 

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

Just now, doncoin said:

I think apps like Grindr are great for hooking up and that is that. However, I also think it is much better to meet people through activities, i.e. workouts, hobbies etc. where you have something in common to start from. 

 

Grindr to me is great when I am traveling for work in different cities. But to meet guys locally, I find activities a better option or through friends and work events. 

 

Not easy to know gays through activities like hobbies, work events, unless you are in the gay circle.

[doncoin]

Just now, Guest guest said:

Not easy to know gays through activities like hobbies, work events, unless you are in the gay circle.

 

Well, then it is simply up to you to decide if you want to dip your toes "in the gay circle" or totally get your feet wet. Life is too short to worry and stress about what other think about you. You can only decide for yourself what will make you happy. 

[Guest Henry]

Did you ever meet someone from Grindr who is a celebrity?

[cutejack]

1 hour ago, Guest Henry said:

Did you ever meet someone from Grindr who is a celebrity?

Yes. He thought i dont know him but i ever saw him on tv. Lol

[ashin_mayday]

face cant be changed, but the bod can be improved... Why cant a so called "ugly face" have a hot bod?

[Guest Guest]

On 7/28/2020 at 7:49 AM, Guest Handsome hunk said:

Anyone noticed that? Have to block countless because they post nice torsos but after show their face can get nightmares.

 

welcome to singapore lol

[G_M]

This thread is for discussing of Grindr experience.

[Zazu]

Guys is there a Grindr protocol that you follow? 

 

Today I told someone "sorry but you're not really my type" and then he said I was stuck up etc etc

 

But then again.. to just block someone is also a bit rude right? 

 

How ah?

[jiriki]

7 hours ago, Zazu said:

Guys is there a Grindr protocol that you follow? 

 

Today I told someone "sorry but you're not really my type" and then he said I was stuck up etc etc

 

But then again.. to just block someone is also a bit rude right? 

 

How ah?

you can’t please everyone. I think it’s basic courtesy to just let the other person know that u aren’t interested in him. If he can’t take it, then it’s his problem already. He can continue bugging u and showering you with curses and it’s your every right to then block him.

 

thats how I see it anyway. People have different ideas on this anyways. Don’t think there’s a right or wrong universally, only a right or wrong by you.

[Zazu]

13 hours ago, jiriki said:

you can’t please everyone. I think it’s basic courtesy to just let the other person know that u aren’t interested in him. If he can’t take it, then it’s his problem already. He can continue bugging u and showering you with curses and it’s your every right to then block him.

 

thats how I see it anyway. People have different ideas on this anyways. Don’t think there’s a right or wrong universally, only a right or wrong by you.

thanks for the advice haha.. it was.. quite an experience..

[And then]

On 8/9/2020 at 4:28 AM, Zazu said:

Guys is there a Grindr protocol that you follow? 

 

Today I told someone "sorry but you're not really my type" and then he said I was stuck up etc etc

 

But then again.. to just block someone is also a bit rude right? 

 

How ah?

i prefer to just ignore rather than say i am not interested

unless they ask/persist

 

usually people understand : no reply = no interest

 

[Guest btm]

2 hours ago, And then said:

i prefer to just ignore rather than say i am not interested

unless they ask/persist

 

usually people understand : no reply = no interest

 

why so? Is it embarassing to reject people?

I prefer if people just tell me than ignore.

[And then]

52 minutes ago, Guest btm said:

why so? Is it embarassing to reject people?

I prefer if people just tell me than ignore.

 

for me, i would rather get no response, than a response saying no.

i guess people fall into one camp or the other.

 

if the other party really want to confirm, they can always send another msg.

[jiriki]

7 hours ago, And then said:

 

for me, i would rather get no response, than a response saying no.

i guess people fall into one camp or the other.

 

if the other party really want to confirm, they can always send another msg.

If u belong to the rather ignore camp, would you respond to a follow up and reject? 
 

Guess you can’t please everyone’s preferences.

[And then]

5 hours ago, jiriki said:

If u belong to the rather ignore camp, would you respond to a follow up and reject? 
 

Guess you can’t please everyone’s preferences.

 of course I would respond to a follow up 

[Guest Responder]

I m someone who is using Grindr about 5 years now.

I never blocked anyone so far. 
I reply to every message.

Taps I often oversee.

Grindr in Singapore is one of the rudest place in my experience.

You manage to get blocked with no apparent reason.

 The level of being ignored is outstanding.

 

 I try to behave on Grindr as in real life.

 

 I will reject people “nicely “

Often I will just use: “I m not sure if it will work out. “

Those persistent sour grapes I would respond once something sort of: “It doesn’t help us if we put us in an awkward situation or does it?”

If they continue I will say “sorry “. 
mostly this is the end.

 

if the other asks 500 non sex related questions, I will ask him “to write up a questionnaire”.

 
I stopped sending nudes or dick pics.

Those  persistent dick pick collectors I will tell them to try Twitter. 
 

Often when I am “ironic” I can sense I m going to be blocked. I don’t have bad feelings. 
 

I find this keeping quiet habit in Singapore a bit silly. Those who can’t handle a rejection are just a few. 
Keeping ignored or immediately blocked could have adverse factors for the other one, I don’t want to hurt people I don’t know.

In the sauna you get rejected too, so why behave differently on Grindr.

 

Ignoring people or this Singaporean blocking culture creates only more of those app bastards. I don’t want to contribute on this.

 

 

[Kimochi]

15 hours ago, And then said:

 

for me, i would rather get no response, than a response saying no.

i guess people fall into one camp or the other.

 

if the other party really want to confirm, they can always send another msg.

Cannot accept rejection? 

[leantonedboy]

On 8/9/2020 at 2:28 AM, Zazu said:

Guys is there a Grindr protocol that you follow? 

 

Today I told someone "sorry but you're not really my type" and then he said I was stuck up etc etc

 

But then again.. to just block someone is also a bit rude right? 

 

How ah?

Just wanna share my point of view about this app. 

 

First of all i only started using Grindr 2-3 yrs back (on and off) and now i deleted the app already. 

But where are the veteran gay guys out there who remember back in those days, we have the Trevvy IRC chatroom hahah (those were the days aye). Back then chatrooms were more fun. Because we do not have the function of blocking or any of those. 

We chatted with the ppl base on their usernames, their intro and what they seeking at the main page and we basically go to the chatroom knowing what we want (w/o the first judgement of having profile pics). So it was totally a different vibe back then and hooking up and chatting was very fun hahah

 

I personally feel this app is really purely for hooking up that’s all (unless really if you’re lucky, you may find someone there u really like hehe. That’s vvvvvv rare). If people put that in their head then i think, there won’t be any of these probs. 

 

I don’t block people but when using the app i really come across some weird people that just scares me. In those situations if i feel uncomfortable, then i will block. 

 

Just rmb to use the app safely and don’t take everything so seriously or to the heart really. Cheers! 👍🏻

[Guest Chat]

Any chatrooms still available like trevvy chat?

[singalion]

Grindr. ok.

 

I draw a line at the age of 25 years.

Those being below this age I forgive certain bad habits. But those being above 25 years I won't.

 

I don't like these with the attitude: The others on grindr are so bad, then I will be nasty too.

You will only increase the ugliness of the people in the app with any such behaviour.

Always try to be friendly and always pretend the other is just next to you like in person.

 

The main problems with people on grindr I have are:

 

1) People don't understand grindr is for self presentation.

I can't follow why people don't enter the basic details into the profile.

Recently, you can see emptier and emptier profiles. Just a profile name and that's it.

Then people complain they receive approaches from guys, they think are not their match. If you disclose so little about yourself, then what do you expect.

Anyone will reply to your profile...

The details are meant for filters. Others can pre-filter if they match or not.

How to tell others who you are and what you are on the app, if you tell nothing about you?

Second, you need to go through basic questions over and over again. Tiring.

 

2) Be clear from start what you seek.

Many profiles lack a description what they are for in the app.

Relationship? Just chit chat? Sex?

I m not sure if they maybe don't know themselves why they register at the app or for what reason they are on the app.

But it would make the life of others easier if you told us what you are looking for. Or at least tell us what you are not looking for.

 

3) negative profiles

Plenty of guys project their negative experiences on grindr into their profile description.

It can be quite amusing to read all these "Don't this, Don't that" profiles.

And I m not even talking about the NPNC (No pic no chat) policy.

At the end? You know nothing about the person himself but just his "dislikes".

Do you think it will leave a good feeling or make a good start? Do you really think this increases your chances to meet the guy you seek?

Worse are those who threaten to directly block you if you violate any of their rules.

"Ask for face pic, direct block". ha ha.

Thanks for amusing us. But guys have you heard of self marketing?

What is the takeaway? You are toxic or simply run by negativity?

Why don't just write what you seek? Do a positive write up.

 

4) Avoiders or Interrogation type

One of my favourites to chat are these who will drag along on simple dating questions

or to whom the question whether "Top or Btm" seems already an offence or reason for a direct block.

It is the same for those hiding behind these "What do you seek? Response: "Fun" type of conversations.

Did it ever come to your mind, my idea of fun might be different from yours? I have fun splashing with water in the sea. Yes!

Some have really difficulties to tell you what "fun" is for them or to simply describe what sexual pleasures you are seeking.

Or even worse on looks: "I m looking for the same like me".

I don't know you, so what would be the same?

The other type is guys who always ask you questions but fail to respond any single question you raised.

And it goes on and on. You end up having this "police investigation" type of situation but don't know where it is heading to.

I wonder if they have some sort of sketch book with a list of questions and tick off the responses while chatting with you?

But in the end? You don't even know whether they have a dick because they never responded any of your own questions.

Same goes for those avoiding to respond on the age. Nah, if someone can't even tell me his fake age, then there might be a problem.

 

 

5) What can be annoying are those grindr guys who seem just about to come during the chat.

You can sense a sort of rush. The responses are short. Replies or questions come within seconds. 

Sure there are time wasters. Probably we all are guilty of being time waters on certain times.

But some turn out sending you immediately those question marks ("???") if you fail to instantly reply to them. And I m not talking about 2 mins but 2 seconds.

As if every second is relevant. As if you have a duty to respond instantly, as if you have nothing else to do, as if it might be inconvenient chatting on grindr like in a business meeting, conference call or inside a packed MRT train. Look, if you have a short time window for fun, it's your problem, but please don't expect others to be at your

service on the spot.  And for sure it doesn't mean we are not interested. We might be in a situation where responding is an issue.

If you rush through a chat like that, would you then rush through the action too? If you display your impatience, what if we meet?

 

6) Most recently, there seems to be this new culture of guys setting up a profile, but deleting the profile after a chat (or meet up with someone?) but 2 or 3 days later a new profile reappears mostly with the same profile picture or content. What is the purpose?

If the sex appeal of your profile wasn't what you expected and you didn't get the amount of contacts you wanted, will you increase it by creating new profiles every day?

Wouldn't it be better to work on your profile and check what causes the problem for not getting the sex you are looking for?

I fail to understand for what purpose you delete your profile and create new ones every third day (or less)?

Plus you reduce your chances of filtering out those profiles who are not your main interest, because your chat history would be gone after the grindr app deletion. And you cause the bulk of guys approaching you again (if your pic is not on the new profile) and going through the same trouble of time consuming chats with people you never wanted to meet.

I don't know what the main purpose for those guys are creating new profiles every 3 days...

 

Edited August 12, 2020 by singalion
...

[lonely57]

I'm the fool that's lurking around Grindr looking for connections. But all I get are uncles who don't read my profile and ask for sex. When I tell them I'm not looking for sex they go like ok let's chat. One or two lines later they just vanish. 

 

Also I notice lately a lot will ask if u are working from home. It's like as if I'm so free while working from home to host like that. 

[And then]

I am not sure whether this is a new thing, cos usually I log on for short periods of time (<1 h), then log off.

Few days ago, I remained logged on the whole day, and when I checked with another phone/account, I couldn't find my profile on the grid at all.

It was only when I actually open the app, that my profile appears again on the grid.

 

Seems weird to me.

 

[SailorSaturn]

Guys,

 

Have you had an encounter with a guy that had his photo edited too much?

 

Worse, he got hygiene issues. (Bad breath and BO). This is even after showering and making him take a mouthwash.

 

How do handle this scenario and how to avoid?

 

Thanks!

[singalion]

2 hours ago, SailorSaturn said:

Guys,

 

Have you had an encounter with a guy that had his photo edited too much?

 

Worse, he got hygiene issues. (Bad breath and BO). This is even after showering and making him take a mouthwash.

 

How do handle this scenario and how to avoid?

 

Thanks!

 

Not sure on your age. But if you are not a youngster, then you should have learned there is no obligation to indulge with someone who does not fit your "requirements" or when the sex turns out to be more of a torture and not pleasure. You are not required to entertain someone if he just doesn't turn you on.

Unless, you are so damn horny and stick a laundry clip hanger on your nose and have fun with the guy, but then don't regret later.

 

What I do is (because I try to be a nice person): I will message him later and just tell him, he should work on his breath and body odour, the latter might be related to food intake). Some guys will even respond with a thank you. There is something you can do. I knew one guy who often had a bad breath and after making him aware, he changed his diet and I did not encounter the issue any longer.

 

How can it be avoided?: Probably can't be avoided because grindr doesn't have a smell function and there is no thumb up or thumb down function. Still better than being totally catfished...

 

On the "tuned" picture. If those guys don't send me something natural picture if I asked for it 3 times, but always those "edited" stuff, then I just don't take a risk and decline to meet up.

I don't mind someone who might have an acne issue but if he can't send you some sort of realistic picture of himself, then hm, better give it a "no".

 

How to handle the situation:

If you are already nude and next to him, just get up in a rush, go out the room grab your phone and ask a good friend to call you immediately: go back to the room where the unpleasant guy is sitting and wait for the phone to ring. If you are lucky you may have a second phone and can call yourself.

Call loud "Now?" Are you serious". Go back to the room and tell the guy, you need to rush to your office because there is an emergency (On weekends you can switch to another reason: like your mother having a car accident, sister broke ankle, ...) But don't put up too much drama because you might end up in this thread being described as the grindr drama boy.

 

If you want to be truthful, then just stop any action and tell the guy, you just can't get turned on (hopefully your tool is soft then). Probably I would not share the reason directly. If he insists, just say, "don't know maybe overworked or too tired". But as I said, I would send a message after some time on grindr.

 

If you already had done sex with the guy, take a good shower with some very fragrant shower gel, wash your tool with dettol  and chew daily 3 or 5 Hacks mint lozenges the next three days...  (no prescription required for above formula)...

 

 

[Seekgoodsucker]

Whenever this 

2 hours ago, SailorSaturn said:

 

Worse, he got hygiene issues. (Bad breath and BO). This is even after showering and making him take a mouthwash.

 

How do handle this scenario and how to avoid?

 

I do let people know if they smell unpleasant, upfront.. then suggest solution (showering, mouthwash). I also will put emphasis and ensure they understand that it is nothing personal, all professional. 

 

That, or I’ll just pass them the (spray/ spare) deodorant without a word. They would probably catch the hint by then. 

 

But if they STILL smell like fish vomit after we tried fixing, I would call it off, regardless the means. 

[sourfish]

Can someone tell me what’s with all the PRC chatting me up on Grindr. 
 

im not being xenophobic. But I’m just curious if there is some bigger scam or something going on. 
 

my conversations don’t go too far cause my chinese ability is very limited. 
 

but the amount of them chatting me up is really suspicious tbh. 
 

someone enlighten me 

Edited August 26, 2020 by sourfish

[Guest realscammer]

they are really scammer

ask them where they are in Sg, they couldn't answer

[Deedee5525]

Yeah, any good looking young chinese boys text you, claiming that they are staying in SG and earn a lot with virtual money all are scammers

2nd type: will say they are in US or any other Angmo countries usually will end up with offering a present for you but in order to receive you have to pay a "custom fee" up to $5000 or more =))

[Guest Blank]

Just meet up with him for some good session before transferring your money over to him lol

[Guest Mary]

12 hours ago, sourfish said:

Can someone tell me what’s with all the PRC chatting me up on Grindr. 
 

im not being xenophobic. But I’m just curious if there is some bigger scam or something going on. 
 

my conversations don’t go too far cause my chinese ability is very limited. 
 

but the amount of them chatting me up is really suspicious tbh. 
 

someone enlighten me 

instead of asking here, why dont you ask those PRC who chatted with you , what do u want ??  Isnt it better from horses mouth then here.  Asking them is free and effortless right , since u claimed that they already chatted w you 

Alot of ppl has the same attitude like you , There is a problem issue in A , I go asked B  and maybe C , then their answer is all about what they think their experience 

 

[sourfish]

On 8/27/2020 at 10:51 AM, Guest Mary said:

On 8/27/2020 at 10:51 AM, Guest Mary said:

 

On 8/26/2020 at 10:02 PM, sourfish said:

Can someone tell me what’s with all the PRC chatting me up on Grindr. 
 

im not being xenophobic. But I’m just curious if there is some bigger scam or something going on. 
 

my conversations don’t go too far cause my chinese ability is very limited. 
 

but the amount of them chatting me up is really suspicious tbh. 
 

someone enlighten me 

instead of asking here, why dont you ask those PRC who chatted with you , what do u want ??  Isnt it better from horses mouth then here.  Asking them is free and effortless right , since u claimed that they already chatted w you 

Alot of ppl has the same attitude like you , There is a problem issue in A , I go asked B  and maybe C , then their answer is all about what they think their experience 

 

Iike I said, my chinese ability is very limited. 
 

it’s very sus that I get dozens of chat ups by them. 
 

if I were xenophobic I wouldn’t be continuing my conversation with them. Cause I am genuinely interested. 
 

but language is a barrier. So it’s also unlikely I could pursue anything further. 
 

you are barking up the wrong tree. 
 

I just wanna know if there’s a greater scheme going on. 
 

there’s no malicious intent. 

[tinkermybutt]

Nothing harm done ..they are just looking for partner and friend.⚘

Edited August 28, 2020 by tinkermybutt

[Guest Becareful]

就是杀猪盘，他们有的是被骗来这边 ，有组织控制他们天天蹲在屋子里在app上拉人。不管男女他们都聊的。

主动找你聊天的，只讲华语，profile照片很帅，然后感觉很多金，从来不会见面 但是可以发语音的。你可以直接blacklist伺候。

温柔的陷阱，甜言蜜语+一根网络吊照  让你以为真命天子。

 

他们有很多种平台让你玩，什么亚洲娱乐的 什么股票的 期货的。给你一颗糖尝尝甜，之后就开宰了。

[singalion]

Isn't there a similar thread on this?

 

Should be lumped together...