Cannot Sustain Firm Strong Erections + Semi-Erection When Having Sex + Dick Go Soft Halfway (Compiled)

[Qatch]

Lack of practice for 10 months. Need refresher course

[fab]

Perhaps u r not that hard up into him?

No pun intended.

[Guest TOP Love Btm]

Age can be a factor. As an experienced Top after resting or deprived from anal sex for 10 months, u see a manhole is like finding oil field. U should be drilling day and night. Meaning 1 session is not enough, you should at least go 2rounds. Unfortunately, u can perform.

Reasons can be:

Age, u r getting to the point becoming flex;

likely he is not your regular fb and your foreplay is not as exciting as u think it was;

Likely he is not your type but u just want a anal session since u hv been deprived for 10 months;

u r too tired. Did u arrived the night b4 the session?

My advice is always know your gspot and let your partners know. Probably u can hard form a longer time.

[Guest patrick]

I enjoy playing the flex role in a 3spme.  I want to be the middle guy in the sandwich in a 3some.  But once the top enters me from behind, my dick becomes soft and I can't screw the btm in front of me any more.  Any advice?  Thanks.

[navyblue]

Anyone here finds semi hard dicks a turn on during sex?

I do.

[Guest patrick]

Anyone here finds semi hard dicks a turn on during sex?

I do.

 

I like the idea too!  Then you have to work on getting it fully hard again.

 

Also, when a btm's soft dick swings violently up and down, left and right, while he is being penetrated, it certainly adds to the thrill.

[Guest guest]

If you use a lot of lube, it is possible to push a semi-soft dick into the btm's hole.  After that, as you start to glide it in and out, it will get hard and maintain its hardness, most of the time.

[puppyfart]

U weren't really interested in the first place? Sounds like u had fun initially, but didnt stay turned on enuff to fuck him

Just not yr type after playing w him, i guess.

Edited September 23, 2014 by puppyfart

[Guest guest]

I have the same issues to go soft the moment engaging in penetrative sex.But i experienced hardness after prolonged foreplay. Thus, relax yr mind n get sexciting in the processes.

[Guest patrick]

I wonder if you guys get yourself erect and stand still without touching your hard dick or stimulating any other part of your body eg nipples, how long can you maintain your erection?  After how long will your dick become soft and point downwards?  I did an experiment with my room mate.  It took 2 minutes for my dick to get soft, while he could maintain it for 5 minutes.

[Guest Gust]

I wonder if you guys get yourself erect and stand still without touching your hard dick or stimulating any other part of your body eg nipples, how long can you maintain your erection?  After how long will your dick become soft and point downwards?  I did an experiment with my room mate.  It took 2 minutes for my dick to get soft, while he could maintain it for 5 minutes.

 

LOL!

I wanna be roommmates with u guys!

[Guest depress]

I'm currently 32 yrs old. I tried to top some1 during my first trip in gay sauna recently.

I never had sex with any1 b4 and u can imagine my anxiety over this.

My penis became soft after I inserted into my partner and even there were continuous pumping action, I can't feel any stimulation on my penis and hence my penis remains flaccid and I can't reach my orgasm.

I wonder is this due to my frequency masturbation as I do masturbate 3-4 times a week using my hand.

How to improve this? I don't wish to fail to perform if I get a chance to have sex when I found my love one.

 

[GachiMuchi]

I'm currently 32 yrs old. I tried to top some1 during my first trip in gay sauna recently.

I never had sex with any1 b4 and u can imagine my anxiety over this.

My penis became soft after I inserted into my partner and even there were continuous pumping action, I can't feel any stimulation on my penis and hence my penis remains flaccid and I can't reach my orgasm.

I wonder is this due to my frequency masturbation as I do masturbate 3-4 times a week using my hand.

How to improve this? I don't wish to fail to perform if I get a chance to have sex when I found my love one.

 

Here is what I think is wrong with you.

1. You had sexual anxiety since it is your "1st virgin fuck". Your brain is swamped with too much thinking. "what position", "will he like it", "am I doing it well", "oh no, I am not hard", "will I get STD", "is it safe", "will the bottom leave", etc. The more you panic, the more you brain thinks and the softer your dick.

 

2, You masturbate too much. Yes, its possible because you are so used to getting orgasm with your hands than getting use to fucking an ass.

 

3. Wearing condom. Yes, its possible that you are so use to the sensation of your hands and when you wear condom the feel is different.

 

4. Insufficient foreplay. Either your bottom didn't do a good job at sucking you or you weren't excited enough.

 

5. Bottom hole too loose.

 

6. You are not a top but a bottom.

 

7. Shit happens

 

Hope the above answers some of your questions.

 

How to improve

1. Practice makes perfect.  The more you fuck the better you get. 

 

2. Have more foreplay. Enjoyable sex is not a quickie. Take time to relax and you will get hard with the help of the bottom.

 

3. If all else fail. you can always be a bottom.

[cutejack]

Hahaah.i like the no 3 solution..very encouraging.lol

Edited July 20, 2015 by cutejack

[Guest NeedHelp]

Hi everyone..

Heres the situation. Months ago, I used to be "normal". Easy to get hard, and will stay hard till the session is over. I'm a Top so yeah. There was a period of time (a couple of months) I only fapped & didnt have any fun at all.

Recently, I get soft easily. If I'm fapping, taking too long to choose another video after would slowly make me soft. In bed, I can get soft when I suck my partner. Sometimes wearing a condom would make me soft. Sometimes I even get soft while topping!

Whats happening to me? What should I do! Please help!

[CamperBoy]

Bottom...

Jk.

[Guest You're better]

Hi everyone..

Heres the situation. Months ago, I used to be "normal". Easy to get hard, and will stay hard till the session is over. I'm a Top so yeah. There was a period of time (a couple of months) I only fapped & didnt have any fun at all.

Recently, I get soft easily. If I'm fapping, taking too long to choose another video after would slowly make me soft. In bed, I can get soft when I suck my partner. Sometimes wearing a condom would make me soft. Sometimes I even get soft while topping!

Whats happening to me? What should I do! Please help!

You are better than me. I cum in 1 stroke or just touching

[gstc82]

Take zinc pills nightly and tongkat ali..dont think too much abt performing. However if problem persist, do talk with your doctor.

[hairy springroll]

Maybe due to aging or stress?

[Guest NeedHelp]

I used to conclude it was performance anxiety.. Hmms. In short, just a short period of non-arousalness & I'll slowly get soft. But I'll have no problem getting it hard again soon after..

Zinc pills would help?

Thanks!

[Guest Guest]

Don't watch porn.

[cutejack]

Y dont watch porn?dont undetstand.

[oralb]

Do you have the same problem when jerking off alone?

 

If not, likely psychological issue eg performance anxiety. you need to relax and maybe engage in a longer foreplay. 

[Friendly]

No Money in your Bank that is why.. he he. I believe its mainly due to stress,bad blood circulation,no mood and many other factors.A person needs to be happy in order to have good sex and having a good sex needs a hard erection. The more you tell yourself to have a hard dick the worst it becomes because you are not relax. The most important i think is how much you are attracted to your partner also plays a big part.

 

Foreplay is as important to get a good erection and don rush. Try laying in bed  nude with your partner and just chat,you can slowly go into sex or not at all is a good practice.Try to tell yourself that when you see your partner in the nude it does not means there have to be sex.Wearing a condom makes you soft is call condom collapse. Go check on that and what you can do.Getting soft when topping is because i think you are not 100% attracted to your partner or at that moment you have something more important in your mind, not relax.

 

Don worry so much,just stay healthy and things would be corrected in time. Good luck.

[Cube3]

Possibly low testosterone...?

[Guest NeedHelp]

Thanks for the reply everyone!

With regards to jerking off, its fine I guess? Only if I get slightly distracted and it'll slowly get soft. But usually a few jerks would get it hard again.

Thanks Friendly! Will keep that in mind.

[Guest NeedHelp]

Would talking supplements for testosterone be beneficial for me? Or do I just need to relax more? Hahaha. Thanks everyone.

[Guest Guest]

Would talking supplements for testosterone be beneficial for me? Or do I just need to relax more? Hahaha. Thanks everyone.

Relax with less sexual activity. It helps.

[wintersnow]

well i had same problems if i get dead fish bottoms that doesnt want to do anything and just lie there flat.

 

just trusting and trusting itself gets monotonous after sometime when your partner dont do anything to sustain the heat

[Guest soft]

Hmm, how about when someone touch u? Or give u bj?

[wintersnow]

hard of course. there are stimulation 

[gstc82]

I used to conclude it was performance anxiety.. Hmms. In short, just a short period of non-arousalness & I'll slowly get soft. But I'll have no problem getting it hard again soon after..

Zinc pills would help?

Thanks!

zinc help to make sperm thicker, whiter..

[Guest Guest]

is anyone here taking tongkat ali for long term?

 

i know for sure that having urut batin helps cos i go for one about once every month when i start to get softer erections.

[wintersnow]

where did you go for urut batin?

[Guest Horny boy]

I prefer top remain hard after he shoot in your hole. The feeling of hard cock inside your hole for some time and slowly pull out is fantastic.

[Guest Guest]

where did you go for urut batin?

JB.

 

generally massage is abt 1/3 the price in sg now.

[cutejack]

Where n how much? Appreciate yr details.

[dcx2210]

try read up this book on "penis power". easy to read. offer some very logically solution.

many reasons why it does not perform when you need it to.

[Guest yaan]

Even a dick that is considered fully erect can have degrees of hardness depending on the person.  For some, it is solid hard, almost like a concrete filled object.  For others, it is stiff but still a bit spongy.  For some, the fully erect dick is actually not really stiff, as in if you push it to one side, it does not spring back forcefully.

[BravedomSG]

Looking for guys with issues of sustaining firm strong erections to share your stories. Write to me.

[Guest guest]

viagra. Price for generics dropped as pfizer's patents expired

[BravedomSG]

Guest guest>> Thanks for your suggestion, i prefer not to take prescribed drugs and medications. Prefer natural organic means.

[Guest Escape]

I only have trouble sustaining erections if I'm not attracted to the guy who's touching me as my biggest concern at that time is trying to get away from him.

[Guest Guest guest]

I believe it's a psychological issue. Try thinking of occurrence or porn that once made you erect to the fullest. I'm sure this will help. 

[Guest Escape]

28 minutes ago, Guest Guest guest said:

I believe it's a psychological issue. Try thinking of occurrence or porn that once made you erect to the fullest. I'm sure this will help.

 

I don't want to have an erection around guys I don't find attractive. I want them to leave me the heck alone.

[BravedomSG]

No one else have this issue?

[Guest guest]

35 minutes ago, BravedomSG said:

No one else have this issue?

sorry no organic method will solve your problem. Your search for organic methods will be futile. The only proven method is viagra/levitra/cialis. 

[BravedomSG]

Guest guest>> i did found a non drug/medicinal solution. I tried it, I am alive and experienced stronger erections than before. I tot I share it but seems not many are keen to talk about it let alone try to try. doesn't matter la, i will just move on .....

Edited October 11, 2016 by BravedomSG

[lovehandle]

On 11/10/2016 at 11:10 AM, BravedomSG said:

Guest guest>> i did found a non drug/medicinal solution. I tried it, I am alive and experienced stronger erections than before. I tot I share it but seems not many are keen to talk about it let alone try to try. doesn't matter la, i will just move on .....

U r not bound to guest

u may proceed to share for the benefits of all

 

not all forummers have the time to view every thread and every pages here

[BravedomSG]

Thank you for your encouragement. I suggest parties having the same problem write to me, realized also that situations can be quite personal and people may not want to talk about it openly.

Edited October 17, 2016 by BravedomSG