Public Display Of Affection (Pda) + Intimate Acts In Public With Bf

[oldschool]

I kissed my frd in long escalator. Nice experience.

[Alexandre]

well, i dont kiss in public though, but well you know what happens when not in public.

[GodwinK]

Once, with my ex during the end of our first date. I gave him a peck as a goodbye/goodnight before we head to our respective cars. He didn't expect it and he blushed after that haha.

[Guest Guest]

Often, and hug too...No big deal for me or for anybody around me so far...

[Exynos]

I will if you dare to. Exiaencephalon, looks like you're up for it.

[SeannyShortcake]

-Park

-Mrt

-Station

-Restaurant

-Toilet

-Carpark

-Coffee shop

-The streets

-Swimming pool

Edited December 7, 2011 by SeannyShortcake

[pittsburgh]

you can kiss anywhere, anytime you want, guys. spread your love!

[k999]

-Park -Mrt -Station -Restaurant -Toilet -Carpark -Coffee shop -The streets -Swimming pool

you did that? haha

[SeannyShortcake]

Yes I did.

Hoping for someone to relive all those spots.

But to no avail

[Guest theOthertruth]

I would love to make out in a club, with his arms around me. It's like a ride on the magic carpet...nice.

[Exynos]

I would love to make out in a club, with his arms around me. It's like a ride on the magic carpet...nice.

oh i did that here at a gay club at Shanghai! then i lost my focus for 10 minutes and got my phone swiped from my pocket by an asshole...

[thick.white]

A friend and I had a little too much to drink at a local club and were heading home.....We stood in the middle of an intersection on the road and kissed long and passionately as cars drove by, horns honking and our friends on the footpath calling out encouragement! Was expecting some kind of reaction but nothing at all! No angry passers-by and no pics in the media!

BTW.....felt great and so liberating!

[jarald~hermes]

Tried b4 with my exs n date... It's really sweet...

[GodwinK]

oh i did that here at a gay club at Shanghai! then i lost my focus for 10 minutes and got my phone swiped from my pocket by an asshole...

That's awful! Sorry to hear. Will keep that in mind...

[quiton]

kissed my exes in public everytime he is heading home after meeting me in town or anywhere.. dont really give a tuck about others..

[Guest wicked]

Hello guys, I guess it's an interesting topic to discuss this seemingly innocuous topic - PDA

Well technically it's not illegal to showcase any form of affection between 2 guys, but do you guys do it? (Now ofc I am referring to those who were/are in a relationship. No empty statements please!) Will you guys conform to social constructs and not do something that is seen socially awkward?

And that leads me to another question - what kind of PDA do you guys engage in? How far would you go in public then?

Haha I just thought it's an interesting topic to discuss and share, especially with the many people here who're new to it all...

[bluesea78]

my 1st bf kiss me on the forehead outside HMV bus stop area..i was stunned.. with onlooks from bus stop looking at us..the next thing i got to do was to hide, cos exbf walked off to meet his parents for christmas dinner :x

hugging and Kissing wif exf in gay pubs?

kissing at changi beach?

[minejastr0]

Hmm personally I won't do it.. But ever seen a couple kissing in the bus though

Edited January 27, 2012 by minejastr0

[Jak09]

i once saw a couple holding their hands in the bus, sitting down of course..lolz

even it looks abit discreet, but still they looks very loving

[Fe5000]

been there done that.

now to me, it's the look in the eyes that's more important and the feeling of closeness with each other sitting shoulder to shoulder, feet to feet.

[qedcwc]

my 1st bf kiss me on the forehead outside HMV bus stop area..i was stunned.. with onlooks from bus stop looking at us..the next thing i got to do was to hide, cos exbf walked off to meet his parents for christmas dinner :x

SWEET! ^^

[Guest Guest]

still not comfortable abt PDA whether its straight/gay. DA should be left at home, behind closed doors.

I dun need to make others envious of me bcoz I m loved or more luvable than them.

In my younger & foolish days, I met a lot of married ang mohs who were into that.

No need to be so expressive/demonstrative in public lor(just my personal opinion)

[Guest derektan70]

Just visited Sentosa Flowers today and noticed a youngish couple (late 20s to early 30s) walking around hand in hand, oblivious to the stares of passersby.

Its adorable that they live just in each others world and have eyes just for each other.

They weren't hugging or kissing in public, just strolling around hand in hand. Definitely not going out of their way to make a statement.

Just being themselves. Didn't feel judgement for them, just felt happy for them.

[Guest Paiseh Meh?]

My BF often hold my hand when we watch movies and when we have our meals sometimes we share dessert and a drink. I use to tell him that people will find it wierd to see two grown men sharing a hot fudge sundae... blatenly shameless...haha!

[Guest wicked]

haha i think sharing food is fine. in fact i find that a really sweet thing to do. and since i do that with my guy friends as well, i dont see a reason to be worried about how other ppl will think.

well i guess if you do it 'indoors' or in a gay setting, it doesn't really count as Pda. what i am interested to hear is whether you guys can control the urge to showcase your affection for each other in public settings that render it - say when your bf says smtg really sweet, or when he gives you a nice present.

personally i agree that pda is unnecessary, and the as said by someone else here, "the feeling of closeness with each other sitting shoulder to shoulder, feet to feet" resonates with me as well. but i am curious to hear if you think the act of (1) holding hands, (2) kissing, and (3) any other forms of physical contact in public is acceptable and/or necessary.

[Guest NL]

Once, on one of our overseas trip, my bf accidentally punched me (pretty hardly) in the face when fooling around doing one of his stupid (yet amusing/adorable) antics. We were in the hotel lobby and immediately after realizing what he did, he hugged me from the back apologising and whisphering into my ear, "are you okay babe?". It was real sweet though I don't think he would have shown any such obvious form of PDA under normal circumstances.. haha must have been the guilt for punching me in the face. Of course it did attract stares.. but meh.

[XiaoMessy]

He said, "I don't want to get STOMPed!"

I think, "I don't care."

[ss11ww]

It is nice to show affection. At least that shows that you are worth holding on to even if he will be STOMPed.

[Guest wicked]

haha it's interesting to see how everyone's threshold seem to differ - some don't mind the unwanted attention, and view such acts as a form of appreciation; others believe in the deeper meaning of love and would keep such displays private.

as much as the differnt threshold are in place, what are your personal limits? i mean not everyone is as daring to kiss in public right?

[Magicerife]

to each his own i guess. i dont think there's a benchmark or criteria for a threshold limit. for a conservative auntie, 2 guys holding hands might be deemed immoral while to another more accepting liberal auntie, she might be even cool with 2 guys kissing each other. that said, i suppose everyone should be mindful of their own personal conduct. while one feels no particular need to give two hoot about others and that any interfering party are plain busybodies, he ought to consider the fact he is still afterall in a public place where everyone has a stake in it. while that fact remains, there is no such thing as "my own business".

[Guest Takius]

It was a weekend night at Marina Square when I saw two very good-looking guys holding hands tightly walking past me. Both of them were manly and quite attractive. They seemed unperturbed by what others would say. I would think they were lovers without a doubt. I was stunned simply because I had never expected to witness such a scene in a place like Singapore where homosexual behaviours are still not well-accepted by the general public.

 

There was another occasion when I saw one guy leaned his head on another guy's shoulder in a MRT train cabin. Both were in their college age I assumed based on their attire but their behaviour was more subtle, although still gay to most people.

 

What I'm trying to say here is I was actually kind of impressed by their courage to act like all other straight couples in Singapore =)

I am curious if any of you also behave like that with your bf in Singapore public places.

 

[lovehandle]

this is already a norm

 

Saw another at ngee ann city(mths ago) and i shared in  BW, the only thing is i m wondering why none done a video on kissing? 

even straights dare to do

[Kwon]

I dont know its illegal in SG(no offence. Im foreigner and i just have no knowleadge about that) but if not, there gonna be more changes.

 

Similarly conservative country like korea, thesedays i can see guy couples often. 

(Of course you can see tons of couples in some gay district, but i also can see in normal public)

[Guest DidymuzTT 90992155]

Not scared people keep looking at you? Or take up handphone to take pic and post on social media? 

[Guest Shouldpda]

In fact we should encourage more gays to pda , so that the public will

get so used to it and won’t get unhappy or uneasy

[Relationship]

Is nothing wrong to hold bf de hand in public. It should get common hence people will get used to it. 

[Hot Buoys Sailing]

I never saw more men holding hands in a city then the guys in BSD The capital of Brunei. 

Also the Brunei military the way they lean up against each other is amazing. 

Of course these guys may not be gay but still fun to watch. 

[tyan]

This reminds me last time when I was in poly. Long bus journey till interchange and I had a good buddy whom alight sane interchange as me. We always meet to go back together or go to poly together if our class timing can meet. I will always end up so tired after a long day class. At time, i dunno how but i always dozed off and head will fall on his shoulder and his head fall on my head. Just like that all the way to interchange. At that time, I never consider such behavior as gay. 

[Deel]

Actually i hve seen twice of the same couple holding hands n kiss on the cheek in Sch.

 

A mly and chin gay couple. The chin guy(i presume the top) always carry his partner’s bag. They will hold hand throughout frm MRT till they hve to separate in sch. I knew cause i follow them throughout(im not stalking. Its just the common path for all students gg to sch). They would joke arnd and give each other the lovey stare every now and then. A small peck on each other cheek bef they separate. So sweet yet so daring. 

 

Bt i gotta admit tht the chin guy is so cute and hot.

[MinWoo]

4 hours ago, tyan said:

This reminds me last time when I was in poly. Long bus journey till interchange and I had a good buddy whom alight sane interchange as me. We always meet to go back together or go to poly together if our class timing can meet. I will always end up so tired after a long day class. At time, i dunno how but i always dozed off and head will fall on his shoulder and his head fall on my head. Just like that all the way to interchange. At that time, I never consider such behavior as gay. 

Did the same also almost every time if we take bus together during my NS days with my buddy xD

Edited May 6, 2018 by MinWoo

[MinWoo]

On 5/5/2018 at 5:36 PM, Guest Takius said:

It was a weekend night at Marina Square when I saw two very good-looking guys holding hands tightly walking past me. Both of them were manly and quite attractive. They seemed unperturbed by what others would say. I would think they were lovers without a doubt. I was stunned simply because I had never expected to witness such a scene in a place like Singapore where homosexual behaviours are still not well-accepted by the general public.

 

There was another occasion when I saw one guy leaned his head on another guy's shoulder in a MRT train cabin. Both were in their college age I assumed based on their attire but their behaviour was more subtle, although still gay to most people.

 

What I'm trying to say here is I was actually kind of impressed by their courage to act like all other straight couples in Singapore =)

I am curious if any of you also behave like that with your bf in Singapore public places.

 

I ever saw a couple of times at orchard road of couples holding hands, its kinda sweet but for myself and my partner to be able to do that takes a lot of courage.

You never know who you will bump into and it will be worse if it is your family member or someone close.

 

I bumped into my sister a few times when i went dating with someone. Luckily, me and my date wasn't doing anything intimidate.

However, she talked to me randomly one day and said: "The friends you hang out with are always so handsome one?"  and i was like "No luh, they Handsome meh?" brushing it off.

My family knows nothing about me and i wish to keep it that way. So sadly, i can't do this in the public =(

 

Edited May 6, 2018 by MinWoo

[Hot Buoys Sailing]

A full forty years ago I was in Amsterdam and a teenager. I knew that Amsterdam was a special city and I had my eyes wide open to spot anything out of the ordinary. I was amply rewarded. I spotted two very handsome guys across the street walking hand in hand. 

 

As a gay teenager in a homophobic household they were an inspiration to me that someday I too could lead a happy gay life. 

 

That is why it is so important to me to express PDA with my boyfriend. Although, I admit on his home island he is paranoid. Which is strange to me since his family knows who I am and I go to family reunions. 

 

Still, walking through the giant airports on our travels is fun. 

 

Further, when children have sailed on board my vessel, they seem to think it natural that we sleep together. 

[Dorkable]

Have witnessed a couple of guys walking hand in hand along Citylink Mall. Thought they were cool being so nonchalant about it in public. I wouldn't have the guts to do that though. Too shy.

Edited May 7, 2018 by Dorkable

[Guest Bien]

Pathetic that in this one life most of us cannot have the liberty to kiss our partner or hold his hands affectionately in public.   Why do we allow public scrutiny to control our behaviors?  Sad  so sad which was why i die die must do that for at least once in my life.  Yeah i did it but in korea and the guy was only a sexual partner not bf.

How was that experience?

Kenna grumbled treated rudely at the market by some old grandmothers... luckily i really don't understand their language though their body language and tones were fiercely terrifying.  Maybe they thought we were koreans.

[Guest Guest]

Long time i have see any guys holding hands in public. The only time i see guys holding hands is at pink dot.

[pleasure]

I kissed my bf sometimes on the mrt escalator when he sends me off / I send him off. But we never hold hands though. Luckily, we have never been shouted at. 

[CKW]

I remember when I was an NSF, I asked one of the regulars what would happen if two NSFs were seen holding hands within the camp premises.

 

The regular told me that it's a chargeable offence.

 

Just curious to know: Is there really an SAF directive that prohibits NSFs from holding hands in camp?

[CKW]

If I had a boyfriend, I would hold his hand in public, cos I tend to be quite affectionate  

 

But I would understand if he doesn't want it. Then maybe we can do it while seated on the bus where it's a bit more private, like in the picture below:

 

Edited May 7, 2018 by CKW

[enthuboy_93]

If holding hands feels a little awkward outside, maybe could try placing your arm on his shoulder or smth?
Looks more like bros so would attract less attention

[PlayersGroup]

43 minutes ago, enthuboy_93 said:

If holding hands feels a little awkward outside, maybe could try placing your arm on his shoulder or smth?
Looks more like bros so would attract less attention

 

Its what my ex n I used to do.