The Psychology Of Acting Straight - Str8 Acting Discussion + "Straight Acting" - what does that mean? (Compiled)

[ntu_bw]

this thread is very informative! gotta bump it up!!

[ntu_bw]

how bout for guys who are unsure about ones sexuallity? then if he is asked of he is gay, how is he going to reply? say the truth? Say I dunno . Or??? is the situation different if the question is posed by a fairer sex? Hmmmm ponders.

[Guest happyfeet]

It's utterly sad when left, right, up and down gays get ridiculed by all. They are afraid of being ostrascized by the majority so they try to fit in and cannot be themselves. At the same time, they are being ridiculed by the same kind for trying to fit in.

Absolutely true! I know of a guy who's extremely closested but happened to chance upon him on grindr! Since then, I dunno whether to laugh at the ineffectiveness of his straight-acting charades (like criticising gays and oogling at girls) or play along with him because he doesn't know that I know his little secret muahahaha!

[alien]

I believe if the guy is extremely closested gay, surely he wld critise gays and ogle at girls. Esp he is dealing with str8 pple. Cos dun think he wants those pple to know his sexuality.

Edited May 18, 2012 by alien

[EasleyLim]

I believe if the guy is extremely closested gay, surely he wld critise gays and ogle at girls. Esp he is dealing with str8 pple. Cos dun think he wants those pple to know his sexuality.

Compensating much? LOL. If someone is comfortable with their sexuality, homo or hetero, there is no reason why they would need to do all these ragging on anyone else because, well... the others aren't a threat to them and they just don't give a shite about it. I love watching people trying so hard to compensate, the more they try to act like they aren't part of it, the more obvious it is that they are, lol.

[regenbogen]

so what's the definition of "str8 acting"?

is there a protocol that how gay people should behave and that has to be different from how str8 guy behaves?

do all gay people have to look like Mark Li in the movie "Ah Long Pte Ltd"?

for me, the definition of homosexual purely depends on which gender they like, a guy who is gay does not have to be with exclusive traits that can be easily distinguished from guys who want to have sex with the opposite gender when he socials with the public. Being gay does not deprive his right to appreciate the beauty of women.

[Hassan Xeville]

People always say that they wouldnt really expect me to be gay -__-

But i dont even try acting straight .. I'd rather people know .. Than getting surprised and making a such a hooohaaaa about it .

[pandaboi91]

err...im one of dem...but im not a feminine guy either soo....

wats worse is im the onli child haha, im pressured to carry on the family generation or wateva it is....

[koolkai]

err...im one of dem...but im not a feminine guy either soo....

wats worse is im the onli child haha, im pressured to carry on the family generation or wateva it is....

How are you going to carry the family line?

[tamshui]

I'm confused.. to carry on the line means you have to ruin some woman's life to please your parents?

[Guest Guest]

do all gay people have to look like Mark Li in the movie "Ah Long Pte Ltd"?

Mark Lee in Ah Long Pte Ltd:

[Guest traffic light]

ruin some woman's life ? Why do you say that ? You mean the woman only want sex ?

I'm confused.. to carry on the line means you have to ruin some woman's life to please your parents?

[tamshui]

I was saying... if you marry a woman, knowing your gay, to please parents, How will she feel when she finds out the truth.You don't really think you will keep that secret forever!

and when she does find out.... that's means her whole relationship is a lie! YOU DON'T THINK THAT'S RUINING SOMEONES LIFE?

[joshboy]

yeah.. i think its abit of reverse discrimination here

why can't gay guys act like guys. if I wanted a guy that acts like a girl, I would have been straight. I like guys as guys is, manly and tough

[Guest Guest]

I like girls with a penis

[-zee-]

err...im one of dem...but im not a feminine guy either soo....

wats worse is im the onli child haha, im pressured to carry on the family generation or wateva it is....

Get your parents to make another one then. Lol, but jokes aside, you need to let them know of your sexuality. I think no point if you get married and not being honest to your spouse.

Best is to go 'Ricky Martin'.

Edited May 21, 2012 by -zee-

[koolkai]

yeah.. i think its abit of reverse discrimination here

why can't gay guys act like guys. if I wanted a guy that acts like a girl, I would have been straight. I like guys as guys is, manly and tough

Well, every guy has his admirers. You don't like a feminine guy but some like. It is up to each individual.

[Guest traffic light]

You are taking a very narrow stand. It could be that the guy wants to have a family. The guy does love the gal very much too. and so on and so on... of course what you say is possible too, not denying it. But it's not the WHOLE TRUTH.

I was saying... if you marry a woman, knowing your gay, to please parents, How will she feel when she finds out the truth.You don't really think you will keep that secret forever!

and when she does find out.... that's means her whole relationship is a lie! YOU DON'T THINK THAT'S RUINING SOMEONES LIFE?

[Guest Guest]

althought I am a bottom guy but I still dislike feminine guy, I would prefer a more manly guy to friend and fxxk me

[Guest Guest]

I think there is there no such thing as gay acting straight, since he likes a man, he is already a gay no matter he is married or having many kids... when he starts playing with man why still call himself straight !?

[Guest traffic light]

Becareful, they will label you feminiphobe.

althought I am a bottom guy but I still dislike feminine guy, I would prefer a more manly guy to friend and fxxk me

[somnew]

there's no need to oogle at girls.. or scream "chio bu ah" :yuk: but there's also no need to scream about your sexuality either... i'm sure gay-dar can tell..

[Guest Guest]

i do know of a girl who wishes her husband was gay screwing a guy's ass than another woman ..

[somnew]

Is her hubby cute?

i do know of a girl who wishes her husband was gay screwing a guy's ass than another woman ..

[Guest Guest]

Is her hubby cute?

she is single looking for a bf... what i am saying is she rather her husband messing with a guy than a woman...

[Guest meme]

For my straight friends and colleagues, i purposely point to cute guys and ask them if certain colleague is cute etc... They just refused to believe i am really gay even if i keep telling them i m lol....

They probably dont expect a gay guy to be so open about it.

[Blacque]

For my straight friends and colleagues, i purposely point to cute guys and ask them if certain colleague is cute etc... They just refused to believe i am really gay even if i keep telling them i m lol....

They probably dont expect a gay guy to be so open about it.

I guess you're straight-acting enough?

[Slynn]

I am not out yet, but I think one don't really have to act really interested and enthusiastic about such things because it will be rather tiring.

As long as you are not behaving too sissy-like, It's fine not to be interested. Acting too straight may be counterproductive? (How convincing is it to tell people u wanna bed angelina jolie when you are gesturing sissily? Though not all sissys are gays, just saying)

There's this once i was in town with campmates while they were people-watching, and I couldn't figure out exactly which girl they are looking at all the time. The lag was so bad that my friend asked me "wahhh~ you really made me wonder if u like girls or not"

But /shrugs, little did they know that I was looking at their bfs. :X

I dismissed that statement as a joke sorta thing, it doesn't really bother me anyway since i really don't like girls. But there's no need to confirm his statement either

Edited May 22, 2012 by Slynn

[joshboy]

Well, every guy has his admirers. You don't like a feminine guy but some like. It is up to each individual.

then y not be str8.. or get a chick with a dick

[Guest Snonymous]

No matter of how and what you act like, we are all still human being living in the same planet and we don’t try to get hurt and hurt each others. The most important thing is to RESPECT each other’s. No matter feminine or masculine, we are born and live that way. I am also the one who don’t really into/prefer feminine guy as my partner, doesn’t means others can’t act feminine; Guys to be called “Sissy” or Girls to be called “Butch” need other’s respect either.

Openly discussed and indicated “Something” is not acceptable and trying to give a comment of “that’s not good”, will give a feel of INSULTING/DISCRIMINATION.

I am a straight acting gay who is surrounded by all straight friends but I have no choice. When I found out that I actually like guys and I can’t accept girl’s characters (after a relationship with a nice lady), it was too late to change my social circles as I have built up my network with all straights and they cannot accept gay people. That’s why these years (just <2years la), I am trying to do something to make my status “Open” to all close friends as I want to live myself and be myself happily. I am scared, because I need to face all kind of DISCRIMINATION, or losing of friends in the end, by myself alone. I cannot imagine that IF I was feminine and I need to face another DISCRIMINATION in our own circle, that’s sad.

Recently, one of my best brothers (she is lesbian and playing the guy role) move in my room and staying with me. Somehow my straight friends visiting me and knew about this situation and they were trying to ask some funny questions like: “Did she use any TOYS to do SOMETHING?” “Have you ever seen her TOY in the room?” “Did you search it and find it out then?” or “Gay and lesbian are thirst for SEX, I think she should have it”. I end up told them to shut up and be RESPECT to my brother, that’s her privacy and not their business. I wonder why be a straight have to be so arrogant and not respectful to others. Just like those gay acting like a normal guys, they have their reason to be discreet and not everything have to tell everyone in the world that “YES!!! I AM GAY!!!” We cannot comment anything on it, just let them be and support them and hope that one day they will walk out from the wardrobe.

As a conclusion, be yourself, be happy, and be respectful to others.

[Guest Straight-Behaving]

Hmmm.... straight-acting? That's only if you're sissy. If you're not sissy you don't have to 'act' straight.

why not say straight-behaving or non-sissy gay?

BTW I'm closeted, but i have never seen the need to pretend to like women etc.

i just be myself. Few would ever bother to think or ask if i'm gay.

[innocense]

lol.. so true.. plus my friends are those guys who actually give "ratings" to girls that they see. until i kena force to give rating i anyhow just give high high rating. LOL

but i still feel its wrong to judge someone by their looks in that manner

LMAO. I should do that too, quite funny.

As for those gay acting straight just let them be, you really need to understand not every gay guys is ready to be out yet. In fact it is their life so just let them lead the way they deem is comfortable for them to live.

[Guest 50cts]

One can also recognised a sissy face or a straight face without the "acting" element. Thus any color in the rainbow can be recognised as gay, not as straight forward as pink.

[spiffy729]

I was saying... if you marry a woman, knowing your gay, to please parents, How will she feel when she finds out the truth.You don't really think you will keep that secret forever!

and when she does find out.... that's means her whole relationship is a lie! YOU DON'T THINK THAT'S RUINING SOMEONES LIFE?

Yep.

Straight-acting and being closet kinda go hand-in-hand most of the time

I've misled a couple of girls into thinking that I liked them, but not to an extent where I'll ask them out, or explicitly chase after them

I don't want to waste their time. That's being really selfish, since you do know the relationship would be going nowhere

I do the whole straight-acting, chasing-girl act because it's more like a, "just to get people talking" kinda thing

Most of the time if people suspect you're chasing after another girl, the suspicion that you're gay is pretty much diluted

[closetedlestroll]

I started hanging with alot of SPGs in the hopes of straightening out but I relapsed back to my ways and have only slept with women the past 5 years. Most of the girls I hang out are promiscuous and love sleeping with Italian, Spanish, Japanese men and typically hang out at Attica and other gold digging clubs like Filter. Naturally hanging out with them = I'm easy too so my sexuality never comes into question. But I don't deliberately lead any straight guy on and I actually have my bitch shield up quite high in a straight club. I very much would like to tell these assholes I'm lesbian but sometimes that has the opposite effect due to pxxn, so I just say I am seeing someone.

Lately I met an Indian gay man and we might beard each other. Hope this will help.

[greenroad]

How you bring yourself around is how comfortable with you being yourself, and everyone is different.

Don't think that is an issue with guys acting gay or str8.

GR

[tomcat]

Recently, i keep seeing these "masc 4 masc" & "straight acting seek same" messages on my apps.

It is always mind-boggling to me, what does this mean? To me, it's either you are this or that...why need to act?

 

Only act straight but is actually fruity diva deep inside??
 

 

[GachiMuchi]

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=straight acting

 

Sometimes very difficult to define Straight acting, every gay have their own definition. Looking manly doesn't equate to behaving manly for some. So, for most gays. Str8 acting means behaving and looking like a str8 guy without being effeminate, which appeals to them.

Edited June 22, 2017 by GachiMuchi

[kingbitch]

I find the phrase offensive but it's so oft-used that I inadvertently use it myself.

[Carpenter]

3 hours ago, GachiMuchi said:

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=straight acting

 

Sometimes very difficult to define Straight acting, every gay have their own definition. Looking manly doesn't equate to behaving manly for some. So, for most gays. Str8 acting means behaving and looking like a str8 guy without being effeminate, which appeals to them.

what if its just a pretend? you dont actually act straight, but you do it outside to conceal yourself.

[snowball]

gay not = sissy,

sissy not = gay.

[cutejack]

5 hours ago, kingbitch said:

I find the phrase offensive but it's so oft-used that I inadvertently use it myself.

U r very str8 acting .hehe...meaning nobody can tell that u r a gay unless others saw me wiping yr mouth after our meal

Lol

[ahb0yy91]

Straight acting is it means that one does not behave girly ? 

[Guest Guest]

3 hours ago, snowball said:

gay not = sissy,

sissy not = gay.

True, but there is also this indefinable factor in some gay men that once u see it u just know, especially btms.

[doncoin]

I always find it funny when I see the term "straight acting." I mean come on, how does a gay man act straight? By pretending to enjoy fucking a wet pussy? If you like cock and ass over tits and vagina, you're gay. 

 

[Guest Gay]

8 hours ago, doncoin said:

I always find it funny when I see the term "straight acting." I mean come on, how does a gay man act straight? By pretending to enjoy fucking a wet pussy? If you like cock and ass over tits and vagina, you're gay. 

 

"Straight Acting" often equate with Manly.   "Sissy" often equate with Effeminate.  Both are gay though and it they usually like each other where the latter is often a Bottom with gay legs.

[doncoin]

1 hour ago, Guest Gay said:

"Straight Acting" often equate with Manly.   "Sissy" often equate with Effeminate.  Both are gay though and it they usually like each other where the latter is often a Bottom with gay legs.

 

I think it is just silly. Be who you are. Sissy or Manly or both. 

 

What is a bottom with gay legs? 

[tomcat]

Ok, so from the comments, it seems the term "straight acting "is really a counter to "macho-mary".

 

Because MM look manly but is effiminate in his actions, there needs to be another defining term like "straight acting". To communicate that "you look manly, but you must also behave manly"? 
 

Do you think it also comes from the desire to pass off as a normal heterosexual man? Then all these other dodgy terms like "discreet masc" start popping up too? Keep in mind, all the psycho gay killers, like the Orlando club, all identify as "discreet" in the apps. haha, major red flag for me. 

In terms of sex, I find both masculine guys and some softer guys sexy. Huge boner for those that are a bit guniang that just need to get pounded. So there is a market for everyone, I don't think it's necessary (or good for the mental health) to start "acting" a certain way. 

 

Edited June 23, 2017 by tomcat

[tomcat]

3 hours ago, Guest Gay said:

... a Bottom with gay legs.

 

2 hours ago, doncoin said:

What is a bottom with gay legs? 

 

haha, what is bottom with gay legs? like sit and cross leg like women?

[kingbitch]

16 hours ago, cutejack said:

U r very str8 acting .hehe...meaning nobody can tell that u r a gay unless others saw me wiping yr mouth after our meal

Lol

 

LOL. you haven't seen me at night babezz