Crush With My Classmate / Schoolmates

[zacharylovesyou]

Back in the school days, anyone had any boy crush? or have any dirty thots with the boy crush? Share them here. hehe.

[Guest Guest]

Yes of course. We did everything together in school and after school (along Bukit Timah Rd, you guess ..) until people gossiped that we were gays. We went home together in bus 74 and usually took the last row on the upper deck. One day, he hugged my shoulder and whispered into my ear: "If you're girl, I will marry you." My heart melted and though that he would be the one (silly right?!). We finally kissed and had wonderful time together after A level exam. However, we were drifted apart when entered into NS.

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Gachi

[evanml]

Yes of course. We did everything together in school and after school (along Bukit Timah Rd, you guess ..) until people gossiped that we were gays. We went home together in bus 74 and usually took the last row on the upper deck. One day, he hugged my shoulder and whispered into my ear: "If you're girl, I will marry you." My heart melted and though that he would be the one (silly right?!). We finally kissed and had wonderful time together after A level exam. However, we were drifted apart when entered into NS.

oh that is so sweet... =D.. im still in school luh.. nth interesting ever happens to me.. =((

[crima]

well i had crushes on someone in school but it was nothing to do with having dirty thots bout him...just enjoy his company...niwae hes str8 and i sort of confessed to liking him..happened to me twice in a year

[fab]

what a waste. y did u guys break up?

My first crush was with a sch waterpolo guy during sec. We always went home together too. No kiss happened unfortunately and we drifted apart due to some silly misunderstanding after O level.

Yes of course. We did everything together in school and after school (along Bukit Timah Rd, you guess ..) until people gossiped that we were gays. We went home together in bus 74 and usually took the last row on the upper deck. One day, he hugged my shoulder and whispered into my ear: "If you're girl, I will marry you." My heart melted and though that he would be the one (silly right?!). We finally kissed and had wonderful time together after A level exam. However, we were drifted apart when entered into NS.

[Guest Troy]

My crush in sec sch was the longest and most heartfelt. He was my classmate and sitting diagonally of me in the lower sec and 2 rows behind me in the upper sec. Always intentionally look at his direction observing him. Hes tanned,smart, macho, not the cute type, chrismatic, kind and sporty. Hes been my crush for 7 yrs...we did noting weird and im very confirm hes str8. But i will always seized opportunity to get close to him, be his fren, study buddy and do anythin to get closer. I always remember he has a nice scent. I really dunno tats his soap or hormones haha but it really very musky and addictive.

However I think he nvr get a good impression of me at 1st. ( used to be the kind hiding in the shadow in a class). Eventually he regards me as fren and been good to me. My crush on him got over after he was enlisted into NS while Im still pursuing my diploma and I got my eyes on someone else after knowing we are impossible. Once a while we will mit up and once he ask me out to teach him swimming as he needed to pass his swimming test in BMT. Got to admire his ahem in the bathroom. it was a WOH!! a bonus!!

Anyway backtrack, he really makes my teen days really comforting, happy and teary.

[crima]

haha i was pretty depressed when the guy i liked actually told me he liked a girl..

to fab..wow waterpolo guy huh...

[zacharylovesyou]

Thanks for all the replies. But don't stop, keep them comin'

To:

Guest, what happen at bukit timah rd?

fab, oo waterpolo..if i was you, i would str8 away blow him off. hehe.

troy, YOU ARE ONE LUCKY GUY!

My story: Back in the days, i used to have a crush on this cute guy. i think i started having a crush on him when we were p6. he's thin, cute, good looking. we don't communicate much with each other. but when in sec 1, i started to communicate with him. just to see how things go. it went well. then i remember there was once, he almost gave me a back hug. i'm not sure if it's for real. but it seemed like one. i stopped him. HOW STUPID AM I!? I wish i could kiss him one day. he is so damn hot.

[artken]

Had this huge crush in secondary school on a school mate in the next class ... Coincidentally, my best friend (straight) is in the same class as my crush .. And I always like go talk to my friend in the next class when we have a class break or something ... Well of course the ulterior motive was to ogle at my crush .. He is sporty, tanned and have a few scars and rough spots due to soccer action I guess. More importantly, he has a great smile and dimples when he smiles ... And everytime he moves , I noticed his arms and stuff .. Gosh ... Didn't do anything with him though .. I'm just an admirer from afar .. Sigh ..

[Guest FattChoy88]

There was this guy who was my classmate and we went to the same uni.

My room was opposite his and he stayed with another ex-classmate.

We're all pretty close, cos we were from the same class and was also neighbours on campus.

Since this guy is older by a year, we always regard him as the big brother.

Then I felt more and more attracted to this guy, and one time, I was on his roommate's bed, taking a 'nap'.

He was on the other bed, with his shorts only, and I observed his body while he slept.

I realised that we're getting too close, and I must not take him for a fool, since he probably noticed that I was becoming closer and closer to him.

I made a conscious decision to distance myself from him and within weeks I got out before I got into any irrepairable damage. Today he's normal meaty guy, and married to a good wife. We still keep in touch.

The last time I met him, he told me he and his wife was already an item back in the uni days, but it was not convienient to let on.

I'm glad I didn't do anything then cos:

1/ He's str8

2/ It would have destroyed our friendship.

3/ later on in my adult life, I found many better PLU men who can satisfy my animal instinct.

[Guest Troy]

Thanks for all the replies. But don't stop, keep them comin'

To:

Guest, what happen at bukit timah rd?

fab, oo waterpolo..if i was you, i would str8 away blow him off. hehe.

troy, YOU ARE ONE LUCKY GUY!

My story: Back in the days, i used to have a crush on this cute guy. i think i started having a crush on him when we were p6. he's thin, cute, good looking. we don't communicate much with each other. but when in sec 1, i started to communicate with him. just to see how things go. it went well. then i remember there was once, he almost gave me a back hug. i'm not sure if it's for real. but it seemed like one. i stopped him. HOW STUPID AM I!? I wish i could kiss him one day. he is so damn hot.

Lucky!!? According to a research, a mouse went crazy after facing a cheese that can only be seen for 2 days. I almost went kuku for tat 7 yrs LOL!...Anyway crushing on a str8 guy, worse den hell....Though a lesson learnt, but not well learnt i think...man always make the same mistake w/o knowing it haha

[fab]

Tell me about it!

As much as he's palatable, he's straighter than a ruler.

The few closer moments I recall are, he was massaging my leg when I suffered a cramp and the other he wanted me to clear his ear wax and he was lying on my lap.

Thanks for all the replies. But don't stop, keep them comin'

To:

fab, oo waterpolo..if i was you, i would str8 away blow him off. hehe.

My story: Back in the days, i used to have a crush on this cute guy. i think i started having a crush on him when we were p6. he's thin, cute, good looking. we don't communicate much with each other. but when in sec 1, i started to communicate with him. just to see how things go. it went well. then i remember there was once, he almost gave me a back hug. i'm not sure if it's for real. but it seemed like one. i stopped him. HOW STUPID AM I!? I wish i could kiss him one day. he is so damn hot.

haha i was pretty depressed when the guy i liked actually told me he liked a girl..

to fab..wow waterpolo guy huh...

[Guest fabuloose]

I used to have a huge crush on a schoolmate back in secondary school. It was really very strong, and lasted for years even though we had graduated by then.

Funnily though, I never ever noticed the dude when I was in sec 1 and 2, but one day in sec 3, I suddenly saw him and felt very attracted to him! I even asked some of my friends if he was a new student, but they said that he had been around since sec 1! Haha!

It was a typical high school crush I guess; I would look out for him in school, hope that he would walk past our class or would walk past his class to check him out. I would go to watch soccer matches to see him play. And I was very shy around him. There was once during our prelims, a few of my classmates and I were revising at the canteen, when he came over and chit chatted with us (just to add, he was from normal acad and we were from express, so our exams were held during different periods), and wished us all the best, and shook hands with all of us. When it was my turn, I was holding a drink in my hand and my palm was wet, so I was like "Wait ah" and wiped my palm on my school pants, and he was like "No la, it's okay," and flashed me a really cute smile and just shook my hand. I swear I melted.

The whole day after that, until I went back home, I did not wash that hand. LOL. Oh, and I also still keep a pocket calendar that he gave to me and my friends for that year.

I would always send out good morning messages and funny smses to him and my other friends (other friends because I wanted it to be less suspicious) and hope that he would reply something. On a few occasions, he replied, and I saved his replies. Unfortunately, my best friend accidentally deleted all my messages when she used my phone one day.

Hmm...what else... Oh during my O's at the year end, my classmates and I were revising again in the canteen before we proceeded to the hall. He came to school for god knows what reason, and the minute I saw him, my heart started beating very fast (anyone experienced it before?), like seriously very fast. I felt very warm and started sweating, and I swear I nearly fainted when he came up to us to say hi.

We didn't keep in touch much after we graduated, but every year without fail, I would wish him on his birthday. I still had feelings for him, and no other guy interested me as much as he did. In the end, I realised that I was being foolish by loving someone who was obviously straight. From there, I moved on, and now I am completely over him.

Coincidentally, he studies in an institution near where I live, and on a few occasions, we have crossed paths. I guess he doesn't recognize me (I changed drastically over the years; piercings, bleached hair, coloured contacts, dressing style, as compared to the decent student image back in sec sch), but I sure as hell do recognize him, but never made an attempt to talk to him. He's changed quite a lot too and has put on a lot of weight and I heard from friends that he's become a player.

Still, I have to admit that I have a soft spot for him. That cheeky smile, and dimples. =)

[Guest fireball]

Sec 1: Had a crush on a Malaysian student called LG. Because his academic skill was not up to par, he was placed in Sec 1 even though he was almost 16 year old. He was fair and good looking, and had very hairy legs. Even the Sec 4 boys in school were envious. Of course, they didn't know he was almost 16, and thought that he was a very hairy 13 year old. My favourite fantasy then was plucked from a "Agony Aunt" letter from Teenage magazine, where a guy wrote in to ask Aunt Agony what to do because he was giving blowjobs to his classmate everytime he went to his place to study. In my altered fantasy, LG and I will giving each other BJs and then our hunky PE teacher will discover us and show us what 'real gay sex is' and fxxk LG while I watch.

Sec 2 - 4: S got transferred to my class. He was handsome basketball player and girls thought he was cute too. He was charismatic and was a born leader, other guys just followed his lead. I realise now its a case of hero-worship gone overboard but I really liked him then. We became very good friends in upper sec, and go out after school. If we did not go out after school, he'd wait for me to board the bus and wave goodbye, and make that gesture saying "I'd call you". Sometimes we'd go to each other's homes for a nap. I loved having his smell on my small cushion, and my mom will always ask me why I hide the cushion every laundry day. He always maintained though and told everyone around him "I'd never be gay." So I never attempted to touch him more than necessary. I never knew he smelt a fish until a few years ago I met some of our classmates during a wedding, and somehow everyone knew the little things that I had done for him.

[zacharylovesyou]

Hey guys. I need help. I've been having a crush on this guy. He's my classmate. I've wanted to tell him but didn't have the guts and am afraid that it would ruin our friendship. Can someone give me advice or help?

[zanfrane]

1st Question: Is he gay or bi?

2nd Question (A): If yes, is he a 'player'?

2nd Question (B): If no, is he a closed-minded bigot/homophobe/biphobe?

3rd Question: Is he a mature and sensible person, who is able to handle a declaration of...interest?

4th Question: Are you able to handle being committed, having someone to take care of, taking rejections while still remaining friends

Consider these questions, before you decide if these guy is worth keeping as a friend or if the risk to start a relationship with him is worth it.

If 2nd Question (B) returns as a 'Yes', this guy is not even worth your time.

Also, take into account the fact that he might not be interested in you as a lover, but just as a friend. Inform him of your attraction if you want to take a first step, but do not be all stalkerish or insistent if he refuses your advances.

One thing you need to remember and take into consideration, is that if he rejects your interest, but wishes to remain friends, and you are actually genuine close friends, rejecting his friendship because you are unable to handle his rejection might hurt him too.

No matter what, you simply have three choices ahead of you:

(1) Remain friends, and hope the feelings go away; find someone else if you think that helps.

(2) Reveal your feelings to him, and deal with the acceptance or rejection as it comes, and play it by ear.

(3) Break off the friendship, if it gets a bit too much to be around him. He might be around since he is your classmate, but not being friends will still mean that you spend less time with him, thereby reducing awkwardness around him, due to your feelings.

Not sure if this helps, but having been in your situation before, I believe that amongst these three things, I would chosen likely chosen (2) even if he was straight, so long as he is an open-minded individual who would not reject a friendship even from a guy with a crush on him. I would stay far, far away from (3), unless I realize what an asshole the guy is, because sometimes, we just fall for the bad boy.

It happened to me twice before. The first time, I went via option (1). The second time, I actually took my own advice and picked (2). The guy (who was straight) simply accepted it as a fact, and did not shun me because of it. I also stopped feeling awkward around him, as my feelings for him was out in the air, and we became closer friends because of it. Although I have not met the ex-classmate for almost 4 years, I would like to think that we are still friends.

[ryuin]

no, dun.. unless youre really sure that he is gay aswell.

some st8 ppl can take us telling them that we like em. but some will get really offended.

i did confess to a classmate one time, and he quited scholl because of me. so unless youre sure he is gay, dont.

just admire him from afar.

[Guest Newbie]

Hi Guys

I am having a crush with my classmate, he is 2 years younger than

me, i don't know is him a aj or str8? Because he did not mention

he like girls at all, is there anyway to test him or let him know

i like him? I need help from you guys, please advice me

[Guest Anony]

Don't get your hopes too high up... crushes usually crush you. But I do hope that he maybe your destined one! All the best

[GachiMuchi]

Firstly, how old are you? If you are underage, we won't be able to advice you to do such things. Please do not ask us how to tackle someone <Banned Words>.

[Guest Newbie]

I am 23 years old this year.

[GachiMuchi]

u sure? prove it. And what school are you referring to?

[Guest Newbie]

LOL, How to prove it? I am studying Private school in Singapore

[Guest Counsellor]

Are you meeting/talking with him often? Or you admiring and wishing from a distance?

If the former, then there will be opportunities for you to steer the talk to the subject of homosexuality. How you do it, and whether you be oblique, eg saying things like its kind of lonely when you don't have anyone to love, or direct, eg an SMS saying you have feelings for him, depends on who he is and how well you know him. You may know a little better from his reaction, or lack thereof.

Of course you must be prepared that he react adversely, should he see through what you trying to get at, including turning cold towards you and not relate to you as intimately as before. Sometimes you may not even be able to continue as friends from the pain of rejection. That is the risk you have to bear. On the other hand you, and he too, will be far the better of for knowing the truth, and can move on constructively, one way or another. Pining and longing hopelessly, especially at a distance, may lead to missed opportunities in the situation or elsewhere,

Lastly I may add that sometimes even when he knows what you getting at, and even have reciprocal feelings and affections for you, he may still act blur, for one reason and another, and you may have to conclude that he is otherwise. (Such was my case, ie I was the party acting blur.) And that only goes to show that there is only so much you can say and act, and sometimes, something need not be said to be known. So you have to weigh both what is said and acted, and what you sense even if not acted or said, to know which way to go, if you ever come to such a point.

[Guest lost]

i'm 30 and i have a crush on my colleague.

growing up, i know i have the tendency to admire/crush on the people around. didn't realized that it doesn't stop in school.

this one guy at work, i had a crush since the first day i met him and i told myself to avoid him and don't develop feeling.

it worked until recently where we became close (i didn't initiate it, he opened up to me - but he is really friendly to other colleagues as well and i find myself drawn to him i just can't help it).

it used to be just happy feelings and thoughts whenever i see him at work. now, it got worse to the point that i feel sad/upset when i don't see him around.

i know this is unhealthy but i can't help myself, i'm programmed to behave this way since young that i require an object to admire/crush/idolize at each stage of my life otherwise it become empty.

[darkflame]

i'm 30 and i have a crush on my colleague.

growing up, i know i have the tendency to admire/crush on the people around. didn't realized that it doesn't stop in school.

this one guy at work, i had a crush since the first day i met him and i told myself to avoid him and don't develop feeling.

it worked until recently where we became close (i didn't initiate it, he opened up to me - but he is really friendly to other colleagues as well and i find myself drawn to him i just can't help it).

it used to be just happy feelings and thoughts whenever i see him at work. now, it got worse to the point that i feel sad/upset when i don't see him around.

i know this is unhealthy but i can't help myself, i'm programmed to behave this way since young that i require an object to admire/crush/idolize at each stage of my life otherwise it become empty.

I think you have fallen for him. Seriously, you are lovesick.

Have you tried getting closer and checking out if he's truly 100% unbent? Because that is the best way for you to accept the truth and move on if he's not into you.

As for me, I always rely on fantasy to admire/crush/idolise, i.e. a non-living object.

[Guest unattainable]

i crave for things that are not easily attainable - straight cute guys, someone's boyfriend, ons that has boyfriend.

i find attached guys more attractive than single men.

i have a thing for married man - young daddy with their first born.

[Guest acjc]

After reading so many "Crush with my classmate" stories here, I had a sweet dream last night -- I was back to my JC days where he and I hold hands and took a bicycle ride in a park. Strange thing was that I knew it was a dream and I told him "Can I do something which I did not do many years ago?", He asked "Can. A kiss from me?" I leaned forward and we had a wet kiss. And then I woke up. hmmmmmm ~~~~ I missed him again.

[Guest LoL]

User 'Newbie' needs advise. Not telling your own stories here.

[Guest don't do it]

my advice is don't try to hint/find out if they are not close to you.

i've had my fair share of hinting when I'm still in school and some of my actions is pretty ridiculous.

the things i've tried before:

1. 'accidentally' sent naked guy picture to my crush through e-mail, then say 'oops, send wrongly' to give him the impression that i am interested in guys and see how he respond.

2. talk about straight pxxn, the details about the guy's cock fxxking the cheebye and see what is his reaction on the guy part.

3. tell them straight in the face 'i don't know why i'm feeling this but i think like you'

4. praise them 'u look so cute if i'm gay i will rape you'

5. pretend to ask for their advise/help 'u see, i went to swimming pool last weekend and this guy keep eyeing me when i was showering. i didn't know what to do but i saw he had a hard-on and i was excited that i can make another guy feel this way, does this make me gay?'

6. tell him 'i have an old straight friend that told me that he liked me, i don't know what to do'

7. tell him 'what do you think about people who have gay friends for real?'

8. tell him 'you have a gay friends and whether he had any'

9. ask him whether he like to watch pxxn. if he say yeah, test him 'straight or gay' if he say straight test him somemore 'don't bluff, u like to see their cock right'

10. let him accidentally feel ur cock (ok i don't do this but my other 'straight' friends in secondary school did it to me) - one guy like to stand really close and rub his cock on my thigh when i'm standing across the counter in the library. another guy rub his cock against my back in canteen when i'm eating and he was 'passing through'. another guy basically just rubbed his cock on my ass when i was changing for PE.

11. tell him 'damn i'm so horny how?'

[Guest Guest]

OMG, 反了反了

[DominicT]

i'm 30 and i have a crush on my colleague.

growing up, i know i have the tendency to admire/crush on the people around. didn't realized that it doesn't stop in school.

this one guy at work, i had a crush since the first day i met him and i told myself to avoid him and don't develop feeling.

it worked until recently where we became close (i didn't initiate it, he opened up to me - but he is really friendly to other colleagues as well and i find myself drawn to him i just can't help it).

it used to be just happy feelings and thoughts whenever i see him at work. now, it got worse to the point that i feel sad/upset when i don't see him around.

i know this is unhealthy but i can't help myself, i'm programmed to behave this way since young that i require an object to admire/crush/idolize at each stage of my life otherwise it become empty.

I understand how you feel. I had a crush on a classmate in high school and every time I see or talk to him, it simply destroys me that I can never tell him the truth (because he was very obviously straight)It only got better after I forced myself to stay away from him. Two years later, same thing happened. I found out that the better I know the person, the stronger the feeling grows, until I doubt it's a crush anymore, but more than that. Now I strictly avoid anyone I have a crush on, to avoid the torture of unrequited love.

[Guest CuriousSGguy]

i crave for things that are not easily attainable - straight cute guys, someone's boyfriend, ons that has boyfriend.

i find attached guys more attractive than single men.

i have a thing for married man - young daddy with their first born.

So did you always get the straight cute guys, someone bf?

[jarboy]

As for me, I always rely on fantasy to admire/crush/idolise, i.e. a non-living object.

i crave for things that are not easily attainable - straight cute guys, someone's boyfriend, ons that has boyfriend.

here's my share of unattainable crushes/objects of fantasies (both M&F):

1) Written Fiction (eros/fanfic/eroge/TOrD) characters

2) Anime(wide genre not excluding yaoi and reg hentai =P) characters

3) Movie heroes/heroines

4) Singers (English/K-Pop)

5) attached(or str8) classmates

6) Teacher(s)

7) too many to list...

[Guest depressedcrusher]

Hi ppl. Im 19 this year, in JC. I have this crush in my cca. He's very cute and handsome but he's graduating soon. what should I do?

[mango_juice]

my experience.. crushes dun last.. u'll get a new one soon.. unless otherwise it is actually not a crush

[Guest -:)]

its a crush rite? like u experience all the symptoms of it being a crush? then it dosnt really matter what happens, cos eventually, he'll have to go and you'll feel the same sick sense of depression and longing. its just between feeling it now or later.

unless u want to talk to him and get to know him better, and see if things can progress from there.

so if u've decided that you dont want to act on your crush, then dont cling on to him anymore, you'll feel alot better once hes gone and you've adjusted back to normal

[Guest Guest]

You are lusting for him.

Sexual aspects aside, always remember if you want to progress further, it must be mutual. If it's just one-sided from you, better be friends. If you insist on progressing further, you risk losing a friend.

[Allegro]

Hi ppl. Im 19 this year, in JC. I have this crush in my cca. He's very cute and handsome but he's graduating soon. what should I do?

You go army next time sure jialat :twisted:

[Mercutio]

You can't make someone love you. All you can do is follow him around non-stop until he gets scared and gives in.

[Guest Confused]

hi im 18 and im studying now and i am closeted

So recently i am very troubled and i have no one to speak to (since im closeted) and this frustration is taking a great toll on me and i find myself constantly troubled and thinking about him.. and therefore i am easily distracted...So i am looking for some advice..

So this is how the story began:

So this guy is my CCA mate and we didn't get to know each other until about half a year ago..

So this guy is tall, handsome and has sharp features and i believe many people actually likes him too (both guys and girls) haha

So from the way he treats me and the way he looks at me, i kinda know that he likes me (maybe in the 'brother' kind of way or maybe something else? but i know he is quite fond of me).. he calls me cute and stuff and like to ruffle my hair, likes to tickle me and likes to smile at me and make me smile (when i frown or looks unhappy).. maybe it's all in the brotherly way?? I really don't know.. (he has MANY brothers)

First of all we are not really close.. because we don't really practise together, but we have went for lessons together and i always feel secretly elated when we go for lessons together (and i think he feels the same way too.. although he hates going for the lesson), albeit the lesson has concluded.

Well however there has been much talk about this guy being gay since he appears to have had multiple 'best guy friends' in sec and apparently he is quite touchy with them... and many people likes to make fun of him because of it; both behind his back and in front of him (and i feel extremely awkward when they make fun of him.. esp when it is done in front of him and i am there)... And one of the propagators of such activities to 'make-fun' of him is my good friend (lets call him: GX) and i hang out with GX rather often.. so maybe thats why this guy hasn't really been talking to me much lately cause i am always around GX... although this guy will still ruffle my hair and tickle me occasionally..

Another factor to consider is that this guy kind of has a 'best guy friend (PQ)' already (they have gotten really close since maybe the end of last year?) .. I will not call them couple because they are not "out" with it.. but they didn't deny it either.. However the suspicion is so over-whelming.. Apparently i've heard other people saying that they saw this guy pouncing on his 'best guy friend (PQ)' in the bed during a sleepover, and i've have personally noticed that they hang together almost ALL THE TIME during and after school and they are also quite touchy.. Although this guy has kinda weakly dismissed the idea that he is gay.. and i pretended to believe him, i hold my suspicion.. still.. And i try to avoid getting too touchy with him (when he starts to get a little touchy with me..) esp when i am around GX and other friends (since i am still in the closet and i don't really want to make it known)..

However, i secretly hope that i can actually get touchy with him and cuddle him and lie on him.. sigh.. He is really a nice person and i can forsee being quite good friends with him... He is really true and genuine and not afraid to speak his mind and i really think that that's what i really treasure in a friendship, and he is funny, charismatic and charming too.. But then i would probably have to give up my other friends like GX who have been my good friend for quite some years (whom appears to be a homophobe)..

I don't really forsee 'being with him' or anything, since he already has his 'best guy friend'.. but i enjoy him ruffling my hair and talking to him.. but since CCA has ended, i don't think i will get more chances to do so.. It will probably be reduced to like normal hi/bye... But i ever did fantasize of going out for dinner together with him (I wouldn't even mind his 'best guy friend') and just talk about stuffs and other things that i can't get to (because i am closeted)

Haha maybe all of this is because i hope that he can be like my bromance brother or what?! I really have no clue cause he is quite a lot taller than me (i am around the same height as his 'best guy friend', and he really has that big brother image.. So maybe that what inspired this whole troubling and frustrating episode?? I am really clueless

So with that being the general story

I was wondering what should i do?

Should i like openly tell him that? But i'll be risking the probability of losing him as a friend and getting alienated by the rest of my friend (because he actually isn't... or he just treats me as a normal friend.. and he just finds me cute..)..What's more.. how can i actually tell him and what to tell him?

Even if he accepts when i said.. i would still risk losing all my other friends and stuff.. and 'coming out' in a school is def a VERY scary thing to do --- the stress, the pressure, the judgemental eyes; from friends, teachers, family, acquaintances, streangers.. , i've witness people i know coming out before.. and i know it.

Really what should i do???? This distraction is painful and heart-wrecking and time-wasting..

In general, there's just a whole lot of feeling of fear, uncertainty, lost, loneliness..

Hopefully there can be some enlightening advice :S

[arcstar]

heya dude, just remain as friends with him ba..haha:) i'm also closetted and i would say i'm also kinda touchy with friends..haha..but well..all my friends respect me for who i am and who i make friends with..so if ur friends are true friends, they wouldn't really mind...but i would suggest keeping the bi/aj side of u on low profile among friends you suspect are homophobes:) anyway if u need a friend to talk to u can alway pm me or drop me a email:)

[arcstar]

heya dude, just remain as friends with him ba..haha:) i'm also closetted and i would say i'm also kinda touchy with friends..haha..but well..all my friends respect me for who i am and who i make friends with..so if ur friends are true friends, they wouldn't really mind...but i would suggest keeping the bi/aj side of u on low profile among friends you suspect are homophobes:) anyway if u need a friend to talk to u can alway pm me or drop me a email:)

Edited August 27, 2012 by arcstar

[Oxsianx]

So from the way he treats me and the way he looks at me, i kinda know that he likes me (maybe in the 'brother' kind of way or maybe something else? but i know he is quite fond of me).. he calls me cute and stuff and like to ruffle my hair, likes to tickle me and likes to smile at me and make me smile (when i frown or looks unhappy).. maybe it's all in the brotherly way?? I really don't know.. (he has MANY brothers)

Really what should i do???? This distraction is painful and heart-wrecking and time-wasting..

In general, there's just a whole lot of feeling of fear, uncertainty, lost, loneliness..

Hopefully there can be some enlightening advice :S

I would advice you to sort things out fast and concentrate on your studies.

U may or may not be right about all your assumptions. I know, as when we like someone, that guy may seems perfect and all his actions, small gestures seem to be doing just for u. That's because we secretly like them.

Try to adopt the safest way. Get his contact and stay in contact. Disturb 'him' once in awhile on MSN. Hang out a bit during school. Maybe go out with 'him' too and put everything through the test of time. U see, in this way, u can develop the friendship between you two while u put all in onto your studies. Killing two birds with one stone. Ask 'him' out for study sessions when exams draw near. Just grab little opportunities for bigger ones to come. Doing all these is to ensure u both remember each other as time goes by.

For rumors, take them with a pinch of salt. Again, they are incredible but worth to be suspicious for. Next time while people make fun of 'him' again, and you feel like defending 'him', you can pretend to be touchy like 'him' to the KPO to stop that KPO from talking bad any further. As long as you seems to be playful, people can't say anything. Guys can be playful in nature ;D

You are close to GX but 'he' and GX doesn't seem to like each others. So u can go out separately with 'him' when u have time. In school, maybe u just hang out with GX. If you enjoy (which I think u do ), u can tickle and play with 'him' once in awhile. At the end of the day, even if things don't go your way, at least u left some wonderful memories with u.

For PQ, just treat him as a separate entity. They are not officially announced a couple so u stand equal chances to hang out with 'him'. The golden advice is: Yes, NEVER admit you're gay when u're 18 or rather still in school. People around you can be childish and make u a joke amidst their dull/stressful/meaningless school life. If u don't admit, no one can push judgment on u.

I learnt the hard way. In sec 2, I sort of 'out' myself to a sissy boy. Note that I didn't say "You know what, I'm GAY! Surprise!", still he spread. It's so damn obvious he is gay so I thought it is alright. Who knows he spread the hell out of it. I was caught off guard by the impact. Worst still, when I entered poly, one bloody sec sch classmate went into the same poly class. So, the rumors got passed on to poly. Nice one XD thank them, bustards! Haha.

U need not have to give up on GX or 'him' if u know how to manage your time properly. You have the rights to go out with anyone on separate occasions. Ya, GX most likely is a homophobes. Can u imagine if u 'out' to anyone? (GX:"Eeek chao ah gua, I'm not your friend. Get LOST!") -,-Zzzz

'Being with him' or not is not up to our control. But one thing for sure, if you don't keep in contact, you won't see anything happening at all. Ask 'him' out for dinner or outings. See if he has any common interest, and build your friendship from there.

As mentioned, don't 'out' yourself and face unnecessary politics. Really some are damn bustard who will grab onto this and make your life like crap. School work is already stressful enough, avoid meaningless trouble. Yes, seriously the judgments given by others will be damn merciless. Some so called 'friends' will leave u instantly, seriously! But from there u will also see who are the really sincere ones.

Just be yourself. When it's time for you to be playful with 'him', enjoy it Then if anyone were to spread rumor about you, denial everything and you'll be fine.

Hope to hear good news from you soon

[Guest leo724]

Hey dont think too much! Just like wad arcstar said, u can still be frens with him, without having to confess to him or come out of the closet. Most impt, u have to be comfortable with yourself. Otherwise, what's the point of life when all u care is how others look at u? As long as u r not caught doing anything 100% gay, things like being touchy with a guy is perfectly fine. Let those got-nth-better-to-do ppl gossip lor. Its still a gossip after all, not sth they can prove, right?

Just don't lose your hot fren totally.. Don't keep a distance away from him just bcos others talk bad about him. Ultimately, believe in yourself n dont regret the choice that u make =)

[Guest Guest]

It's just a phase. Dun try to think too much.

I have straight married friends who like to touch my nipples and squeeze my cock. They r very touchy feely. They may be keen to get into sexual acts with me but I m not. Bcoz they are straight and married. They r looking for some fun with me. I prefer to keep things simple.

Enjoy every moment lah!

[Oxsianx]

It's just a phase. Dun try to think too much.

I have straight married friends who like to touch my nipples and squeeze my cock. They r very touchy feely. They may be keen to get into sexual acts with me but I m not. Bcoz they are straight and married. They r looking for some fun with me. I prefer to keep things simple.

Enjoy every moment lah!

People like that isn't playful neither are they straight anymore. Married but still want 'fun' with gay guys. Speechless

[Guest confused]

Hey thanks guys espcially Oxsianx for reading through my long long post

haha i guess i was a little irrational when i wrote the post, but after cooling down and reading through the stuff i do agree that i should not take risky and hasty actions:)

haha i guess the 'disturb on msn' thing would work well too though i dont really talk to people on msn unless there's impt stuff ><

[split]

back in school i used to have a huge crush on this guy. to me, he was just perfect in almost every way possible. we used to hug often. but now we've drifted apart sometimes, i'll cry just thinking of him, but i don't think he'll ever know how much he means to me.

[Oxsianx]

Hey thanks guys espcially Oxsianx for reading through my long long post

haha i guess i was a little irrational when i wrote the post, but after cooling down and reading through the stuff i do agree that i should not take risky and hasty actions:)

haha i guess the 'disturb on msn' thing would work well too though i don't really talk to people on msn unless there's impt stuff ><

Thanks 'confused' for acknowledging my effort :thumb:

Your thread has been merged with other people's thread by the moderator. I hope you still can find your way here.

As much as MSN being a helpful tool to 'bond', I still encourage you to have actual meet ups. Perhaps you can do your arrangement of meet-ups using MSN or discuss things that would not have been convenient with the presence of others e.g. GX or schoolmates.

And always remind yourself not to do anything silly on MSN such as confessing your love or hinting your interest to 'him'. Also don't fall for the trap if he ever says 'I love you' on MSN. When it comes to this thing, always meet up and hear it with your own ears. As who knows that person on the other end typing might be a friend who hacked into his account/people trying to play prank. It is so common to see friends hacking into another friend's account and post 'I'm GAY or I'm a total bastard, hate me!!' on facebook

Remember, always start small and build up gradually. The more you rush to create miracle, the awkward things will become. If it's not your habit to 'talk cock' on MSN, then don't use it. Try to stay as close as being the authentic you. You may not necessary need to drag onto the duration you have for him, but you may increase the intensity of interacting with him. This will always leave an impact of you in him, slowly without realizing, he may wonder why it seems that you guys have been seeing each other for so long! Ok, this might or might not be correct. Nonetheless, I feel that it's worth it a try. Moreover, your world doesn't revolves around him don't you? Do short meetings with more frequencies might work well. :clap:

Hope these work for you