Alson Posted August 5, 2013 Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 Hi all ~~ just wonder... if you have a cute Colleague and You Really Suspect that He is an AJ too ~~~ How would you go around tackling him? Any Experience to Share? Quote "Success has nothing to do with what you Gain or Accomplish for Yourself.It's What You have Done for Others." "Development of a country has nothing to do with High Economic Growth Rates, Its about to what extent have Human Life in the country been Enriched." By Myself ~~~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hggave Posted August 5, 2013 Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 Tackling him as if how you can make sure whether he is aj or not ?Or tackling him as if you want him to become your date/partner? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post abang Posted August 5, 2013 Popular Post Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 Never declare yourself to be one either unless under very dire conditions.What is the point to tell Mr X that you are gay too? Never expose anyone's identity unless it is mutually agreeable.Your colleague is your competitor (for promotion, training opportunities etc)I truly don't want to have a short relationship in the office.Think of all the repercussions that may follow. Just keep it at "I know and you know (secretly)" areef, samsara, Phil and 4 others 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted August 5, 2013 Report Share Posted August 5, 2013 Abang is wise... weeean 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 Wanna go tab? Quote 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TamPenis Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 at my workplace, it used to be 10% of the staffs are GLBT, at 1 point of time. the percentage has reduced over the years. 2 years back, we had a new colleagues. I had strong feeling that he's an AJ. I dont have to pursue in asking as within a week, I spotted him in Grindr. that kills the suspense.. loland recently a new colleagues has joined us. very metrosexual in his dressing and the suspense is bulding. a month had passed, though. Quote If I cant feel it, I aint faking it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lovensick Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 Grindr/Jack'd solves quite a bit of mystery Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Butterscotch Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 I used to work in a company that does not discriminate, so there were a number of LGBT colleagues, both gays and lesbians. Already left that company, and now working somewhere else that is so boring visually lol. There is a cute intern next door but I can't tell. My gaydar is pretty wonky in the most extreme sense. weeean 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheVisitors Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 Firstly, be aware your environment before you even think of zooming in. This is not Grindr, Sauna, your neighbourhood or a clubbing scene. This is a workplace where the rules are very different from the formers Just because he is gay, this does not mean he is on your side. He is a colleague, which can seen as your competitor In a working world, it is best not to exposed too much of your personal life What they know might even be at your disadvantage, if things turns ugly and out of hand Like a card game, always keep your trumph card " I know about you, that you do not know, that I know about you" Get it? Rip_ple, samsara and Butterscotch 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zwei Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 Because everyone thinks our colleague are our enemy, that is why the world move faster and faster... fucking humans and their greed and ambition. .. Quote Fattie bom bom walk down the street Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Momopolare Posted August 6, 2013 Report Share Posted August 6, 2013 (edited) Unless both of you are interested in each other, just leave him be. Edited August 6, 2013 by Monodel Quote Under your influence, you're the magic in my veins. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluerunner Posted August 7, 2013 Report Share Posted August 7, 2013 I agree with Abang. We can be gay but we certainly need to tell everyone who we are. Gay men can tell who are "family members". Does it even matters if the other party is gay? Not to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alien Posted August 7, 2013 Report Share Posted August 7, 2013 Agreed not a wise move to declare u r gay in workplace, no matter the other guy is gay or not. Rip_ple and Alson 2 Quote 对自己好是一种幸福， 对别人好是一种积福。 Spend time counting your blessings, not airing your complaints. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joshTWjosh Posted August 8, 2013 Report Share Posted August 8, 2013 Hi all ~~ just wonder... if you have a cute Colleague and You Really Suspect that He is an AJ too ~~~ How would you go around tackling him? Any Experience to Share?Don't Phil 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rawbird Posted August 9, 2013 Report Share Posted August 9, 2013 Start off as friends first, causal talks, lunch then proceed more to know him... even if he's not aj, you gain cos he is cute Alson 1 Quote line id: ask with a dp at least Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Momopolare Posted August 9, 2013 Report Share Posted August 9, 2013 (edited) The truth is... Whether straight or gay, it is best not to have a relationship under the same company.You might put yourself into difficult positions a lot more than you already have been. Edited August 9, 2013 by Monodel member_757, Alson and samsara 3 Quote Under your influence, you're the magic in my veins. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wombathallow Posted August 10, 2013 Report Share Posted August 10, 2013 I have one senior in the office who is AJ... I suspected he is one, right from the very 1st day because of mutual facebook friends.from the 3rd day we already know about each other through whatsapp, but so far no "hands on" yet because both parties are attached. I'd like to think that we both became good friends to support each other through work, and we are very frank about each other's personal details.I don't see him as a competitor because he's more senior anyway. However I guess some people have it worse... imagine an AJ colleague who blackmails you into doing things with him... samsara and Alson 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alson Posted August 12, 2013 Author Report Share Posted August 12, 2013 Actually I dun colleague as in working in the same office... but people you do know... due to work.... So i guess Rule 101 is never admit you are a gay to that person? Quote "Success has nothing to do with what you Gain or Accomplish for Yourself.It's What You have Done for Others." "Development of a country has nothing to do with High Economic Growth Rates, Its about to what extent have Human Life in the country been Enriched." By Myself ~~~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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