Closeted_jock Posted March 18, 2014 Report Share Posted March 18, 2014 I have a very strong sense of paternal instincts and would very much wish to have a kid or two of my own.However, the harsh fact is that in the traditional Asian society that we are in, it is kind of far fetched to conceive this idea. Even in countries where gay marriage is allowed, gaybies might be exposed to needless criticisms as well as bullying.Furthermore, the scene is often filled with people who want to have fun, and starting a family usually comes as the least priority (or at least from whom I have exposed to). Which drives me to my question, is there anyone who has the same sentiment with me? That there is no difference when it comes to sexuality when it comes to starting a family and having children? namiko_aiko, cycle25 and shyboi 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heianedenwood Posted March 18, 2014 Report Share Posted March 18, 2014 Haha! I want kids too! Quote I create. Therefore, I am. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
warlock88 Posted March 19, 2014 Report Share Posted March 19, 2014 kids are cute Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest spirit Posted March 19, 2014 Report Share Posted March 19, 2014 kids r cute but taking care of them isnt an easy feat... like TS said, its a hash fact in this traditional asian society... tts why i would go for the next best option... get a puppy i love! NielKlient and wipewewe 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NielKlient Posted March 20, 2014 Report Share Posted March 20, 2014 (edited) kids r cute but taking care of them isnt an easy feat... like TS said, its a hash fact in this traditional asian society... tts why i would go for the next best option... get a puppy i love! I guess getting a puppy would be the closest thing an aj can get to being a daddy.Or perhaps keep a sugar boy. LOL Edited March 20, 2014 by NielKlient Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheAntisen Posted March 20, 2014 Report Share Posted March 20, 2014 I agree with that stance on the topic, but convincing others to see it that way? I've tried and it's just impossible to get people to see any other perspective other than the "ERMAGURD GAYS WILL TAKE OVER THE WORLD IF WE DON'T CONTINUE TO OSTRACIZE, DEMEAN and RIDICULE THEM!" I have a strong desire to start a family of my own, but it might be impossible to do it with another guy in this age. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cube3 Posted March 20, 2014 Report Share Posted March 20, 2014 Surrogate babies, why not? :clap: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
water_piano Posted March 21, 2014 Report Share Posted March 21, 2014 I believe having a family or at least someone with whom you're co-dependent with is essential to being human. But I'm not sure if paternal instinct is inherent.I do have a mental picture of raising my own kids, though i can't tell if it'd gonna be as a single / coupled parent. Quote ~ Let's get one thing straight, I'm not. ~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest window7197 Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 I want kids Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
youngpunk Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 Sponsor kids through world vision! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
slackerj Posted April 19, 2014 Report Share Posted April 19, 2014 I would love to have a child of my own, but the chances of it happening is very low. Adoption is complicated in sg, guess the next alternative will be sponsorship. Meanwhile I will just direct my parental instinct towards my nieces and nephews Quote 成熟不是心變老，是淚在打轉，卻依然還能微笑。 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
qsefthu78 Posted April 20, 2014 Report Share Posted April 20, 2014 My mum has been a baby sitter for many years and I have seen lots of babies grown into toddlers and leaving us and I wonder how nice if I could have a child of my own. The most recent kid has grown to call me 'papa' which pulled my heart all the time I was called. Even when I was out and hear some child calling "papa", I instinctively turn my head around... gosh. Quote https://linktr.ee/johntanegbdf Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Startup Posted June 6, 2023 Report Share Posted June 6, 2023 Reviving this thread as I happen to chance upon it. Kids are angels. I remember when I was an undergrad I took on a job to conduct surveys at a pediatric clinic. It wasn't easy as I had to solicit parents to do a 30 min survey. Every moment felt like a struggle. Then one cutesy 5 year old boy came to say hi with a smile that brightened up my day. I am lucky as I get to teach kids. There would always be boys who would come to give me a hug. How not to love them? cutejack, JoJoMan and manehiso 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G_M Posted June 6, 2023 Report Share Posted June 6, 2023 6 hours ago, JoJoMan said: I am a mature seeking Dad Son Relationship 💙 Still seeking ... persevering... How does a discussion on parenting becomes another thread for you to seek fun. 1 warning point for posting ad and diverting the discussion. If I catch you spamming the forum with your hookup ads, you will be treated as a spammer and be banned like any other spammer. Quote http://www.facebook.com/gachimuchi Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leanmeat Posted June 9, 2023 Report Share Posted June 9, 2023 On 4/19/2014 at 12:40 PM, slackerj said: I would love to have a child of my own, but the chances of it happening is very low. Adoption is complicated in sg, guess the next alternative will be sponsorship. Meanwhile I will just direct my parental instinct towards my nieces and nephews That's what I do too.. directing my parental instinct to my nephews and niece.. when they were v young it happen before some of them 'accidentally' called me 'daddy' in a slip of tongue, and boy that feels good... JoJoMan 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EastChat Posted June 12, 2023 Report Share Posted June 12, 2023 (edited) I had wanted kids before and that was why i married my ex-wife because she was initially onboard to start a family. But she wanted the first 2 years of marriage to be childless first because she wants to experience that, even though we had been dating for 5 years prior marriage. Fine, we used protection for the first 2 years. And after the second year of marriage, she said she was bored. Bored of the routine and responsibility of taking part in my family dinners etc. She confessed that she missed her singlehood life where she could go clubbing or trips with her gfs. I allowed her to do that before anyway but I'm not a clubber like her. Then she said she cannot imagine herself having kids. What a shock and a liar to my family as well cos she kept saying she wanted kids and when I wanted to start our family, she said she wanted out and so she's out of my life now and I'm actually quite wary of women now. Edited June 12, 2023 by EastChat firefight 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leanmeat Posted June 20, 2023 Report Share Posted June 20, 2023 (edited) On 6/12/2023 at 12:39 PM, EastChat said: I had wanted kids before and that was why i married my ex-wife because she was initially onboard to start a family. But she wanted the first 2 years of marriage to be childless first because she wants to experience that, even though we had been dating for 5 years prior marriage. Fine, we used protection for the first 2 years. And after the second year of marriage, she said she was bored. Bored of the routine and responsibility of taking part in my family dinners etc. She confessed that she missed her singlehood life where she could go clubbing or trips with her gfs. I allowed her to do that before anyway but I'm not a clubber like her. Then she said she cannot imagine herself having kids. What a shock and a liar to my family as well cos she kept saying she wanted kids and when I wanted to start our family, she said she wanted out and so she's out of my life now and I'm actually quite wary of women now. Wah. Wasted few years w someone whom you think could have a family with. Me on the contrary will not want to have kids although it feels good to be called 'daddy' by my nephews, as I dont think i can handle the stress and commitment. Just direct that feel and love to them also feels good to me and I'm contented. Edited June 20, 2023 by Leanmeat EastChat 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
auscent Posted August 19, 2023 Report Share Posted August 19, 2023 I had wanted kids before and that was why i married my ex-wife because she was initially onboard to start a family. But she wanted the first 2 years of marriage to be childless first because she wants to experience that, even though we had been dating for 5 years prior marriage. Fine, we used protection for the first 2 years. And after the second year of marriage, she said she was bored. Bored of the routine and responsibility of taking part in my family dinners etc. She confessed that she missed her singlehood life where she could go clubbing or trips with her gfs. I allowed her to do that before anyway but I'm not a clubber like her. Then she said she cannot imagine herself having kids. What a shock and a liar to my family as well cos she kept saying she wanted kids and when I wanted to start our family, she said she wanted out and so she's out of my life now and I'm actually quite wary of women now. That is cruel of her. Either she lacked maturity or integrity. Prob a good thing she has her exit now. Imagine finding out another big lie somewhere down the relationship, during a worse time. EastChat 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EastChat Posted August 20, 2023 Report Share Posted August 20, 2023 That is cruel of her. Either she lacked maturity or integrity. Prob a good thing she has her exit now. Imagine finding out another big lie somewhere down the relationship, during a worse time. there are a lot of cruel people in this world and sometimes woman can be so complicated too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leanmeat Posted August 28, 2023 Report Share Posted August 28, 2023 there are a lot of cruel people in this world and sometimes woman can be so complicated too. Women has always been more complicated than men. Its rare to find 1 who is not. I have 1 in my life and we are good friend. EastChat 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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