Solo Travellers/ Travelling Alone - your experiences (compiled)

[Guest comfort]

7 hours ago, Vometra said:

 

Rome is full of pickpockets and other

 

 

You better never travel out of your comfort zone of your HDB flat and please never go farer the the hawker downstairs of your block.

[tinkymale]

I go on single trip annually to countries for marathons and holidays. I like travelling alone as I can plan where I want to go without the need to care. Along the trips, I make new friends and they becomes my friend eventually. So now if I visit the country again, I’ll have a local to bring me around. However, given my age, I prefer to stay in proper hotel rather than Airbnb or hostel.

[FattChoy]

I wanna share my experience,  as it can help some of you.  

 

I'm in the midst of my HCMC vacation.  The trip came abruptly when I spoke to a Beijing friend whom I knew while I was in Beijing.   I asked him if he was going anywhere soon and he said he is planning a trip to HCMC to resolve some purchase matters. So I decided to join him, bought all my tickets and changed some money.  

 

Last minute he bailed on me, saying his office team have a crucial project and the boss won't let him leave.  So I was all alone with tickets and I had to make a decision.   I checked the weather,  and it showed a week of full-day rains.  I checked YouTube and saw videos of flood and how to stay safe from moto- snatch thieves.   In the end, I booked a high ranking hostel room on agoda and flew here.

 

Upon arrival,  I got ripped off badly by the cabbie,  but the total amount wasn't too bad.  The fortunate thing about my trip was the hostel owner - a lady and her family,  and she was THE-BEST host I couldn't even dream of.  She was so accommodating with my questions and gave me all the best recommendations.  I decided to extend my stay at her place from 2 to all 8 days. The weather has been sunny and fantastic and I had a blast in the first day. 

 

Then things took a turn on day 2 when my China friend said he did overtime to finish his work and that got him leave from his boss.  He arrived late on Day 2 and we went travelling together in Day 3.  I hated Day 3 because he was such a whiner.  Can't drink water too cold, can't eat banh mi cos it's too spicy and caused his ear/headache to inflame, can't sleep cos a/c too cold (he switched to 25°C).  He even complained the Grabcar he ordered didn't arrive fast enough when he was the one giving out the wrong pickup location and wanted to cancel. He also only want to eat street food which are bottom of the pryamid/barrel @10k VND (that's 58 Sg cents ffs!) roadside by the dumpster types of stalls.  I mean I'm also for streetfood, but not necessarily the cheapest where hygiene is doubtful.   Just to save a few thousand VND, he might end up paying for expensive Vietnamese medical treatment.  It's anything and everything lar with him; it's like all those economic success had made Chinese like him soft to adversities.  I really missed the tough-as-nails 北方爷们s which can basically take anything you throw at them without any complaints. 

 

On Day 4, we didn't speak much; we had an unspoken understanding we go do our own stuff.  So Day 4, which is today, I'm having a blast again travelling solo.  I don't think he will bring back a Vietnamese twink, that said, I now can't bring back a Viet bear. (which might be a good thing to avoid loads of uninvited trouble).

 

Conclusion: Having a travel mate means some degree off loss of liberty and fun, especially if you two don't click as much as you think you could.  The pros is that it's good to have someone looking out for you in case of an emergency, which was something I used to enjoy in my travels with my significant other. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Edited June 6, 2019 by FattChoy

[Steve5380]

On 6/3/2019 at 10:58 PM, Magenta_Lilies said:

A couple of months ago, I don't know what came over me. As soon as I've gotten my performance bonus, I surfed around online to see what are the popular destinations currently. Picked Rome, went on to an airline's website and booked a return flight for December, 10 days total. Booked an Airbnb right after that as well. The thing is, I'm very introverted and have never travelled alone. Definitely will be out of my comfort zone. Excited yet extremely nervous. Fingers crossed that everything will go smoothly!

 

Stay calm.  It is good to be concerned and think about all the eventualities.  Also realize that most fears never materialize.  You have plenty of time before December to become an expert on Rome tourism.  Pack light, just for 10 days and nothing fancy.  One carry-on bag and a back pack perhaps.  Start making a check list of what you will take.  The cellphone and laptop should be the most expensive items to take with you. Research the means of transportation in the city, towards the places you want to visit.   Load map of Rome on your cellphone.  Uber does not work in Rome, and taxis are expensive.  Become expert in its public transportation, and plan to walk a lot.  Carry a copy of passport in your wallet, not the passport itself.  And a minimum of credit cards and cash.  Be friendly but don't trust anybody.  Remember the magic word "No". 

[Steve5380]

13 hours ago, FattChoy said:

I wanna share my experience,  as it can help some of you.  

 

I'm in the midst of my HCMC vacation. 

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The fortunate thing about my trip was the hostel owner - a lady and her family,  and she was THE-BEST host I couldn't even dream of.  She was so accommodating with my questions and gave me all the best recommendations.  I decided to extend my stay at her place from 2 to all 8 days. The weather has been sunny and fantastic and I had a blast in the first day. 

 

 

Thank you for your help.  I am planning to make my next trip to Saigon, towards the end of the year.  Can you tell me who was your THE-BEST host?

 

I will travel alone... of course.   I was always weary of Vietnam remembering its war with the US in my days.  But I hear very good things about HCMC.  I hope my agility is sufficiently good to cross the streets in this city,  and even if I like to walk for miles in unknown cities I might choose the inexpensive taxis.  I hear that the gay scene is good there,  a good complement to the abundant cultural and historic places to visit.

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Edited June 7, 2019 by Steve5380

[FattChoy]

4 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

 

 

Dear Steve, 

 

This place is a real eye opener for me.  Hollywood has always portrayed the US Army as the good guys and the Viet Congs as cruel murderers.  There's a War Remnants Museum which I found absolutely interesting, whereby they Vietnamese portray them as freedom fighters against US aggressors.   I think you should go to HCMC for every reason that you mentioned.  I lived in China for more than a decade and I've never seen a place like this before. 

 

I'm not sure the host could help you as she speaks Mandarin, but her daughter speaks English.  PM me when you've made up your mind.  Try to go during the dry season.

 

Rating: I like this HCMC a lotttttt.  

PS: Utopia-asia website is of tremendous help to me here.

 

Edited June 7, 2019 by FattChoy

[Guest 小熊叔]

I like traveling alone for the freedom. Also, I tend to live dangerously when overseas, getting picked up by men in gay bars especially. I love the freedom of the gay bars where one can dance alone almost naked and almost drunk.

 

Once someone buys me a drink, the intention is very clear. He'll take me home for sex. It's dangerous to go with a complete stranger in a foreign country. So I'll tell him that I've told my friend about us on WhatsApp. He'll then know that whatever happened, it's easy to trace back to him.

 

Most of the ones I go home with are the ordinary people and usually quite poor especially the Brits in London and the Japanese with tiny flats. Like most gays, they are also lonely like me. So spending the night together is more for talking and getting to know fellow gays at home. Sometimes they'll ask me to stay with them for the few days and then take me round to non touristy places instead. We'll go supermarket to buy food to cook at home because he being single don't bother to cook much. We literally played married couple game of teasing for sex and impromptu sex everywhere and anywhere.

 

Actually, they don't normally bring local folks home for sex, also for safety reasons. But a benign looking Chinese uncle with a good bod seems quite safe to them. One thing I noticed, they all seemed to have been to Thailand before and an older Chinese male seems so different from the Thai boys whose sex is so artificial and condescending without much communications.

 

Whereas, us Singaporean gays usually don't bring people home for sex because we live with families.

[rome12]

9 hours ago, FattChoy said:

 

Dear Steve, 

 

This place is a real eye opener for me.  Hollywood has always portrayed the US Army as the good guys and the Viet Congs as cruel murderers.  There's a War Remnants Museum which I found absolutely interesting, whereby they Vietnamese portray them as freedom fighters against US aggressors.   I think you should go to HCMC for every reason that you mentioned.  I lived in China for more than a decade and I've never seen a place like this before. 

 

I'm not sure the host could help you as she speaks Mandarin, but her daughter speaks English.  PM me when you've made up your mind.  Try to go during the dry season.

 

Rating: I like this HCMC a lotttttt.  

PS: Utopia-asia website is of tremendous help to me here.

 

 

don't you know after 45 years, those "freedom fighters" against US sent their children to US and have citizenship there? 

[Steve5380]

14 hours ago, FattChoy said:

 

Dear Steve, 

 

This place is a real eye opener for me.  Hollywood has always portrayed the US Army as the good guys and the Viet Congs as cruel murderers.  There's a War Remnants Museum which I found absolutely interesting, whereby they Vietnamese portray them as freedom fighters against US aggressors.   I think you should go to HCMC for every reason that you mentioned.  I lived in China for more than a decade and I've never seen a place like this before. 

 

I'm not sure the host could help you as she speaks Mandarin, but her daughter speaks English.  PM me when you've made up your mind.  Try to go during the dry season.

 

Rating: I like this HCMC a lotttttt.  

PS: Utopia-asia website is of tremendous help to me here.

 

 

Thank you FattChoy.  I will PM you and get your advice when I have done more research.

 

I will love to see the War Remnants Museum, and I won't dispute that the US was the aggressor.  I have read about the incident in the Gulf of Tonkin.  My experience with Vietnamese has always been positive and I find them friendly.  I used to do some teaching at the local university and had many Vietnamese boys and girls in my class.  They were very dedicated, clannish and... some of the biggest cheaters!  I look forwards to have the same experience there as I have in Singapore:  plenty of my type of eye candy...

 

[PhallusKnight]

15 hours ago, Guest 小熊叔 said:

I like traveling alone for the freedom. Also, I tend to live dangerously when overseas, getting picked up by men in gay bars especially. I love the freedom of the gay bars where one can dance alone almost naked and almost drunk.

 

Once someone buys me a drink, the intention is very clear. He'll take me home for sex. It's dangerous to go with a complete stranger in a foreign country. So I'll tell him that I've told my friend about us on WhatsApp. He'll then know that whatever happened, it's easy to trace back to him.

 

Most of the ones I go home with are the ordinary people and usually quite poor especially the Brits in London and the Japanese with tiny flats. Like most gays, they are also lonely like me. So spending the night together is more for talking and getting to know fellow gays at home. Sometimes they'll ask me to stay with them for the few days and then take me round to non touristy places instead. We'll go supermarket to buy food to cook at home because he being single don't bother to cook much. We literally played married couple game of teasing for sex and impromptu sex everywhere and anywhere.

 

Actually, they don't normally bring local folks home for sex, also for safety reasons. But a benign looking Chinese uncle with a good bod seems quite safe to them. One thing I noticed, they all seemed to have been to Thailand before and an older Chinese male seems so different from the Thai boys whose sex is so artificial and condescending without much communications.

 

Whereas, us Singaporean gays usually don't bring people home for sex because we live with families.

Thank you for sharing. For some reason your post was really struck a chord with me. I like to have random fun as much as the next guy lol but it's also nice if it comes with these rare moments of intimacy that makes the experience memorable. It's like a little glimpse into someone else's life and wondering what could have been or just being at ease with where you are in life. Reminds me of the movie Before Sunrise and After Sunset which I find myself going back to every once in a while. 

___________

"Ideas! Ideals! All this paper between us. What a weariness. 

If only people would meet in their very selves, without wanting to put
some idea over one another, or some ideal.

Damn all ideas and all ideals. Damn all the false stress, and the pins. 

I am I. Here am I. Where are you ?" 

[FattChoy]

7 hours ago, rome12 said:

 

don't you know after 45 years, those "freedom fighters" against US sent their children to US and have citizenship there? 

 

You mean all of them? 

[rome12]

maybe yes. most of them corrupt the money to send the children abroad. those children don't need to be smart, they will buy them properties later to stay there for good. 

if the north wanted freedom. just stay there. We the south didn't need that. 

[Blogger Adam]

I'm an introvert so travelling alone is perfect for me, although I had only done so once in my forty years of my life (not counting business trips).

 

Having said that, it also depends on the purpose of my trip.

 

If it's a new city I want to explore, I will probably go with a friend because I feel it's more meaningful (and fun) when new experiences are shared with a close friend.

 

But if it's revisiting a city that I'd been before - or to a nearby destination - I'm more than happy to do so alone especially if the purpose of that trip is for me to get away from Singapore and just be by myself.

 

I did that once some few years ago.

 

Took an overnight coach ride to Cameron Highlands.

 

The coach ride was already quite a holiday in itself.

 

I decided not to be busy with my phone and  focused on the Singapore night view as my coach sped along the highway.

 

During stopovers in Malaysia, I chatted with the only other passenger on the coach, some youngish guy from Switzerland who had worked briefly in Singapore and was ending his work stint with a visit to Cameron Highlands. The rest of the journey, we sat separately and minded our own business.

 

Early next morning, I checked in to a resort on Cameron Highlands, and the next few days, did all sorts of things alone happily - from spa and dinning and visiting the local market, to rolling around in bed and reading on the balcony. And lots of guiltless napping.

 

During that time, I learnt to listen to myself a lot.

 

'Cos when I'm alone, I talk inwardly to myself when I process things, and, I don't know if that makes any sense, but the more I hear my own thoughts, the more I understand myself.

 

So I guess when travelling alone, I'd taken the first baby step, but I'm not adventurous enough to venture out that far.

 

Yet.

 

[Guest Guest]

On ‎6‎/‎7‎/‎2019 at 9:06 AM, Steve5380 said:

 

Stay calm.  It is good to be concerned and think about all the eventualities.  Also realize that most fears never materialize.  You have plenty of time before December to become an expert on Rome tourism.  Pack light, just for 10 days and nothing fancy.  One carry-on bag and a back pack perhaps.  Start making a check list of what you will take.  The cellphone and laptop should be the most expensive items to take with you. Research the means of transportation in the city, towards the places you want to visit.   Load map of Rome on your cellphone.  Uber does not work in Rome, and taxis are expensive.  Become expert in its public transportation, and plan to walk a lot.  Carry a copy of passport in your wallet, not the passport itself.  And a minimum of credit cards and cash.  Be friendly but don't trust anybody.  Remember the magic word "No". 

Packing light is not a good option. Been to Rome before in December and it can be freezing especially if its drizzling. Pack suficient clothings to keep yourself warm

 

And enjoy the freedom of travelling alone.  Treat it as an adventure  rather then a trip.

[Guest Weather is luck]

7 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

Packing light is not a good option. Been to Rome before in December and it can be freezing especially if its drizzling. Pack suficient clothings to keep yourself warm

 

And enjoy the freedom of travelling alone.  Treat it as an adventure  rather then a trip.

It does snow in Rome. Pic taken below in feb.

 

 

The global weather has been out of wack for some time now. Currently it is “summer” in singapore, but it felt colder in the past few days than it did last dec, jan and feb.

 

Please remember to check Rome weather forecasts on the LAST DAY before you fly.

[charvo87]

On 9/19/2018 at 1:53 PM, Guest Guest Guest said:

If u were to travel alone, where will u go? I'm kinda introvert and always wanted to try travelling alone. Most of the time i go on a holiday i'm always with my friends and such i've never been able to try out the gay scene in other country.

 

If u have travel alone, whats country would u recommend to visit? what have u done there and what was fun about that place ?

i have travelled alone to taiwan and japan. 

japan has a very well developed transport system, taiwan is because chinese everywhere, easy navigation and communication.

[Guest Mischievous bf]

I love travelling alone. But rarely hv such chance. As I hv been attaced for ages, so almost all the trips I took was with bf or our friends or with our families. 

 

The few times I got the chance to travel alone was when I went on company work trips. Once I also insisted on travel solo for a month to Europe in between my old and new job. 

 

Travelling alone is liberation. My bf is the type who plan nothing but expect everything being plan n done properly for him. The good thing is he doesn't care where we go or do. He will be happy as long as everything is well plan by me and he happily enjoy his time with me. But sometime I find it tiring to do all the planning and execute the plan. 

 

I had the best time during my 1 month solo trip to UK, France and Germany few years back. Haha that's also the time when I took the chance to hv some fun with people I met at sauna, pubs and even with my couch surfing host! 

 

Of course I did all those without bf knowing la. Also had some fun with some guys I met via Gay app when I had work trips. 

[kimlo777]

On 6/7/2019 at 9:06 AM, Steve5380 said:

 

Stay calm.  It is good to be concerned and think about all the eventualities.  Also realize that most fears never materialize.  You have plenty of time before December to become an expert on Rome tourism.  Pack light, just for 10 days and nothing fancy.  One carry-on bag and a back pack perhaps.  Start making a check list of what you will take.  The cellphone and laptop should be the most expensive items to take with you. Research the means of transportation in the city, towards the places you want to visit.   Load map of Rome on your cellphone.  Uber does not work in Rome, and taxis are expensive.  Become expert in its public transportation, and plan to walk a lot.  Carry a copy of passport in your wallet, not the passport itself.  And a minimum of credit cards and cash.  Be friendly but don't trust anybody.  Remember the magic word "No". 

Was in Rome recently and took Uber Black.  They were all limousines and drivers wore smart black jackets and ties.  They will wait for you standing by the side of the vehicle and open the car door for you.  And it wasn't all that expensive either.

[Blogger Adam]

I might add one more thing... if you plan to travel alone to a new, faraway city, you might find it useful to register online with MFA so that our whereabouts are at least tracked. I might even go as far as give my iPhone's IMEI number to my partner and family, just in case, so that my location can be tracked by the police in the worst case scenario.

 

Sorry this sounds so morbid... it shouldn't. It's an adventure!

[Steve5380]

5 minutes ago, kimlo777 said:

Was in Rome recently and took Uber Black.  They were all limousines and drivers wore smart black jackets and ties.  They will wait for you standing by the side of the vehicle and open the car door for you.  And it wasn't all that expensive either.

 

I would feel strange riding in limousines and have doors opened for me... unless the vehicles come with a nice Italian boy inside?  I rather have that than the opening of doors    

[Guest Morbid indeed]

3 minutes ago, Blogger Adam said:

I might add one more thing... if you plan to travel alone to a new, faraway city, you might find it useful to register online with MFA so that our whereabouts are at least tracked. I might even go as far as give my iPhone's IMEI number to my partner and family, just in case, so that my location can be tracked by the police in the worst case scenario.

 

Sorry this sounds so morbid... it shouldn't. It's an adventure!

Why do you want to be tracked? That's the morbid part. Unplug from the matrix already, Murphy's law is a spoiler.

[Guest Resting bitch gay]

Speaking of Rome. How many of your had encounters like in the movies in Rome? Roman holiday, under the tuscan sun kind of ideallic seredipitous chance encounter with local men. 

 

I had mine at the traffic junction pedestrian walkway between the colosseum and the biggest gladiator training school in the world, the Ludus Magnus, of All places. 

 

He was built like an ancient gladiator indeed, in office attire. Insisted to help me take a photo of myself and the colosseum when he saw my valiant attempt at selfies in front of the junction.

 

Five minutes later, when I raised my head from the menu stand of the Be Gay gastropub to look back at the location like from 50 metres away, he was still standing there and he flashed me a that disarming smile straight out of the film Notthinghill.

 

He proceeded to "stalk" me all the way to the gay gastro pub Be Gay I was at and got himself a table inside. The cute italian waitor was clever enough to sit me down at the table beside him. I was a little creeped out and overwhelmed by the attention, under the weather too for being thrown off my itinerary by a missed train ride and so unwittingly displayed that resting bitch face while pretending to be busy with my menu after I had ordered my food.

 

He turned out to be so shy and broken hearted too and proceeded to "small talk" with the hot waitor instead who also ignored him. Poor thing!

 

Very anti-climax for everyone. Blame me the unspontaneous, uptight bitch. First solo trip to Europe. Promised myself I will do better to be nicer to the locals, friendly old ladies and hot strangers notwithstanding.

[lonelyglobe]

No matter how horny you are, do not try to pick up someone when u r traveling alone because you dont know what you will be picking up....letting stranger to take photo is a big 'NO' unless you do not want to see your camera or phone again, if really have to, find families with kids will be a safer bet.

[auri]

2 minutes ago, lonelyglobe said:

No matter how horny you are, do not try to pick up someone when u r traveling alone because you dont know what you will be picking up....letting stranger to take photo is a big 'NO' unless you do not want to see your camera or phone again, if really have to, find families with kids will be a safer bet.

 

Unfortunately I have to agree, especially in a place like Rome

[Guest Pick up bonus]

1 hour ago, lonelyglobe said:

No matter how horny you are, do not try to pick up someone when u r traveling alone because you dont know what you will be picking up....letting stranger to take photo is a big 'NO' unless you do not want to see your camera or phone again, if really have to, find families with kids will be a safer bet.

The family with kids could be a romanian mock up syndicated set up too.

 

I have thought about the run away with camera thing but a cheap camera phone like mine hankered after by a strappling italian looking gentleman in shirt and tie in the middle of a tourist hotspot without some cover or getaway route seemed remote at that time. Unless i wasn’t aware a car is waiting at the BUSY traffic junction to scoop him up after i had passed him my phone. Highly unlikely also.

 

Speaking of horny, I have picked up a cute, preppy American Chinese office worker at an Amsterdam leather bar after a full day of sightseeing and museum tours. We were both available on our own and ridiculously within reach. Couldn’t resist and no reason not to? Hehe.

[Guest shot]

9 hours ago, Guest Resting bitch gay said:

Speaking of Rome. How many of your had encounters like in the movies in Rome? Roman holiday, under the tuscan sun kind of ideallic seredipitous chance encounter with local men. 

 

I had mine at the traffic junction pedestrian walkway between the colosseum and the biggest gladiator training school in the world, the Ludus Magnus, of All places. 

 

He was built like an ancient gladiator indeed, in office attire. Insisted to help me take a photo of myself and the colosseum when he saw my valiant attempt at selfies in front of the junction.

 

Five minutes later, when I raised my head from the menu stand of the Be Gay gastropub to look back at the location like from 50 metres away, he was still standing there and he flashed me a that disarming smile straight out of the film Notthinghill.

 

He proceeded to "stalk" me all the way to the gay gastro pub Be Gay I was at and got himself a table inside. The cute italian waitor was clever enough to sit me down at the table beside him. I was a little creeped out and overwhelmed by the attention, under the weather too for being thrown off my itinerary by a missed train ride and so unwittingly displayed that resting bitch face while pretending to be busy with my menu after I had ordered my food.

 

He turned out to be so shy and broken hearted too and proceeded to "small talk" with the hot waitor instead who also ignored him. Poor thing!

 

Very anti-climax for everyone. Blame me the unspontaneous, uptight bitch. First solo trip to Europe. Promised myself I will do better to be nicer to the locals, friendly old ladies and hot strangers notwithstanding.

 

lucky he didn't shoot you down like in one of those Mafia movies but I m sure you would have loved if he had shot into your face...

 

You can be lucky you can be without luck, I pretty sure he didn't need to overly stretch his gaydar after spotting you...

So sad he didn't call you by your name...

 

The problematic part starts when a lot of Mediterranean see Asians as submissive bottoms, but not all are...

 

[Guest Rude]

6 hours ago, Guest shot said:

 

lucky he didn't shoot you down like in one of those Mafia movies but I m sure you would have loved if he had shot into your face...

 

You can be lucky you can be without luck, I pretty sure he didn't need to overly stretch his gaydar after spotting you...

So sad he didn't call you by your name...

 

The problematic part starts when a lot of Mediterranean see Asians as submissive bottoms, but not all are...

 

This poster sounds like he is dripping with jealousy. Tough luck scoring? Heard of plastic surgery and formal education?

[Guest Resting bitch gaze]

On 6/9/2019 at 1:30 PM, Guest Resting bitch gay said:

Speaking of Rome. How many of your had encounters like in the movies in Rome? Roman holiday, under the tuscan sun kind of ideallic seredipitous chance encounter with local men. 

 

I had mine at the traffic junction pedestrian walkway between the colosseum and the biggest gladiator training school in the world, the Ludus Magnus, of All places. 

 

He was built like an ancient gladiator indeed, in office attire. Insisted to help me take a photo of myself and the colosseum when he saw my valiant attempt at selfies in front of the junction.

 

Five minutes later, when I raised my head from the menu stand of the Be Gay gastropub to look back at the location like from 50 metres away, he was still standing there and he flashed me a that disarming smile straight out of the film Notthinghill.

 

He proceeded to "stalk" me all the way to the gay gastro pub Be Gay I was at and got himself a table inside. The cute italian waitor was clever enough to sit me down at the table beside him. I was a little creeped out and overwhelmed by the attention, under the weather too for being thrown off my itinerary by a missed train ride and so unwittingly displayed that resting bitch face while pretending to be busy with my menu after I had ordered my food.

 

He turned out to be so shy and broken hearted too and proceeded to "small talk" with the hot waitor instead who also ignored him. Poor thing!

 

Very anti-climax for everyone. Blame me the unspontaneous, uptight bitch. First solo trip to Europe. Promised myself I will do better to be nicer to the locals, friendly old ladies and hot strangers notwithstanding.

Oops my bad, it was the Coming Out gastropub. Be Gay Chiringuito was the gay beach bar i had been to in Barcelona.

[Guest Dirtily Professor]

On June 7, 2019 at 9:41 PM, rome12 said:

maybe yes. most of them corrupt the money to send the children abroad. those children don't need to be smart, they will buy them properties later to stay there for good.

if the north wanted freedom. just stay there. We the south didn't need that.

 

I have to say there was right and wrong on both sides during the Vietnam War but the root cause was colonialism by France, who refused to grant independence after World War II, and were far too slow to realize that the time of colonists dominating other parts of the world was coming to an end. Some people in Vietnam had no problem with going back under French rule and hoping to gradually gain independence, while others were sick of the old ways, and became so desperate that they were susceptible to any idea they thought would help their cause. That paved the way for Communism, Ho Chi Minh, the Viet Cong, and Violence, but it's really a story that is still going on in many countries in other ways today.

 

As for the US, they were locked in a doctrinaire struggle with the Soviet Union (Russia), and had a policy that all Communism and all Communists were bad due to their experiences of the Cold War. They also believed in the so-called Domino Theory that if the Commies took over one country, they would grab another and then another, again based on the experience of what the Soviets (Russians) did in Eastern Europe after World War II. It wasn't completely wrong in Asia either, if you look at China, North Korea, North Vietnam, Cambodia, and Laos. US mistakes, of course, actually helped push Laos and Cambodia into the arms of the Pathet Lao and Khmer Rouge. Their intentions were good but their execution was awful.

[rome12]

When it comes to war, no party is nice. Cause if they're nice then it's a beauty pageant, not war.

But look at what the North Vietnam did to their people and American did to south Vietnam people during the war. 

"Freedom fighters"? Using kids, giving them guns, ask them to deliver bomb and weapon and say because they awaken Communism? 

How could they awaken a political thing at 10 years old? 

Not to mention, making up some fake young heroes as a good image for the kids. And taught them counting numbers by "killing American soldiers"

[Guest 2000]

On June 13, 2019 at 4:42 AM, rome12 said:

When it comes to war, no party is nice. Cause if they're nice then it's a beauty pageant, not war. But look at what the North Vietnam did to their people and American did to south Vietnam people during the war. "Freedom fighters"? Using kids, giving them guns, ask them to deliver bomb and weapon and say because they awaken Communism? How could they awaken a political thing at 10 years old? Not to mention, making up some fake young heroes as a good image for the kids. And taught them counting numbers by "killing American soldiers."

 

I don't read his post as saying either side was nice ... but more like they started with good intentions and then became corrupted ... because that is what war does.

The North Vietnamese wanted to get rid of the French colonists ... while the Americans wanted to prevent Communism ... and both lost their way in the fog of war.

After the North Vietnamese got rid of France ... they demanded to control the entire country ... and the Americans stepped in to try to prevent their brutal methods.

 

Both sides continued to make worse decisions ... and adopted more brutal tactics ... because their egos demanded victory ... but in the end everybody were losers.

[lonelyglobe]

This thread is about solo traveling and not about vietnam war, if both of you so interested to discuss vietnam war, maybe can ask GM to create a new thread called "vietnam war"

 

Please continue to share any solo traveling experience.

[Guest 2000]

1 hour ago, lonelyglobe said:

This thread is about solo traveling and not about vietnam war, if both of you so interested to discuss vietnam war, maybe can ask GM to create a new thread called "vietnam war" Please continue to share any solo traveling experience.

 

I was actually the fifth person to comment about the Vietnam War after @FattChoy, @Steve5380, Guest Dirtily Professor, and @rome12, not the second, and I was simply following up on a post that looked to me like the reader misinterpreted something because I understood it differently, not out of a desire to engage in a fill blown discussion of a war that ended a quarter of a century before I was born.

 

It seems to me that the ideal time for such a comment would have been Thursday, after back to back comments about the war, rather than waiting until Sunday and trying to make one of the youngest commenters look like a bad guy for following up on things that were previously posted by others. This entire website needs to 'solo travel' away from the recent negative barrage against younger posters.

[lonelyglobe]

Ok, all the 5 persons please start a vietnam war thread, please respect the person who started this thread on discussion on solo traveling.

[Steve5380]

50 minutes ago, Guest 2000 said:

 

It seems to me that the ideal time for such a comment would have been Thursday, after back to back comments about the war, rather than waiting until Sunday and trying to make one of the youngest commenters look like a bad guy for following up on things that were previously posted by others. This entire website needs to 'solo travel' away from the recent negative barrage against younger posters.

 

Please disregard those negative posters who complain about everything and everyone.  They act like old folks who have nothing better to do than to vent their frustrations here.

Most of us we welcome young posters,  and I am one of them, even being a very old man 

 

40 minutes ago, lonelyglobe said:

Ok, all the 5 persons please start a vietnam war thread, please respect the person who started this thread on discussion on solo traveling.

 

Ok,  all of you guy get the h. out of here with your negativity.  How can you think that a TRAVELER,  solo or elsewhere, will not run into many circumstances worth commenting,  be it the memorabilia about a war or a deer with five legs!   There have been more posts here about Rome than about Vietnam,  and if you are not interested in neither you should graciously skip these posts and post your own recollections of your trips without fighting with other posters.

[lonelyglobe]

On Tuesday, June 04, 2019 at 11:58 AM, Magenta_Lilies said:

A couple of months ago, I don't know what came over me. As soon as I've gotten my performance bonus, I surfed around online to see what are the popular destinations currently. Picked Rome, went on to an airline's website and booked a return flight for December, 10 days total. Booked an Airbnb right after that as well. The thing is, I'm very introverted and have never travelled alone. Definitely will be out of my comfort zone. Excited yet extremely nervous. Fingers crossed that everything will go smoothly!

So hows your planning going...any questions can just post here, i am sure those who have been to rome will be able to help u.

Edited June 16, 2019 by lonelyglobe

[lonelyglobe]

On Sunday, June 09, 2019 at 2:49 PM, auri said:

 

Unfortunately I have to agree, especially in a place like Rome

Actually not only rome but a lot of poorer countries like spain, turkey and greece need to be extra careful....and due to the easy connectivity by train, they can also move in and out a country very quickly and it is almost impossible to find back your stuff.

[Steve5380]

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Edited June 16, 2019 by Steve5380

[Guest Dirtily Professor]

5 hours ago, Guest 2000 said:

I don't read his post as saying either side was nice ... but more like they started with good intentions and then became corrupted ... because that is what war does. Both sides continued to make worse decisions ... and adopted more brutal tactics ... because their egos demanded victory ... but in the end everybody were losers.

 

That was the idea. And since FattChoy and Steve mentioned there is now a museum about the Vietnam War to visit, it isn't really too out of topic.

 

2 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

Please disregard those negative posters who complain about everything and everyone.  They act like old folks who have nothing better to do than to vent their frustrations here.

 

After reading through this morning's posts, he was probably annoyed by the multiple and profane slander attacks in the Malaysia scandal thread.

[Magenta_Lilies]

10 hours ago, lonelyglobe said:

So hows your planning going...any questions can just post here, i am sure those who have been to rome will be able to help u.

Honestly, I have not started at all! Will be starting tomorrow I guess. Don't really have a plan on how to go about planning but I'll figure it out eventually.

 

I am thrilled to see how helpful some members here are! Will definitely hit up some of you guys to aid me in my planning. You included, lonelyglobe!

[t.pagar]

1 hour ago, Magenta_Lilies said:

Honestly, I have not started at all! Will be starting tomorrow I guess. Don't really have a plan on how to go about planning but I'll figure it out eventually.

 

I am thrilled to see how helpful some members here are! Will definitely hit up some of you guys to aid me in my planning. You included, lonelyglobe!

I've done few solo trips to europe and asian cities. good thing about travelling is that you don't need to have a detailed plan. what i do for my solo trips is just make a list of things to do and places to go, taking note of the opening and closing hours. every night I'll just see what i feel like doing the next day. doesn't matter if I don't get to do alll the stuff in my list.

 

if you intend to travel out of the city, then you might need to plan ahead because of the transport. you can look at joining day tours. viator is a good website to book, and it has guided tour packages or just express tickets to choose from. for popular spots like vatican, colloseum, etc, should get at least express ticket to skip the queue. 

 

as with many major cities in europe, do be careful of pickpockets and cheats. i had caught a pick pocket (rather lucky that i caught her in the act) and these people do work in groups. so long my stuff are still intact i choose not to confront. 

[t.pagar]

1 minute ago, -Ignored- said:

wow and u let her go?

isnt viator in the mid-price range? although it is really very renowned for their tours

yup, ilet her go. didn't want anymore trouble and i think she's got her team with her. 

 

ya viator is not the cheapest around but it has got a wide range to choose from. 

[lonelyglobe]

3 hours ago, Magenta_Lilies said:

Honestly, I have not started at all! Will be starting tomorrow I guess. Don't really have a plan on how to go about planning but I'll figure it out eventually.

 

I am thrilled to see how helpful some members here are! Will definitely hit up some of you guys to aid me in my planning. You included, lonelyglobe!

Sure why not? And i believe those who have been there recently would be able to help, my trip to rome was like 20 years ago ha....but i suppose some basic stuff will not change like most mueseum close on mon? Easy way to start is to google or go travel agency to get their tour itinerary for reference and plan your own, read up on travel guide books too. Planning is actually already the start of your trip.

[Traveler3032]

Rome is not a good destination for solo gay travellers. But you will get to see lots of historical stuff there. Be careful of thieves. For me, my preferred places as a solo gay traveller are: Rio, Barcelona, Amsterdam, and Berlin. Shanghai is fine too.

[tomcat]

On 6/17/2019 at 12:35 PM, Traveler3032 said:

Rome is not a good destination for solo gay travellers. But you will get to see lots of historical stuff there. Be careful of thieves. For me, my preferred places as a solo gay traveller are: Rio, Barcelona, Amsterdam, and Berlin. Shanghai is fine too.

Barcelona and Rio are also notorious for pick-pockets and many patterns of thievery too. From bags being cut on La Ramblas, to subway robbings, I don't think they are all that safe for solo. I was always with my friend who is a girl, and we had to be somewhat cautious at all times, especially near favelas and out of the main cities. 

Even parts of London is not good to be out alone past certain hours. In London, it is a little bit more racially motivated though - even long time Londoners who are not white, (Asian, South Asian, Black etc) can be harassed from time to time, or if they are unlucky and run into unsavoury characters. 

I do agree on Amsterdam and Berlin though. Those are very safe cities. 

[Guest Guest]

13 minutes ago, tomcat said:

I do agree on Amsterdam and Berlin though. Those are very safe cities. 

 

Amsterdam....??

 

https://www.smartertravel.com/pickpockets-amsterdam-warnings-dangers/ 

[Letsrelaxpp]

Basically there is no safe place not even sg.... Important thing is to stay alert and refrained offers from strangers...if something unfortunate happen, it will remain as a life time experience that will never be forgotten. 

Edited June 18, 2019 by Letsrelaxpp

[tomcat]

14 minutes ago, Guest Guest said:

 

Amsterdam....??

 

https://www.smartertravel.com/pickpockets-amsterdam-warnings-dangers/ 

Oh dear singaporean, this is considered mild warnings compared to other cities, and are basic common sense (which I realise is not very common at all!). Logically, more aggressive incidents will also be towards the dangerous areas, alleys, red light district etc . But major parts of the Amsterdam is ok. I felt safe there. 

 

For Barcelona, it is a mixed bag. Most parts are ok, but I think all tourist spots are fair game. As for Rio, even my Brazillian friend kena rob few times a year - brings true meaning to the words "Daylight Robbery"
 

 

[Guest Guest]

1 hour ago, tomcat said:

Oh dear singaporean, this is considered mild warnings compared to other cities, and are basic common sense (which I realise is not very common at all!). Logically, more aggressive incidents will also be towards the dangerous areas, alleys, red light district etc . But major parts of the Amsterdam is ok. I felt safe there. 

 

For Barcelona, it is a mixed bag. Most parts are ok, but I think all tourist spots are fair game. As for Rio, even my Brazillian friend kena rob few times a year - brings true meaning to the words "Daylight Robbery"
 

 

 

I guess the safety advisory stated in the Editor’s note saying that the information contained on the page was compiled using real traveler reviews about warnings and dangers in Amsterdam, really holds no comparison to your godly sanctions of the city. I humbly apologize to the city saviour! Pray! Say no bad things of AMSTERDAM!  ALL HAIL, TOMCAT!

 

 

[tomcat]

30 minutes ago, Guest Guest said:

 

I guess the safety advisory stated in the Editor’s note saying that the information contained on the page was compiled using real traveler reviews about warnings and dangers in Amsterdam, really holds no comparison to your godly sanctions of the city. I humbly apologize to the city saviour! Pray! Say no bad things of AMSTERDAM!  ALL HAIL, TOMCAT!

  

You are indeed a Singaporean through and through. Save your adoration for LKY - of which you have been perfectly manufactured for. Kena spoonfeed until cannot even consider alternate info without your robot head combusting. Sad leh. Luckily you are guest, not so throw face right? 

 

You know, how I know the warnings are mild? Because it is applicable to basically every country out there, haha. Even Malaysia KL's Petaling Street carry the same warning, same for night markets of Phnom Penh, and maybe even parts of NYC & London!

There are rough parts of town in every city out there, and the warnings can be cut and pasted for all of these cities - that's how generic they are. And that's what I responded on, not sure why it can become such a trigger, haha.

 

My own perception based on travel is that the more advanced European cities (Scandinavian, Netherlands etc) tend to be safer than others. IMHO, they are the safest out of the whole world to travel to. 

But hey, why trust my word? I am not your limpeh, dearly departed LKY.  Trust these statistics instead - conducted by Mercer, they do the yearly Quality of Living Ranking, of which Personal Safety is a major criteria.  https://mobilityexchange.mercer.com/Insights/article/Infographic-City-Personal-Safety-Ranking Amsterdam is in the top 15, amongst Austria, Switzerland, Denmark, Germany & Canada. 

Once again, nothing personal.
That said, thank you for going through all the trouble of searching, relinking & uploading such a cute gif just for me.

I am so honoured! hahahah.