How does anyone determine their role in bed ? - Are You Top, Btm Or Flexi? Which Role Should I Be? (Compiled)

[Guest Groupie]

actually, what is more pleasurable is gangbang. either the only bottom, or part of the gang. :thumb:

Yeh, love group fun........any kang tow? :twisted:

[Guest Guest]

Yeh, love group fun........any kang tow? :twisted:

it's very difficult to organize anything here. you never know what you get (no offence), so i m not going to even try. aiya, next time at a party, stay till the end and i am sure u can get some groupie action... or go to a sauna... at least u know who's fu.cking u/you are fu.cking

[sianned]

Has anyone tried getting 2 versatile... one fxxks the other then halfway change roles? Sounds kinda kinky! That way both equally get the same amount of pleasure... (Thats of course they enjoy both roles equally!)

But I think if one has cummed, then its going to be tough...

Usually when me and my bf take turns, the one topping first will cum first before he bottoms.

[chub btm]

not too sure, i usually don't give out feedback forms at the end of it :whistle: (heheh, sorry for the "miaow" moment)

actually, most people are nice and will indulge you so long as they are having fun too, i guess. i am also pretty nice and obliging to my tops. apart from weird noises, i lick, suck, swallow (in big gulps), u name it.

when top, I find most of my bottoms like a bit (and in some cases, a lot) of humiliation and like to be almost suffocating with cock and ass (actually i am like that too : )). mouth fxxking, face squatting, butt slapping, multiple fingers in a-hole seems to turn my bottoms very on. i have one who liked to curl up in a sitting fetal position in the bath for a golden shower aimed at the mouth and face :thumb: as a top, i find such "dirty?" (for want of a better word) bottoms best and will dish out as good as i get. if the bottom just want a normal fu.ck, i would honestly prefer to fu.ck girls.

yeah, being a "dirty" bottom is the best sexual role : 0

i'm abit like u.. hahaha... its ok to humiliate abit and let the top be dominating... i like to see him feel satisfied.

also like golden shower.. maybe i'm ''dirty'' btm loh. :whistle:

[Honeyboy]

Top only

[raymond]

me and my bf would rotate.. Some days, he will top me and other days, I will bottom for him... Kind of automatic, normally we will talk dirty (just like in pxxn) because we find it stimulating....kekekeke.. Usually whoever top will come first...because after the bottom come...no mood alredi...

[Guest BedokBi]

i am bi, and flex (best of all world!)

Hi I am same as u. How u manage to kep it frm ur gf? Gals always like to check on ur pc. Anyway, it's great to be flex cause there are days that I just feel tired from always topping someone. Long to lie down there and be serviced.

[saint80]

Has anyone tried getting 2 versatile... one fxxks the other then halfway change roles? Sounds kinda kinky! That way both equally get the same amount of pleasure... (Thats of course they enjoy both roles equally!)

But I think if one has cummed, then its going to be tough...

tat be nice. 2 flex fxxking n be fxxk. nice

[Guest Guest]

Hi I am same as u. How u manage to kep it frm ur gf? Gals always like to check on ur pc. Anyway, it's great to be flex cause there are days that I just feel tired from always topping someone. Long to lie down there and be serviced.

i always set the boundaries early on, and i don't take nonsense. it's a bit like dog training; don't let them develop the habit early on, and things will be fine. it helps that i am bi and flex (and so am not held hostage to withdrawal of sexual favours), and am always ready to walk away. that gives me the unspoken balance of power in all relationships : ) a lot of girls say i m "different" from other guys they know (whatever they mean by that) : )

it helps to choose your girls (and guys) carefully as well. the girls i go out with are not the sneaky, stoopy kind; and the guys i do are almost always discreet proper people.

[Guest Guest]

me and my bf would rotate.. Some days, he will top me and other days, I will bottom for him... Kind of automatic, normally we will talk dirty (just like in pxxn) because we find it stimulating....kekekeke.. Usually whoever top will come first...because after the bottom come...no mood alredi...

I just remembered once taking turns several times through the whole night, but with the help of half a the blue pill : ) at first for each round, we would take turn being top or bottom, i think he topped twice, i topped once, then the final round (which i was supposed to be top), we are still hard but nothing would come out, so we took turn being top and bottom within the same session (i think 3 or 4 switches amidst countless positions!). it was quite awesome, but only because of the pill, as there's no need to restart anything. the round ended with both of us kinda sore, tired, sleepy, and somewhat bored after a VERY long time also helped that we were uncapped, which makes a big difference. other than that, i stand by my point that it is too much a hassle to keep changing.

[Guest BedokBi]

i always set the boundaries early on, and i don't take nonsense. it's a bit like dog training; don't let them develop the habit early on, and things will be fine. it helps that i am bi and flex (and so am not held hostage to withdrawal of sexual favours), and am always ready to walk away. that gives me the unspoken balance of power in all relationships : ) a lot of girls say i m "different" from other guys they know (whatever they mean by that) : )

it helps to choose your girls (and guys) carefully as well. the girls i go out with are not the sneaky, stoopy kind; and the guys i do are almost always discreet proper people.

Wow. U sound good at making your gf behave. You wanna chat in private?

[Guest Guest]

i m confused

should i be top or bottom?

i hav been top all these while

try bottom few times before

but stil confused which i should go for?

[Guest - Dont Be Confused -]

You do not have to be confused and choose which role you play exclusively. You can do both just as long as both you and your partner(s) are enjoying it. And pls ensure that you practise safely. Cheers!

[Lungker]

Why must be strictly top or bottom?

Can also be versatile what.

I tried to find a post I made many years ago about what "roles" that gay men in Singapore claimed they are, but in reality what they truly are, but I can't find it.

Basically what I had written back then, from my YEARS of experience is :

1) When someone claimed they are truly top - they had actually been fxxked a couple of times before

2) When they claimed they are top - they are usually versatile. Trust me on this one.

3) When they claimed they are versatile - they are actually bottom nearly all the time

4) When they said they are bottom - they are actually insatiable bottoms and honest about it.

So, I think you should just forget about roles and be sexually happy doing whatever you enjoy doing with the right partner.

Cheers.

[Guest Guest]

i m quite a good top from wat my fbs have told me

but i feel good to be bottom

the only things i afraid to be bottom is tat i afraid of addicted to it and become a slut tat keep seeking ppl to fxxk me and ppl may say sth bad like 'a muscular manly guy but jus another loose hole slut tat beg to get fxxked'

i thinks thats very wrong and irritating

also bottom seem like of lower class in our cycle

[Guest CuriousHunk]

also bottom seem like of lower class in our cycle

Eh Hello!!! Since when is being bottom considered low-class?? Sex is about need ,pleasure, respect and satisfaction. Whoever enjoys whichever role is enjoying sex to the fullest! You can enjoy being bottom anytime you want and no one asked you to sleep around like a whore begging for multiple fxxks and end up being bitched. Life is short.... you are thinking too much into what others think. Just enjoy the best of both worlds. Sex is about making each other happy, satisfying one's sexual need. There are many manly looking guys out there playing the bottom role and it's a real turn on for me.

[Guest the honest truth]

Eh Hello!!! Since when is being bottom considered low-class?? Sex is about need ,pleasure, respect and satisfaction. Whoever enjoys whichever role is enjoying sex to the fullest! You can enjoy being bottom anytime you want and no one asked you to sleep around like a whore begging for multiple fxxks and end up being bitched. Life is short.... you are thinking too much into what others think. Just enjoy the best of both worlds. Sex is about making each other happy, satisfying one's sexual need. There are many manly looking guys out there playing the bottom role and it's a real turn on for me.

Well said darling, in our local small circle of gays ,this top or bottom classification irritates a lot people of overseas bearing, sex is a about enjoyment and sharing and pleasure shared is pleasure multiplied xxxx times.

People here are too uptight because of our upbringing and social pressures that xyz time and effort onvested must get pqr amount of cum and abc inches of cock meat returned .

We can't get into our pragmatic skulls that sexual pleasure has a spiritual dimension , that we are connecting with the soul of another person when we go naked and surrender our bodies together for pleasure.

There is a deeper dimension to sex and it is up to to slowly let go and enjoy it to the fullest.

I find that a lot of people from out of Singapore knows this unconsciously and practice it in the pursuit of sexual pleasure.

First , it starts with how you treat and speak to your fellow gay humans in the sauna and internet,

develop your inner soul and look to the inner voice.

then move to the next stage.

[thorzguy]

Being a top or bottom, is entirely up to one's preference. Nothing right or wrong about. Most importantly one is able to relate his own preference.

Nothing to do with being slut or whore or anything. Unless it's one fetish to be addressed in that manner, i really don't see why one will not treat the other with due respect. If FBs or partner are not able to command the basic form of respect, then probably it's time to move on.

End of the day, it's about enjoyable for both and always play safe.

[snowball]

Guest, dont need to label yourself, if you enjoy getting fxck, just go for it, do not need to feel shy & hidding your needs in bed,

be what you are, enjoy the sex and open out yourself, that's most imporant, else you will lost a lot of fun, follow the flow,

maybe surprises waiting for you to discover?

just tell people you are flexi or top flexi, you able to enjoy both ways, you should feel happy & proud, remember that as long you enjoy sex with your buddy, as long is a good sex, what else you need?

don't think too much, don't need to be stress, honest to yourself & let your body do the rest for you.

[GachiMuchi]

i m quite a good top from wat my fbs have told me

but i feel good to be bottom

the only things i afraid to be bottom is tat i afraid of addicted to it and become a slut tat keep seeking ppl to fxxk me and ppl may say sth bad like 'a muscular manly guy but jus another loose hole slut tat beg to get fxxked'

i thinks thats very wrong and irritating

also bottom seem like of lower class in our cycle

You sounded like a closet bottom waiting to cum out.

Your remark/view about bottom being low class is really Salah(wrong). If your fbs knows that you feel that way about them, I think they will slap your face.

What kind of top who enjoys good sex with his bottom partner and thinks that his partner is lower class than him?

Without a bottom, what can you do with your hard dick?

Always remember that it take two to have good sex and you need to respect the partner/s that you are with otherwise you are just another dick-head.

Earlier comment about respecting bottom partners : http://www.blowingwind.org/forum/index.php?showtopic=17617&st=0&p=161529entry161529 ( Btm Closes Eyes When Taken Face To Face)

[Guest swimblue]

You sounded like a closet bottom waiting to cum out.

Your remark/view about bottom being low class is really Salah(wrong). If your fbs knows that you feel that way about them, I think they will slap your face.

What kind of top who enjoys good sex with his bottom partner and thinks that his partner is lower class than him?

Without a bottom, what can you do with your hard dick?

Always remember that it take two to have good sex and you need to respect the partner/s that you are with otherwise you are just another dick-head.

Earlier comment about respecting bottom partners : http://www.blowingwind.org/forum/index.php?showtopic=17617&st=0&p=161529entry161529 ( Btm Closes Eyes When Taken Face To Face)

GachiMuchi: well said. U r such a sensable top..hehe.

[fab]

It doesnt matter if one's behaviour is whorey or slutty etc as long as this is done in the privacy of one's room.

[Guest very wrong]

also bottom seem like of lower class in our cycle

This statement is as wrong as saying that gays are lower class than straights and

women are lower class than men! :swear:

Time to wake up for those who thought so.

[Guest Does-it-matter?]

Does it really matter been top/btm?

I just fxxked a guy who was much taller and bigger size than me; I initially thought that he was a top, but ended up I was the one fxxking him in all positions possible...

[MisterPotter]

i m quite a good top from wat my fbs have told me

but i feel good to be bottom

the only things i afraid to be bottom is tat i afraid of addicted to it and become a slut tat keep seeking ppl to fxxk me and ppl may say sth bad like 'a muscular manly guy but jus another loose hole slut tat beg to get fxxked'

i thinks thats very wrong and irritating

also bottom seem like of lower class in our cycle

Hi Guest, I think you have pretty much sums up what I have in mind til date. I have the same fear as you actually, maybe it is one of the main reason why I never want to try receiving through the back door.

More irritating is when most ppl think the role of a bottom is just as a receiver while top is the one who's doing all the hard work. I think it's not right. Anyway, I'm settling with non-anal for now. I'll wait until I'm ready.

[Guest Guest]

Does it really matter been top/btm?

I just fxxked a guy who was much taller and bigger size than me; I initially thought that he was a top, but ended up I was the one fxxking him in all positions possible...

If it does not matter, why are you "crowing" about it here?

[Guest surelyugessian]

i am usually top.

but i have had experienced being screwed (at different times by 4 different men) until cum wildly all over the place.

the feeling is so shiok.

but lately i haven't found many ah pek that can bring me to that same level....

if you haven't tried being fxxked, then your gay life has been a waste of time.

here's a chinese story

不做0，枉做GAY！

My link

[Guest Guest]

u guys always said there is nothing wrong abt being bottom and no need to feel shy abt it, but ur inner mind really thinking tat way?

how come i stil met alot pure top guys tat keeping persuading me to be bttm and while i try to do the same things to them, they wil say they dun like to be bottom

for me, alot of above ppl are jus talking rubbish and i pretty sure alot of u thinks tat bottom is of lower status even though u guys trying to deny it.

i noe some sissy guys(pure top) like to top those manly hunky guys as it make them feel superior since they able to fxxk a suppose-to-be manly guy. so bottom means sth bad

for me, even i treasure my bottom bf but i never be them

it jus like husband and wife.

husband wil say like 'i love my wife' but if asking them so will u be shifting role with ur wife. i pretty sure they wont becos guy being feminine is shameful.

getting fxxked means ur are girl and u like to be conquered and its a act of feminine and should be ashamed of as a man

if u guys thinks its not shameful being bttm, how come they arent gays putting on labels and telling ppl around them tat they like to suck cock and wil do anything jus to get a big cock in their ass hole?

[chubaholic]

Why must be strictly top or bottom?

Can also be versatile what.

I tried to find a post I made many years ago about what "roles" that gay men in Singapore claimed they are, but in reality what they truly are, but I can't find it.

Basically what I had written back then, from my YEARS of experience is :

1) When someone claimed they are truly top - they had actually been fxxked a couple of times before

2) When they claimed they are top - they are usually versatile. Trust me on this one.

3) When they claimed they are versatile - they are actually bottom nearly all the time

4) When they said they are bottom - they are actually insatiable bottoms and honest about it.

So, I think you should just forget about roles and be sexually happy doing whatever you enjoy doing with the right partner.

Cheers.

So from your experience, what would a 100% top say?

[chubaholic]

I always say blessed is the one who can taste the fruit from the best of both worlds.

[GachiMuchi]

Do Not hijack the poster's topic and make it your topic.

Your post have been moved to http://www.blowingwind.org/forum/index.php?showtopic=18229&st=0

[Guest bottom]

i support BOTTOM!!!

[Guest alien]

Aiya, if u r enjoyed during sex, does it really matter whether u r top or btm?

[Guest guest]

Aiya, if u r enjoyed during sex, does it really matter whether u r top or btm?

totally agree !! poke or being poke.. so fun!!!

[Guest Guest]

aiyo ah, this kind of thing also must ask people. try both ways and then u decide lor. or toss a coin - head = top, tail = btm. so simple ...

dun ask this type of silly question again. only if you get pregnant then write and ask here all the Aunty Agony what to do.

[MisterPotter]

I always say blessed is the one who can taste the fruit from the best of both worlds.

I like what you said.

[Guest Ironrod]

This is a really weird topic.

As a top, I have being fxxk a few times but i really dislike it maybe because I hate the shitting feeling.

So basically, being top and Bottom should be what u enjoy.

If a person laugh @ you being a btm ~ you want to befriend such narrow minded bastard?

Unless the person is dirty talking....some PEOPLE likes call whomever they fxxking sluts and whore that can be u know......fantasy......just like some ppl I know likes to be a sex toy.

so throw away the external factors and ask yourself what you want in life.

And if you don't like the top, u can fart on his face and don't let him fxxk lor

Btm sometimes do have more power then the top you know.

[Guest guest]

I think it is preference. Some top might have tried btming before and don't like it while some top dont want it due ot "the mind issue" because like wat some mentioned before they think btming is 2nd class or women. I don't think so. If all think like that, where can they find btm to bottomed, right? So if you befriend someone who look down on btm (especially those fxxk and tell type), then don't give in to him lor?? Make them desperate.

Most time I don't like to btm because i can't relax and leads to bleeding so I don't do it. I have an understand Bf so he accepted it. However, on any day that i feel good and comfortable, I would play the btm roll because i believed it is one of factor that will help relationship last. we called it give and take .

[abang]

Just enjoy sex... who cares which role to play..

Confession time..

On Monday I had the best fxxk for quite some time at Shogun.

It was the final day at the Hong Kong street location and it was virtually empty.

However with less choices, the chance of luring someone was easier.

I was able to find someone willing to take my prick and in return, he gave me a wonderful time screwing me twice. And yes,we did it in the tv room with a small audience.

See, enjoy sex and not to waste your time worrying about silly stereotypes... and if your so-called friends start to call you names, ignore them.

[Chua Tian Xiang]

i prefer to be the one in bottom kenna screwed at

[Guest Guest]

i m quite a good top from wat my fbs have told me

but i feel good to be bottom

the only things i afraid to be bottom is tat i afraid of addicted to it and become a slut tat keep seeking ppl to fxxk me and ppl may say sth bad like 'a muscular manly guy but jus another loose hole slut tat beg to get fxxked'

i thinks thats very wrong and irritating

also bottom seem like of lower class in our cycle

It is true that you can get addicted to being fxxked. It is similar to cigarette smoking. If you haven't tried, it is difficult to understand why people like the vile smoke. But try it a few times and if you get addicted, you are always dying to get a smoke. In spite of what the doctors say about your health or showing gross pictures, you still want it.

In this case the "smoke stick" belongs to another man and you need to beg to use it at great costs to your manhood pride. In spite of what the tops say or the gross things they do to you during fxxking you, you still want it.

But not all who try become smokers and so not all tried being analed like it because some guy's erogenous zone is not inside there. But those how are get addicted quickly. So better not try at all if you are afraid. Anal sex is not for the faint hearted. It really is about male and female roles that primitive sex is all about.

As is the usual gay hypocrisy and behavior ,some people here say bottoms are not lower class. But you only need to listen to a group of gays or even str8 gossip, you hear snide remarks about manly bottoms being bend over and taken like women. But in here they deny it.

[GachiMuchi]

Guest, posting your post 4 times don't make your point stronger.

Ok, YOU are a low class bottom. I hope you are happy with that answer, now move on and stop hijacking the post.

[Guest guest 2]

Im curious.

Are you relating heresay or your personal experience?

What in your experience are the things that were said to you and the gross things that were done to you?

In this case the "smoke stick" belongs to another man and you need to beg to use it at great costs to your manhood pride. In spite of what the tops say or the gross things they do to you during fxxking you, you still want it.

As is the usual gay hypocrisy and behavior ,some people here say bottoms are not lower class. But you only need to listen to a group of gays or even str8 gossip, you hear snide remarks about manly bottoms being bend over and taken like women. But in here they deny it.

[Guest Guest]

Im curious.

Are you relating heresay or your personal experience?

What in your experience are the things that were said to you and the gross things that were done to you?

one bottom + 3 tops = gang bang= 淫溅

one top + 3 bottoms = king's harem = 风流

nuff said

[thaiboyz]

HAHA There is nothing wrong to be a bottom lah. If there is no bottom, how could the tops be

happy and satisfied. I respect my bottoms more than those so-called pure tops who are selfish

and even dun know to do proper foreplay to his bottoms ready

[Sticky&Sweet]

I pity Guest who keeps posting that being btm is akin to a slut and is low class etc etc. Guest, YOU have a lot of issues you need to get out of your system I'm afraid. Either that, or you have really lousy friends and acquaintance who poison you with stupid thoughts.

[Guest KL]

I am a late starter into this circle n hv been top all these while. I'm very curious how it is like being a btm so I decided to give it a try... My virgin fxxk last month. But I really can't take it n don't like it at all... It's so painful and in fact my ass bleed...it's not because the guy fxxcking me is inexperienced but think I'm just too tense up...also I don't like the feeling of shitting experience...

Having experienced being fxxked, I kinda admire the btms n the pain they may hv to go thru especially if the top has big tool!

So to me it's not about pride or whatsoever... I agree that it's what u like and enjoy doing...

May be one day I will give it another try to get annaled by a smaller dick as compared the the initial one which that's why I can't tahan!!!

[SKMan]

I am a late starter into this circle n hv been top all these while. I'm very curious how it is like being a btm so I decided to give it a try... My virgin fxxk last month. But I really can't take it n don't like it at all... It's so painful and in fact my ass bleed...it's not because the guy fxxcking me is inexperienced but think I'm just too tense up...also I don't like the feeling of shitting experience...

Having experienced being fxxked, I kinda admire the btms n the pain they may hv to go thru especially if the top has big tool!

So to me it's not about pride or whatsoever... I agree that it's what u like and enjoy doing...

May be one day I will give it another try to get annaled by a smaller dick as compared the the initial one which that's why I can't tahan!!!

i dun really think any first timer will enjoy it. it is after a few times and he gets used to it and the abrasion causing the itch that will make the btm want it more.

my 2 cent worth

[Guest Milkycow]

Enjoy the process... Take what comes naturally... There's nothing right or wrong... Personally I prefer both... My partner is a top... But sometimes he let me top him... If can't decide... Flex.. That's the answer!!!! Am I right???

Just another worthless thought of mine

cheers

[wadasher]

Shit! i dont know if gay life is so freaking complicated!! haha