Is Anal / Oral Sex A Must? Is Sex Important In A R/ship? + R/ship Without Sex Possible? (compiled)

[yoyo74]

9 hours ago, Ironrod said:

 

Lol then be happy attached without anal or sex loh. I am not here to convince anybody or expect to win anything. I am just giving my point of view and my experienced, so that readers will not be mislead. Just to correct you, even animal do anal sex - it's instinctive and especially males have prostate - anal sex is even more pleasurable done correctly. Please don't mislead others by making anal sex sounds like a crime btw my opening statement is "Sex" - i did not specifically says "anal sex".

I think you have see wrongly as my first post here is specifically talking about anal sex. Your post may mislead others that anal sex is a must while my post clearly state that anal sex is not necessary. My main point is those who think anal sex is a must for their relationship will fail sooner or later. I have even quoted examples of people going old and unable to have anal sex. To add on more example if somebody dislike your love one and cut off his private part. To break off due to bf/partner cant do anal sex any more are people who dont know how to love and dont deserve to be loved. Simple as that. And also to correct you, anal sex is not instinctive as i never self learn and dont know such actions until i saw it in porn.

Edited July 15, 2020 by yoyo74

[Guest Bbtmm]

13 minutes ago, yoyo74 said:

I think you have see wrongly as my first post here is specifically talking about anal sex. Your post may mislead others that anal sex is a must while my post clearly state that anal sex is not necessary. My main point is those who think anal sex is a must for their relationship will fail sooner or later. I have even quoted examples of people going old and unable to have anal sex. To add on more example if somebody dislike your love one and cut off his private part. To break off due to bf/partner cant do anal sex any more are people who dont know how to love and dont deserve to be loved. Simple as that.

That's like saying eunuchs can also marry. Sure they can but is it common or even the same kind of intimacy of sexually fulfilled marriage.

 

That's why common marriage can be annulled if it's not consummated. Sure there are couples staying in love without consummation, but no matter how they use romantic idealism to say love is beyond sex, those who tasted sex knew it's power that binds two bodies physically.

You need both. Nature is not romantic idealism giving you sexual pleasures for nothing.

 

Plenty more people divorce because of inadequate sex than you think is necessary. 

Anal sex is not important to you since you're the gay equivalent of eunuch and you don't understand all the fuss. But for the majority of us, it's a must. If it's not important to you, then you'll not be bothered seeing your bf being screwed in an orgy. 

[yoyo74]

5 minutes ago, Guest Bbtmm said:

That's like saying eunuchs can also marry. Sure they can but is it common or even the same kind of intimacy of sexually fulfilled marriage.

 

That's why common marriage can be annulled if it's not consummated. Sure there are couples staying in love without consummation, but no matter how they use romantic idealism to say love is beyond sex, those who tasted sex knew it's power that binds two bodies physically.

You need both. Nature is not romantic idealism giving you sexual pleasures for nothing.

 

Plenty more people divorce because of inadequate sex than you think is necessary. 

Anal sex is not important to you since you're the gay equivalent of eunuch and you don't understand all the fuss. But for the majority of us, it's a must. If it's not important to you, then you'll not be bothered seeing your bf being screwed in an orgy. 

In olden china when there are eunuch. They are still allow to marry girls that they love as can be seen from our tv drama series. Those who taste anal sex might have a craving for more and want more anal sex. They have several choice to make going for mono or open relationship. But the point is are bot able to continue to love the top even if their private part suddenly cant function anymore? One thing you are correct is that i am not bothered when the person i love is having fun with others or not. I am a person without jealousy any more probably train from my love to a straight friend once. I will even encourage the one i like or love to have some fun if they want but will also remind them safety first. They can also follow my style of having fun without the sex part. My way is to ensure no HIV can be transfer to my body and hope the people i love know how to self protect as well. True love is to let love ones be happy no matter if they choose to live with you or others.

[upshot]

12 hours ago, Guest Bbtmm said:

Anal sex is not important to you since you're the gay equivalent of eunuch and you don't understand all the fuss.

 

I beg to disagree there. Being Str8 is nature. Being Gay is too. But being an EUNUCH is not. Being a Eunuch is a political motivated or at least cultural state of preventative action. FORCED upon you for reasons of ultimate control and safe guarding to the one you serve.

 

If you are tasked with the servitude to your master's(or king) and his harem of females in the inner chambers where they reside, how can he be sure YOU are not tempted, seduced or be inclined to sleep with one of them? What stops sex motivation more effectively than to have your genital removed?

 

Eunuchs are not gay or sissy as per say (like you see in some Chinese period movie) if you read real history on them in countries they existed. It was the price you pay voluntary or not, for taking on a position of 'trust' as slaves servants or high official positions aelike to ensure all his females cohorts are only for his own fucking pleasure and not yours. You need to know what the real fuss is about and know how to differentiate between gay and eunuch before you even talk about why anal sex is a must or not for relationships to work.

[cityhallguy]

To people who agreed that anal sex is a must in a relationship. Have you ever thought of one day your partner who has been together with you for 10years,

• has low testosterone and leads him to have low sex drive
• or due to health conditions and leads to have low sex drive
• or just not into sex anymore

what would you do? 
Your answer shouldn’t be still holding on this relationship and stay together because you said anal sex is a must in a relationship.

If your answer is still holding on this relationship and stay together then you are too rush to conclude that anal sex is a must in a relationship. 
 

My partner and I nowadays have no anal sex or much sex activities. We still have minimum physical intimacy (kissing, hugging, cuddling, etc) , we enjoy each other company from stupid arguments to stupid romance activities. For me I get so comfy with my partner that I wouldn’t dare or want to move out of this relationship as I don’t want to go through the whole searching/dating process to find a new partner/bf, as time goes fast. I just need a partner/bf who knows me well enough and comfy with each other. Anal sex if I need or he needs, we can just go sauna or online hookup easily as is just our short term sexual needs to release, safe sex is always practice and we still do our regular HIV and STI test. Also do remind you, you still need to go for HIV test and STI test at least twice a year even if you have a regular sex partner. We can also survive with JO and we don’t find it odd because we have built a strong trust and faith in each other. We both knows we are imperfect and have flaws, and the more time you spend together the more you let go of some strong principles you been keeping on, because you don’t want to lose this partner for your stupidity. So maybe to people who state that anal sex is a must in a relationship, should sometimes think what is kind of relationship they really after. My relationship with my partner is not perfect but we both happy to have each other and we wouldn’t complain for more. Of course, there are also lucky gay couples who continue to have sex together at all times throughout the relationship. 

[cutejack]

1 hour ago, cityhallguy said:

To people who agreed that anal sex is a must in a relationship. Have you ever thought of one day your partner who has been together with you for 10years,

• has low testosterone and leads him to have low sex drive
• or due to health conditions and leads to have low sex drive
• or just not into sex anymore

what would you do? 
Your answer shouldn’t be still holding on this relationship and stay together because you said anal sex is a must in a relationship.

If your answer is still holding on this relationship and stay together then you are too rush to conclude that anal sex is a must in a relationship. 
 

My partner and I nowadays have no anal sex or much sex activities. We still have minimum physical intimacy (kissing, hugging, cuddling, etc) , we enjoy each other company from stupid arguments to stupid romance activities. For me I get so comfy with my partner that I wouldn’t dare or want to move out of this relationship as I don’t want to go through the whole searching/dating process to find a new partner/bf, as time goes fast. I just need a partner/bf who knows me well enough and comfy with each other. Anal sex if I need or he needs, we can just go sauna or online hookup easily as is just our short term sexual needs to release, safe sex is always practice and we still do our regular HIV and STI test. Also do remind you, you still need to go for HIV test and STI test at least twice a year even if you have a regular sex partner. We can also survive with JO and we don’t find it odd because we have built a strong trust and faith in each other. We both knows we are imperfect and have flaws, and the more time you spend together the more you let go of some strong principles you been keeping on, because you don’t want to lose this partner for your stupidity. So maybe to people who state that anal sex is a must in a relationship, should sometimes think what is kind of relationship they really after. My relationship with my partner is not perfect but we both happy to have each other and we wouldn’t complain for more. Of course, there are also lucky gay couples who continue to have sex together at all times throughout the relationship. 

Y have sex outside when u have a bf? Sounds not right.  

[Guest Nonbody]

On 7/17/2020 at 7:55 PM, cityhallguy said:

To people who agreed that anal sex is a must in a relationship. Have you ever thought of one day your partner who has been together with you for 10years,

• has low testosterone and leads him to have low sex drive
• or due to health conditions and leads to have low sex drive
• or just not into sex anymore

what would you do? 
Your answer shouldn’t be still holding on this relationship and stay together because you said anal sex is a must in a relationship.

If your answer is still holding on this relationship and stay together then you are too rush to conclude that anal sex is a must in a relationship. 
 

My partner and I nowadays have no anal sex or much sex activities. We still have minimum physical intimacy (kissing, hugging, cuddling, etc) , we enjoy each other company from stupid arguments to stupid romance activities. For me I get so comfy with my partner that I wouldn’t dare or want to move out of this relationship as I don’t want to go through the whole searching/dating process to find a new partner/bf, as time goes fast. I just need a partner/bf who knows me well enough and comfy with each other. Anal sex if I need or he needs, we can just go sauna or online hookup easily as is just our short term sexual needs to release, safe sex is always practice and we still do our regular HIV and STI test. Also do remind you, you still need to go for HIV test and STI test at least twice a year even if you have a regular sex partner. We can also survive with JO and we don’t find it odd because we have built a strong trust and faith in each other. We both knows we are imperfect and have flaws, and the more time you spend together the more you let go of some strong principles you been keeping on, because you don’t want to lose this partner for your stupidity. So maybe to people who state that anal sex is a must in a relationship, should sometimes think what is kind of relationship they really after. My relationship with my partner is not perfect but we both happy to have each other and we wouldn’t complain for more. Of course, there are also lucky gay couples who continue to have sex together at all times throughout the relationship. 

Of course if you're getting old then sex is no more a priority bc of age. 

It's natural, even for straight couples.

But if you still have it, anal sex is the most intimate moments between 2 humans.

 

That's something that reminds you of your intimate moments together that's so intense. Then the lost of it will not be regretted.

It's your choice of course. But if your platonic relationship the norm ? We don't think so. 

 

If you are still functionally able to but you reject anal sex as being dirty, then you will miss it in your later years. But if your partner wants it then he will be looking for it outside. 

 

[Guest Nonbody]

On 7/16/2020 at 2:19 PM, upshot said:

 

I beg to disagree there. Being Str8 is nature. Being Gay is too. But being an EUNUCH is not. Being a Eunuch is a political motivated or at least cultural state of preventative action. FORCED upon you for reasons of ultimate control and safe guarding to the one you serve.

 

If you are tasked with the servitude to your master's(or king) and his harem of females in the inner chambers where they reside, how can he be sure YOU are not tempted, seduced or be inclined to sleep with one of them? What stops sex motivation more effectively than to have your genital removed?

 

Eunuchs are not gay or sissy as per say (like you see in some Chinese period movie) if you read real history on them in countries they existed. It was the price you pay voluntary or not, for taking on a position of 'trust' as slaves servants or high official positions aelike to ensure all his females cohorts are only for his own fucking pleasure and not yours. You need to know what the real fuss is about and know how to differentiate between gay and eunuch before you even talk about why anal sex is a must or not for relationships to work.

You should learn to keep things short and to the point instead of babbling like my grandmother.

[Guest Nonbody]

On 7/16/2020 at 2:01 AM, yoyo74 said:

In olden china when there are eunuch. They are still allow to marry girls that they love as can be seen from our tv drama series. Those who taste anal sex might have a craving for more and want more anal sex. They have several choice to make going for mono or open relationship. But the point is are bot able to continue to love the top even if their private part suddenly cant function anymore? One thing you are correct is that i am not bothered when the person i love is having fun with others or not. I am a person without jealousy any more probably train from my love to a straight friend once. I will even encourage the one i like or love to have some fun if they want but will also remind them safety first. They can also follow my style of having fun without the sex part. My way is to ensure no HIV can be transfer to my body and hope the people i love know how to self protect as well. True love is to let love ones be happy no matter if they choose to live with you or others.

Do you know why it's considered tragic for a girl to marry a eunuch?

Do you know what it means to 守生寡, be a lifetime widow？

 

If you're looking for someone who is like you who forgo anal sex, good luck then. But if your partner wants anal sex and you think it's dirty even when you're able to, then he'll be 守生寡, be a lifetime widow/er.

 

Wow, you are truly stone cold emotionally frigid as well sexually if you are not the jealous type. You are the saintly type that's beyond normal human. Few people think you're worth the trouble since you don't even value them enough to be even be slightest jealous. You would prefer to sleep with your own saintly virginity alone at night instead.

[cutejack]

Ya. I see upshot reply ,I quickly press backarrow.long n head spinning la.sorry but aged guy here not into compo.lol

[upshot]

18 hours ago, Guest Nonbody said:

You should learn to keep things short and to the point instead of babbling like my grandmother.

Sure. It was being short but as you see shallow people can not decode what I mean if I do not write longer with CONTEXT but people like you will have to take it for what it is. I will leave it to you... to do the deed then. Offer some logical solution and stop the nitpicking.. I am what I am and people know that I am not perfect and maybe I was wrong or get cranky., I am human.. lets see your do better instead of add more fuel to the flame. Proof me wrong.. offer something weighted here... And use your registered nick if you dare.

Edited July 21, 2020 by upshot

[yoyo74]

On 7/21/2020 at 2:35 AM, Guest Nonbody said:

Do you know why it's considered tragic for a girl to marry a eunuch?

Do you know what it means to 守生寡, be a lifetime widow？

 

If you're looking for someone who is like you who forgo anal sex, good luck then. But if your partner wants anal sex and you think it's dirty even when you're able to, then he'll be 守生寡, be a lifetime widow/er.

 

Wow, you are truly stone cold emotionally frigid as well sexually if you are not the jealous type. You are the saintly type that's beyond normal human. Few people think you're worth the trouble since you don't even value them enough to be even be slightest jealous. You would prefer to sleep with your own saintly virginity alone at night instead.

You are stereotyping when you think its tragic for a girl to marry a eunuch. When a girl marry a eunuch due to loving each other its not tragic at all. This stereotyping of yours is similar to how homophobic people think us gays will not come to a good end in our guy to guy relationship. If you dont want others to have this kind of stereotype thinking against you than you should forgo this kind of unhealthy mindset too. As for the jealous part, i dont think the value of true love is a measurement of how jealous a person is. The real value of a true love is how you would want a person to be happy, how you would prevent him from getting into trouble, how you would stand up for him. Even if the person choose to live with others instead of you, you will still support his decision and that is the real true love.

[FattChoy]

On 12/14/2005 at 10:10 AM, virgoan57 said:

Hi all,

Just curious, I wunder if every session has to have anal sex? Is there any who does not enjoy anal sex but enjoy companionships, huggings, non-anal sex?

Care to share or comment.

cheers

http://www.blowingwind.org/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/ph34r.gif

Was chatting with a friend updating me about his bear bear bf.  He said, "That guy useless one.  Won't even be naked in front of me.  Come out of shower already wearing underwear.  Only want to hug and kiss me in bed, nothing else.  I quickly kick him out of my life".

[Zealouslogue]

2 hours ago, FattChoy said:

Was chatting with a friend updating me about his bear bear bf.  He said, "That guy useless one.  Won't even be naked in front of me.  Come out of shower already wearing underwear.  Only want to hug and kiss me in bed, nothing else.  I quickly kick him out of my life".

Your friend is a lame and shitty person, just like you! 🤬

[will7z]

how are so many straight couples able to have sex in their life long relationship without committing adultery but our gays need to seek open relationship outside after a certain number of years together?  Always believe sex is one of the most important bonding between a couple which share the most intimate passions together. 

 

are those open relationship couples able to really separate their sex and love so clear cut? or are they just compromising with each other because they find the shortcut to stay in their own comfort zone. 

[upshot]

10 hours ago, will7z said:

how are so many straight couples able to have sex in their life long relationship without committing adultery but our gays need to seek open relationship outside after a certain number of years together?  Always believe sex is one of the most important bonding between a couple which share the most intimate passions together. 

 

are those open relationship couples able to really separate their sex and love so clear cut? or are they just compromising with each other because they find the shortcut to stay in their own comfort zone. 

Okay sleepless night heh... so let me just rant.

 

I think the first thing you need to come to terms with is a str8 couple relationship and it's human biological dynamic is NOT the same as a Gay or any other form of 'couple-ship' that deviates from conventional human existence as dictated by evolutionary biology. There are research and studies on this that will tell you why, there will ALWAYS be more str8 around then other forms that does not ALLOW procreation. This is not a man-made notion or something some friction GOD or Religion made up. A lot of attributes and things you find that works out with str8 couple is a form of nurture and coordination to make procreation so successful for us as human over other creature.

 

Once you understand that and then you look at your gay situation you are troubled by, you know why it is so hard to be like str8 couple and why you can never be like them 100% and why I have always found it strange why the hell so many gay are trying too hard to MIMIC every things a female wants (for a Btm) and what a male should so(for a Top)  Too many are caught up with all the Hallmark Card nonsense thinking. We are still biologically  males...regardless of whoever fucks who in the ass. A COIN WITH TWO SAME KIND OF SIDES. It does not compliment to make anything long term.

 

The couple dynamism is not programmed to work 'naturally' with the same attributes mashing up as it goes against long-established genetically and hard-coded behaviour. You can 'force' it to work by copying what you see a str8 couple does. But you can't on long term keep up that 'trick' without having to remind yourself. If it is a natural thing to do, why so hard? Because you will revert to what you are as a male.  As two males in a relationship. A select few might succeed to make it happen, and you can hold that up as YES IT CAN BE DONE!! But seriously, how often do you see that around you. I know you want it to happen, but you will soon see for yourself over your lifetime like I did, it is too rare. In liberated nations that has legal gay marriages, it is still hard to keep divorce down...even worst with lesbians.

 

Str8 makes it look easy because they are doing what took hundreds of thousands of years of evolution. And they have to work. For the sake of survival as a human species. Without them, there will not even be the tiniest percentage of us gays on earth. I think, eventually, more of us will realize this and find our own way to live and survival alongside str8s. There is no getting rid of str8, hor.

 

It is not easy to explain it all here. It took me years to slowly come to terms with it, untying each knot to understand why. The sexual primal hunter is the male. The females are never that sexually aggressive. Their role is to multiply, nurture the child...etc. As much as feminism is now trying to fuck this all up. Overtime they will come back to their original role. If not humans will not be around much longer. When that happen. So goes LGTBQ

 

When you have a relationship where both are males, just imagine the sexual dynamics. I have not even touched on other aspects of a two male relationship that can conflict matters..

 

So in short, my feeling is no. And we better learn to figure out our part existing on earth and living with each other or not and if so what other form of relationship and companionship is out there for us? Too many are clueless, so they default to what they know best.... the relationship of str8 or their own parents.

Edited June 8, 2021 by upshot

[Dart]

On 6/8/2021 at 8:52 PM, will7z said:

how are so many straight couples able to have sex in their life long relationship without committing adultery but our gays need to seek open relationship outside after a certain number of years together?  Always believe sex is one of the most important bonding between a couple which share the most intimate passions together. 

 

are those open relationship couples able to really separate their sex and love so clear cut? or are they just compromising with each other because they find the shortcut to stay in their own comfort zone. 

 

Staight couples do have extramarital affairs. Binding agents such as offspring, family and social commitments are deterrents to further their flirtation outside marriage. It works in the reverse for gay couples. To remain faithful in a relationship, it takes principle and commitment from within.

[Guest Known Guest]

I am feeling a bit emotional today, so thought to blabber about myself. Apologies for going in as guest as I didn’t want to reveal my identity, at least, not yet.

 

 It was, when I was in my early 20s, when I met with a terrible life taking road accident. It took few years for me to recover, but what I lost that day was my ability to do wilful erection due to fractured pelvis. 
I was virgin at that time. Thanks to the condition, it became way harder to even put myself out there. 
 

I came to Singapore, few years back. With great difficulty, I finally found a way to medically have erection (via injection). Of course, thanks to some renowned doctors. 
Since then, I have met few guys for fun(they don’t know about my case) but realised I can’t have strong enough erection to penetrate. So, am settling with non anal fun. 
I haven’t enjoyed being bottom and its a pity that I can never know feeling of

anal sex.

There are days I feel miserable and dejected, but I tell myself there are worst conditions, am alive, functioning, financially dependent and have a good living. So cannot complain for this ugly aspect of my life. 

Currently, I am looking for relationship but I don’t know how to search for that. Given my condition, whether I will ever find someone who will truly understand and compromise his life for me! 
 

Anyway, I just wanted to give y’all a different perspective on this….sometimes it’s not our choice and not our fault…but we have to compromise and at times that can be life  long. 

 

[Guest Guest]

My bf always want to fuck me before going to sleep. One time I declined and he got angry. In the end, I let him do it. So I think anal sex is a must.

[Guest Guest guest]

My question may not be very relevant here but I’m seeking members advice. 
 

I have never had anal sex before or felt the desire to do that all these years. But for months to a year now, I feel a stronger and stronger urge for someone to fxxk and use me. I’m apprehensive of this desire yet I feel a sense of anticipation and excitement. 
 

A likely scenario is for me to be fxxked once and if I don’t enjoy it, I can put it to rest. But I’m also worried if I like it, I may get hooked. 
 

appreciate some advice from members who had similar experiences before. 

[robin]

On 10/2/2021 at 10:56 AM, Guest Guest guest said:

My question may not be very relevant here but I’m seeking members advice. 
 

I have never had anal sex before or felt the desire to do that all these years. But for months to a year now, I feel a stronger and stronger urge for someone to fxxk and use me. I’m apprehensive of this desire yet I feel a sense of anticipation and excitement. 
 

A likely scenario is for me to be fxxked once and if I don’t enjoy it, I can put it to rest. But I’m also worried if I like it, I may get hooked. 
 

appreciate some advice from members who had similar experiences before. 

As an adult, I think the likelihood of enjoying anal sex & got addicted to it is low. You may like it & may decide to be a bottom. But to suddenly became an addiction, I think it is unlikely. 
 

Life is short & precious, don’t grow old & wonder ‘what if…’ while you can still find out the answer 

[cityhallguy]

I would like to share this Mandarin YT and if people really interested to know more details can go look for his book. He has spoken what me and my kiwi partner are seeking for in a relationship. Thus, even though our sex is getting lesser as we grow older, we still love each other. Yes, sometimes we still have the urge for sex but we allow each other to seek outside as long as it doesn’t affect our relationship. This is a risk we take and we believe the trust we have built in our relationship will overcome it. Of course, there be a group of people doesn’t agree with it but different strokes for different folks :). It works well for me and my partner and will continue to do so.

 

 

[Guest YooHoo]

My new angmoh bf has 8in long 4in girth cock and want to fuck my hole. I said before i can only provide bj coz it will be painful for me that it would rip my hole. I'll he leave me eventually?

[doncoin]

13 minutes ago, Guest YooHoo said:

My new angmoh bf has 8in long 4in girth cock and want to fuck my hole. I said before i can only provide bj coz it will be painful for me that it would rip my hole. I'll he leave me eventually?

 

If you can fit in your mouth, you can fit in your hole. 

[Guest guest]

Not all couples enjoy anal sex. I know of couples who enjoy side.

[Nu_Bee_4u]

My 2 cents. Do what you like, not what your partner likes. If both partners like non-anal, good for you. But if one is into anal sex and the other is not. You know what happens? CHEATING!!! It will turn ugly and ruin everyone's life. 

[Nu_Bee_4u]

12 minutes ago, Nu_Bee_4u said:

Bad idea!!! It can end in few different ways, if he tries and only one of the outcome is a desirable one. There are quite a few scenarios, so you do the math. Obviously, the best scenario is that he ends up loving it, and they lived happily ever after. Rest are going to end in different circles of hell! 

I would have adviced to try as well, if the relationship is purely physical. Problem will start when its not. And believe me, if they are regular partners, it is already not purely physical. So, to the guy posted the original question. Try at your own risk and think about the outcomes and if you are ok to accept them plus the pain in the ass.

[Anon_cock]

8 hours ago, Guest YooHoo said:

My new angmoh bf has 8in long 4in girth cock and want to fuck my hole. I said before i can only provide bj coz it will be painful for me that it would rip my hole. I'll he leave me eventually?

  

Sadly if you're not willing to get fucked. There are many bottoms and holes who is more than eager and willing to spread their Asian ass for ang moh bf dick to stick it in. 

[Nu_Bee_4u]

2 hours ago, Anon_cock said:

  

Sadly if you're not willing to get fucked. There are many bottoms and holes who is more than eager and willing to spread their Asian ass for ang moh bf dick to stick it in. 

I agree with what @Anon_cock said. But do you want to do something that you dont want, to keep your bf? There is no gurantee that he wont leave you still.

[Balestier]

10 hours ago, Nu_Bee_4u said:

My 2 cents. Do what you like, not what your partner likes. If both partners like non-anal, good for you. But if one is into anal sex and the other is not. You know what happens? CHEATING!!! It will turn ugly and ruin everyone's life. 

Think best solution is open discussion. Is open rs possible ? Where is the boundary ?

Else it's better not to be in it  to save the ass and heart pain

[singalion]

14 hours ago, Guest YooHoo said:

My new angmoh bf has 8in long 4in girth cock and want to fuck my hole. I said before i can only provide bj coz it will be painful for me that it would rip my hole. I'll he leave me eventually?

 

My apologies if I am quite realistic on this topic.

 

Even if your relationships lasts forever, what I wish for you, but after 3 - 5 years most sex between couples cools down, in many cases to zero sexual interaction but just romance (kiss, hugs, cuddles etc).

You might cover the period with him but accept his outside adventures.

 

In your case, I would search for a suitable btm sex partner for a threesome, so your bf can enjoy the anal also, while you are still sexually involved.

If he is a very anal sex lover, I guess, he will simply stray around (even if not telling the truth to you).

 

Mismatch in sexual likings are often the reason for early breakups, but must not be.

There are couples were both partners are tops or where the sexual preference (top/btm/side) changed over time, but many of those couples crossed the maturity to live with the differences but created such a bond that the difference won't cause a break up.

The same is for straight couples by the way. Many are together but not enjoying sex with each other after some years.

There are exceptions but just a few.

 

The most important in my view is to touch the topic on a good occasion with your bf and set up some rules that may work for your relationship.

 

As I wrote, I m simply writing from experience, therefore it might appear blunt to you.

 

 

 

Edited January 17 by singalion

[Balestier]

9 minutes ago, singalion said:

 

My apologies if I am quite realistic on this topic.

 

Even if your relationships lasts forever, what I wish for you, but after 3 - 5 years most sex between couples cools down, in many cases to zero sexual interaction but just romance (kiss, hugs, cuddles etc).

You might cover the period with him but accept his outside adventures.

 

In your case, I would search for a suitable btm sex partner for a threesome, so your bf can enjoy the anal also, while you are still sexually involved.

If he is a very anal sex lover, I guess, he will simply stray around (even if not telling the truth to you).

 

Mismatch in sexual likings are often the reason for early breakups, but must not be.

There are couples were both partners are tops or where the sexual preference (top/btm/side) changed over time, but many of those couples crossed the maturity to live with the differences but created such a bond that the difference won't cause a break up.

The same is for straight couples by the way. Many are together but not enjoying sex with each other after some years.

There are exceptions but just a few.

 

The most important in my view is to touch the topic on a good occasion with your bf and set up some rules that may work for your relationship.

 

As I wrote, I m simply writing from experience, therefore it might appear blunt to you.

 

 

 

In fact many open relationships can last for many years but both parties must be truthful and obey rules. I have seen more trouple recently

[Nu_Bee_4u]

Well. If I may offer my honest opinion, if the guy likes the third person better, you will become reduntant and dropped. If there is no strong bond between you two, that will keep him around, I would suggest do not play with fire. Many have lost their partners to the third person in the relationship.

[Nu_Bee_4u]

Just now, Nu_Bee_4u said:

Well. If I may offer my honest opinion, if the guy likes the third person better, you will become reduntant and dropped. If there is no strong bond between you two, that will keep him around, I would suggest do not play with fire. Many have lost their partners to the third person in the relationship.

Open relationship might still be a better option, if there is love between you. Trouple is always troublesome. Even if he does not like the other one better, it will sow enough doubts in your mind that eventually, it will drive a wedge between you.

[yhtang]

22 hours ago, Guest YooHoo said:

My new angmoh bf has 8in long 4in girth cock and want to fuck my hole. I said before i can only provide bj coz it will be painful for me that it would rip my hole. I'll he leave me eventually?

 

If the angmoh's condition for the relationship is your ass, he will leave you.

 

If you give your hole to him, how do you think he will view you and this relationship?  He might see you as just a hole to be fucked, so when the next and more interesting hole comes along, you may get ditched.  This would have to be a risk you need to consider when entering this relationship with your angmoh boyfriend.

[singalion]

8 hours ago, Nu_Bee_4u said:

Well. If I may offer my honest opinion, if the guy likes the third person better, you will become reduntant and dropped. If there is no strong bond between you two, that will keep him around, I would suggest do not play with fire. Many have lost their partners to the third person in the relationship.

 

It must not be the same bottom for the threesome. Look for a new one or don't repeat fun with the same in short intervalls. 

 

The TS might take initiative to find a bottom for threesome who is less attractive... 

 

 

[Balestier]

8 hours ago, singalion said:

 

It must not be the same bottom for the threesome. Look for a new one or don't repeat fun with the same in short intervalls. 

 

The TS might take initiative to find a bottom for threesome who is less attractive... 

 

 

Gays will lose sex interest w same guy after a few months. So let's face it. It's either he has fun behind your back or keep it open and both can have fun within boundaries

[Guest Guest]

5 hours ago, Balestier said:

Gays will lose sex interest w same guy after a few months. So let's face it. It's either he has fun behind your back or keep it open and both can have fun within boundaries

Such thing don't only happen on gays. Even straight men will also lose sex interest with the same girl after months of sex together. 

[Balestier]

40 minutes ago, Guest Guest said:

Such thing don't only happen on gays. Even straight men will also lose sex interest with the same girl after months of sex together. 

Sure but he faced the risk of possible divorce. Unlike gay.

[cutejack]

31 minutes ago, Balestier said:

Sure but he faced the risk of possible divorce. Unlike gay.

Well, divorce is not an end of the world..

[HC-B]

What’s the point of any legit relationship between consenting adults, gay or straight, if there’s no sex!? Duh. 🤨😒🙄

[Guest Errr]

6 hours ago, HC-B said:

What’s the point of any legit relationship between consenting adults, gay or straight, if there’s no sex!? Duh. 🤨😒🙄

errrr, love? Duh.

 

again, interesting how many of the people commenting on this thread seem to have zero or little actual experience of relationships… 

[DrFhill]

it's not must. but what else two gay guys gonna do when they're totally alone together in their bedroom?
play with their phones? read books? raise children?

[Anon_cock]

Fucking and getting fucked is a very intimate act that can bring the couple closer together. 

 

There is a sense of vulnerability when you open up and let someone in and out. In and out. Until you cummed. 

 

And you want him to pleasure you the same way you give him pleasure. Next level will be bareback. Breeding. 

 

Who impregnate who. 

 

 

 

[singalion]

But the saying "Everything can, nothing must!" tells it already...

 

Oral or anal is not a must, but you should always discuss with your sex partner beforehand to avoid disappointment or not matching expectations.