Will You Have A R/ship With A Married Man? + In Love With / Liked A Married Man (Compiled)

[harylok]

He told me not to be too worry about his marriage as he just want kids not a wife

Wit Lost,

If your bf thinks like what you've quoted above. I think he's NO-GOOD man leh.

I rather disappoint my parents than killing a woman's life.

These days, plenty of straight guys stay single. Of course, the parents will be disappointed though, but eventually, they will get over it.

Hmmm....I think its unethical act...... I won't want a man with such mentality to be my bf. sorry, that's me.

I urge you to talk to yr bf to re-consider, do in-dept analyze and prepare for the consequences.

Hary

..Sensibility is one of my criteria

[GKS]

Bf getting married. What happend to those whose bf has already married? Could you imagine the life?

[harylok]

Bf getting married. What happend to those whose bf has already married? Could you imagine the life?

Yes, I know but not imagine. What about you?

[GKS]

struggling.....

happy to be with him but sad that do not enjoy the privilage to meet as and when you like.....

But he is nice to me and block two weekday evening and sat be mine. Shall i be contended?Love , any boundary?Love , should there have limitation?

[doncoin]

Don't settle for any less than what you deserve. If you are mentally prepared to play second fiddle and be the "mistress" don't whine about BF getting married then.

He may want to let his wife to be know what she is getting into to be fair. Nothing worse than marrying a closested gay man.

[Guest pure Leaf]

since ur bf is gay and is just marrying and fuking for the sake of having children...u sld not worry much about his feeling towards you. even if he fuking his wife, u noe he do it for the sake of it and NOT FOR PASSIONATE sex.

On the other hand, ur bf is a beast who marry someone he dont like but for kids.

my bf and I, both of us are only male child and we dont have the intention to get married. he is 35 and im 26. when my parents ask me for gf, i always knock it off that im still young and have yet to earn enough. when im in 30s, i will just simply said i love the lifestyle im and since im single, i can afford more cash for you both to retire haha. GOOD LA.

i cant imagine myself probing the vagina of a ger...yuck...

[alex_skylover]

Wit Lost, move on.

What do u see in long term with this guy?

I disagree with the previous post that the sex may not be passionate. If your bf has decided to marry a woman to have kids, I'm sure he would have thought whether he'll be aroused when he have sex with her. Else, he couldn't have cummed into her pussy.

Speaking from experience, my present job allows me to see many good-looking guys and gals.. And i have gradually like gals more. I would say I have become a Bi.

Gay Bi Lesbian.. We may change. We r humans and we have feelings. I've known and heard of people becoming str to gay, les to str, bi to gay.

So Wit Lost, you have to look at your situation and see what u wanna do. Move on.. Think about what u see in long term and make a firm decision.

All of us here can only advise, ultimately, you r the one choosing what u wanna do

[doncoin]

I think personally it is the moral responsibility (snigger) of your bf to tell his wife to be that he is gay and that he is marrying her just for kids and pleasing his parents. He needs to manage expectations up front to avoid unrealistic expectations at the end of the day.

The only sad thing to this whole marriage thing I find is that neither you nor your boyfriend's feelings for each other are taken into account. What do the 2 of you want in the long term?

[Guest Just Asking]

It always take 2 in a relationship. I was involved with my one & only ex bf 10 over years ago. Our relationship lasted for 4 over years. However, this relationship was meant to be futile.

He is the only son under his family tree. I should have seen it coming. But I was dreaming. Till it was too late. His ex gf, now wife came along. I was kept in the dark initially. I tried to hold on to what we have. Told him that I am willing to be his kept bf for the rest of my life even after his marriage. It sound so silly now.

Anyway, his disagreed, his just dropped me suddenly. From everyday calls to meet once every few months (before his marriage). I was always looking forward to his calls & those few outing. Finally, I was dropped totally. But he still invited me to his wedding dinner which I could not bear to turn up.

I went through a depression, mood swing almost everyday. Try to lay low, not to get notice by co-worker in order to keep my job.

Well most people are right. Time will heal everything. Maybe not completely 100% recover, there would be scar.

Today, no doubt I am still hiding in the closet, I am more balance & have come to term with myself. Maybe a bit lonely. However, I have come to enjoy this peace & quiet.

Out of curiosity...when u guys had fun with each other, who is top and who is btm? Does he suck? What i mean is...was he able to do everything that a gay is "supposed" to want to do - anal, suck dicks etc.

[Guest Just Asking]

The reason i asked is because I am curious even for myself. I do identify with guys who have fun with other guys yet they might be getting married.

I am very str8 in the way i think, act and feel. The only difference with most other complete str8 men is that I do have and do enjoy (so to speak) some fun with guys. When it comes to fun with guys, I dun suck, I dun really do anal. Mostly, I just prefer to be sucked. I could jerk the guy off, but thats to return the favour, not because I really like to touch a dick.

So what am I?

I do get attracted to attractive women. I have developed a liking for kids and want to have kids of my own.

Am i bi? Am i a str8 guy just looking for some casual contact with guys? What am i? I guess its hard to define, as titles like BI, GAY, STR8 are just labels...they put people into categories which they might not fit completely well in.

What are your thoughts? The person who started this thread and the few earlier replies got me thinking again...

A caveat : To the guys who wanna "FLAME" me for not being completely gay, thinking I don't want to "come out completely" and all that...please do be more matured. I am speaking what I truly feel, and just looking for matured opinions from the wiser guys here...

[newguy2l]

just ask - i would classify u as st8 since u dont really like to touch a dick

i forsee u would prob get married and hav kids

once in a while u will prob go to a sauna to get sucked off

and thats it

just tell the guys early on its only for ONS so they wont get crushed when u dont return their calls

[thaiboyz]

Out of curiosity...when u guys had fun with each other, who is top and who is btm? Does he suck? What i mean is...was he able to do everything that a gay is "supposed" to want to do - anal, suck dicks etc.

When two guys having fun, depending on who is willing to be top or bottom. Normally, the top will initiate and gesture to his partner such as teasing his partner's ass or lifting up his legs etc. The bottom will response accordingly. If two tops are in play, well, they will end up having 69 and normally will not go further. Not every fun will involve anal fun, depending whether one is comfortable with it or not. Of course, anal fun makes the whole session complete in a way...hehe

[Guest Still Hiding]

Hi Just Asking,

I would say I was a bottom in my relationship with my ex-bf. When it comes to sex, either one of us would initiate. Like what thaiboyz said, it can be 69, anal, etc. But he was a top & suck too.

Our relationship started as friendship then developed into love. Lust was not that strong initially. While he also likes to look at girls, I don't. But like everyone, I also like to look at beautiful people, be it man or woman.

Both of us are just your average neighbourhood guys. Not handsome or hunky. Our relationship just developed out of trust, respect, helping one another & companionship. Well, anyway it was all over.

For me, no doubt I lust after man. Sometime even straight man (single or married), I never have any casual contact with anyone till today. It is just who I am.

For you, I think you are straight, just exploring some fun with guys. However, be careful of what you are doing. You may hurt the feeling of the guys you are having fun with and your future gf or wife.

Sex is a funny thing. Guys having fun with on another will develop crush for each other. So follow newguy21 suggestion if you really want to do it.

For my ex, he told me he felt guilty after having sex with me while courting his gf. He has been faithful man. Thus, I feel he may not be looking for guys fun after his got married.

Thread carefully, my friend. No doubt most people say you only have one life & you should live it, ultimately you are responsible for all you actions.

May you find peace & comfort.

[Guest Jus asking]

Thanks for your feedback guys...appreciate it.

I am actually very truthful to the guys i meet. I make sure they know what they are in for, before i agree to meet with them.

I really empathise with gay people in this society...where things are not always fair to them...at the same time...things aren't that easy for me too! So, we are in the same boat...hope that boat takes us to somewhere beautiful and rewarding one day!

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[Guest PSS]

I wonder how fair & how sensible a person can be in real? when people get rejected by a good looking guy at sauna ( esp in TC ), people like to say harsh about them, what about when a person attach with another married guy or someone attach already? Most people will say Love is blind etc, what the fXXk is that? So if TC boys people like to talk about KARMA, i wonder what will be in this case... Heaven knows ...

[Pink Panther]

sexually relationship I believe what you are referring to. What happen to wife relationship? emotional and non-sexual or sexual and non-emotional? Married men could provide both? Think it takes lots of courage and strength. Most like lots of lonely nights too...

[Pink Panther]

sexually relationship I believe what you are referring to. What happen to wife relationship? emotional and non-sexual or sexual and non-emotional? Married men could provide both? Think it takes lots of courage and strength. Most likely lots of lonely nights too...

[harylok]

Will u ever consider accepting someone who is married to become ur bf? And do u think this kind of relationship can last?

Devil Chub,

Please ponder abit...

Support your own statement "this kind of relationship" and do u know wat is R/S abt?

What is a "lasting" relationship? Forever? 1 year, 2 years ,10 years.... It is not by juz by measuring the duration....

Whether BI married man or Gay ....to be a bf or not?! is the same ball game.. sometimes, u need a little fate & luck to find someone tats who is serious abt R/S ...esp in the PLU circle.

Hary...

....R/S is not so complicated after all, so long you are mentally prepared for all consequences..

Careful with all the views .....your life, your judgement, your choice... everyone has different experiences...

[TopChinese]

My last three boyfriends were married at one time. They all divorced their wives to be with me... all of them lasted very long; 1st for 3 years, 2nd for 5 years.. and the one right now maybe forever?

Married BFs are the best. No fuss, no drama.... fun when you both want it. Kick him out and make him go home when he starts to snore. The trick is to not have any expectations and not to be as demanding as the other woman. Respect his space and make him want to be with you.

Those of you who are holier than holy who think that we are home wreckers, please get off your high horse and stop preaching like the fugly Pope. Straight / gay couples have fun with other people all the time... the rules are what you make it to be.

[newguy2l]

TC - u the man!

now i dare not meet u

i may have to divorce my wife to be with u

and that i dont ever wanna do

heh heh - did u ever meet up with your bf' s wives at all?

did they know u the home wrecker?

did u ever kena slapped silly for wat u did?

not that i condam your actions

but tv shows always show the home wrecker always kena slapped

my wife would gather her frens and pay u a little visit :hat:

[warmheart]

A bi and married guy met a gay and single and fell in love with each other. Is there hope for such relationship??

[gayted]

A bi and married guy met a gay and single and fell in love with each other. Is there hope for such relationship??

A slim hope, I think, unless married guy is a bi or gay as well.

[GachiMuchi]

Do read the post Hurtful Gay Life http://www.blowingwind.org/forum/index.php?showtopic=12280

It is a live example of bi married man and single gay guy.

[harylok]

A bi and married guy met a gay and single and fell in love with each other. Is there hope for such relationship??

Sure ..... but it is very much depends on what kinda of relationship u "hope" for?

Many may have consider falling for BI married man is somewhat "Risky" or even "Stupid". To me, its just a challenge

Likewise, Pure-gay relationship looks promising in surface but mostly, say-say-only.. . T

Hary

[Bengish]

A slim hope, I think, unless married guy is a bi or gay as well.

Friend, he's trying to put it as a bi married met a gay single guy la!

[waterballoon]

Well, the worst were to be falling in love for a straight guy, and I'm guilty of that now. :whistle:

[warmheart]

Well, the worst were to be falling in love for a straight guy, and I'm guilty of that now. :whistle:

I am the bi married guy and i met a single gay guy..when we first chatted i told him i am married. When we first met..i was instantly attacted to him ..but i dun think he is to me..

We met for meals for a few times..and my feeling for him became stronger.. When he professed his love for me .. i held back..then i make up stories that I had previous relationship with other guys and how i supposely dumped them..he was surprised and began to move back..I want him but i dun know how to keep the relationship going..I dun wan to hurt him..Please advise..

[harylok]

Well, the worst were to be falling in love for a straight guy, and I'm guilty of that now. :whistle:

There's nothing worst than a one-sided love ..

Your situation is almost equivalent in terms of "loving" a gay guy who doesn't show interests in u.

btw. Ethical or not ... leave the straight men alone, don't "influence" them ...

Let Nature takes its course

Hary

Edited February 28, 2009 by harylok

[Stoner79]

A bi and married guy met a gay and single and fell in love with each other. Is there hope for such relationship??

Nope. just enjoy the sex and move on. no point bringing misery to yourself in future.

[harylok]

WarmHeart,

Give everything a benefit of doubt. In life, explore all possibilities ..... the end-result may vary, though.

In all relationship, there are pathetic endings & fruitful one. Believe in fate or not is just one thing, foremost, what matter most is how the couple choose to manage & compromise their relationship.

btw. I do have many friends who are Bi-married man attached with single gay man for many years & still going strong. I would not even consider their relationship are exceptional case as compare to pure-gay r/s. To be frank, I feel pure-gay r/s is even far more "messy" &/or "Tricky"

Knowing what are you want in the 1st place and bear-in-mind that the "Advices" given here may not necessary applicable to every individual due to different perception.

If you never even attempt to try ..... you will never know the outcome (No risk no gain) - Be it good or bad in the end, it's just another life experience.

You said about "Hope" & I re-affirm what I've said "Yes, definitely ...it's possible". Unless, you choose to be one-sided thinking like some & please don't fall into those crappy theory of PLU....

Good luck!!!

Hary,

... Cheers for long-lasting HAPPY couples

Edited February 28, 2009 by harylok

[permanent-guest]

A bi and married guy met a gay and single and fell in love with each other. Is there hope for such relationship??

There is no universal rule on whether such a situation will work out. It depends on a case by case basis. It is possible to work out well. And sometimes the wife of the bi married guy may be opened to it, and if so, there is a good chance for it to work, if the bi-guy and the gay-guy like/luv each other.

[waterballoon]

I am the bi married guy and i met a single gay guy..when we first chatted i told him i am married. When we first met..i was instantly attacted to him ..but i dun think he is to me..

We met for meals for a few times..and my feeling for him became stronger.. When he professed his love for me .. i held back..then i make up stories that I had previous relationship with other guys and how i supposely dumped them..he was surprised and began to move back..I want him but i dun know how to keep the relationship going..I dun wan to hurt him..Please advise..

Maybe you could try explaining to him that you lied because you were very confused and all that. Just try to get rid of that impression of a heartbreaker/player...

But, I need to tell you that... this is really wrong. I understand the power of attraction and love, but as a married man, you must consider

1) your wife

2) your children (if any)

In the first place, many women feel hurt when their husbands have mistresses... the hurt is going to be even deeper if they find out the so-called 'mistress' is another man!

Give yourself some time to sit down and think over things carefully.

Don't give in to that moment of rashness and attraction... think of the bigger picture, and what is more important.

~

Uh well I've fallen in love with a junior (whoever who has read my thread a month ago should know this)... he doesn't have any girlfriend but yeah he has crushes.

And he has some of the funniest thoughts on marriage! He told me he wants to get married thrice with 3 different women... ahahaha totally hilarious. Although it's kind of painful at times, because I know he'll never ever love me, it's still good being friends.

For someone like him, I don't mind giving away all of my life to love him, and always stay as his friend.

When he gets married in the future, and if we still keep in contact, I won't try to "seduce" him or anything... seriously. I mean I've mentioned above that if a man is married, he MUST think for his family, because it is his responsibility and duty to take care and love them.

Oh well, really, just being friends is more than enough~

Edited February 28, 2009 by waterballoon

[warmheart]

I am the bi married guy and i met a single gay guy..when we first chatted i told him i am married. When we first met..i was instantly attacted to him ..but i dun think he is to me..

We met for meals for a few times..and my feeling for him became stronger.. When he professed his love for me .. i held back..then i make up stories that I had previous relationship with other guys and how i supposely dumped them..he was surprised and began to move back..I want him but i dun know how to keep the relationship going..I dun wan to hurt him..Please advise..

Hi Guys,

I am touched..sincerely and deeply touched by your replies. Although the views varies, I can sense the care and concern. Thank you brothers.!

[mp440028]

A bi and married guy met a gay and single and fell in love with each other. Is there hope for such relationship??

Relationship, I don't know, but one of my buddies is very married and we enjoy each others' company, revolve within the same social circle, and I guess we can best describe ourselves and friends who fcuk. We have been seeing each other very regularly for the past 15yrs or so, seen our fortunes rise and fall, seen our families and pets grow old and die on us, seen his children become fathers on their own, hared some of the most amazing meals and wine we have ever had (and yes, a bottle of Margaux 1988 was one of them!!), and still talk to each other almost every day.

All our friends and family know that we are friends but don't know that we are having a thing (except for the seriously close friends on both sides) , and that works for us.

Whether he has someone else besides me, I don't ask and don't know. Do I have other besides him, yes, and he don't ask and probably don't know.

I have never thought of it as a relationship, but as friends, I know it works.

My 2-cents worth....

[snowball]

你我皆凡人 , 生在人世间 ...

既然不是仙难免有杂念 ,

道义放两旁 , 把利字摆中间...

Just according to the thread itself ( don't talk about moral etc ), i see NO reason why i will should say NO.

Is possible & i need to admit some married guys are good man, all type of relationship is possible,

there are all type of person around, some just for married guys only & some married guy just into married guy etc

i should say fate , 有多少缘分做多久情人

Answer : Possible

Edited March 3, 2009 by snowball

[Firday]

My view :

NO for Gay relationship

YES for OPEN relationship.

In life :

As long as you happy i will be happy for you.

[gayted]

Friend, he's trying to put it as a bi married met a gay single guy la!

Thanks.

你我皆凡人 , 生在人世间 ...

既然不是仙难免有杂念 ,

道义放两旁 , 把利字摆中间...

Just according to the thread itself ( don't talk about moral etc ), i see NO reason why i will should say NO.

Is possible & i need to admit some married guys are good man, all type of relationship is possible,

there are all type of person around, some just for married guys only & some married guy just into married guy etc

i should say fate , 有多少缘分做多久情人

Answer : Possible

Really, really good, I agree fully :clap:

[Guest Confused]

Do you guys have any experience with a married man?

I am a btm and loves the sex with him but I am constantly upset that he is married. Can the guy be trusted when he says he loves you? Is there any future together?

[doncoin]

Do you guys have any experience with a married man?

I am a btm and loves the sex with him but I am constantly upset that he is married. Can the guy be trusted when he says he loves you? Is there any future together?

NO. Move on.

[fab]

As long as he is not sleeping with a 3rd person, either gender.

[snowball]

Can the guy be trusted when he says he loves you? Is there any future together?

do you mean that if he is a gay, you both would have a bright future & he can be totally trusted?

don't look so far, just treasure what you have at the moment

[Guest Sigh!]

Do you guys have any experience with a married man?

I am a btm and loves the sex with him but I am constantly upset that he is married. Can the guy be trusted when he says he loves you? Is there any future together?

He said he love you because all he wanted is to have sex with you.

Avoid having sex a few times and see if he still love you?

Future with a married man?

Well, dream on.

[Tekongman]

I am confuse and torn cos I am deeply in love with a married man. Please advise.

Before I met him I never knew he is married until things get into more intense that he told me he is married and has 2 young kids. I call the break but he kept persistent that he loves me and told me that his relationship with his wife is merely a dutiful husband that provides for the family minus the sex. To make matter worse I had even met his wife and she is the silent soft type of woman and I am afraid that if she ever finds out of his husband infidelity, she may take drastic measures against herself or even her children. Recent news of woman committing suicide with her siblings make me wonder whether I should continue this relationship. I even consult my friend and was told that if he never meet me he will also end up with another guy so go with the flow.

Anyone had similar encounters to share and please advise what should I do?

Thank everyone in advance.

[Guest guest]

do u want his wife to engage a private dectective to follow him and get a report that u guys are gay couple?when u get old do u think he will be forever with u or go back to his family for old age and carry grand children? and how his grand children look at grandfather (GAY)? so break up early before things get more complicated. my friend who is a married man commit sucide cause he can t take the stress his family forcing him .

[Tekongman]

Intend to break up with him and if I do, he sure has many admirers, whether gay or straight ppl. He is what every aj (I think) look for in a man - well-tone working muscle, rugged ah beng look and character, tattoo on body, and most important treat his lover with care and comfort. Everytime I am with him, he had lots of aj looking at him especially in the public pool. Shall I satisfy my lust and stay with him or give up. A hard decision indeed. I know that every gay relationship might not last long but to him, I am his first encounter. I know that this is unfair to bis wife and I may consider to be his secret love slave. I will never ask him to do any drastic move against his family as I know that being a woman knowing her husband is cheating outside with another Man, and not an equal, is devastating enough.

[Guest passingthru]

- well-tone working muscle, rugged ah beng look and character, tattoo on body, and most important treat his lover with care and comfort.

Sounds like that guy from that public announcement on TV on 2nd chances/discouraging people from conclusion jumping. You know the one where a woman was worried when she saw a convict looking tough guy walking with a female child but it turns out to her relief that it was simply father & child meeting up with the wife. That guy is amazing.

[Guest shenderz]

Being with a married gay vs single gay is a different game altogether.

In any case it is his biz to feel guilty not you.

If you choose to play the game, juz know tat it is only a game. Enjoy but dun get too attached.

Edited September 25, 2011 by shenderz

[Tekongman]

Thank you shenderz for the post. Well, I think I will take things step by step and see where it leads. You never can forsee what the future may be and will enjoy this encounter till it lasts.

[Oxsianx]

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Edited January 22, 2022 by Oxsianx