Top Do's and Don't Discussion (compiled)

[Guest Sgmarriedguy36]

Yeah. There are men like that here. Go to personals and look for threads about married men and curious. Had fun with many of them. Actually nice.

[Guest oralsex]

I noticed most tops I encountered do not like to perform oral sex on bottom. Since when this is the norm? I thought oral sex is a pleasure activity greatly enjoyed by both top and bottom not regulated by your btm role.

[Ben Ben Ben]

Yes

[Guest sucked]

2 minutes ago, Guest oralsex said:

I noticed most tops I encountered do not like to perform oral sex on bottom. Since when this is the norm? I thought oral sex is a pleasure activity greatly enjoyed by both top and bottom not regulated by your btm role.

 

I can tell you out of 10 tops maybe only 2 would like to suck..most tops dont like to suck..they prefer to suck nipples or finger the bottom...

[Ben Ben Ben]

1 minute ago, Guest sucked said:

 

I can tell you out of 10 tops maybe only 2 would like to suck..most tops dont like to suck..they prefer to suck nipples or finger the bottom...

True

[doncoin]

Perhaps they think that sucking dick will turn them bottom, just like eating durians will make you gay, allegedly. 

[Gympump]

23 minutes ago, Guest oralsex said:

I noticed most tops I encountered do not like to perform oral sex on bottom. Since when this is the norm? I thought oral sex is a pleasure activity greatly enjoyed by both top and bottom not regulated by your btm role.

 

Yes they do, but...

[Guest sucked]

2 minutes ago, Gympump said:

 

Yes they do, but...

 

hahaha..whats the but..i think the top and bottom should do what they like and not be forced..most bottoms are fine with top not sucking as long as the top does whatever to satisfy the bottom by other means..

[Gympump]

1 minute ago, Guest sucked said:

 

hahaha..whats the but..i think the top and bottom should do what they like and not be forced..most bottoms are fine with top not sucking as long as the top does whatever to satisfy the bottom by other means..

some tops just want to get off their load and skipped giving head to the btm. if the btm isnt really their type, they do not do it too. yup, most bottoms are not particular about the top giving them head or not. personal preference.

[Guest Ah Boy]

yah most tops dont do (im btm) but in my experience i encountered a lot of tops who are even willing to swallow my cum, and they even did it after they cum. I even experience one top who swallowed my cum 4 times in a row.

[wellingz]

I've never had a top that didt want to suck... weird

[cutejack]

22 minutes ago, wellingz said:

I've never had a top that didt want to suck... weird

Maybe u r too good or nice to reject.hehe

[cutejack]

59 minutes ago, Ben Ben Ben said:

Yes

Yes for ?

[wellingz]

1 minute ago, cutejack said:

Maybe u r too good or nice to reject.hehe

I highly doubt it, but thank you. I probably  meet more bottoms than I do tops

[Guest sucked]

Maybe its a question that tops should answer here - Do you tops suck your fellow bottom's cock?

[Terence550]

Sucking has nothing to do with top or bottom. Stop speculation. Its individuals choices. Just like rimming or kissing. 

[lovehandle]

usually it is a no (for top) but of course very rare occasion will do so\

extremely rare

[Aljay75]

If a top doesnt go down on me, i will just kick him out of my bed ... especially the supposed "pure tops" ... thats just being selfish ... wants to be pleased but not willing to return the deed .... ppffttt

[Jerome78]

I spoke to a few btm that they doesn't like to get suck because of the silva. Non that I spoke to, want to get suck. So I looked for others.

[Guest sucked]

13 minutes ago, -Ignored- said:

usually it is a no (for top) but of course very rare occasion will do so\

extremely rare

 

have u sucked before?

[lovehandle]

6 minutes ago, Guest sucked said:

 

have u sucked before?

everything that I shared is of course from my experience

 

and I mentioned "very rare" (sometimes just have to play along, and I believed to be a good sucker , your facial muscles must be good at it, and we shdnt scratch the penis of the person being sucked, so must be very skilful, hence I m lazy, but if there is a rare need, I will)

 

indeed, about the saliva

I saw in sauna , someone will keep sucking and many will go to him to get suck, can  u imagine his mouth has consumed so many and then from one pass to another head (like a factory) , oh dear

 

as a top, of course love getting sucked (but if a poor performer, whose teeth keep sinking onto my big head, I rather NOT and will stop everything), but if suspect the sauna patron been sucking from one to another, I will never wanna get near him

I was sick before due to such experience when I first started out!
 

[fab]

3 hours ago, Guest oralsex said:

I noticed most tops I encountered do not like to perform oral sex on bottom. Since when this is the norm? I thought oral sex is a pleasure activity greatly enjoyed by both top and bottom not regulated by your btm role.

 

If the top doesn't wanna suck u, make sure he rim u.

 

 

[lean n mean]

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Edited April 10, 2018 by lean n mean

[lovehandle]

55 minutes ago, lean n mean said:

so porn is fake (duh) bec the tops always suck the btms before they fuck them  

yes, u could say that, yes some tender loving tops might , cos this is an indication for them to use your holes later

 

(based on what I observed : some assumed I m btms so they try to give me a suck before touching me behind, so I immed knew they must have misunderstood , nvm at least I got a free suck)

 

but most I seen, just wanna get into it immed and then  rush out (u can hear how fast the slapping sound and then the top exit the rms in sauna)
I rem seeing a bw member quoting most tops are rather selfish, they just wanna get what they wanted ONLY (& I don't deny that)
 

[Guest Ah Boy]

On 3/20/2006 at 7:03 PM, Gymmer said:

I dun think there is so called pure top or bottom. I believe all guys are fxxkable and able to fxxk. Its all a matter of preference. Some guys who have not experience get fxxked before, and decide to stay at this way, well he claimed to be a top.On the other hand, guys who got fxxked and like it, so they preferred to remain as bottom. When two tops like each other, both of them have to be compromise for the sake of love. Cant be one insist to be top all the while and expect his other half to stay at bottom, then he is too selfish to expect that. Likewise when two bottom guys fall in love. They would have to take turn to satisfy each other sexually.

So all guys are flexi and only they preferred to get fxxked or fxxk others.

As for those guys who only wanted to be serviced, well...i called them a "selfish" tops. The game takes two to tango and certainly boring to get involved with them.

hmmmm i guess not really cause like in my case i cant be top so im bottom, once my dick touches the ass it soften. so i cant be top at all.

[lovehandle]

On ‎3‎/‎11‎/‎2017 at 3:58 PM, Guest Ah Boy said:

hmmmm i guess not really cause like in my case i cant be top so im bottom, once my dick touches the ass it soften. so i cant be top at all.

wow, so magical, once touched and bcame soft?

I disagree w gymmer , some just don't enjoy fucking

I even tried interviewing some btms and asked since it is so painful, some even sweat and tremble while bottoming, why do they still love it

Some tried to conceal their innermost feeling by claiming they are NOT sure of their roles, they are Never into anal etc excuses, so after my digging (not their holes), they finally admitted if really no choice they would most pref to be thrusted by a man....

I don't think a top cannot decide he is a top, usu most tops tend to be firm that they are a top, or a versatile/flex top would prefer to top at 99% of the times, with exceptions
 

[padlock71]

I think we can't always compartmentalize people into neat little boxes ie pure top/flex top or pure bottom/flex bottom. There are also versatile men out there who equally enjoy sexual intercourse as both a receptive or assertive partner. Being a bottom, a top or 50/50  versatile (or whatever percentage distribution you desire) does not preclude you from being dominant or submissive or whatever. And I'm not even bringing in the discussion on the complexity of the alpha bottom or the submissive top.

 

Granted, in a cruising environment, it's all about taking the maximum sexual pleasure in the shortest possible time, and hopefully, without liability. In such cases, there is no point thinking about what a top should do or should do not. Some like to suck while others like to be sucked. Some like to ram while others would prefer being rammed. I'll say, to each his own. You may never get to see this guy again anyway. And even if you do, you can always choose to walk away if you know you are not going to get what you want.

 

But when both parties are emotionally attached, I think it is a different ball game. The need to ensure that each other derives a state of healthy sexual being becomes paramount. Any loving couple would (and should) willingly oblige and try their best to satisfy the respective unique needs of the other, be it top or bottom, be it to suck or be sucked etc and vice versa. You, being dominant or submissive or whatever, are of no material consequences. Failing which, the relationship will not last very long when one party is always about taking and the other, always about giving in, of course, notwithstanding that such is the couple's "unique" way of expressing love.
 

[Leanmeat]

On ‎3‎/‎11‎/‎2017 at 9:39 AM, doncoin said:

Perhaps they think that sucking dick will turn them bottom, just like eating durians will make you gay, allegedly. 

 

It is not that. Its abt their ego. Sucking their btm's dick make them feels less of a top. Thats why most tops are selfish. They think they shud be please. 

And they think their way of pleasing their partner need not include sucking the dicks. 

[Leanmeat]

On ‎3‎/‎11‎/‎2017 at 2:10 PM, -Ignored- said:

yes, u could say that, yes some tender loving tops might , cos this is an indication for them to use your holes later

 

(based on what I observed : some assumed I m btms so they try to give me a suck before touching me behind, so I immed knew they must have misunderstood , nvm at least I got a free suck)

 

but most I seen, just wanna get into it immed and then  rush out (u can hear how fast the slapping sound and then the top exit the rms in sauna)
I rem seeing a bw member quoting most tops are rather selfish, they just wanna get what they wanted ONLY (& I don't deny that)
 

 

U are refering to me (bw member)?

[lovehandle]

30 minutes ago, Leanmeat said:

 

U are refering to me (bw member)?

so clever

and rem, I don't deny that tops are indeed selfish at times

[doncoin]

2 hours ago, Leanmeat said:

 

It is not that. Its abt their ego. Sucking their btm's dick make them feels less of a top. Thats why most tops are selfish. They think they shud be please. 

And they think their way of pleasing their partner need not include sucking the dicks. 

 

That's just bad sex to me. I aim to please and be pleased. What's the point of having sex with another person when as men, we are capable of pleasuring ourselves? For guys who feel that their masculinity may be threatened because they suck cock, snap out of it. Sucking dick doesn't make you gay. If it does, then all the women sucking dicks are gay too then

[Guest Guest]

3 hours ago, doncoin said:

 

That's just bad sex to me. I aim to please and be pleased. What's the point of having sex with another person when as men, we are capable of pleasuring ourselves? For guys who feel that their masculinity may be threatened because they suck cock, snap out of it. Sucking dick doesn't make you gay. If it does, then all the women sucking dicks are gay too then

 

[Guest Rubbish]

7 hours ago, Leanmeat said:

 

It is not that. Its abt their ego. Sucking their btm's dick make them feels less of a top. Thats why most tops are selfish. They think they shud be please. 

And they think their way of pleasing their partner need not include sucking the dicks. 

That's just BS! I'm a pure top and love sucking cocks! As do many other tops I know... stop stereotyping bro! 

[Guest sucked]

8 hours ago, Guest Rubbish said:

That's just BS! I'm a pure top and love sucking cocks! As do many other tops I know... stop stereotyping bro! 

 

u cant use the term pure top to describe yourself coz people in this forum or even else where have taken the term to mean a top who doesnt suck dick..everything else ok except dick..u can check with the rest of the "pure tops" over in this forum..

[Guest Rubbish]

4 minutes ago, Guest sucked said:

 

u cant use the term pure top to describe yourself coz people in this forum or even else where have taken the term to mean a top who doesnt suck dick..everything else ok except dick..u can check with the rest of the "pure tops" over in this forum..

Again BS... you're stereotyping... I've never bottomed and sucked a lot of cocks! 

[cutejack]

Pure top here who dont suck at all except my partner 

[Guest Rubbish]

1 hour ago, cutejack said:

Pure top here who dont suck at all except my partner 

Well, your missing out on a lot of fun! 

[cutejack]

1 minute ago, Guest Rubbish said:

Well, your missing out on a lot of fun! 

So far ok la. Not missing of anything.

[Guest willing]

1 hour ago, cutejack said:

Pure top here who dont suck at all except my partner 

 

 

but u still suck your partner?? huh..

[cutejack]

Only my partner n im single now.

Sucking is not me.

[Leanmeat]

17 hours ago, Guest Rubbish said:

That's just BS! I'm a pure top and love sucking cocks! As do many other tops I know... stop stereotyping bro! 

 

Well, I did not say that tops dun suck cock. Im just saying most are selfish. So what if u suck? would you suck longer than u get sucked? I bet you dun. 

And i bet its always yr partner going down on you 1st. Even if im stereotyping, thats based on my own experience that is valid at least to me

[Leanmeat]

7 hours ago, Guest Rubbish said:

Well, your missing out on a lot of fun! 

 

The selfish ppl wont think they are missing out lah. 

[Leanmeat]

18 hours ago, Guest Rubbish said:

That's just BS! I'm a pure top and love sucking cocks! As do many other tops I know... stop stereotyping bro! 

 

Would u suck yr partner knowing that he has a bad throat that day and can't suck you back? I think almost all tops wont unless that person is yr lover. 

But given the same case, you expect yr btm partner to do for u when u have a bad throat and gladly u dun hav to do, right?

[Leanmeat]

Having said that, most does not equals to all. And I had met good tops before who suck and rim me even though they dun knw if I will do the same.

[padlock71]

5 hours ago, cutejack said:

Only my partner n im single now.

Sucking is not me.

 

So, you would do it if you are attached again even if it is "not me"?

[kinkythrillz]

On 11/3/2017 at 9:24 AM, Guest sucked said:

 

I can tell you out of 10 tops maybe only 2 would like to suck..most tops dont like to suck..they prefer to suck nipples or finger the bottom...

 

Yah... I am like that... So usually before meeting a guy for fun, and if he is a flex... I would ask him if he minds it first... As some flex guys expects to be sucked and for us to bend down to let them F as well...

[doncoin]

21 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

 

 

I am so glad you shared that gif. While it is not something I wanted to point out about you, at least it is something we can all agree on.  

You missed the first part of what I wrote in the last sentence, and took it out the context by highlighting in bold the second half. 

Edited November 7, 2017 by doncoin

[Guest Rubbish]

6 hours ago, Leanmeat said:

 

Would u suck yr partner knowing that he has a bad throat that day and can't suck you back? I think almost all tops wont unless that person is yr lover. 

But given the same case, you expect yr btm partner to do for u when u have a bad throat and gladly u dun hav to do, right?

What are you talking about? 

[Guest Rubbish]

6 hours ago, Leanmeat said:

 

Well, I did not say that tops dun suck cock. Im just saying most are selfish. So what if u suck? would you suck longer than u get sucked? I bet you dun. 

And i bet its always yr partner going down on you 1st. Even if im stereotyping, thats based on my own experience that is valid at least to me

See, you are stereotyping, indeed...

[Guest Rubbish]

4 hours ago, kinkythrillz said:

 

Yah... I am like that... So usually before meeting a guy for fun, and if he is a flex... I would ask him if he minds it first... As some flex guys expects to be sucked and for us to bend down to let them F as well...

After kissing and nipple play, I love to suck and finger a bottom to get them so horny... but know how to please and get a bottom ready. Unlike some other selfish tops on here - the have a sense of entitlement. Shame...