Popular Post kidster Posted May 7, 2017 Popular Post Report Share Posted May 7, 2017 (edited) "When you make a mistake, it's not a mistake. When you repeat a mistake, it's a mistake" These are the rules I stick in life after learning painful lessons from the people whom I've met. I don't go into relationship with someone who just broke up. There is something called rebound. Been there done that. I don't want to be a victim again. I don't meet any one who refuses to exchange LINE/WhatsApp before meeting. It shows lacks of sincerity and commitment. Can you imagine how I felt when I got blocked on my way meeting someone? No oral if you are wearing braces. I don't want to die of bleeding when my blood-filled hard dick gets cut. Share some safe/best practices when meeting a stranger or commandments that helps you to continue to survive in this circle. Edited May 12, 2017 by kidster barocco80, blowmenow, Hemnes and 4 others 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Magicerife Posted May 7, 2017 Report Share Posted May 7, 2017 (edited) Think doubly hard before getting committed with someone who does not have his roots here Edited May 7, 2017 by Magicerife prud74 and cmlf 2 ---Dignity is a facade we wear to hide our ignorance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
camus Posted May 7, 2017 Report Share Posted May 7, 2017 Never believe anything you read or see online. If it's too good to be true, it usually isn't true. sum1outhere_03, Time is NOW and cmlf 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EasleyLim Posted May 7, 2017 Report Share Posted May 7, 2017 Lesson #3 seems like common sense leh. Or is it you too horny to care? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
upshot Posted May 7, 2017 Report Share Posted May 7, 2017 1) If the PM message does not last more than 10 back and forth and the dialogues are less then 1000 letters most of the time... That person is just wanting to fuck and that's all it is about. If you are into that.. make the date. But if you care about quality people you want to get to know AND fuck someone with better personality... be more discerning. 2) Most times an anal toy gives me a better time than a guy. Usually out of 10 guys, only one will keep his boastful promise he is going to take you on a hot ride. 3 minutes and there are a lot of excuses and shock they did not make it hahahah.... blowmenow and Hanabishi 2 ** Comments are my opinions, same as yours. It's not a 'Be-All-and-End-All' view. Intent's to thought-provoke, validate, reiterate and yes, even correct. Opinion to consider but agree to disagree. I don't enjoy conflicted exchanges, empty bravado or egoistical chest pounding. It's never personal, tribalistic or with malice. Frank by nature, means, I never bend the truth. Views are to broaden understanding - Updated: Nov 2021. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Size queen Posted May 7, 2017 Report Share Posted May 7, 2017 18 minutes ago, upshot said: 2) Most times an anal toy gives me a better time than a guy. Sounds like Samantha Jones and a size queen. What is the size of your Dido? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest :'( Posted May 7, 2017 Report Share Posted May 7, 2017 2 hours ago, Magicerife said: Think doubly hard before getting committed with someone who does not have his roots here Triple hard. Gays usually don't stay here long if they're foreigner and are just passing clouds. One day, he could say his parents are back in his hometown and you'll never see him again... You can enjoy his body while it lasts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
upshot Posted May 7, 2017 Report Share Posted May 7, 2017 5 minutes ago, Guest Size queen said: Sounds like Samantha Jones and a size queen. What is the size of your Dido? If you have to ask you are not ready for it LOL....... I am only a size queen for toys not for cocks sizes. But people should not make promises they can't keep as I will hold you ( and your cock) to it. ** Comments are my opinions, same as yours. It's not a 'Be-All-and-End-All' view. Intent's to thought-provoke, validate, reiterate and yes, even correct. Opinion to consider but agree to disagree. I don't enjoy conflicted exchanges, empty bravado or egoistical chest pounding. It's never personal, tribalistic or with malice. Frank by nature, means, I never bend the truth. Views are to broaden understanding - Updated: Nov 2021. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iamziz Posted May 7, 2017 Report Share Posted May 7, 2017 (edited) Don't trust pictures and how beautiful a chat can be. Face2face meet often paints a different personality. A bonus sometimes when it is better that what shown online. Don't commit to anything before a meet. Many cry foul when they don't get what they want when they die die confirming a fuck or other sexual acts - either because they put a very high standard they are not even close to that standard or because they think they have no flaws everyone else must be perfect etc. Put a time to wait for someone else you will wait and wait and wait. If person doesn't come by certain time, cancel. Respect yourself. Many don't have basic courtesy to tell you they would be late or not coming. Don't be so desperate. Edited May 7, 2017 by iamziz mate69, Cube3 and Hemnes 3 ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ 善待对人。麻烦用英文来表达信息。不是每个人都会看的懂中文 。| “People need to learn the art of making an argument. Often there is no right or wrong. It's just your opinion vs someone else's opinion. How you deliver that opinion could make the difference between opening a mind, changing an opinion or shutting the door. Sometimes folk just don't know when they've "argued" enough. Learn when to shut up." ― J'son M. Lee Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Hunk Posted May 7, 2017 Report Share Posted May 7, 2017 That doesn't apply to just gays you meet, but everyone including family, friends and collegues. Trust no one except maybe your parents because society is cruel. Learn from mistakes and do not repeat them. boy20s and thickpec 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest MaruMaru Posted May 7, 2017 Report Share Posted May 7, 2017 Be wary of what you say to your friends, there might be a judas who is waiting to use it against you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kidster Posted May 7, 2017 Author Report Share Posted May 7, 2017 (edited) On 5/7/2017 at 1:18 PM, Magicerife said: Think doubly hard before getting committed with someone who does not have his roots here My original title of the post is "Hard Lessons learnt in this Circle" to keep the responses targeted and relevant. However, the admin changed the title and now it becomes too generic. Nevertheless, instead of talking about your life which can be any thing under the sun. please keep to events related your life as an aj. If possible, please quote specific examples so that the rest of us can understand the context and appreciate the insights better. The sharing from Magicerife is a good example. Edited July 3, 2017 by kidster boy20s 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gray32 Posted May 7, 2017 Report Share Posted May 7, 2017 Don't fall for the person who treats you like an object. Be it like being treated like a trophy to show off to his friends or a living sex toy, if the desire isn't love but just wanting or needing that person for something, leave him. Came across people before who took an extra mile to be nice and friendly, saying that 'I'm not into fun' but at the end of the day they popped the question of having fun or becoming sex buddies. Swisse, boy20s and ZKT279 3 Holy mama. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wilfgene Posted May 8, 2017 Report Share Posted May 8, 2017 Yes sex is but a part, but not all of us. If he chooses public cruising in this age of social medias and saunas, FORGET HIM. Or if he chooses to occupy public spaces with his personal belongings, instead of keeping them in lockers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest concern Posted May 9, 2017 Report Share Posted May 9, 2017 profound writting.i gave 9 and a half for that verse.when make a mistake is not a mistake.when repeat it then is a mistake. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
barocco80 Posted May 9, 2017 Report Share Posted May 9, 2017 Usually grindr pic is the brightest side for most... and it went downhill from there... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ArchDragon Posted May 10, 2017 Report Share Posted May 10, 2017 do not get too invested/attached to a friend. you will regret it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Sad gay truth Posted May 10, 2017 Report Share Posted May 10, 2017 The more attractive your partner is to others, the harder it is to keep him by your side. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Numbed Posted May 10, 2017 Report Share Posted May 10, 2017 On 07/05/2017 at 0:43 PM, kidster said: "When you make a mistake, it's not a mistake. When you repeat a mistake, it's a mistake" When mistakes are repeated every 5 years. What do you call it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melvinlam90 Posted May 10, 2017 Report Share Posted May 10, 2017 Relationship that last in a year is honeymoon. Anything after than that, you see the real picture Mroneonline 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jimmy Lee Posted May 10, 2017 Report Share Posted May 10, 2017 Living a life true to yourself isn't necessarily about making a statement or feeling the need to tell everyone indiscriminately. Sometimes all you need is to live your life openly and freely with the people that matter. On coming out, online, publicly. Not discouraging anything, just hoping that someone who wants to will just consider and make a calculated decision. Perhaps just telling the people that matter is sufficient. Its such a complicated decision, its so difficult trying to navigate this. There is no guide, we can only chart our own paths and hopefully light the way for the many others still in the dark. Cube3 and Hayden 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Magicerife Posted May 11, 2017 Popular Post Report Share Posted May 11, 2017 do not allow your friends to distant even when you're partnered, or revolve your world solely around him. otherwise when he's gone, you're left on your own. EndlessDreamz, boy20s, bluefish20008 and 3 others 6 ---Dignity is a facade we wear to hide our ignorance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yokohamajin Posted May 12, 2017 Report Share Posted May 12, 2017 Lesson 1 and 2, so true, we have the same experience lol, some one refused to give me wechat/line/no. on the way meeting he blocked me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmlf Posted May 12, 2017 Report Share Posted May 12, 2017 (edited) chanced on this few days ago .. and the one verse in the song about looking for love is profound Edited May 12, 2017 by cmlf mantin30 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wantonmee Posted May 12, 2017 Report Share Posted May 12, 2017 (edited) When u enjoy spending time with him/her, more than he/she does with u. It's a red flag. Edited May 12, 2017 by wantonmee Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Juniro Posted May 12, 2017 Report Share Posted May 12, 2017 A good man builds a home for you at the end. A good bf thrills you with the adventures. Swisse and Magicerife 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kidster Posted May 12, 2017 Author Report Share Posted May 12, 2017 16 hours ago, yokohamajin said: Lesson 1 and 2, so true, we have the same experience lol, some one refused to give me wechat/line/no. on the way meeting he blocked me I always bring my laptop with me or something to work on these days. You never know when you got stood up again. Expect the unexpected! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Macho zero Posted May 12, 2017 Report Share Posted May 12, 2017 I've long given up on finding relationship in this circle. But I still hope to be proven wrong. What to do? Unless I want to become a monk. Meantime, I still look around and literally kissing frogs. I chose the best looking frogs. At least if things don't work out, I enjoyed the sex. Also there are few good looking frogs so I don't have to kiss too many frogs. I want sex but I'm not desperate for sex. I'll chat till we're comfortable to meet. If some of them are using fake pics and identity, it's easy to tell after a few chats. So I'll just forget them and move on, that's what people do to get sex. I don't take myself too seriously, there's no need to go emo over it. Then there's those who are really really persistent. They seem genuine but ended up it's still about sex. But they are nice about it. They're predatory but hey, like they said, I'm no virgin myself and went in with my eyes wide open. No matter how we enjoyed chatting about nice things and respect each other, after the sex, everything just changed. He asked for more sex and we hope more sex would lead to a relationship. But no matter how hot he thought you were initially, tops still prefer fresh meat and more bodies to conquer. Then he stopped calling and chatting. It became one line replies. The writing is on the wall, there no need to cling on. There's no need to be emo over it. The lesson learnt? This circle is so big and complex that your few lessons are really weak against the resourcefulness of men driven by sex for sex. There are hundreds such out there, meet a few wile ones and get eaten alive by them is almost unavoidable. Their motto, "like they said, I'm no virgin myself and went in with my eyes wide open." It means I'm playing along for the sex also. Sometimes I wonder about myself as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest 72%dark Posted June 27, 2017 Report Share Posted June 27, 2017 Do not try so hard, do not chase so hard, do not fall so hard, do not put in so much effort. Cos in the end you'll feel tired and still come away empty handed. (Do more meditation/prayer/masturbation/home improvement/marathons/netflix/sedatives/etc. Look forward to a better afterlife/next life/oblivion.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted June 27, 2017 Report Share Posted June 27, 2017 Never beg anyone for love. Move on with what's left of your self respect. Hemnes and Mroneonline 2 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ctglobal Posted July 2, 2017 Report Share Posted July 2, 2017 On 05/10/2017 at 11:40 AM, Guest Numbed said: When mistakes are repeated every 5 years. What do you call it? "Continuing education" aka "skills future" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted July 2, 2017 Report Share Posted July 2, 2017 On 10/05/2017 at 5:40 PM, Guest Numbed said: When mistakes are repeated every 5 years. What do you call it? Daft. 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted July 3, 2017 Report Share Posted July 3, 2017 On 10/5/2017 at 5:40 PM, Guest Numbed said: When mistakes are repeated every 5 years. What do you call it? General Election. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted July 3, 2017 Report Share Posted July 3, 2017 Make your own rules and live by them. Define clearly what they are and what they mean to you. When life gets too confusing, look at the rules you have created for yourself and live by them. Adjust when necessary, but always go back to them when the confusion passed. Treat yourself good. Pamper yourself to something nice. It does wonders. Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted July 3, 2017 Report Share Posted July 3, 2017 The pain hurts more when it is from someone whom u least expect to hurt u. 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blowmenow Posted July 3, 2017 Report Share Posted July 3, 2017 there is a lot of wisdom here reli appreciate all the sharing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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