Hi Torrent, I empathize with your situation, having been born with a congenital defect. From what you have written, the only solace is that you do not suffer from the other associated syndromes (e.g. Marfan's, SMA, and congenital heart disease) and that your defect appears to be cosmetic. However, if it starts to disturb your breathing, then you should consult a doctor/surgeon to see if surgery is warranted. Another plus side is that your defect is not directly noticeable unless you go about topless. But it is not a good feeling to know what you are harboring inside. I can identify with the fear that when you meet someone you truly like, will he be able to accept you with your imperfection? That I am unable to answer for you. The cliche goes that if someone truly loves you, then he will be able to look beyond your physical disability and see the "true" you. But that is easier said than done in this superficial world that we live in. So what can YOU do in your present situation? If you feel strongly that correcting the Pectus Excavatum will bring you happiness, then by all means, schedule a consult with a cardiothoracic or plastic surgeon and hear what they have to say. You will want to note the potential complications of the surgical procedure/anaesthesia as well as the finances involved. You also need to find out if FULL CORRECTION of the deformity is possible in your case. Of course, there may be non-surgical treatment options, but I am not the expert here. I wish you all the best in whatever you decide. Be well, Gymbod74