Is it a turn off for top if bottom cannot get hard when getting fucked?

[Guest Guest]

I am a bottom who cannot get hard when fucked. Does this turn off the top? How do you get hard when being fucked? Thks.

[Why?]

What is the point. You are not using it anyway.

[manehiso]

For visual and aesthetic purposes, maybe..

[Kimochi]

Yes. Some will get arouse and stimulated especially if the bottom has nice and sexy sexy cock 

[upshot]

8 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

I am a bottom who cannot get hard when fucked. Does this turn off the top? How do you get hard when being fucked? Thks.

 

I am like you, the stimulation at the back end is so focused, my front end does not get hard even when I was in my 20s. The moment I do not grip that cock, I will slowly go soft... the moment the fucking gets intense in my ass. 

 

It's just how it is and different people's body are wired differently. Some will get that way like us, some slow to erect or erect when close to orgasm and others are hard as their TOPs all the way through.

 

The important thing is are you enjoying the sex or you get remarked by your lover about your erection and that disappoint you from enjoying sex and excitement? His disappointment should not deprive you of your own enjoyment. Not to make you feel uncomfortable and thus distract you from your own sexual participation with him at that moment.

 

Don't let their ignorance spoil it for you if it is.

Edited December 6, 2020 by upshot

[fab]

It's a sauce of motivation to the tops.

 

[cutejack]

2 hours ago, Kimochi said:

Yes. Some will get arouse and stimulated especially if the bottom has nice and sexy sexy cock 

N sex jialat jialat 😂😂

[Guest KB 2regular]

8 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

I am a bottom who cannot get hard when fucked. Does this turn off the top? How do you get hard when being fucked? Thks.

Some tops use the hardness of the bottom's cock as a thermometer indicating the siokness of being fucked by him, hence a measurement of his masculinity performance.

Especially when the room is too dim for direct visual interactions.

If you don't get hard when being fucked, then you should supplement it with more audio feedback of manly moans instead.

 

When I get fucked at the big bed at the Keybox busy corridor, I suppressed my moaning in order not to give away our notti action to those guys passing by.

 

For expert top, when he's groping up my legs to my butts in the dark, he'll find that I'm soft. When he started fingering me while holding my cock, my cock starts to swell in his hand telling him I'm ready to get fucked.

Then as the top is fucking me, he can only gauge my pleasures by checking on my cock hardness and leaking. It's so notti that we are secretly copulating while there's busy traffic passing by and not knowing it's happening right under their noses.

[Guest guest]

I heard when btm getting fucked but his dick cannot get hard means he is pure btm?

[Dart]

On 12/6/2020 at 9:43 AM, Guest Guest said:

I am a bottom who cannot get hard when fucked. Does this turn off the top? How do you get hard when being fucked? Thks.

 

Both will be immensely stimulated when top's cockhead ( glan ) hits bottom's G-spot ( prostate ). Bottom will respond with his cock become hard. Banging continues and both will ejaculate. Something spectacular!

 

Try coach your top to hit your G-spot. Sometimes the penetration is not deep enough for the cockhead to reach the G-spot or top's cock has lost its "sense of direction"  😅 resulting in less pleasurable experience for both.

 

I certainly find it very exciting for my bottom's cock to be standing hard while I pound him. That's when I know I fuck a real guy 😉

Edited December 7, 2020 by Dart

[Guest guest]

You see those btm in porn video, most of them are rock hard while getting fucked.

[auscent]

58 minutes ago, Guest guest said:

You see those btm in porn video, most of them are rock hard while getting fucked.

Porn movies dont show everything. They dont always show the emotional intimacy between 2 guys.

[Guest guest]

30 minutes ago, auscent said:

Porn movies dont show everything. They dont always show the emotional intimacy between 2 guys.

They show fake scene?

[doncoin]

Every guy is different. Some guys stay hard through out when they bottom, and some don't. For me it is not personally a turn off. but I do enjoy playing with a hard cock while fucking the guy. 

[xg3niusx]

1 hour ago, doncoin said:

Every guy is different. Some guys stay hard through out when they bottom, and some don't. For me it is not personally a turn off. but I do enjoy playing with a hard cock while fucking the guy. 

True or will u want to fuck a new btm 

[fetish72]

Doesn't mean the bottom don't get hard they are not sexually aroused. Most bottom they turn soft but the enjoy when we hit their g-spot as for flex they the one get hard on when they get fuck the more you ramp and bang the harder they get. If you hit the g-spot they squirt like Marina Bay Sand firework without touching their cock.

[Guest Eeewww]

On 12/6/2020 at 9:43 AM, Guest Guest said:

I am a bottom who cannot get hard when fucked. Does this turn off the top? How do you get hard when being fucked? Thks.

It will be more turnoff if the bottom crying like a little virgin girl when fucked. 🤢

[Dart]

23 hours ago, Guest guest said:

You see those btm in porn video, most of them are rock hard while getting fucked.

 

In porn, they take drugs to perform.

[klarke]

i personally dont care if its your ass im using.

[And then]

Maybe not directly related to being top or bottom, but to me,

if a guy needs his dick to be directly stimulated before he gets hard,

then it is a bit off putting

 

I prefer my guys to be ready for action before any genital contact!

[upshot]

22 minutes ago, And then said:

I prefer my guys to be ready for action before any genital contact!

 

EVEN if he has no mental control over not archiving an erection as his body can't trigger a reaction from his cock EVEN if he is turned on by you mentally?

 

Thus less preferred lover for you to fuck?

[Guest guest]

2 hours ago, And then said:

Maybe not directly related to being top or bottom, but to me,

if a guy needs his dick to be directly stimulated before he gets hard,

then it is a bit off putting

 

I prefer my guys to be ready for action before any genital contact!

By right a guy dick should become hard when physical contact is in action between the two guys. Be it kissing, sucking of the nipples, touching etc.

[mate69]

1 hour ago, Guest guest said:

By right a guy dick should become hard when physical contact is in action between the two guys. Be it kissing, sucking of the nipples, touching etc.

 

yes its the trigger for sex

[FattChoy]

Wah piang....such a fail.  Tongue so sharp but the bird cannot get hard.  Ahahaha.... Woof woof.

[And then]

11 hours ago, upshot said:

 

EVEN if he has no mental control over not archiving an erection as his body can't trigger a reaction from his cock EVEN if he is turned on by you mentally?

 

Thus less preferred lover for you to fuck?

 

I would be wondering if this guy is attracted/ turned on by me, or if there is something wrong with him, maybe some level of erectile dysfunction

[caindukker]

If I am the top, I really won't care. But a quiet bottom turns me off though.

 

Sometimes when I use my dildo, i ram myself so hard that the sensation is so intense that my dick just won't get hard. But I can cum like crazy and just feel my whole body shivering even with a soft dick.

 

So a hard dick is no way to gauge whether the bottom is enjoying your dick or not. 

 

But to each his own. 

[upshot]

3 hours ago, And then said:

 

I would be wondering if this guy is attracted/ turned on by me, or if there is something wrong with him, maybe some level of erectile dysfunction

You could just ask and take the time to look for clue of it. Or it that all that person is to you. Another meat to serve you? I am a btm... you think that is nice for folks like that to hear?

Edited December 9, 2020 by upshot

[Guest Derelict]

1 minute ago, upshot said:

You could just ask and take the time to look for clue of it. Or it that all that person is to you. Another meat to serve you? I am a btm... you think that is nice for folks like that to hear?

Sorry to hear that you cannot get your KukuJiao hard and up, I guess it will happen to all of us when we get old.  So don't feel too bad.

 

Did you seek treatment?  Maybe you can consult TCM, but not sure if they will acupuncture your KuKuJiao.....scary

 

BTW, how do the tops treat you when yours dangles there like a bell when they thrust?  Were they understanding or did they scorn at you?

 

Do share how you overcome this.

 

 

[upshot]

13 hours ago, Guest Derelict said:

Sorry to hear that you cannot get your KukuJiao hard and up, I guess it will happen to all of us when we get old.  So don't feel too bad.

 

Did you seek treatment?  Maybe you can consult TCM, but not sure if they will acupuncture your KuKuJiao.....scary

 

BTW, how do the tops treat you when yours dangles there like a bell when they thrust?  Were they understanding or did they scorn at you?

 

Do share how you overcome this.

 

 

Feel better? Love feeding trolls their much needed snacks to help them grow up.

[kys0n]

I don't think it's a turn-off. But it would be a turn-on if the btm is hard while I fuck him. Fun to play with it too while fucking the btm.

[Guest Guest]

11 hours ago, upshot said:

Feel better? Love feeding trolls their much needed snacks to help them grow up.

You how to feed? Cannot turn hard😅

[Chuchu69]

On 12/6/2020 at 9:43 AM, Guest Guest said:

I am a bottom who cannot get hard when fucked. Does this turn off the top? How do you get hard when being fucked? Thks.

It is normal if your cock is soft when fucked. Try to enjoy and relax.

[GachiMuchi]

On 12/6/2020 at 9:43 AM, Guest Guest said:

I am a bottom who cannot get hard when fucked. Does this turn off the top? How do you get hard when being fucked? Thks.

 

You are what I call a seasoned bottom. Imagine a seasoned prostitute that can open her legs and get fucked and yet still can read newspaper the during process.
The excitement phase for you is gone, unless that top is something special. You are so used to getting fucked that your mind turns to auto mode therefore your cock don't get hard because the top need to do more than just fuck you silly.

 

Most bottom's cock gets hard because they are sexually aroused by their top presence and the top's cock because it is their type and or they had been "hungry" for some time, plus their minds are stimulated. In your case, your mind is not as stimulated or sexually aroused enough.

Edited December 11, 2020 by GachiMuchi

[fetish69]

To me if i fuck btm not neccessary his cock to be hard important to me is how he handle my cock like way he squeeze his ass muscle. This will be very stimulating and makes the top goes wild and raunchy. The top will moan with the eyes closed and sweating dripping. So btm excercise using kegal practise to make your top came back for secong third and more helping.😘🥰

[upshot]

13 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

You how to feed? Cannot turn hard😅

Did not think you were that bad... not grown up and also uneducated to read between the lines.

[upshot]

15 hours ago, GachiMuchi said:

 

You are what I call a seasoned bottom. Imagine a seasoned prostitute that can open her legs and get fucked and yet still can read newspaper the during process.
The excitement phase for you is gone, unless that top is something special. You are so used to getting fucked that your mind turns to auto mode therefore your cock don't get hard because the top need to do more than just fuck you silly.

 

Most bottom's cock gets hard because they are sexually aroused by their top presence and the top's cock because it is their type and or they had been "hungry" for some time, plus their minds are stimulated. In your case, your mind is not as stimulated or sexually aroused enough.

I can't agree entirely to that... yes there is such a thing as porn-dick. Meaning someone who watch so much porn that it desensitize them to it and that makes even hard core sex porn nothing more than vanilla. I get that analogy. Sex over time can be mundane too especially with lovers who just want to flip you over and do it, cummed and run. I get that too.

 

But there are those who get hard when they get touched or upon looking at a naked person they are about to sleep but it is also natural for some to not hold that erection when penetrated or when not using their penis for sex. I am hard when I fuck a BTM when I was more a flex but once someone do me the erection goes down.  And I am not alone on this. Others who feel pain and that effect erection. Those on medication. Those with TOPS that are nervous with. Those not in the mood but let their TOP have their fun to get off. I can name many instances including those who make remarks to 'mildly advertise' their COCK is so wonderful they make all BTMs erect due to their prowess.

 

To make no other room for other plausible reasons is being disingenuous. That like saying to someone something wrong or failed? That is not a fair statement to imply unless you can back that with biological fact.

 

How many have been mentally done in when they read comments from folks especially regulars? Balance the context.

 

The PENIS does not define who you are as a person. 95% of one's waking hours spent has nothing to do with that penis or sex making you a good functioning person. If you are, something is wrong with anyone. The word Perversion comes to mind to put it mildly. Too much importance placed on that one penile erection issue is as bad as those who focus their glory success in life is down to their penile performance or size as their fame.

I have had shitty TOP cocks in my life that totally did not live up to their hype when they claimed it. But you do not hear me go around talking bad at TOPS each time a new thread pops up about them. Instead of citing the extreme ends of the topic, sometime we should be moderate in our approach about it. I am as usually going to be shout down by the GUEST (and disguise regulars) trolls being an example of cancel-culture-useful-idiots that they are but FUCK IT. It needs to be said. We can prefer but we can not expect. Not THIS ANYWAY. We need to appreciate what we can still get from others and that one can still manage to perform for others.

 

Take it for what it is. I am btw, happy with my own small limpy SEASONED* dick situation and this is not a bitter rant for my sake. I am 'balancing the books' here. Happy snacking trolls.

 

* at the request of one of my uneducated failed troll fan to make his day.

 

https://www.reddit.com/r/askgaybros/comments/3c8mlh/bottoms_who_dont_get_hard_during_sex/

https://www.reddit.com/r/askgaybros/comments/75jhc5/do_you_stay_hard_when_bottoming/

 

 

Edited December 11, 2020 by upshot

[Guest Guest]

8 hours ago, upshot said:

Did not think you were that bad... not grown up and also uneducated to read between the lines.

Lol on the contrary it is you who didn't get it. 

[Guest Guest]

7 hours ago, upshot said:

I can't agree entirely to that... yes there is such a thing as porn-dick. Meaning someone who watch so much porn that it desensitize them to it and that makes even hard core sex porn nothing more than vanilla. I get that analogy. Sex over time can be mundane too especially with lovers who just want to flip you over and do it, cummed and run. I get that too.

 

But there are those who get hard when they get touched or upon looking at a naked person they are about to sleep but it is also natural for some to not hold that erection when penetrated or when not using their penis for sex. I am hard when I fuck a BTM when I was more a flex but once someone do me the erection goes down.  And I am not alone on this. Others who feel pain and that effect erection. Those on medication. Those with TOPS that are nervous with. Those not in the mood but let their TOP have their fun to get off. I can name many instances including those who make remarks to 'mildly advertise' their COCK is so wonderful they make all BTMs erect due to their prowess.

 

To make no other room for other plausible reasons is being disingenuous. That like saying to someone something wrong or failed? That is not a fair statement to imply unless you can back that with biological fact.

 

How many have been mentally done in when they read comments from folks especially regulars? Balance the context.

 

The PENIS does not define who you are as a person. 95% of one's waking hours spent has nothing to do with that penis or sex making you a good functioning person. If you are, something is wrong with anyone. The word Perversion comes to mind to put it mildly. Too much importance placed on that one penile erection issue is as bad as those who focus their glory success in life is down to their penile performance or size as their fame.

I have had shitty TOP cocks in my life that totally did not live up to their hype when they claimed it. But you do not hear me go around talking bad at TOPS each time a new thread pops up about them. Instead of citing the extreme ends of the topic, sometime we should be moderate in our approach about it. I am as usually going to be shout down by the GUEST (and disguise regulars) trolls being an example of cancel-culture-useful-idiots that they are but FUCK IT. It needs to be said. We can prefer but we can not expect. Not THIS ANYWAY. We need to appreciate what we can still get from others and that one can still manage to perform for others.

 

Take it for what it is. I am btw, happy with my own small limpy dick situation and this is not a bitter rant for my sake. I am 'balancing the books' here. Happy snacking trolls.

 

 

https://www.reddit.com/r/askgaybros/comments/3c8mlh/bottoms_who_dont_get_hard_during_sex/

https://www.reddit.com/r/askgaybros/comments/75jhc5/do_you_stay_hard_when_bottoming/

 

 

Can tell you are very seasoned, a more appropriate word is used.

 

 

[Guest Simon88888]

Maybe. One time the guy I had sex with got disappointed because i didn't get hard on while i'm getting fucked.

[BudakFit]

If not hard time to play master and slaves or roleplay haha or sex toys it is fun to play haha 

 

One thing about fun or sex do it slow make it passion then sweat then hot sex haha 

[Funchub]

i also find it difficult to get hard when i am feeling like a whore........all i can think about are hard cock in my mouth, sometimes someone will suck my limp dick and it will erect again...because of this i am often the bitch as my dick will be soft during encounters and the other guy with the hard dick will assume i am a bottom and push my head down...which i happily accept 

[Guest Guest 69]

Both me and my bf are always hard when I fuck him or when he fucks me. The only short moment he goes soft is when I put my cock in slowly in the beginning but once it's in deep he goes back rock hard and I will start ramming him good. 

 

I've never remember fucking anyone who stays soft the wholev time actually.

[Guest Small Dick Bottom]

Don’t worry about it, some guys get hard some don’t - doesn’t mean you aren’t enjoying it.

 

I’m about 50/50 - when me and my boyfriend have sex we normally start with me stroking his penis, or sucking him - and that normally gets me hard, but I generally get soft while he is pounding my ass, then only get hard again when we cuddle after he’s finished cumming in me

[Highheel]

As a pure btm like me, I seldom get hard when I'm being jacked back there. As long as I'm enjoying it, I will not get hard and I think its quite common. As long as both of us enjoy it, that's all.

[Guest guest]

13 hours ago, Highheel said:

As a pure btm like me, I seldom get hard when I'm being jacked back there. As long as I'm enjoying it, I will not get hard and I think its quite common. As long as both of us enjoy it, that's all.

You mean for pure btm, usually would not get hard when got fuck?

[Highheel]

Im not sure if "all" btm is like that, but i am like that. I do have some other btm friends also cannot get hard during anal. 

[Guest guest]

57 minutes ago, Highheel said:

Im not sure if "all" btm is like that, but i am like that. I do have some other btm friends also cannot get hard during anal. 

I see. But i find it is quite a turn on for both if the btm got hard while getting fuck. I think for those who got hard while get fuck, it is due to the btm or top is stroking the btm dick, this is why the btm dick is hard?

[Highheel]

21 minutes ago, Guest guest said:

I see. But i find it is quite a turn on for both if the btm got hard while getting fuck. I think for those who got hard while get fuck, it is due to the btm or top is stroking the btm dick, this is why the btm dick is hard?

Not sure, I cannot speak for all btm. Guess everyone have their own preferences. 

[NeitherHereNorThere]

Most BTM I played with in TMC dun get hard when I fuck them.. I kinda find it cute, will lube their cock and jerk them off while fucking their asses. 

[Guest Guest]

Trust me, 95% btm r not having a hard dick when fxxking them.