Are You Attracted By Caucasian? Guys Would You Guys Date Or Have Relationship With Foreigner? (Compiled)

[Guest Hotshit]

I don't disagree but I showed my 27 yr old boyfriend(dark hair,blue eye)this piece few months ago and he was like 'I ain't not rice queen and I'm hotter than you!'

[dcx2210]

i am a local and i get msg by white guys too. but i totally not into white. maybe i am exceptional case.

[matric]

Well I must say that's a lot of ground work and personal experience from author that sounds legit. Whatever it is, we cant change race and ethnicity, but we can change our attitudes. Staying positive, I believe one day I'll get my hot white guy. I'm Asian and it further proves author's findings that Asian guys line up for white guys. Yes I'm one of them.

[Guest Hunted down]

You may have noticed that Asians are usually bottoms in porn or possibly in real life too ?

So that's why when I see a SPG type behaving so pleased with themselves , I always think , does he know he's like a captured animal in the Angmoh eyes ? ( even though the Angmoh would never admit to seeing it that way ? )

[Guest Guest]

i am a local and i get msg by white guys too. but i totally not into white. maybe i am exceptional case.

I don't think you are exceptional. There are many Asians not interested in white men, in particular Singaporeans. Most locals prefer lean toned, tanned and smooth skin type.

[Guest Post]

Well I must say that's a lot of ground work and personal experience from author that sounds legit. Whatever it is, we cant change race and ethnicity, but we can change our attitudes. Staying positive, I believe one day I'll get my hot white guy. I'm Asian and it further proves author's findings that Asian guys line up for white guys. Yes I'm one of them.

Though the experiment is a good attempt it is flawed in many ways

1) to put a white lean and young guy pic in asia / singapore , it's expected that there would a good response . It's more unusual to find such a type here ....so it's not unusual to have more responses .

2) the asian pic , well it's more usual and run of the mill really so less interest .

3) in Europe the same white guy pic would attract interest because its attractive but were there more Asians going for it in Europe ? Or responses by whites themselves .

Generally I find that the white obsession and feeling of lower standing is mainly in former european colonial countries. In China eg they have less of a hang up and even regard them as of lower species and are used because they are different and objects of curiosity .

The white man there behave accordingly and if they don't behave they will be whacked !

[darkflame]

Just my observation but most of the guys I have seen who are picked up by white guys have exotic looks for an Asian or are quite hunky.

Those in the middle are left to other Asian guys to makan somehow.

 

Yes, I am angry that I am always considered transparent glass at Tantric. 

[Guest Guest]

I am Asian and only into Asians, so are many of my peers. And when I went to sauna I find the Ang moh not that popular unless you went to Babs or Backstage.

I agree with Darkflame that most angmoh have "exotic" taste in Asians. Just look around you while in bkk, the men and women escort of angmoh are just different....if you know what I mean.

[Guest Guest]

Just my opinion.. I feel whites tend to have a superiority complex here as they are of the minority race compared to Asians. So it's actually very easy for them to hunt down any other races like asian chinese be it in apps or cruising places or even in saunas.

[Guest DonewithAngMoh]

When I was younger, I was sexually curious for them - I would not say I was a potato queen at that time as I was always like all races that I find them attractive but as I grow older and after living in an Ang Moh country for quite a long time, I'd say I am done with them. Nowadays my eye candies are those cute or hunky Asians when I go holidays in Asia.

[Guest anytime]

I went sauna in Sydney, Melbourne and Auckland and noticed most whites are simply not interested in Asian. I'm surprised those fit hunks are willing to play with fat, old and bald men (no offense) instead of fit Asian. Most of the statues are Asian.

[Guest Post]

I went sauna in Sydney, Melbourne and Auckland and noticed most whites are simply not interested in Asian. I'm surprised those fit hunks are willing to play with fat, old and bald men (no offense) instead of fit Asian. Most of the statues are Asian.

Kesian them hor .....or serves them right ?

[Guest Guest]

Asians are not popular in western saunas just as whites are not popular here. The reason was most of them here are out of shape daddies, not those you see in fitness magazines. However, most young white men won't even go for Asian hunks except for the elderly silver fox.

[doncoin]

For the longest time, Asian men have been portrayed negatively in Western media. Like it or not, it goes all the way back to Fu Man Chu and all the unfortunately Hollywood stereotypes played over the years. Fortunately, in recent years, we are seeing more and more positive Asians portrayal in the media. Hence I do think that to some degree, especially Asians who grew up in Western countries tend to glorify the white man, as sublimely, they are brainwashed. In addition, for the longest time, gay Asian men, tend to be perceived within the Western gay community as slime, feminine, bottoms etc. when the Western preference tend to favor the big, muscular, athletic build guys. 

 

in recent years, I think Asian men are catching up in terms of physique with their Western counterparts. Today we are equally if not, just as muscular, taller, fitter than they are. I do feel a change is coming from what I am seeing here in the US, especially with the younger generation of gay men, who seem to have less problems dating someone outside their own race/ethnicity. 

 

Racism will exist always in some form or another. However, does it come down to racism or personal preference? While it is no excuse, keep in mind also that for a number of White gay men, dating the minority (i.e. Asian or Black etc.) maybe something they have never experienced before and the experience may be unfamiliar. Imagine someone from ulu middle of America, who grew up in some farm, and in some kampung town? Everyone they know is white, until he moved into a big city? Anyway, it is no excuse, and on the very least, some have the decency to be honest and tell you their preference. It is their loss. We move on. 

 

I am not spring chicken (in my early 40s) and my white partner is in his late 40s. We are both in great physical shape, and that is because we invest the time into staying in shape, and we believe in looking sexy for each other. Before me, he has never dated any Asian guy before, and his friends were surprised when they met me. 

 

I don't think I have the exotic features that Angmohs go for. In fact, I am too tall (1.8) and too heavy (95kg), and a tad too muscular for those who prefer their Asians willowy. 

[CuriousB]

Super proud to be Asian..only date Asian...

[Guest Guest]

I actually observed the angmoh men not as picky as the Asian men in local sauna. Mind you, they were the tall, young, athletic, handsome ones and they will gladly play with Asians whom they can click with, no matter the face, body and age. I thought those were the enlightened ones, no longer constrained by appearances in seeking out sex partner as long as they like his attitude. On the contrary, I've seen such hot angmohs reject hot Asian guys whom they felt treated them like some god or hesitated in accepting their advances for fun

[Guest Asiatic]

For the longest time, Asian men have been portrayed negatively in Western media. Like it or not, it goes all the way back to Fu Man Chu and all the unfortunately Hollywood stereotypes played over the years. Fortunately, in recent years, we are seeing more and more positive Asians portrayal in the media. Hence I do think that to some degree, especially Asians who grew up in Western countries tend to glorify the white man, as sublimely, they are brainwashed. In addition, for the longest time, gay Asian men, tend to be perceived within the Western gay community as slime, feminine, bottoms etc. when the Western preference tend to favor the big, muscular, athletic build guys.

in recent years, I think Asian men are catching up in terms of physique with their Western counterparts. Today we are equally if not, just as muscular, taller, fitter than they are. I do feel a change is coming from what I am seeing here in the US, especially with the younger generation of gay men, who seem to have less problems

I am not spring chicken (in my early 40s) and my white partner is in his late 40s. We are both in great physical shape, and that is because we invest the time into staying in shape, and we believe in looking sexy for each other. Before me, he has never dated any Asian guy before, and his friends were surprised when they met me.

I don't think I have the exotic features that Angmohs go for. In fact, I am too tall (1.8) and too heavy (95kg), and a tad too muscular for those who prefer their Asians willowy.

See that's the thing .

Even with this post above it clear that this Asian vv whites phenomenon is so difficult to fathom as its so deeply ingrained in the SEA Asian physche .

By saying that the Asian body is not fitter and taller and just as muscular if not more so etc as the Whites and therefore can be comparable to the whites etc .....is in itself a submission and worse still the ultimate form of aping them. And this is a view usually held by Asians who are in awe and pander to the whites and will seem to go all out to please them ...unconsciously even while justifying to themselves that they are in control and are not subservient position .

Even by saying that his white boyfriend never had an asian guy before and that he is not the willowy type is in itself a sad reflection of his thinking : read I ave a muscular fit gymmed sexy body which is comparable to any white man and that my white BF fancied me even though he never been with an asian before and on top of that I am not the willowy type of asian - so this asian guy has conditioned himself to be for all intents and purposes a white man in an asian body ... The ultimate banana if I may add !!

No sir you're not equal because this white bf of yours is likely not conversant in any asian language and you only speak to him in a western language ( English I presume ?) and eat western food everyday with the occasional take out .... You are in effect living in his world .

What this discussion ought to be centered on is that the Asian guy have their own preferences and looks ... And not even some Peter Le 's type of equality - which btw I don't mind oogling n wanking over !!! - and this Asian guy doesn't follow others they have their own unique preferences eg they may like Fat and chubby and matured and linger and salivate in Chub night at ten mens sauna .... And feel good and proud ...the Japanese have in their ways created their own model images and I see that too in China where the white man really s just an object of curiosity .

So , please don't confuse or delude yourself and try to justify your weaknesses and real desires and exponential with cliches like the fu man chu line ... That's for the asian in the west ( inc from former colonies ) and the need to explain and justify their existence there ....but the real Asians here don't need to .

[doncoin]

See that's the thing .

Even with this post above it clear that this Asian vv whites phenomenon is so difficult to fathom as its so deeply ingrained in the SEA Asian physche .

By saying that the Asian body is not fitter and taller and just as muscular if not more so etc as the Whites and therefore can be comparable to the whites etc .....is in itself a submission and worse still the ultimate form of aping them. And this is a view usually held by Asians who are in awe and pander to the whites and will seem to go all out to please them ...unconsciously even while justifying to themselves that they are in control and are not subservient position .

Even by saying that his white boyfriend never had an asian guy before and that he is not the willowy type is in itself a sad reflection of his thinking : read I ave a muscular fit gymmed sexy body which is comparable to any white man and that my white BF fancied me even though he never been with an asian before and on top of that I am not the willowy type of asian - so this asian guy has conditioned himself to be for all intents and purposes a white man in an asian body ... The ultimate banana if I may add !!

No sir you're not equal because this white bf of yours is likely not conversant in any asian language and you only speak to him in a western language ( English I presume ?) and eat western food everyday with the occasional take out .... You are in effect living in his world .

What this discussion ought to be centered on is that the Asian guy have their own preferences and looks ... And not even some Peter Le 's type of equality - which btw I don't mind oogling n wanking over !!! - and this Asian guy doesn't follow others they have their own unique preferences eg they may like Fat and chubby and matured and linger and salivate in Chub night at ten mens sauna .... And feel good and proud ...the Japanese have in their ways created their own model images and I see that too in China where the white man really s just an object of curiosity .

So , please don't confuse or delude yourself and try to justify your weaknesses and real desires and exponential with cliches like the fu man chu line ... That's for the asian in the west ( inc from former colonies ) and the need to explain and justify their existence there ....but the real Asians here don't need to .

 

If my boyfriend is black or Asian, will you have the same response that I am delusional? 

 

Asiatic, I think you need to read carefully what I wrote instead of taking things out of context. I did not say "By saying that the Asian body is not fitter and taller and just as muscular if not more so etc as the Whites and therefore can be comparable to the whites etc ...unconsciously even while justifying to themselves that they are in control and are not subservient position . 

 

What I wrote mentioned that Asian men for the longest time was perceived in that negative light, and in recent years have changed that perception. See paragraph 2. I do not think it is aping the white guy. I think it is ok to be skinny, as there will be guys out there who are into skinny guys. As for myself, I started working out at the gym when in NS, and continued over the years. So physically, it has always been something I do for myself, so for you to say "this asian guy has conditioned himself to be for all intents and purposes a white man in a asian body..." is a misunderstanding. I supposed you can say that about all the bodybuilders out there who conditioned themselves physically in a certain way. Truth is, muscles, regardless of race, work the same way when you spend time working out.

 

I am not quite sure if I should be offended being called a "banana." I don't know you at all, and it means little to me. Banana, Orange, Pineapple or Apple, it is just semantics. After all, once upon a time, gay men were referred to as "fruit." 

 

As for equality, you're right, I am not his equal. I make more money than he does and my career is more successful. However, money and career does not define a relationship. Love does.  The reality is you will be more successful in some areas of your life and less so in others, and same goes for your partner. What happens is you learn to balance each other out. While he is not conversant in any Asian language, there is no need for him or myself to speak in anything else other than English to communicate.

 

Actually, we eat a lot of Thai food, as it is nearby and cheap. We do enjoy Mexican a lot as well. Neither of which is Western per se. 

 

I agree with you 100% that Peter Le is very hot and sexy.

 

"That's for the asian in the west ( inc from former colonies )..." Ummm... Singapore was formerly a British colony. Based on your logic, you are that Asian too. So I am confused when you say "... the real Asians here don't need to." As I presume "here" refers to Singapore. 

 

I think and feel your response thus far has taken what I have written out of context and I sense a lot of anger. Love is love. It doesn't matter if the man you are with is Asian, White, Latino, or whatever. 

Edited June 30, 2015 by doncoin

[Guest Discrete]

I think discretion plays a big factor. For an Asian in an Asian country, the best bet for discretion is with someone of a different color. There's a high chance that other Asians are very likely to be friends' friend, or neighbor, etc; whereas White guys may just be tourists/short-term visitors.

[Guest Guest]

If my boyfriend is black or Asian, will you have the same response that I am delusional? 

 

Asiatic, I think you need to read carefully what I wrote instead of taking things out of context. I did not say "By saying that the Asian body is not fitter and taller and just as muscular if not more so etc as the Whites and therefore can be comparable to the whites etc ...unconsciously even while justifying to themselves that they are in control and are not subservient position . ...

 

I wondered how you would respond ... kudos to you for a balanced and thought out response.

[doncoin]

I wondered how you would respond ... kudos to you for a balanced and thought out response.

 

Thanks! I appreciate your response. It gets a tad exasperating when a response is given, and completely twisted from the original message. 

[Guest]

i like all speceis

[snowball]

If you like white, good for you, if you not, nothing to be ashamed of,

like or dislike, life still go on

[fab]

I m mostly not into whites.

 

Nonetheless, I think they are the most beautiful race.

[Guest guest]

I am an SPG potato queen, will always be and proud to be one too. Say what you like but white men rock my boat or rather my cock and arse. Lol.

 

Those of you asians out there who give me the death stare when Im with my angmo boyfriend are just jealous. You can only wish you had one too right?

 

I love everything white. White men, white culture and their huge thick white cocks!  

[Guest 亚洲人]

Does any of this matter? Would you want someone who is only with you for your ethnicity? Would you turn away someone you love just because they are racist? The latter is a more difficult question since it begs the question how you grew to love a racist. But if you somehow do and in all other respects they are great, would you reject them? But equally, if they were racist but somehow overcame that just for you, would you not be moved?

[Guest guest]

If you have a chee bye.....these white cocks will love you.....you are as precious as a free whore or a rubber sex toy.

[gymfan32]

Odd findings. haha. I guess I belong to the minority group. I would refer hot cute athletic Asian guys over similar white guys anytime

[Guest 72%dark]

Just to clarify, the mini study described was conducted in the US. Some of the comments here refer to the situation in Sg, which is clearly different. Crucially, white guys are in the majority in the US but in the minority here (hence the observation that white guys don't enjoy the same 'privilege' here as they do in the US). The analog to the White/Asian dynamic in the US would be the Chinese/non-Chinese dynamic in Sg.

The Straits Times actually published the results of a survey – this was recent, in the past 2–3 years, but I can't remember exactly when and I don't have access to the ST archives – showing that interracial marriages are on the rise in Sg. Respondents were polled on several questions to gauge their attitudes towards dating across racial lines, and one of the findings was that non-Chinese (i.e minority) Sgporeans are more open to dating someone outside their ethnic group than vice versa. Such 'preferences'/attitudes are likely shaped by the fact that someone from a small minority would find it impractical to go about their daily life without interacting with someone outside their ethnic group, but someone from a large majority could quite easily do so if the composition of their various networks were sufficiently homogenous. The study reported was about heterosexual pairings, but the findings are clearly applicable to the gay community as well.

[yuukito]

hmm can i say i find all types of men are attractive , until they show me their true colour what they really are , then we have to see.  cause looks are just , you know looks. it did not matter in any form of way... what is the point of setting your preferences about looks when your partner is unfaithful with a very sh*tty pillock attitude ?

[darkflame]

Just to clarify, the mini study described was conducted in the US. Some of the comments here refer to the situation in Sg, which is clearly different. Crucially, white guys are in the majority in the US but in the minority here (hence the observation that white guys don't enjoy the same 'privilege' here as they do in the US). The analog to the White/Asian dynamic in the US would be the Chinese/non-Chinese dynamic in Sg.

The Straits Times actually published the results of a survey – this was recent, in the past 2–3 years, but I can't remember exactly when and I don't have access to the ST archives – showing that interracial marriages are on the rise in Sg. Respondents were polled on several questions to gauge their attitudes towards dating across racial lines, and one of the findings was that non-Chinese (i.e minority) Sgporeans are more open to dating someone outside their ethnic group than vice versa. Such 'preferences'/attitudes are likely shaped by the fact that someone from a small minority would find it impractical to go about their daily life without interacting with someone outside their ethnic group, but someone from a large majority could quite easily do so if the composition of their various networks were sufficiently homogenous. The study reported was about heterosexual pairings, but the findings are clearly applicable to the gay community as well.

Precisely these were my thoughts when I was reading the article.

Due to media & societal influences, we are inclined to draw towards the larger group if we are the minority.

For example, in Malaysia, I was told that most gay Malays would prefer another Malay.

Seeing a Chinese at a sauna would be second priority unless there was no one else.

In Japan, I have seen many non-Japanese trying to get a Japanese boyfriend etc.

Many of these are from Southeast Asia but I shan't comment further.

Most non-Japanese are of course foreigners and came to Japan because they like the culture & people, so naturally they would be inclined to date a local.

However, it is a trend for locals to date non-locals so that's another issue altogether.

[Guest Tomato]

Precisely these were my thoughts when I was reading the article.

Due to media & societal influences, we are inclined to draw towards the larger group if we are the minority.

For example, in Malaysia, I was told that most gay Malays would prefer another Malay.

Seeing a Chinese at a sauna would be second priority unless there was no one else.

In Japan, I have seen many non-Japanese trying to get a Japanese boyfriend etc.

Many of these are from Southeast Asia but I shan't comment further.

Most non-Japanese are of course foreigners and came to Japan because they like the culture & people, so naturally they would be inclined to date a local.

However, it is a trend for locals to date non-locals so that's another issue altogether.

 

Precisely these were my thoughts when I was reading the article.

Due to media & societal influences, we are inclined to draw towards the larger group if we are the minority.

For example, in Malaysia, I was told that most gay Malays would prefer another Malay.

Seeing a Chinese at a sauna would be second priority unless there was no one else.

In Japan, I have seen many non-Japanese trying to get a Japanese boyfriend etc.

Many of these are from Southeast Asia but I shan't comment further.

Most non-Japanese are of course foreigners and came to Japan because they like the culture & people, so naturally they would be inclined to date a local.

However, it is a trend for locals to date non-locals so that's another issue altogether.

 

Not exactly true.

Fact is, the southeast asian Chinese looks are the comparatively most unattactive in terms of looks.

If you take note, in local saunas, white guys would prefer to be with Indian, Malays, in that order.  White guys in US, Aust would also prefer whites od different nationality.

In Japanese saunas, the Jap guys are more into Taiwanese, HK - the fairer type with delicate features.

You are right there, my Malay friend said that their community in Msia do not favour CHinese compared to to their own race.

 

It is afterall a preference.  The funniest part is that many Spore guys behave like they are God's gift to the gay world, but in fact, I repeat, Spore/Msia chinese guys are not so sought after.

[radialhead]

I like the way the research was well-written including the graph and the methodical research parameters. Feels like a mini-thesis to me but good job all the same.

 

I feel that white men are more 'saleable', not only among the gay community, but the heterosexual community in Asia as a whole. As most of the Asian countries have been colonized by a Western nation, unconscious colonial mentality is deeply ingrained that white/Western is still preferable, if not the best choice. I guess it also applies to sexual preference. In the few Asian countries I have lived, I can actually say white men still are the chosen ones in saunas and the gay circuit.

 

I'm not into white men and have not been attracted to them for more than a decade. Even in my porn, it's only Asians but I can't say this will be forever. At the end of the day, a cock is still a cock. It's just now, an Asian cock is better than all the rest. =)

Edited August 4, 2015 by radialhead

[bluerunner]

Ang moh does not interest me lor. Sticky rice please.

[Guest Guest]

I somewhat have developed from attracted to Ang Mohs to Asians as I get older unless the Ang Mohs are really hot and hunky, if they are usually not into Asians anyway.

[AngMoh Andy]

Most people, no matter which race, like what they don't have.  If they are Short, they like Tall, If they are scrawny they like muscular.  If hairy they like smooth.  It's only natural that Caucasions are interested in Asians and vice-versa.

[Guest Fatty]

Yes because Ang mo dua ki

[malayguy1986]

Where can i find caucasians guys??

[Guest]

On 12/19/2015 at 9:32 PM, Guest Fatty said:

Yes because Ang mo dua ki

Not dua ki. Its SIBEH dua ki. Not joking! Sibeh songggg!!!!!

[Guest]

Black ones lagi more Dua Ki!!!!! No joke!!!!

If you Kam their Dua Ki Lan Jiao, your jaw will feel sore or worse locked jaw. If they Gan your Kar Chng, your hole will have burning sensation and bleed profusely. No joke!!!!! Forever you cannot walk with legs closed.

SI BEY SONG.

[Guest heremee]

Physical attribute-wise and behaviour-wise, I am not a big fan of Caucasians. Maybe I am biased, but that is just my preference. 

I prefer Asians. 

[Guest Moremanly]

I like ang moh not because I love their rod big.

Generally ang moh are taller, bigger in body frame. most of them are well built. Some hairy ang moh with chest hairs, beard really aroused me a lot.

[Guest LoveAsians]

I am Chinese living in the west for a long time even now.  I much prefer Asians than Caucasians physical attributes as I like the smooth Asian skin more than that of the hairy Caucasians.  Chub bear for chub bear, I much prefer the Asian over Caucasian.  Just my personal preference that I cannot change.

[Guest guest]

Long non-sexual story ahead.....A is a good old french buddy of mine and he is in town visiting for the holidays. We first met when we shared an apartment over 5 years ago when he was living in sg w his french bf and i was with mine. Somehow the 2 of us connected really well and hv remained in touch on and off since he went back to Paris. There was nothing physical. A is now back in sg as his first stop for an Asian holiday. He is alone as his bf can only fly down next week, so he is staying with me. We think nothing of sharing my bed as we keep to our side of the bed. We also do not see each other naked , but walking around in our underwear while changing is no big deal. Im glad that after all these years we still can talk cock just like the old days. 

I think A looks great - lean, handsome with that floppy hair and same great smile that I remembered. But on this trip he kept saying that i look really good now, even better than when he first knew me. The first nite in my room when he first saw my body while I was standing in my underwear while changing and chatting with him, he said that he has not seen my body so fit before. I was shy about the attention and changed the subject. Haha. Last night we went bar hopping and over drinks while chatting he suddenly said i was beautiful, perfect. I just laughed it off and joked that he must be drinking too much. Then on the way home in a cab he muttered that I have changed alot and that I am no longer the party boy he knew back then. 

We got home, hit the showers and went straight to bed as usual but this time, A pulled his pillows right next to mine and our faces were close to each other as we chatted. Soon I felt his hands reach out to pull my body really close as we snuggled into each other while we continued to chat. It felt really good but strange at the same time as we have never been this close. Then suddenly A leaned over and planted soft loving kisses on my lips while he hugged me really tight. My dick immediately went rock hard but my mind was racing wondering how far we should go with this as he has a bf. I think the same thoughts must have crossed his mind as I noticed that his hands never ventured beyond hugging my chest and he was careful to make sure his dick was not pushing against my body. It was alot more loving than sexual and after a while we stopped kissing and spent the rest of the nite cuddling together. I didnt really sleep much, mainly because i could hear and feel his breathing on my face the whole time, but i think more because I was thinking what the next day will be like between us...

[Guest]

22 hours ago, Guest guest said:

Long non-sexual story ahead.....A is a good old french buddy of mine and he is in town visiting for the holidays. We first met when we shared an apartment over 5 years ago when he was living in sg w his french bf and i was with mine. Somehow the 2 of us connected really well and hv remained in touch on and off since he went back to Paris. There was nothing physical. A is now back in sg as his first stop for an Asian holiday. He is alone as his bf can only fly down next week, so he is staying with me. We think nothing of sharing my bed as we keep to our side of the bed. We also do not see each other naked , but walking around in our underwear while changing is no big deal. Im glad that after all these years we still can talk cock just like the old days. 

I think A looks great - lean, handsome with that floppy hair and same great smile that I remembered. But on this trip he kept saying that i look really good now, even better than when he first knew me. The first nite in my room when he first saw my body while I was standing in my underwear while changing and chatting with him, he said that he has not seen my body so fit before. I was shy about the attention and changed the subject. Haha. Last night we went bar hopping and over drinks while chatting he suddenly said i was beautiful, perfect. I just laughed it off and joked that he must be drinking too much. Then on the way home in a cab he muttered that I have changed alot and that I am no longer the party boy he knew back then. 

We got home, hit the showers and went straight to bed as usual but this time, A pulled his pillows right next to mine and our faces were close to each other as we chatted. Soon I felt his hands reach out to pull my body really close as we snuggled into each other while we continued to chat. It felt really good but strange at the same time as we have never been this close. Then suddenly A leaned over and planted soft loving kisses on my lips while he hugged me really tight. My dick immediately went rock hard but my mind was racing wondering how far we should go with this as he has a bf. I think the same thoughts must have crossed his mind as I noticed that his hands never ventured beyond hugging my chest and he was careful to make sure his dick was not pushing against my body. It was alot more loving than sexual and after a while we stopped kissing and spent the rest of the nite cuddling together. I didnt really sleep much, mainly because i could hear and feel his breathing on my face the whole time, but i think more because I was thinking what the next day will be like between us...

You are nothing but a low quality slut. There is a limit as to how far we can go, especially very well knowing that your friend has a bf! Have you ever spared a thought for the other party? No! Now, what if your bf had a friend and did the same with him, all without your knowledge, where they kissed and cuddled? Are you cool with that? 

I too have a close friend where we party and sleep in frequently. We would often kiss and cuddle but once he got attached, it was obvious that we stopped but we still party and sleep over. Its basic protocol!

We must all do our part to stop ruining other people’s relationships by having basic values and integrity!!! Something you obviously do not have. All you could think of was you, your cock and yourself! And that is utterly selfish, unkind and stupid!

[Guest]

1 hour ago, Guest said:

You are nothing but a low quality slut. There is a limit as to how far we can go, especially very well knowing that your friend has a bf! Have you ever spared a thought for the other party? No! Now, what if your bf had a friend and did the same with him, all without your knowledge, where they kissed and cuddled? Are you cool with that? 

I too have a close friend where we party and sleep in frequently. We would often kiss and cuddle but once he got attached, it was obvious that we stopped but we still party and sleep over. Its basic protocol!

We must all do our part to stop ruining other people’s relationships by having basic values and integrity!!! Something you obviously do not have. All you could think of was you, your cock and yourself! And that is utterly selfish, unkind and stupid!

Whoaaa...so fierce ah bro..yeah i was wrong to hv returned his kisses..guess we were both just caught up in the moment..yup i did get hard but it did not get anywhere near him nor did his dick come in any contact with my body..but yes we shouldnt hv even kissed..its not right.

Anyways the next day I spent time talking alot about his boyfriend and I said that they have a wonderful relationship when he was telling me all the stories. 

Without having to say it we knew what we are feeling is not real but we were just trying to enjoy the special time reconnecting like old times, yet knowing full well that we are unlikely going to see each other again.

Last nite in bed he admitted that he has been thinking about me at times in the years that we have been apart. I never realised that he saw me as more than just a friend. He also said that he has also been surprised at how much ive changed and that kind of swayed his emotions to want to hold me close and kiss me.  

And yup we still cuddled while we were both reading in bed..no kissing on the lips although he did plant kisses on my forehead and face at times..and definitely no sex, not even the slightest contact anywhere below the waist.

I think knowing what is right and wrong is much clearer and easier than doing what is right and wrong as emotions come into play..what we have done is still not right despite the boundaries we have set for ourselves but its the only way we know to best manage this.

[fab]

i m not generally into whites. recently i met 2 in my gym. 1 looks matt damon, n the other, Dolph Lundgren. so mesmerized by them. 

[potato]

I believe there's nothing wrong with dating white guys or whatever races you prefer. For my case I do like white guys, if you ask my why, I'm clueless. I dated few local guys, it didn't workout. As long as you're happy with the guy. I think you're totally fine. 

Edited January 3, 2016 by potato

[Steve5380]

22 hours ago, Guest said:

You are nothing but a low quality slut. There is a limit as to how far we can go, especially very well knowing that your friend has a bf! Have you ever spared a thought for the other party? No! Now, what if your bf had a friend and did the same with him, all without your knowledge, where they kissed and cuddled? Are you cool with that? 

I too have a close friend where we party and sleep in frequently. We would often kiss and cuddle but once he got attached, it was obvious that we stopped but we still party and sleep over. Its basic protocol!

We must all do our part to stop ruining other people’s relationships by having basic values and integrity!!! Something you obviously do not have. All you could think of was you, your cock and yourself! And that is utterly selfish, unkind and stupid!

It seems incredible the degree by which your brain has been washed by sanctimonious impositions of pseudo-moral.

The positive work should be done by debunking this idea that a person should have a 100% possession of another person. The love two people have for each other does not need to include an absolute prohibition to enjoy themselves with someone else.  Instead, the love should be deep enough to look forward to the partner enjoying himself guilt-free, be it by having a fantastic meal in a gathering with other people, or having satisfying sex with a different person than the partner. And this grant of liberty to enjoy must be mutual, so that no partner finds himself losing out to enjoyment because of the relationship.  This helps perpetuate a relationship.  And it is HIGHLY MORAL to look out for mutual enjoyment.

[Guest]

With the growing number of white expats in Singapore, there are bound to be PLUs that have experience in relationship with white guys.

 

Keen to share your thoughts and feelings? Any successful real life stories? Any unpleasant experience? 

 

Thought I have always envisioned to be with a white guy,  so far it hasn't materialised. :-(

 

P. S. Before being accused of being a potato queen, remember that people have their preferences. Just like food. You have your likes and dislikes.