Cock Goes Soft After / When Putting On Condom & Performance Anxiety (Compiled)

[Guest bottom]

switch roles lor.

the top dont like to be bottom. so we have SEX TOY,,,

[subarucap]

Well, a little imagination will go a long way. Besides your finger, what else do you think you can use?

i tried the imagination method.

after showering and cleaning up from the first round... the second round the btm made me aroused by sucking me off and letting me pump him... took longer to cum...

after shower again i thought i wanted to leave but he was too good at sucking me off...

was pretty limp at that point...

so i thought what the hell... i fantasized about this boy i wanted to LTR for the longest of times... but was rejected by this boy... anyway...

so i fantasized pumping his hole instead...

i was surprised it really worked...

shot my load on his back and surprised myself... so yeah...

[Guest Mike]

i tried the imagination method.

i was surprised it really worked...

shot my load on his back and surprised myself... so yeah...

Yeap, the key word is "Imagination"

But sometimes I get very tired after gym but my body looks great that my bf keeps bugging me....those btm just don't understand being top is hard work lol

[GachiMuchi]

Haha. You are right Mike. Being a top is hard work, being a good top is lagi hard.

My Fb heard that I cummed twice with another fb and wants me to cum 3 times the next time with him.

So, you say you hard work. I more cham than you lor. I think 3rd round my dick sure limp one.

[castaway]

It depends on the individual Top actually

I have made a friend of mine cum 7 times within 24 hours, I also feel unbelieveable . But I agree he is very horny, easy to get hard on and cum alittle bit fast

[junxiang]

It depends on the individual Top actually

I have made a friend of mine cum 7 times within 24 hours, I also feel unbelieveable . But I agree he is very horny, easy to get hard on and cum alittle bit fast

U must be a dam hot btm for him to do that! Mind sharing what happen during this 24 hours?

[castaway]

No, I am not hot at all but I guess it was chemistry :thumb:

[Guest -Guest-]

Recently i been facing going soft easily with my funbuddy. in certain position, my dick will go soft while he sucks. im still young 26. no sickness not under medication.

[Guest Guest]

Recently i been facing going soft easily with my funbuddy. in certain position, my dick will go soft while he sucks. im still young 26. no sickness not under medication.

what is happening to me?

[darkflame]

Maybe exercising more will increase the hormones needed to stay hard?

[qedcwc]

Recently i been facing going soft easily with my funbuddy. in certain position, my dick will go soft while he sucks. im still young 26. no sickness not under medication.

Thr could be two ways abt it.

1. Ur buddy does not stimulate u hard enuf n u find u cannot maintain ur erection for long.

2. Are u an egg-lover? If not, u shud consider taking more eggs, and i mean chicken eggs, and yes, including d yolk. Best to not beat d yolk to mix with d egg white, either boiled or u crack an egg into boiling water. Beating it up may mess up d lecithin in d egg which is responsible for helping to break down d cholesterol in d egg. Conventional health experts have often missed out this lecithin thing. As a result, eggs r dismissed to be taken often solely due to d cholesterol content, when cholesterol is ultimately responsible to create hormones. I'm an egg-lover myself and my cholesterol levels have been pretty normal. I'm not fat, as u can see in my profile pic.

[Guest soft erect dick]

My dick can't stay erected for more than 45 seconds unstimulated.

I've seen doctor thinking that it is ED all my life, doctor say it's normal as long as you can get it hard enough to penetrate the woman's vagina.

I didn't tell doctor that I can't stay hard to enter another guy's asshole, which is true. So I am cursed to bottom all my life. Sigh.

[darkflame]

Thinking again, could it be due to low blood pressure?

If I do it the proper way, I'm likely to go soft. Only fetishes can make me stay hard longer.

I have a history of healthy blood pressure but very on the low side. Always used to feel like fainting sometimes.

[qedcwc]

Thinking again, could it be due to low blood pressure?

If I do it the proper way, I'm likely to go soft. Only fetishes can make me stay hard longer.

I have a history of healthy blood pressure but very on the low side. Always used to feel like fainting sometimes.

Dun u think if he were to have low blood pressure, he'd have said that he experienced dizziness or feel like fainting or easily lethargic?

[charlie_sgp]

Thinking again, could it be due to low blood pressure?

A

If I do it the proper way, I'm likely to go soft. Only fetishes can make me stay hard longer.

I have a history of healthy blood pressure but very on the low side. Always used to feel like fainting sometimes.

Fainting may be due to lack of iron as well. You may consume sufficient iron but your body may not be efficient in absorbing iron. Check your iron in your blood. You may need iron supplement.

[Guest "Hard" but SOFT]

Thr could be two ways abt it.

1. Ur buddy does not stimulate u hard enuf n u find u cannot maintain ur erection for long.

2. Are u an egg-lover? If not, u shud consider taking more eggs, and i mean chicken eggs, and yes, including d yolk. Best to not beat d yolk to mix with d egg white, either boiled or u crack an egg into boiling water. Beating it up may mess up d lecithin in d egg which is responsible for helping to break down d cholesterol in d egg. Conventional health experts have often missed out this lecithin thing. As a result, eggs r dismissed to be taken often solely due to d cholesterol content, when cholesterol is ultimately responsible to create hormones. I'm an egg-lover myself and my cholesterol levels have been pretty normal. I'm not fat, as u can see in my profile pic.

My "little brother" seems to be hard when erected by when I touch it, it is soft. Any reasons why and is there any way to make it "hard rod solid"?

[manvvv]

So those drugs selling in the chat room are they real or fake? Suppose 2help.

[Guest Guest]

ya i will be hard for awhile then become soft...i cant maintain my erection long

i do exercise quite often and do not have low blood pressure.

[Guest Guest]

probbaly what shld i eat? or do? maybe see a doctor checking the blood flowing to penis? does it help?

[GachiMuchi]

Firstly, how often do u hv sex? Do u guys hv lots of foreplay? Do you encounter the same problem with other guys or only with this buddy? It is also possible that u r into extreme sex where vanilla sex may not be excitable for you already.

[Guest "Hard" but SOFT]

Firstly, how often do u hv sex? Do u guys hv lots of foreplay? Do you encounter the same problem with other guys or only with this buddy? It is also possible that u r into extreme sex where vanilla sex may not be excitable for you already.

I've sex when I have a good catch (maybe once or twice a week). A "good catch" means someone which I will drool upon. He will definitely make me "hard" even by just seeing him. But my "hard" is not hard enough to penetrate him which my "little brother" after a while got soft. I'm 34yo and frequent the gym 4 times a week. I'm not into drugs, ciggie or any "enhancement" pills. What's wrong with me?

[Guest Guest]

Firstly, how often do u hv sex? Do u guys hv lots of foreplay? Do you encounter the same problem with other guys or only with this buddy? It is also possible that u r into extreme sex where vanilla sex may not be excitable for you already.

I have sex once a week and have plenty of foreplay. im not into extreme sex.

[Guest ChnBoi]

Could you have a zinc deficiency? Try a good zinc supplement (like BioZinc from blackmores).

http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_250/255_love_tip.html

[Guest Guest]

Ohya i can masterbate myself and shoot out .. not a problem to me

[Guest "Hard" but SOFT]

Could you have a zinc deficiency? Try a good zinc supplement (like BioZinc from blackmores).

http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_250/255_love_tip.html

Is there anything natural rather than popping pills, supplement etc.....?

[darkflame]

Is there anything natural rather than popping pills, supplement etc.....?

How about taking some food with large amount of zinc? Used to remember some but can't do so now...

[cock brand]

Recently i been facing going soft easily with my funbuddy. in certain position, my dick will go soft while he sucks. im still young 26. no sickness not under medication.

Erectile Dysfunction (ED) is defined as :

a. Unable to have an erection even with adequate stimulation.

b. Have an erection but unable to maintain it to initiate sex (not hard enough for penetration)

c. Losing the erection during the sex

So, whether your case is a,b or c, you have ED, just the different severity

Until now, so many people still relate ED with his age and general health.

You could be a young and fit sportsman and and yet you can have ED.

ED could be caused by many reasons, although poor health, poor diet, underlying illness and aging are some of them

Hormonal imbalance can also be one of the cause and this has no physical symptoms and can be only be confirmed thru blood test.

The best solution is to seek professional advice on your case before it get worse.

There is an Andrology Clinic now within the Changi Hospital to treat men with such problems

Maybe you should try to pay a visit or call up for more information.

[GachiMuchi]

I've sex when I have a good catch (maybe once or twice a week). A "good catch" means someone which I will drool upon. He will definitely make me "hard" even by just seeing him. But my "hard" is not hard enough to penetrate him which my "little brother" after a while got soft. I'm 34yo and frequent the gym 4 times a week. I'm not into drugs, ciggie or any "enhancement" pills. What's wrong with me?

Don't see anything wrong with you from what you wrote but we are not doctors, so if you feel you really have a problem, you might want to go for a checkup.

Usually unable to get hard happened to older guys, although it is not always true.

Personally, I've had it before too. Many years ago, there was this really hunky guy whom I met in the sauna, he was ready to be fxxked by me, but my dick just don't listen to me and was soft when I wanted to enter him after putting on the condom. I lost focus and wasn't able to get hard enough to penetrate him. The more I tried, the more it did not respond. After a few condoms and a few unsuccessful attempts. I gave up and just JO for him and told him that I was sorry. He was understanding and after he came, we parted way. I went for a rest and later, I was able to get hard with another guy and successful in penetrating him. So I don't know why I can't do that with the hunky guy earlier.

Anyway, if you still can't get hard to top people, maybe you should change your role and enjoy it from another angle; as a bottom.

[Guest Guest]

Don't see anything wrong with you from what you wrote but we are not doctors, so if you feel you really have a problem, you might want to go for a checkup.

Usually unable to get hard happened to older guys, although it is not always true.

Personally, I've had it before too. Many years ago, there was this really hunky guy whom I met in the sauna, he was ready to be fxxked by me, but my dick just don't listen to me and was soft when I wanted to enter him after putting on the condom. I lost focus and wasn't able to get hard enough to penetrate him. The more I tried, the more it did not respond. After a few condoms and a few unsuccessful attempts. I gave up and just JO for him and told him that I was sorry. He was understanding and after he came, we parted way. I went for a rest and later, I was able to get hard with another guy and successful in penetrating him. So I don't know why I can't do that with the hunky guy earlier.

Anyway, if you still can't get hard to top people, maybe you should change your role and enjoy it from another angle; as a bottom.

does ur case consider as mild ED?

[cock brand]

does ur case consider as mild ED?

His case was probably due to performance anxiety.

Just like you normally speak very fluently but when doing presentation in front of a large group, you became too excited and got tongue-tied.

There is a simple quiz provided by Viagra for you to check whether you have ED -

Rate Your Sexual Health

[Guest "Hard" but SOFT]

Don't see anything wrong with you from what you wrote but we are not doctors, so if you feel you really have a problem, you might want to go for a checkup.

Usually unable to get hard happened to older guys, although it is not always true.

Personally, I've had it before too. Many years ago, there was this really hunky guy whom I met in the sauna, he was ready to be fxxked by me, but my dick just don't listen to me and was soft when I wanted to enter him after putting on the condom. I lost focus and wasn't able to get hard enough to penetrate him. The more I tried, the more it did not respond. After a few condoms and a few unsuccessful attempts. I gave up and just JO for him and told him that I was sorry. He was understanding and after he came, we parted way. I went for a rest and later, I was able to get hard with another guy and successful in penetrating him. So I don't know why I can't do that with the hunky guy earlier.

Anyway, if you still can't get hard to top people, maybe you should change your role and enjoy it from another angle; as a bottom.

Never been a bottom before. Maybe should try with you since you "tool" seems to be one huge hard rod!

[Guest Ironrod]

Never been a bottom before. Maybe should try with you since you "tool" seems to be one huge hard rod!

I think if it's your first time btming you should try something of normal size.

Else you may not enjoy

[Guest "Hard" but SOFT]

I think if it's your first time btming you should try something of normal size.

Else you may not enjoy

It was a matter of saying. I'm fully aware of the pain that comes with it as I did tear apart someone during my early years of becoming PLU. Though GachiMuchi would be experience enough to "penerate with care", I will not give up my virginity to anyone even my "little brother" fails to function. Cheers!!

[Guest BearFan]

what is happening to me?

Have you tried using a cock ring?

3-5inch ring that is put on the shaft (with the balls in too) before activity to help sustain the boner.

[Guest Guest]

Have you tried using a cock ring?

3-5inch ring that is put on the shaft (with the balls in too) before activity to help sustain the boner.

oh which type do i get>? rubber or metal type?

[Guest GrubearFan]

oh which type do i get>? rubber or metal type?

Which ever type you are comfortable with.

It have to be easily remove after the session.

and do not wear it for too long ie >30min.

also do not use if have diabetes,heart problem,stroke or on anticoagulant medication.

if still not sure, ask a doctor.

[Guest Need Help]

Someone did BJ on my dick but just cannot stand even the BJ is damn shiok. What happening?

[Guest Ironrod]

Someone did BJ on my dick but just cannot stand even the BJ is damn shiok. What happening?

You are just not into him lor

[Eddy]

Recently i been facing going soft easily with my funbuddy. in certain position, my dick will go soft while he sucks. im still young 26. no sickness not under medication.

Stop thinking about Coach Beiste.

But seriously, try to play it up. sometimes even gay couples need some foreplay.

Don;t feel like you need to make a command performance. take it easy and stroke yourself a little.

[craze]

hey, anyone heard of Performance Anxiety? or experienced it before?

care to share?

what is the causes of it? and anyway to overcome it?

thanks.

[imran]

i experienced that . my thing soften in the midst of it. my partner had to 'revive' it. so paiseh n guilty. I think its nervousness. Sry, dono wats d solution. (need it myself)

[craze]

ic, maybe too stress also.

[Baby Face]

Recently, I had fun with a young chap in one of suana. I lick his nipple and suck his tool till he want to fcuk me. As his tool is quite thick and I rarely let enter me. Let him enter me. After a few tried, his tool went soft before enter. In the end, I suck till he cums. Is this called anxiety to enter someone? I, myself has experience it. Is it because of not to disappoint the partner that cause the stress?

[GachiMuchi]

When you are in ur twenties there is no such things as performance anxiety.

When you are in ur thirties, performance anxieties will only occurs occasionally.

When you are in ur fourties, performance anxieties will occurs rather frequently with the wrong person, at the wrong time, etc.

When you are in ur fifties onwards, you might not even have any performance, let alone anxieties.

[Guest Guest]

Recently, I had fun with a young chap in one of suana. I lick his nipple and suck his tool till he want to fcuk me. As his tool is quite thick and I rarely let enter me. Let him enter me. After a few tried, his tool went soft before enter. In the end, I suck till he cums. Is this called anxiety to enter someone? I, myself has experience it. Is it because of not to disappoint the partner that cause the stress?

I've never met a top having performance anxiety maybe because I can choose good tops

Actually if I behave like slut in bed, the top don't worry about disappointing me because I tell them don't need to care about me , he can do what he likes to me. Some more he say see me so like that....really want to kana fxxk type he feels so stimulated

[Lonelyboy90]

Hi all, I dun take this as a joking matter but seriously I would like to find help to ease the problems. Not only one problem, but I have two, that's terrible.

Let's start with the less serious one, it takes me a very very long time to cum despite many attempts to jerk it off. When I'm at home, pxxn helps me alot, within 5-10mins, a load full will be shot out. When experimenting, it increases 10x. I wonder why. I can even jerk until my hand is tired and give up cumming.

Second issue, also the most important issue. I have problem fxxking! I'm not shy to say this because I'm new and I know nuts about it. Be it a guy or a girl who I fxxked, my cock will just turn soft in the midst of poking. I dunno why but it kind of signalling me to not poke them. Of course I'm disappointed in myself on why it will soften. I need help or rather solution to enhance the hardening endurance of my cock to let my partner enjoy.

Sadly to say, I wonder why a 21 years old guy cannot be able to be like other 21 who is doing far so well in the circle. Ur inputs are important to me, thanks!

[Guest sex advice]

Hi all, I dun take this as a joking matter but seriously I would like to find help to ease the problems. ...I need help or rather solution to enhance the hardening endurance of my cock to let my partner enjoy.

Sadly to say, I wonder why a 21 years old guy cannot be able to be like other 21 who is doing far so well in the circle. Ur inputs are important to me, thanks!

Guess your problem lies in the mind that requires a sex therapist (involving serious psychological treatment with respect to the area of sex) to give you the professional treatment. Normal self mental "treatment" is unlikely to help.

[Guest Hello]

I beg to differ. I take a very long time to cum when having sex as opposed to masturbating as well. I think it has to do w how turned on you are. If you're very very turned on, you'll cum faster.

[GachiMuchi]

Hi all, I dun take this as a joking matter but seriously I would like to find help to ease the problems. Not only one problem, but I have two, that's terrible.

Let's start with the less serious one, it takes me a very very long time to cum despite many attempts to jerk it off. When I'm at home, pxxn helps me alot, within 5-10mins, a load full will be shot out. When experimenting, it increases 10x. I wonder why. I can even jerk until my hand is tired and give up cumming.

Second issue, also the most important issue. I have problem fxxking! I'm not shy to say this because I'm new and I know nuts about it. Be it a guy or a girl who I fxxked, my cock will just turn soft in the midst of poking. I dunno why but it kind of signaling me to not poke them. Of course I'm disappointed in myself on why it will soften. I need help or rather solution to enhance the hardening endurance of my cock to let my partner enjoy.

Sadly to say, I wonder why a 21 years old guy cannot be able to be like other 21 who is doing far so well in the circle. Ur inputs are important to me, thanks!

I don't claim to be a sex therapist, but I look at things in a few perspectives.

1. The Psychological (mind) factor

Anxiety while having sex can cause u to go soft.

Mind pre-occupied with other stuff (can be anything)

Turn-off by smell, sight, noise, etc. (5 senses) can also make ur cock soft.

2. The Physical factor

The sensitivity of ur cock or the lack of it, due to 'over stimulation', e.g. long term masturbation, external stimulation of the dick, etc.

Your body or your other senses' stimulation or lack of stimulation during sex.

3. The Environmental factor

How conducive is the place when u have sex, e.g. toilets, hotel, house, car, etc.

4. The Partner factor

How turn-on are you when you are with the other party, be it men or women.

Did you do most of the foreplay or was it only one sided, or no foreplay, etc.

In a nutshell, many factors influence your performance during sex. It's hard just reading the little information from your post and comes up with a quick answer/fix for you. Without more details on how you have sex, etc. it is hard for anyone to give u an answer.

Anyway, if all else fail, you can always offer your ass and be a bottom, that way, you don't need to use your dick.

[Guest Ironrod]

I think Gachi almost cover it all, I think most important is you should try doing it with somebody u really like instead of just be bothered abt the sex itself.