Cock Goes Soft After / When Putting On Condom & Performance Anxiety (Compiled)

[oralb]

Let's start with the less serious one, it takes me a very very long time to cum despite many attempts to jerk it off. When I'm at home, pxxn helps me alot, within 5-10mins, a load full will be shot out. When experimenting, it increases 10x. I wonder why. I can even jerk until my hand is tired and give up cumming.

this part would explain that there is nothing wrong physically, it is more of mental.

For some people, the more excited, the faster they would cum, for others the more excited, the harder to cum. And turning soft when f**king, it has something to do with performance anxiety (go google that)

I would assume for you, the more relax you are, the easier for you to cum, as evidence by you can cum easily at home with pxxn.

[Lonelyboy90]

Well well, sex therapist? Where to get one? And im serving my ns now sia, where to get so much money for this professional advise. Not feasible.

I agree that when one is having sex, the simulation of cumming is longer and slower, but I wonder why is it so. And mine is like far too long Liao la, probably it's one of the factors as listed above.

Lastly, the factors. Hmmmmmm.. There will definitely be foreplay and that brings along sex. Just when I wanna poke my cock in, it will stiffen for like 10secs and then softening. Till now we didn't use any help like lub or enhancer. Just a simple and pure hanky panky I would say. Is it due to me being inexperience? Or I'm just lousy in performing sexual arousement.

[hiaoshu]

while i would agree with all those who have mentioned performance anxiety

there is another aspect you might want to consider and that is that you are suffering from side effects of pxxn addiction.

i did a quick google and this turned up:

http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_500/566_too-much-internet-pxxn-the-sadd-effect.html

the advice is quite simple: cut down on masturbation to pxxn!

ah oh, btw, getting to a climax in 5 - 10 minutes would be considered poor performance. if you can maintain an erection and keep going for 20 minutes to and hour, now that is what ppl are looking for! it is quite normal to go soft and then hard again over the course of making love. don't believe everything you see in pxxn movies. they are not shot in real time but over a number of days, with time to rest and sometimes even injections or viagra/cialis to maintain their erections in-between.

btw no one yes yet recommended viagra or cialis and as a young guy you should steer clear unless you want a very painful boner that does not go down for hours. they are designed for old ppl who can't get it up any more.

Edited February 23, 2011 by hiaoshu

[Lonelyboy90]

20mins isn't a problem but sometimes it just get soften at the wrong time, the moment I wanna poke. Haiz. Perhaps I'm really relying on pxxn to help me masturbate and now without it im not able to. So how?

[willo]

i think you are a bottom not top thus the erection issue..

Edited February 23, 2011 by willo

[Guest Guest]

i'm one of the guy that has this soft cock problem and i had no choice but to bottom, at first i feel less of a man because i can't fxxk another guy.

after awhile, learn to accept that i cant change anything.

when V came about, i took it just to make sure that i can really get hard and fxxk. and oh boy i did, and i was looking for anyone to fxxk. but alas the side effect of V is too much for me to handle and i decided to stop using V just to feel more of a man.

it's ok to be bottom nothing to be ashamed of it feels more shiok anyway and we don't have to do the hard work and yet get to enjoy more!

[GachiMuchi]

Well well, sex therapist? Where to get one? And im serving my ns now sia, where to get so much money for this professional advise. Not feasible.

I agree that when one is having sex, the simulation of cumming is longer and slower, but I wonder why is it so. And mine is like far too long Liao la, probably it's one of the factors as listed above.

Lastly, the factors. Hmmmmmm.. There will definitely be foreplay and that brings along sex. Just when I wanna poke my cock in, it will stiffen for like 10secs and then softening. Till now we didn't use any help like lub or enhancer. Just a simple and pure hanky panky I would say. Is it due to me being inexperience? Or I'm just lousy in performing sexual arousement.

Let's look it at it this way, Sex is not just about you and how you cum. Most youngster have this 'Me complex'. Why not make your 'hard to cum' to your advantage. It's good also to see your partner cum or have an enjoyable time.

Ok. Back to your performance 'issue';

1. Do you have erection problem when you put on condom? Some people have such problem.

2. What was on your mind after you put your dick in and pump a few stroke? Shiok? Not Shiok? too loose, too tight, pain, no feeling, etc?

3. Do you feel awkward? Do you have passionate kiss? etc? that make you 'steam', high, etc.

4. Are you in a hurry? Do you have a short time to have sex, etc.

Sometimes, our previous experience will come back and haunt us, especially so when you keep having this issues. Therefore the more you worried about your performance problem, the more u will get soft. It's a vicious cycle.

20mins isn't a problem but sometimes it just get soften at the wrong time, the moment I wanna poke. Haiz. Perhaps I'm really relying on pxxn to help me masturbate and now without it im not able to. So how?

Since you are still young, sex may not come to you regularly and u might have relied on pxxn to get you through ur horny times. pxxn is habit forming and one can get addictive to pxxn and throughout your years of watching pxxn and jo-ing by yourself, a certain 'familiarity' may have formed. It could also that you might have 'heavy taste' when you jo. Which is why when you have sex with other partners. The 'familiarity' is not there, which is why the 'sensation' is not big enough to stimulate you. So it could be one of the reason.

My advice is for you to wean off pxxn 'slowly' and maybe when you have sex with someone you like, just take your time. Don't have to rush to cum. Even if you get soft, rest awhile and take your time then continue again. Provided time is on ur hand. Sometimes, time is another factor that affects your performance.

So, don't take sex as if you are driving thru a fast food join just to get your fix. Maybe you are more suitable for fine dining where you take time to have sex and savour and enjoy sex.

[Lonelyboy90]

Thanks gachimuchi for ur enlightenments. Ur words really make me have some thoughts for a moment. )

[Guest same but different]

I am suffering from anxiety disorder after my eye surgery last year. Somehow my eyes took a long time to heal ( my vision was blurry for 6 months )and i became very worried

during that period that i would go blind and regretted deeply on the operation. My constant anxieties caused me to start having episodes of panic attacks.

During an episode of the panic attack, i would feel extremely frightened(scale of 1 to 10, i would rate it 10) accompanied by breathlessness, rapid heart palpitation and numbness of the limbs with the feeling of going insane and this symptoms would last for about 20 mins .

Though my vision is normal now, i am still stuck with the anxiety attack which are unprovoked by events. My quality of lifestyle is going downhill now and i am having suicidal thoughts.

I have seen a doctor for the anxiety disorder and have been perscribed sedatives and mood improving drugs but i still feel very sad all the time.

The drugs also seem to cause me to have problems getting an erection.

Though anxiety disorder is not the same as going insane, i would feel very concious when i relate them to other people who might think differently.

I told my parent about my anxiety disorder but they don't seem to care at all and thought i was just being paranoid.

Does anyone here suffer from anxiety disorder like me and can offer me some useful advices ?

[Guest Hi]

Hi, i have anxiety attack too when i think of ghost. But my level is 2 (on the scale from 1 to 10).

I think you suffer a serious condition. I guess it's a psychological issues. Why were you so afraid at the first place? Whatever the reason is, now you know your eyesight is normal, why r u still anxious? I think you should tell your doctor fear (what do u fear of) then they will help u to over come the fear.

How old r u btw?

[Guest sushi]

I am suffering from anxiety disorder after my eye surgery last year. Somehow my eyes took a long time to heal ( my vision was blurry for 6 months )and i became very worried

during that period that i would go blind and regretted deeply on the operation. My constant anxieties caused me to start having episodes of panic attacks.

During an episode of the panic attack, i would feel extremely frightened(scale of 1 to 10, i would rate it 10) accompanied by breathlessness, rapid heart palpitation and numbness of the limbs with the feeling of going insane and this symptoms would last for about 20 mins .

Though my vision is normal now, i am still stuck with the anxiety attack which are unprovoked by events. My quality of lifestyle is going downhill now and i am having suicidal thoughts.

I have seen a doctor for the anxiety disorder and have been perscribed sedatives and mood improving drugs but i still feel very sad all the time.

The drugs also seem to cause me to have problems getting an erection.

Though anxiety disorder is not the same as going insane, i would feel very concious when i relate them to other people who might think differently.

I told my parent about my anxiety disorder but they don't seem to care at all and thought i was just being paranoid.

Does anyone here suffer from anxiety disorder like me and can offer me some useful advices ?

Dear Samebutdifferent,

My sympathy to u. I've suffered from anxiety disorder too, triggered by work stress and then later enclosed and crowded places. Luckily i responded quite well to the drugs which i have stopped taking now. i think you should change meds?

consult a different doc?

how about taking up yoga, which i felt helped me alot in overcoming the anxiety when it's cropping up cos i can use the yoga techniques to focus on something other than the anxiety.

please give this latter a thought, i really think it's a better option than taking more drugs.

also never feel that you're alone, many people suffer from this disorder.

and please never feel that your family/friends doesn't care, i'm quite sure that they do.

[ELTaz]

You are not alone. My wife suffers from panic attacks and she also has depression. Friends and support groups are there to help. My wife felt better after encouraging a fellow sufferer. Such sharing does help by knowing you are not alone.

[Guest Seasoned Depression]

I have anxiety disorder too. Depresssion medication should not be taken regularly because they are drugs which should be avoided. The best cure is to stay away from crowded place, place with loud noise or places you are not familiar with. Do what you love to do and live one day at a time and soon you will notice one year has already passed swiftly under your nose and you don't really care how many more years ahead.

[Guest Guest]

i also kenna panic attack before. occured when im supposed to take mrt train back home from Orchard during the peak hour at 6pm.

I woke up very early that day, lack of sleep and was not driving my car so abeit sicken by the thought of having to squeeze w the crowd after an entire day. At the same time, i was having indigestion, making me hard to breathe well.

so what happened is that i was feeling breathless and haywire at orchard rd very soon when we are supposed to leave the place...i just keep walking and my bf followed me behind. he convinced me to leave the place (although I want but I am worried about the jam and the crowd). I thought we could book a hotel room and i can rest inside.

so what happened next is that my bf suggested we took the cab back to his house which is nearer to orchard than mine. so upon reaching his home (about 15mins ride), my breathlessness and confusion just disappeared!

later on i also realised it could be because of my chronic indigestion that makes my tummy bloated and hard to breathe, as the tot of difficult to breathe makes me panic, therefore created a panic attack i may die w/o air.

[Guest Guest]

i also kenna panic attack before. occured when im supposed to take mrt train back home from Orchard during the peak hour at 6pm.

I woke up very early that day, lack of sleep and was not driving my car so abeit sicken by the thought of having to squeeze w the crowd after an entire day. At the same time, i was having indigestion, making me hard to breathe well.

so what happened is that i was feeling breathless and haywire at orchard rd very soon when we are supposed to leave the place...i just keep walking and my bf followed me behind. he convinced me to leave the place (although I want but I am worried about the jam and the crowd). I thought we could book a hotel room and i can rest inside.

so what happened next is that my bf suggested we took the cab back to his house which is nearer to orchard than mine. so upon reaching his home (about 15mins ride), my breathlessness and confusion just disappeared!

later on i also realised it could be because of my chronic indigestion that makes my tummy bloated and hard to breathe, as the tot of difficult to breathe makes me panic, therefore created a panic attack i may die w/o air.

same here. My panic attacke started 2 yrs ago in Apr then sudsided after summer.

Then this yr, it started in Apr again.

Went to A&E in the middle of the nite and when I reached there, I was alright.

My family doc told me is stress related.

I have this feeling of my airways being constricted and could not breathe.

My dentist told me if I did not masticate my food probably, it could lead to indigestion and a bloated stomach with the high chance of acid reflux.

I dun drive and I take the public transportation. There were times I had to alight as soon as I hopped on the bus.

It's so embarassing.

Now I have to learn to trust and have faith in life that all would turn out well. Lots of meditation & prayers.

Plus creating a positive environment around myself.

[Guest Guest]

same here. My panic attacke started 2 yrs ago in Apr then sudsided after summer.

Then this yr, it started in Apr again.

Went to A&E in the middle of the nite and when I reached there, I was alright.

My family doc told me is stress related.

I have this feeling of my airways being constricted and could not breathe.

My dentist told me if I did not masticate my food probably, it could lead to indigestion and a bloated stomach with the high chance of acid reflux.

I dun drive and I take the public transportation. There were times I had to alight as soon as I hopped on the bus.

It's so embarassing.

Now I have to learn to trust and have faith in life that all would turn out well. Lots of meditation & prayers.

Plus creating a positive environment around myself.

i think my panic attack started off w this bad bloated indigestion. At that pt of time, i dunno what is wrong but i do feel hard to breathe due to pressure blocking my diaphgram and because i dunno how to relax and breathe, it trigger this panic attack that im breathless n dying.

Company doc said im stress, prescribed me alprozolam which only make me sleepy but dun work. the Poly clinic doc refers me to psychatric but i told her she sld also refer me to gastro specialist cos i feel something blocking in my abdominal.

in the end, i went for the gastro specialist who did a scope and said im suffering from mild hiatus hernia so nowadays i try not to overeat cos once my tummy is chocked, i feel hard to breathe and may trigger another panic attack.

[Guest same but different]

Thanks for the replies and the encouragement, i do feel better after reading through the post.

I do feel very isolated dealing with this alone at this point and i am very miserable because i do not know how i can carry on living with this type of mental disabilities.

I do not like to tell my friends about my situation as i do not want them to see me as being a nutcase and i am not getting any support at all from my family.

I really hope i can return to a point in the past when i would feel happy.

Well, thanks again to those who shared their experiences with me and who have help me feel better.

[fab]

A little OT.

About vision, pls take care as recently my friend has lost both his sight due to some infection.

He is still so young in his late 30s....

Pls take care of your sight.

[Guest tiandi]

It might be due to some spiritual thingy, do message me if it doesn't recovered after few cycle of medication.

[twilightfallen]

For me I'll lose my speech and can't talk for a few days, I only do the thing that will make me have panic attacks so that I'll get used to it.

Edited June 20, 2011 by twilightfallen

[Guest Guest]

i think my panic attack started off w this bad bloated indigestion. At that pt of time, i dunno what is wrong but i do feel hard to breathe due to pressure blocking my diaphgram and because i dunno how to relax and breathe, it trigger this panic attack that im breathless n dying.

Company doc said im stress, prescribed me alprozolam which only make me sleepy but dun work. the Poly clinic doc refers me to psychatric but i told her she sld also refer me to gastro specialist cos i feel something blocking in my abdominal.

in the end, i went for the gastro specialist who did a scope and said im suffering from mild hiatus hernia so nowadays i try not to overeat cos once my tummy is chocked, i feel hard to breathe and may trigger another panic attack.

I had this when I was lifting weights. i think it got to do with exacting yourself.

Plus I was stocky and on protein diet. My waistline was abt 38"(I m 1.7m).

Plus the stomach gets smaller & digestive system not so 'powderful" due to age (I m also in my early 50s)

The other thing could to be due to food not probably masticated due to missing molars. This adds to food taking longer

time to digest.

I have to take abt 8 small meals instead of the usual 3.

Have to avoid: garlic, onion, chilli, coffe, tea, soft drink,cheese, cream, chocolate.

There's also a medical term for this - Globus Hystericus.

[Guest Guest]

It might be due to some spiritual thingy, do message me if it doesn't recovered after few cycle of medication.

You r right! Even though I had seen several docs and the medications worked on me.

These are my observation and experience:

1. It happened in April last yr. It came back in Apr this yr.

2. It got worst around midnite.

3. Peaked on the 15th day of the Lunar Month.

I was also possessed by several spirits who who spoke thru me. Used to be able to stop them from entering my body.

I also suspect that i m the target of black magic(due to the msg that the spirit spoke thru me).

I had 2 dreams abt this taoist forcing me to sit on a life-size 'fu'(red ink on yellow paper).

The urge to purge is also indicative of spiritual interference.

I m not angry but feel sad for these ppl who resort to the dark arts bcoz they could not deal with me like gentlemen.

Since energy cannot be created or destroyed, it would go back to the source once it's transmuted.

Could u shed some light on this aspect? tks!

[Guest Gay Spirit]

1. Go temple, pray to the tiger god, donate some money and collect holy flowers for cleansing bath.

2. If you believe, carry holy amulet in your pocket be it just any auspicious symbols or figure of your religious idol to protect you.

3. Never fall into the belief that black magic exist (even if it does), this is to make "the mishievious thing" feel bored about you and eventually

leave their host due to lack of interest.

4. Commit to doing good deed, every merit is a light and dark things fear light.

5. Thus walk under the sun and receive as much earth energy as possible - thru jogging, strolling, swimming and sweat "it" out.

6. Plug music into your ears - music that is sunny, soothing, calming or listen to mantra, religious speech. The "thing" inside you hear what

you hear and will get frightened or "enlightened" and thus leave its prey.

7. Create a holy and cleansing living room - burn your favourite incense, open your door/windows to embrace the energy outside - I love to do this early

in the morning when the air is fresh and the spring of the day is uplifting. Do so when you are happy.

8. Avoid quarellsome place - it empowers the evil sprit.

9. Believe you have equally poweful magic - imaginative or not - to protect your territory (body or place).

10. Last but not least never live in fear to weaken the immunity of confident.

My two-cts worth of spiritual knowledge.

[Guest Guest]

1. Go temple, pray to the tiger god, donate some money and collect holy flowers for cleansing bath.

2. If you believe, carry holy amulet in your pocket be it just any auspicious symbols or figure of your religious idol to protect you.

3. Never fall into the belief that black magic exist (even if it does), this is to make "the mishievious thing" feel bored about you and eventually

leave their host due to lack of interest.

4. Commit to doing good deed, every merit is a light and dark things fear light.

5. Thus walk under the sun and receive as much earth energy as possible - thru jogging, strolling, swimming and sweat "it" out.

6. Plug music into your ears - music that is sunny, soothing, calming or listen to mantra, religious speech. The "thing" inside you hear what

you hear and will get frightened or "enlightened" and thus leave its prey.

7. Create a holy and cleansing living room - burn your favourite incense, open your door/windows to embrace the energy outside - I love to do this early

in the morning when the air is fresh and the spring of the day is uplifting. Do so when you are happy.

8. Avoid quarellsome place - it empowers the evil sprit.

9. Believe you have equally poweful magic - imaginative or not - to protect your territory (body or place).

10. Last but not least never live in fear to weaken the immunity of confident.

My two-cts worth of spiritual knowledge.

True indeed. Bless your good gay heart!

[Guest Guest]

True indeed. Bless your good gay heart!

i have fear of small office cubicles

[Guest Guest]

Thanks for the replies and the encouragement, i do feel better after reading through the post.

I do feel very isolated dealing with this alone at this point and i am very miserable because i do not know how i can carry on living with this type of mental disabilities.

I do not like to tell my friends about my situation as i do not want them to see me as being a nutcase and i am not getting any support at all from my family.

I really hope i can return to a point in the past when i would feel happy.

Well, thanks again to those who shared their experiences with me and who have help me feel better.

i have a few close frens who know about my condition and i always feel ok to go out w them but if they have additional frens who join us and i dunno them well, i will feel uncomfortable.

sometimes its better to tell ur frens then to keep it a secret. u can do so by using a slow approach, give out a bit of hints here and there and eventually they will think ' u r just like that '

[Guest Guest]

i have a few close frens who know about my condition and i always feel ok to go out w them but if they have additional frens who join us and i dunno them well, i will feel uncomfortable.

sometimes its better to tell ur frens then to keep it a secret. u can do so by using a slow approach, give out a bit of hints here and there and eventually they will think ' u r just like that '

Dun bother sharing this with your closest friend. I told my best froend of 30 yrs and he told me to go to church

This church friend was kind of going out with other married women and told me I kenna this bcoz I backslided. Therefore kenna spiritual attack.

Also dun bother going to A&E also, the doc asked me whether I had seen a psychiatrist in the past.

They might as well have an exorcist stationed in A&E.

Took me 2 mths to find out the name of this illness which is very common nowadays.

[Guest Guest]

Dun bother sharing this with your closest friend. I told my best froend of 30 yrs and he told me to go to church

This church friend was kind of going out with other married women and told me I kenna this bcoz I backslided. Therefore kenna spiritual attack.

Also dun bother going to A&E also, the doc asked me whether I had seen a psychiatrist in the past.

They might as well have an exorcist stationed in A&E.

Took me 2 mths to find out the name of this illness which is very common nowadays.

cannot blame the docs lah. they also trying to pinpoint our illness.

luckily i listened to my body and realised its my chronic indigestion causing breathlessness and thus the panic attack.

[Guest same but different]

Actually, it took me one whole year to find out that the symptoms that i am experiencing are related to anxiety disorder. The first private practictioner whom i approach a year ago wasn't

experienced in diagnosing my symptoms and just gave me a week of sleeping pills.

Not knowing about the illness (anxiety disorder) in the beginning, actually cause me to worry that i am going insane and actually brought forth more episodes of anxiety attacks.

The cycle is actually vicious, the more you worry, the more frequent the anxiety attacks and the more frequent the anxiety attacks, the more you worry.

Anxiety disorder does not relate with the supernatural, i believe mine was brought upon by the trauma of believing that i am losing my eye sight after the eye operation.

The very first time i experienced the anxiety attack, i knew that it would be a life time affair.

The frightful feeling is so intense and so deeply etched in my memory, i knew i would remember it for life ( It is just like learning to ride a bicycle, once you learnt to do it, you will instinctively knows how to do it for life)

[Guest Guest]

hi, where yr guys visit the doctor? family doc or ....? no idea why im shivering disorder sometime...is it a symptom oso?

[Guest DOCTOR]

My anxiety disorder always comes to me, when I used to see a picture of a Vaginal ! Be it a picture or a drawing, I will have panic attacks of breathlessness, higher and stronger heartbeat rate, profuse sweating and almost lost my consciousness !

I have always repeated terrible nightmares of a Gigantic Vaginal, with inner sharp razor teeth, chasing me from behind, like some huge Flying Saucer, or some Flying Jellyfish ! Screaming and roaring at the same time !

So scary !!

( For those of you who have watched the Green Lantern....the last 3mins...something like that !!)

Then a Yogi told me, its not a mental disease. Sitting on a lotus yoga posture, he told me " You are not crazy, you are just a fxxking Gay whose afraid of Pussies !"

Healing his advise, I found the perfect and permanent cure to my mental state.

Just have sex with other men who are also afraid of Pussies !

And that really took away all my nightmares of Ugly , Gigantic Flying Pussies with Sharp Razor Teeth !

Thanks a million Mr YoGi !!!

[Guest Amulet]

2. If you believe, carry holy amulet in your pocket be it just any auspicious symbols or figure of your religious idol to protect you.

Do you still wear the amulet while at Sauna? or you don't bring them in as the "god" might "run" away when the cruising starts or put it inside the sauna locker.

or do I need to take it out when having sex with my bf in the house?

[twilightfallen]

To have it under control just believe in something a person or thing or religious stuff, you just need to keep it under control that's all, this is afterall just a mental thing as long as you think that it might not work it won't work, if you think that it can work it can work.

[Guest Guest]

Do you still wear the amulet while at Sauna? or you don't bring them in as the "god" might "run" away when the cruising starts or put it inside the sauna locker.

or do I need to take it out when having sex with my bf in the house?

Dun make light of this situation. I had seen men with crucifix, thai buddhist amulet, etc cruising in sauna.

Sauna tends to attract 'spirit' bcoz it's damp and dark.

My bf and I were staying in a haunted room at a Bangkok Hotel. I saw the spirit the 1st nite we chked.

My bf asked me the nxt morning and I told him the being was very big/tall. Then he went on to say disrepectful things abt the

spirit. He had this amulet in his wallet and forgot to bring with him in the shower. The spirit played a prank on him and he was hurt. He suddenly became very sick in the remaining days of the trip. FYI.

[Guest Guest]

hi, where yr guys visit the doctor? family doc or ....? no idea why im shivering disorder sometime...is it a symptom oso?

Cold Hand/Feet? could be due to poor blood circulation in nerve endings?

Try boiling water with ginger & red dates

From a spiritual point of view: Cold feet - small spirit

Cold hand/feet - medium spirit

Whole body - powderful spirit

[Blacque]

It's best to see a psychiatrist as early as possible to get the condition under control, or if possible, get it cured.

[Guest Guest]

Actually, it took me one whole year to find out that the symptoms that i am experiencing are related to anxiety disorder. The first private practictioner whom i approach a year ago wasn't

experienced in diagnosing my symptoms and just gave me a week of sleeping pills.

Not knowing about the illness (anxiety disorder) in the beginning, actually cause me to worry that i am going insane and actually brought forth more episodes of anxiety attacks.

The cycle is actually vicious, the more you worry, the more frequent the anxiety attacks and the more frequent the anxiety attacks, the more you worry.

Anxiety disorder does not relate with the supernatural, i believe mine was brought upon by the trauma of believing that i am losing my eye sight after the eye operation.

The very first time i experienced the anxiety attack, i knew that it would be a life time affair.

The frightful feeling is so intense and so deeply etched in my memory, i knew i would remember it for life ( It is just like learning to ride a bicycle, once you learnt to do it, you will instinctively knows how to do it for life)

yeah once we experienced that feeling, it is etched in our memory and can 'relapse' if we dont control our feeling of insecurity

and some ppl talk about wearing amulet to sauna...isnt it disrespectful to wear holy items while having sex?

[Guest Amulet]

1) ....Sauna tends to attract 'spirit' bcoz it's damp and dark.

2) ... He had this amulet in his wallet and forgot to bring with him in the shower. The spirit played a prank on him and he was hurt.

1) I sense it when I was at a dark corner at one of the sauna.

2) No wonder. I left the amulet inside the locker as I feared that the "god" is taboo of gay relationship. This means that irrespective of what happen, the amulet must be by my side, right?.

Well, the result of (1) is that I felt extremely cold the next day. I thought it was just flu, took some panadol and rest for the whole day. That was 26/12 It came back off and on for a week. First week of January, my gout attacked me. My usual experience was that it will usually last 4-5 days the most. But this time round, it attacked me continuously till the 15th of Chinese New Year. Even an injection by the doctor cannot stop the gout. Doctor found nothing wrong when X-ray was done on my leg.

Having no choice (usually I don't believe in medium), I have to refer to the medium. Have to find 7 cups of black chicken blood to appease the spirit. Once done, the leg slowly return back to normal.

One thing good about this medium is that he does not expose my homosexuality to my sister (she was the one who seek his help). He just told my sister that my former amulet was lost. In actual fact, it was snatched by the gay stranger when I was doing sth. :oops:

[Guest Guest]

1) I sense it when I was at a dark corner at one of the sauna.

2) No wonder. I left the amulet inside the locker as I feared that the "god" is taboo of gay relationship. This means that irrespective of what happen, the amulet must be by my side, right?.

Well, the result of (1) is that I felt extremely cold the next day. I thought it was just flu, took some panadol and rest for the whole day. That was 26/12 It came back off and on for a week. First week of January, my gout attacked me. My usual experience was that it will usually last 4-5 days the most. But this time round, it attacked me continuously till the 15th of Chinese New Year. Even an injection by the doctor cannot stop the gout. Doctor found nothing wrong when X-ray was done on my leg.

Having no choice (usually I don't believe in medium), I have to refer to the medium. Have to find 7 cups of black chicken blood to appease the spirit. Once done, the leg slowly return back to normal.

One thing good about this medium is that he does not expose my homosexuality to my sister (she was the one who seek his help). He just told my sister that my former amulet was lost. In actual fact, it was snatched by the gay stranger when I was doing sth. :oops:

Where's this medium? Serangoon area? Why the 7 cups of black chicken blood?

[Guest Amulet]

Where's this medium? Serangoon area? Why the 7 cups of black chicken blood?

In Penang.

Black chicken blood - means my situation very "teruk" and the spirit very "geng"

The first ritual praying does not cure totally. The pain come back during the evening esp around 6 pm onwards

The next week, I have to perform the flower bath (+ applying the blessed oil all over the body ) during azan (ie the Muslim call for prayer around 5.30am to 6.00 am). Usually I don't bath while the "blessed" oil is still on my body.

After I washed it off the next day at night, immediately my leg was swollen and painful again. I was very sad as I thought the medium is lousy after paying around S$600 for the whole procedure. I just went to sleep. The next morning, the leg is normal and do not have the slightest pain till today.

I interpreted the spirit as a "big gangster who beat me before he go away as I seek someone's help"

[Guest Amulet]

and some ppl talk about wearing amulet to sauna...isnt it disrespectful to wear holy items while having sex?

Yes, that was my idea. I feel that it is an insult to the "god" and that was the reason why I took it off and put in the locker.

In fact, I feel that I should not bring it inside the sauna in the first place.

[riverrobles]

I was also diagnosed with this anxiety disorder 2 years back, I was always thinking that I will get cancer, I'll be losing my job and let go (technically it was recession) and I can't sleep.

Until my boss noticed my constant tardiness and poor performance at work, we had a one-to-one talk and told him everything I'm feeling and those 3 things that worries me slot. After that, HR butted in and offerred me help and counselling.

They asked me to have a counselling session at IMH . The doctor prescribed me alprozolam and he told me that I would only drink this once at night if I can't sleep and when I have this anxiety attacks.

Now I'm off the drug and tried it only for 3 months. My career is getting better and I have nothing to worry now, my boss is super friendly and assures me that all is fine. I now love working in this German company and even if I have to travel a lot coz of my job, I don't feel stressed anymore. Worrying is actually wasting time.

[Guest Guest]

I was also diagnosed with this anxiety disorder 2 years back, I was always thinking that I will get cancer, I'll be losing my job and let go (technically it was recession) and I can't sleep.

Until my boss noticed my constant tardiness and poor performance at work, we had a one-to-one talk and told him everything I'm feeling and those 3 things that worries me slot. After that, HR butted in and offerred me help and counselling.

They asked me to have a counselling session at IMH . The doctor prescribed me alprozolam and he told me that I would only drink this once at night if I can't sleep and when I have this anxiety attacks.

Now I'm off the drug and tried it only for 3 months. My career is getting better and I have nothing to worry now, my boss is super friendly and assures me that all is fine. I now love working in this German company and even if I have to travel a lot coz of my job, I don't feel stressed anymore. Worrying is actually wasting time.

SO HAPPY for you!!!

This would be very inspiring to all who r suffering from Anxiety Disorder.

Wish all (who are affected) lots of love & light and peaceful sleep every nite

[Guest Guest]

SO HAPPY for you!!!

This would be very inspiring to all who r suffering from Anxiety Disorder.

Wish all (who are affected) lots of love & light and peaceful sleep every nite

slaving 9 to 5 is not a happy thing though...

[riverrobles]

slaving 9 to 5 is not a happy thing though...

[Guest Donden]

First, anything happen, control your breathing

Second, tell yourself everything is okay

Third slowly breathe

Fourth think of happy thoughts

Fifth do nt ever let work get you down

Sixth be it whatever happens be happy

Seventh amulet different amulet different type (serious)

Some can't even go to club or pub so had put at home if go sauna or club.

Some cannot be bought to places that "they" dun allow things and stuff.

Eight see dirty things do not say anything till reach home, or if you see temple, kindly find a monk tell the monk what happened and buy amulet, safety for you in your whole trip, lucky the person not posesses if not mati serious.

Nine now is 7th month, anything you feel uneasy just say sorry, I did not offend you, if I did accidentally I am sorry.

Which I keep saying all the time.

Else you chant all the way till you close your front door.

(what I do before I enter lift, I would say thank you very much, then enter lift, press the button, start chanting softly(best is soft as loud is nth) and I continue to chant till I reach home inside and close door.)

10th lastly for this month, no sauna, clubs can so bring amulet, no vulgar language, no point of finger, so scolding, no this and that, keep yourself pure like malay fasting month kind and do not turn 170 degree show only 10% of you when you turn, can't see properly better still at least you will have 90% of "light" to protect you, as when you turn around after press the lift button in the lift your light would be gone so had to chant all the way and do not forget that "they" can be in the lift with you be it day or night or morning if evening after 7 will all come out....

Good luck and I go sleep Le

[Blacque]

Why is it not advisable to visit saunas?

And why are people starting to discuss paranormal stuff in this thread lol.

[Guest Guest]

Why is it not advisable to visit saunas?

And why are people starting to discuss paranormal stuff in this thread lol.

Sauna - dark, damp. negative tends to get stuck.

If you have stronger 'sa', it's alright to go. If not, advisable to stay home.

Anxiety disorder could lead to spiritual attack.

So stay happy, positive & kind.

Also reply to comment 'slaving 9 to 5'. Quite a lot of ppl are jobless at home, u know? B grateful lah.

[briax]

Why is it not advisable to visit saunas?

And why are people starting to discuss paranormal stuff in this thread lol.

Because people get nervous in a sexually charged sauna bah. And when the guy they are interested in avoided them by disappearing quickly, they think they had a paranormal encounter.

Edited August 5, 2011 by briax

[Guest Scary Pumkin head]

Another way of looking at it. Treat 7th month as Eastern Halloween, nothing to be scared about.