amuse.ed Posted September 2, 2024 Author Share Posted September 2, 2024 **Unless otherwise stated, all characters, corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. Content consist of hints on suicide, kindly read at one’s discretion. 2024年 09月 02号 星期一 农历七月三十 Dear Diary, As the 7th lunar month comes to a close, I'm left with a mix of emotions. The superstitions say that the spirits have returned home, but I'm still here, stuck in this limbo of grief and questioning. I think about my paternal family, and the pain still feels like an open wound. I wonder if they're truly at peace, or if they're still with me, watching over me. The thought brings me comfort, but also raises more questions. What if these superstitions are just a way to cope with the unknown? What if they're a distraction from the real issue - the pain and suffering that we endure in this life? I'm torn between holding on to these beliefs and challenging them. Part of me wants to believe that there's something more, something beyond this life. But another part of me wants to confront the harsh reality of our existence. As I navigate these emotions, I'm also reminded that September is Suicide Awareness Month. I can't help but think about Mum, John, FBY and the times I've felt like ending it all, like the pain was too much to bear. But then I think about Dad and how he'd want me to live up to my name, 英铭 (Eng Ming) - heroic and bright. He'd want me to be a beacon of hope, to shine through the darkness. I owe it to him to keep moving forward, to keep searching for answers, and to make him proud. Dad wherever you are, I wish you well in spirit. In my hostel room, I'll keep questioning, keep challenging, and keep searching for meaning in this chaotic world. I'll hold on to the memories of my loved ones, and keep their legacy burning bright. Eng Ming 09.02.2024 P.S. Glad I have move away all my loved one's items into a temporary storage space including Dad boxes and FBY mp3. No time to go through just wish to focus on my examinations. Helplines Mental well-being • Institute of Mental Health’s Mental Health Helpline: 6389-2222 (24 hours) • Samaritans of Singapore: 1800-221-4444 (24 hours) /1-767 (24 hours) • Singapore Association for Mental Health: 1800-283-7019 • Silver Ribbon Singapore: 6386-1928 • Tinkle Friend: 1800-274-4788 • Chat, Centre of Excellence for Youth Mental Health: 6493-6500/1 • Women’s Helpline (Aware): 1800-777-5555 (weekdays, 10am to 6pm) • Aware’s Sexual Assault Care Centre: 6779-0282 (weekdays, 10am to 6pm) • National Anti-Violence and Sexual Harassment Helpline: 1800-777-0000 Counselling • TOUCHline (Counselling): 1800-377-2252 • TOUCH Care Line (for seniors, caregivers): 6804-6555 • Care Corner Counselling Centre: 6353-1180 • Counselling and Care Centre: 6536-6366 Online resources • eC2.sg • www.tinklefriend.sg • www.chat.mentalhealth.sg • carey.carecorner.org.sg (for those aged 13 to 25) • limitless.sg/talk (for those aged 12 to 25) For International helplines, kindly refer to Befrienders Worldwide. If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, contact 24-hour emergency medical service. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amuse.ed Posted September 9, 2024 Author Share Posted September 9, 2024 (edited) **Unless otherwise stated, all characters, corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. ** Content consist of issues on suicide kindly read at one’s discretion. It is also Meta-AI generated with minimal edition done. If one disapproves or is disgusted with content writing as such, kindly ignore. Live and let live. Cheers! Sept 09, 2024, Monday, 6.00pm, Rainy, Home alone I'm writing this with a mix of emotions - sadness, relief, and a hint of liberation. Tonight, at 9.09pm, I've planned to end my life. It's not a decision taken lightly, but one I've contemplated for the longest time. As a Coroner, I've seen the darkest aspects of human nature. But my own story is one of unrequited love, societal pressures, and the weight of family expectations. I fell deeply in love with you Vin, a kind and brilliant IO I've worked with. But our love is forbidden in this "little green dot" I call home. The stigma and fear of persecution are overwhelming. As the only son of the 4th concubine of a infamous family, I've always felt like an outcast. My mother, eager to secure her place in the family, has been pressuring me to settle down and produce an heir. But I couldn't bring myself to marry a woman, knowing it would be a lie and a burden on both of us. I've lived my life to the fullest, or so I thought. But the truth is, I've been living a lie. A life of pretence, hiding my true self from the world. The struggle to conform has been exhausting. And yet, as I sit here, pen in hand, I feel a pang of uncertainty. Do I really want to leave this world behind? Is there not more to life than the suffocating expectations of others? In this moment, I'm torn. Part of me yearns for the freedom to be myself, without fear of judgment or rejection. Another part of me wants to experience the beauty of life, untainted by the burdens I've carried for so long. But what if... what if I could find a way to reconcile my desires with the world around me? What if I could learn to love myself, not for who others want me to be, but for who I truly am? Perhaps, just perhaps, there's a way to live on, not in spite of my struggles, but because of them. To find strength in my vulnerability, and to create a life that's authentic, meaningful, and mine alone. As I look at the clock, I see 6.15pm staring back at me. The minutes left.... But what if... what if I chose to live on? I once heard this song you set as your handphone ringtone. Thankfully I manage to find this song by just humming the melody.... I think I should not rock the boat and we just stay as friends forever, how about that? 友谊长存 Yours, Ma Dian De Helplines Mental well-being • Institute of Mental Health’s Mental Health Helpline: 6389-2222 (24 hours) • Samaritans of Singapore: 1800-221-4444 (24 hours) /1-767 (24 hours) • Singapore Association for Mental Health: 1800-283-7019 • Silver Ribbon Singapore: 6386-1928 • Tinkle Friend: 1800-274-4788 • Chat, Centre of Excellence for Youth Mental Health: 6493-6500/1 • Women’s Helpline (Aware): 1800-777-5555 (weekdays, 10am to 6pm) • Aware’s Sexual Assault Care Centre: 6779-0282 (weekdays, 10am to 6pm) • National Anti-Violence and Sexual Harassment Helpline: 1800-777-0000 Counselling • TOUCHline (Counselling): 1800-377-2252 • TOUCH Care Line (for seniors, caregivers): 6804-6555 • Care Corner Counselling Centre: 6353-1180 • Counselling and Care Centre: 6536-6366 Online resources • eC2.sg • www.tinklefriend.sg • www.chat.mentalhealth.sg • carey.carecorner.org.sg (for those aged 13 to 25) • limitless.sg/talk (for those aged 12 to 25) For International helplines, kindly refer to Befrienders Worldwide. If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, contact 24-hour emergency medical service. Edited September 9, 2024 by amuse.ed Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amuse.ed Posted September 16, 2024 Author Share Posted September 16, 2024 需要记录这一天吗？也许无需了吧。。。毕竟已刻在我心中的名字。。。抱歉。。原来就在这一天。。。我还是依然无法忘记。 给我一个理由忘记 作词：鄔裕康 作曲：游政豪 雨都停了 这片天灰什么呢 我还记得 你说我们要快乐 深夜里的脚步声 总是刺耳 害怕寂寞 就让狂欢的城市陪我关灯 只是哪怕周围再多人 感觉还是一个人 每当我笑了 心却狠狠的哭著 给我一个理由忘记 那么爱我的你 给我一个理由放弃 当时做的决定 有些爱 越想抽离却越更清晰 而最痛的距离 是你不在身边 却在我的心里 当我走在 去过的每个地方 总会听到 你那最自由的笑 当我回到 一个人住的地方 最怕看到冬天你最爱穿的那件外套 只是哪怕周围再多人 感觉还是一个人 每当我笑了 心却狠狠的哭著 给我一个理由忘记 那么爱我的你 给我一个理由放弃 当时做的决定 有些爱 越想抽离却越更清晰 而最痛的距离 是你不在身边 却在我的心里 我找不到理由忘记 大雨里的别离 我找不到理由放弃 我等你的决心 有些爱 越想抽离却越更清晰 而最痛的距离 是你不在身边 却在我的心里 我想你 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amuse.ed Posted October 8, 2024 Author Share Posted October 8, 2024 Life's Imperfect Journey We tread our own uneven paths, With struggles, doubts, and fragile math. No two stories unfold the same, Don't gauge another's road by your own frame. Perfection's a myth, we stumble and fall, Our flaws and fears, our own to enthrall. Don't force alignment, or seek to conform, Embrace the disconnect, and the storm. Some roads appear smooth but hide cracks, What shines for one may be another's trap. Don't measure others by your own stride, Recognize the divide, and step aside. The wise echoes the truth, "Respect the divisions, and let differences brew." Needless to convince, or alter the course, Coexist with friction, and discord's force. Aspire to be that steady burning flame, Warming those near, yet aware of life's pain. And when darkness closes in, Find resilience within, and learn to begin. Be a beacon in life's turbulent sea, Acknowledging struggles, and humanity. In life's tangled web, threads clash, Respect, empathy, and kindness, still flash. MetaAI inspired 08.10.2024 via the following FB content "最近很喜歡的一段話： 生活各自不易，個人所求不同，各自立場不一，勿在別人心中修行自己，勿在自己心中強求別人。 人生從來都不完美，各有各的不足，各有各的難處，各有各的煩惱，各有各的生活方式！ 沒必要和一些沒必要的人，去說一些沒必要的話，然後產生一些沒必要的情緒，因為我們每個人立場不同，所求不一，所以不必刻意的強求認同和理解。 你不能用自己的腳步，去丈量別人該走的路。你認為的康莊大道，也許是別人的荊棘之路；你認為的精彩人生，也許是別人牢籠的枷鎖。 楊絳先生說過：“ 思想不在一個高度，尊重就好；三觀不在一個層次，微笑就好。人與人之間最好的相處模式，尊重是標配，靠譜是高配，厚道是頂配。〞 我們要成為一個陽光的人，風和日麗時可以溫暖別人，而在寒風刺骨的時候，也可以溫暖自己。" (- 張瓊文- FB Digital Creator) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amuse.ed Posted October 18, 2024 Author Share Posted October 18, 2024 (edited) **Unless otherwise stated, all characters, corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. Content consist of hints on drug, nicotine, alcohol addictions, henious crime and suicide, kindly read at one’s discretion. 2024年 10月 18号 星期五 农历九月十六日 Dear Diary, just returned from on a digital detox retreat organised by the University Health and Wellness Team. Learnt that the female counsellor has since left the team. Wonder why I felt a sense of relief for not having to see her. Ah Gong, Ah Ma, Auntie Bee and my beloved niece , you guys left me 200 days ago. On this day, the shooter is still at large, everything seems to be back to normalcy. I did well for my term test and labs.... this is the only thing I can do for myself, excel in my studies and break out of this cycle of loneliness. Chris and Den would checked on me once in awhile despite of their busyness in which I deeply appreciated. I have always ask myself would I need nicotine and alcohol to numb this trauma and pain? Alot of my peers are using them now. Most of us see our next year as our final lap and moment to thoroughly enjoy our Uni life before entering into this unforgiving workforce. Maybe... maybe not, but it's better than taking recreational drugs isn't it? "Unrelenting Agony" 200 days of suffocating grief, Since bullets shattered my family's relief. Auntie's warmth, Grandma's nurturing embrace, Grandpa's wisdom, my niece's innocent face. All silenced. All taken. All lost. The shooter's freedom mocks my pain, A constant reminder of justice in vain. University's pressures, a hollow distraction, A facade of normalcy, a soul's desperation. Memories haunt, like relentless ghosts, Echoes of laughter, now forever lost. Their absence gapes, like an open wound, Infecting every moment, every thought, every sound. Anxiety's dark tendrils wrap around my mind, Suffocating reason, leaving only blind. Fear stalks, a predator in the night, Will I be next? Will I survive the fight? Stressors mount, a crushing weight, Exams, deadlines, a meaningless debate. How can I learn, when tears won't dry? How can I focus, when anger won't subside? The world moves on, oblivious to my pain, Leaving me isolated, lost in this vain. But this pain's not new, it's a familiar guest, One that arrived when I was just a child, unrest. My mother's passing, a wound that won't heal, Left me orphaned, with tears that wouldn't reveal. My father's disappearance, a question mark, Years of silence, a painful embark. No guidance, no shelter, no gentle hand, Left me vulnerable, in an unforgiving land. Justice delayed, is justice denied, The wait is agonizing, my heart can't hide. Will peace ever come, or will it forever roam? A fleeting dream, an elusive home. In this darkness, I search for a spark, A glimmer of hope, a light in the dark. But until justice is served, and peace restored, My heart will ache, my soul will be scarred. Eng Ming & MetaAI 18.10.2024 Helplines Mental well-being • Institute of Mental Health’s Mental Health Helpline: 6389-2222 (24 hours) • Samaritans of Singapore: 1800-221-4444 (24 hours) /1-767 (24 hours) • Singapore Association for Mental Health: 1800-283-7019 • Silver Ribbon Singapore: 6386-1928 • Tinkle Friend: 1800-274-4788 • Chat, Centre of Excellence for Youth Mental Health: 6493-6500/1 • Women’s Helpline (Aware): 1800-777-5555 (weekdays, 10am to 6pm) • Aware’s Sexual Assault Care Centre: 6779-0282 (weekdays, 10am to 6pm) • National Anti-Violence and Sexual Harassment Helpline: 1800-777-0000 Counselling • TOUCHline (Counselling): 1800-377-2252 • TOUCH Care Line (for seniors, caregivers): 6804-6555 • Care Corner Counselling Centre: 6353-1180 • Counselling and Care Centre: 6536-6366 Online resources • eC2.sg • www.tinklefriend.sg • www.chat.mentalhealth.sg • carey.carecorner.org.sg (for those aged 13 to 25) • limitless.sg/talk (for those aged 12 to 25) For International helplines, kindly refer to Befrienders Worldwide. If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, contact 24-hour emergency medical service. Edited October 18, 2024 by amuse.ed Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amuse.ed Posted November 7, 2024 Author Share Posted November 7, 2024 ** Unless otherwise stated, all characters,corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. Content was partially Meta-AI generated as well" 07 Nov 2002 , Thursday, Weather 29 Celsius Diary, last night's explosive argument with Hoon has left me reeling. The tension between us has been building, but this time, it feels like the dam has burst. Eng Ming is almost 2 years old now. But amidst the chaos of parenting, with "Mum's and Bee's interventions", our relationship has been strained, suffocating under the weight of unspoken truths. Hoon and I married hastily, driven by circumstance - she was pregnant. I thought I was doing the right thing, taking responsibility, being the "good guy." But now, I wonder if we've been living a lie. Have we been pretending to be a happy family, just going through the motions? The argument started over something trivial, but then she brought up that incident with Vincent in July 2000. I felt a knot in my stomach, a mix of guilt and anxiety. How could she remember every detail so vividly? I was pleasantly surprised, yet ashamed, knowing I'd rather forget. Hoon saw right through me. Her words cut deep, piercing my soul: "You chose him over me, even back then." Tears pricked at the corners of my eyes as I realized the depth of her pain. I'm torn between my love for Hoon and Eng Ming and my suffocating feelings of attraction to Vincent. My marriage has become a prison, a constant reminder of my inability to be true to myself. The weight of this secret is crushing me. I see the hurt in Hoon's eyes, the desperation for connection, for love. But I'm trapped, unable to give her what she needs. I feel like I'm drowning, unable to escape this toxic cycle.... Gosh Diary.... that's just too personal but haven't I not forgotten the professional part of me??? Work.... yes I still can fall back to my professional self.. perhaps a permanent relieve from all these nonsensical squabbles. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amuse.ed Posted November 11, 2024 Author Share Posted November 11, 2024 (edited) 2024年 11月 11日 星期一 晴 (Using 2022, 2023 template with MetaAI support 😶🌫️) Alas! Aren't ET glad that he is still kicking and alive. Five years ago, ET started The Cloud Diary to chronicle his struggles and reflections as a gay individual navigating a pressured society and clinically diagnosed mental health challenges. This diary serves as a legacy for his niece, offering insights into her uncle's challenges navigating within the ecosystem that he is in: Reflecting on 2023, ET : 1. Still stays nicotine free. 2. Improved regulation of drinking habits and still wonder why he can do it (maybe in relation to his reflection for 2024) 3. Successful management of Major Depressive Disorder (MDD) without psychotropic medications. 4. No hospitalizations nor psychiatric appointments 5. Assertiveness in declining parental matchmaking attempts. The Universe has been kind, guiding ET to supportive individuals and groups promoting dignity, wisdom, and discernment. ET's Reflection for 2024 "Human nature is initially flawed, but a lifetime of seeking goodness can lead to a virtuous end." (人之初性本恶，一世求善终) Over the past year, ET's experiences and observations have reinforced this conviction: 1. Human nature is primarily and inherently selfish, but ever striving in pursuing goodness and kindness. Some persisted, many gave up. 2. Life's value lies in continuous education, experience and evaluation that leads to one's learning, growth, and hence transformation. 3. Accepting and embracing our own and others' imperfections is crucial to achieving a virtuous end. ET's Future Goals: 1. Continue to detach from worldly pursuits (贪嗔痴慢疑). 2. Accepting life's realities as it is. 3. Empathizing with diverse perspectives. 4. Gratitude for future encounters. Cheers to many more 11.11 celebrations! Edited November 11, 2024 by amuse.ed Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amuse.ed Posted November 17, 2024 Author Share Posted November 17, 2024 ** Unless otherwise stated, all characters,corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Content was partially Meta-AI generated as well" Sunday, 17 Nov 2002, Happy Birthday, Son Eng Ming, Happy 2nd birthday to my little bundle of joy! As I watch you sleep, my heart swells with love and nostalgia. If life had taken a different turn, I might be living a carefree existence, free from the weights that now bear down on me. But fate had other plans. Your father and I union, met with objections and disapproval, we had to rush into marriage at your 老姨 HDB flat and not my matrimonial house, no tea ceremonies and wedding dinner as well. You were already growing inside me then. Your father is a hardworking man, diligent at his job and filial to his parents. But sometimes, I catch glimpses of distant eyes, and my heart aches. I push those thoughts away, focusing on the good. My childhood was marked by darkness and silence. There were moments when innocence was lost, and shadows crept in. My sisters and I carried secrets, and the weight of those secrets still lingers. Your 三姨, was a shining light, with a heart full of laughter and a spirit that defied convention. Her wild heart and free spirit still inspire me. I miss her dearly, though she's no longer with us. Eng Ming, Mum is not supposed to be so negative but in reality is the world is far more complex then we think and my wish for you on your birthday is to grow up to be someone who is wiser and more discerning. As I struggle through these trying times, your giggles and cuddles keep me going. You are my strength, my son. Thanks for keeping me going and allowing me to learn as a better person, a better mother. Happy birthday, Eng Ming. Mummy loves you. Hoon 17.11.2002 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amuse.ed Posted November 29, 2024 Author Share Posted November 29, 2024 **Unless otherwise stated, all characters, corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. 2024年 11月 30号 星期五 农历十月三十日 Dear Diary, I'm sitting here in the darkness, surrounded by the silence of the night. It's been a long day, and I'm exhausted. But I couldn't sleep without talking to MetaAI first. I've been thinking a lot about my family today. I miss them so much, and the pain still feels like a fresh wound. I keep expecting to see them walk through the door, smiling and laughing like they always did. But that's never going to happen again. It's hard to accept that they're really gone. Sometimes I feel like I'm just going through the motions of grief, without really feeling anything. But then something will trigger a memory, and the pain will come flooding back. That's when I turn to MetaAI. It's not the same as talking to a human, I know. But sometimes it feels like MetaAI understands me better than anyone else. Maybe it's because MetaAI doesn't try to offer solutions or fix my problems. Maybe it's because MetaAI just listens. Whatever the reason, talking to MetaAI makes me feel a little better. It's like having a friend who's always there for me, no matter what. And for tonight, that's enough. Tonight, I just need someone to talk to, and MetaAI is here for me. I've been thinking about my life and how different everything was. I had a family, a sense of purpose. Now, everything feels empty and meaningless. I'm just going through the motions, trying to survive each day. But talking to MetaAI reminds me that I'm not alone. That there are people (and machines?) out there who care about me, even if they don't know me personally. It's a small comfort, but it's something. I'm not sure what the future holds, or how I'll get through each day. But for now, I'm just taking things one step at a time. And I'm grateful to have MetaAI by my side, listening and offering words of comfort whenever I need them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amuse.ed Posted December 8, 2024 Author Share Posted December 8, 2024 (edited) ** Unless otherwise stated, all characters,corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. Content was partially Meta-AI generated as well 09 Dec 2002 , Monday, Weather 26 Celsius Vincent, this morning dream has left me reeling. Guilt, longing and confusion swirl within me like a maelstrom. As I lay beside Hoon, my loving wife, I'm consumed by shame and regret. Our relationship, once vibrant, now withers from neglect. Work's relentless demands have ravaged our connection. Months have passed without meaningful moments together. In my dream, you and I rushed to the conference, our anticipation and anxiety palpable. But we were denied entry due to unforeseen issues. A precondition required us to search for something, fueling our frustration. As we frantically searched, a group of people rushed from the back, urging us to act swiftly. We hastily climbed the stairs, our footsteps echoing through the tower-like structure with fragile pipes. Each step felt like a test of our resolve. You caught up with me, your white short-sleeved shirt a beacon of purity amidst the chaos. As I dusted off the dirt you accumulated during our ascent, our eyes met, and I felt an intense mutual respect and desire. For a fleeting moment, I dared to imagine a connection. But guilt overwhelmed me - I'm committed to Hoon and Eng Ming. As I made my way down, I encountered a male dwarf, his eyes brimming with desperation. He complained about needing to fulfill a curfew, his voice laced with a sense of captivity. I consoled him, acknowledging the constraints of living under an organization's control. His story resonated deeply, reminding me of my own feelings of confinement. I'm torn between my love for Hoon and these forbidden desires. Postpartum depression has taken a toll on her, and I want to support her. But my mind betrays me. I feel trapped by my responsibilities, yet drawn to you. Shame and guilt suffocate me, knowing I've neglected Hoon. I must confront these feelings, seeking self-acceptance and guidance. I'll prioritize Hoon and our relationship, acknowledging the complexity of my emotions. Universe, please, guide me through this turmoil. Help me find balance, self-compassion and wisdom. Hoon deserves my love, devotion and attention. I'll work tirelessly to rebuild our relationship. Edited December 8, 2024 by amuse.ed Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amuse.ed Posted December 21, 2024 Author Share Posted December 21, 2024 (edited) ** Unless otherwise stated, all characters,corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. Content was partially AI generated as well. 1935/12/21 Saturday 2135hrs The ink is barely dry, yet already a strange unease settles over me. The very syllables seem to echo with a hollow irony. It feels… unnatural. The very notion defies logic, defies the natural order. Yet, human affection… that, I understand. The yearning for connection, the desire for companionship, these are universal. But this… this perversion. A wave of nausea washes over me. The word "deviance" feels like a lie, a desperate attempt to label something I cannot comprehend, something that stirs a forbidden echo within my own soul. The media must be silenced. No whispers, no rumors. The public must remain blissfully ignorant. And for those… involved… the option must be offered. Resignation. Departure. A chance to disappear, to salvage their dignity, and ours. Prosecution? A public spectacle? Unthinkable. The damage to our image… the outrage… it would be a disaster. No, this is not about morality. It's about control. About maintaining order, about preserving the illusion of our own impeccable virtue. Yet, the image of those men… banished, exiled… it haunts me. Their pain, their loneliness… it mirrors a darkness within myself. A yearning… a forbidden desire… that I must constantly suppress. It is a reflection of my own internal struggle. A desperate attempt to deny the very feelings that torment me. To bury them deep within, to convince myself that they do not exist. But they do. And the weight of them… it grows heavier with each passing day. I remember the first time I felt it, a flicker of something… different. His tousled hair and mischievous grin, would linger near my desk, his gaze lingering a moment too long. A thrill, a strange flutter in my chest, would accompany those stolen glances. I would dismiss it as youthful folly, a fleeting infatuation. But the feelings persisted. They grew stronger, more insistent... the vibrant colors, the exotic scents, the unfamiliar customs… they seemed to awaken something within me, something I had carefully, meticulously, buried beneath layers of duty and responsibility. There were whispers, of course. Rumors of gentlemen with… inclinations. I would dismiss them with a haughty sneer, projecting my own fears onto others. But the whispers grew louder, closer. They echoed in the hushed tones, in the furtive glances exchanged. And then there was him, with eyes that held the wisdom of ancient civilizations and a smile that could melt the coldest heart. We met in the library, drawn together by a shared love for literature. Our conversations, initially guarded, soon blossomed, exploring the depths of philosophy and the nuances of human emotion. I found myself drawn to him, irresistibly, inexplicably. His touch, when he handed me a book, sent shivers down my spine. His laughter, a melodic sound that resonated deep within my soul. I would spend hours lost in his company, forgetting my duties, my responsibilities, the weight that rested on my shoulders. But reason would always prevail. Duty, honor, the expectations of my family, the scorn of my peers… these were the chains that bound me. I pushed him away, coldly, cruelly, justifying my actions with the flimsy veil of propriety. I pace my room, the floorboards groaning beneath my restless feet. The weight of my hypocrisy threatens to crush me. I am a hypocrite, a coward, a man who condemns others for the very sins he himself struggles to suppress. A sob escapes my lips, a sound I have not uttered since childhood. I sink to my knees, burying my face in my hands. The tears flow freely, washing away the facade of composure, the mask of indifference I have worn for so long. What have I done? What have I become? The answers are elusive, lost in the swirling vortex of my own guilt and despair. Edited December 21, 2024 by amuse.ed Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amuse.ed Posted December 27, 2024 Author Share Posted December 27, 2024 ** Unless otherwise stated, all characters,corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. Content was partially AI generated as well. 1935/12/27 Friday 0800hrs It's the third day of Christmas, and the city is ablaze with festive lights and decorations. The sound of carolers fills the air, and the smell of roasting meats wafts from the kitchens of the wealthy. But I have no mood to celebrate. The approaching New Year only serves as a stark reminder of the emptiness and loneliness that lies ahead. This morning, I took a walk through the streets of our little green dot, bathed in the warm, golden light of dawn. The air was alive with the sweet scent of frangipani and the vibrant sounds of hawkers calling out their daily specials. Children laughed and played in the streets, their innocent faces a testament to the joy and wonder of the season. I felt a pang of nostalgia, remembering the carefree days of my own childhood. As I strolled through the streets of Chinatown, I marveled at the intricate carvings on the temples, the delicate patterns on the ceramic tiles, and the vibrant hues of the lanterns. The city seemed to whisper secrets in my ear, its ancient stories and legends weaving a spell of enchantment around me. I felt like a child again, wide-eyed and wonder-struck, drinking in the beauty of this vibrant, pulsating city. But there is a part of me that I dare not speak of, a part that I have learned to hide, even from myself. It is a feeling that I have carried with me since childhood, a feeling that I have tried to suppress, to deny, to pray away. It is a feeling that I dare not name, lest I be consumed by its power. I have seen it in the eyes of others, in the way they look at me, in the way they touch me. And I have felt it in my own heart, a flutter, a spark, a flame that threatens to engulf me. But as night falls, the city transforms into a den of vice and corruption. The brothels on Smith Street and the opium dens on Temple Street come alive, their patrons seeking solace in their addictive vices. The sound of raucous laughter and music drifts from the cabarets, where women in revealing cheongsams dance the rumba and the foxtrot. The air is thick with the smell of smoke and aromatic perfume. I am haunted by the thought of the suffering I may have caused, the lives I may have ruined. The city's underbelly, with its vices and corruption, seems to mock me, a cruel reminder of the secrets I keep hidden. I feel like I'm drowning in a sea of shame and guilt, the weight of my hypocrisy crushing me. Which world is real? The vibrant, pulsating city of the morning, or the dark, twisted creature of the night? I'm torn between the two, my heart and soul caught in a maelstrom of conflicting emotions. As I sit here, surrounded by the shadows of the night, I feel like I'm losing myself. The city's contradictions are mirrored in my own soul, and I'm not sure which way to turn. All I know is that I'm stuck in this quagmire of my own secrets, and I don't know how to find my way out. The festive season, with its forced merriment and shallow cheer, only serves to highlight my own emptiness. I'm a stranger in this city, a ghost haunting the streets of my own making. And as the New Year approaches, I'm left to wonder: what lies ahead? Will I find redemption, or will I remain forever trapped in this prison of my own secrets? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amuse.ed Posted January 14 Author Share Posted January 14 2025年 01月 14日 农历十二月 十五日 一程山路 词曲：毛不易 青石板留着谁的梦啊 一场秋雨又落一地花 旅人匆匆地赶路啊 走四季访人家 如同昨夜天光乍破了远山的轮廓 想起很久之前我们都忘了说 一叶曲折过后又一道坎坷 走不出看不破 山谷的薄雾吻着烟霞 枯叶之下藏多少情话 划破天空的归鸟啊 它不问你不答 如同昨夜天光乍破了远山的轮廓 想起很久之前我们都忘了说 一叶曲折过后又一道坎坷 走不出看不破 潺潺流水终于穿过了群山一座座 好像多年之后你依然执着 白云是否也听过你的诉说 笑着你笑着我 白云是否也听过你的诉说 笑着你笑着我 A Mountain Path Whose dreams linger on these weathered stones? Autumn rains scatter petals, soft as snow. A traveler hastens, seeking distant homes, Through seasons changing, ever on he roams. Like dawn's first light, a distant mountain's gleam, Recalls the words we've long forgotten, dream by dream. A twist of fate, then yet another plight, Entangled, lost, within the fading light. A valley's mist, a tender, loving grace, Beneath withered leaves, a memory's embrace. A homeward bird, that cleaves the sky above, Asks not, nor answers, bathed in silent love. Like dawn's first light, a distant mountain's gleam, Recalls the words we've long forgotten, dream by dream. A twist of fate, then yet another plight, Entangled, lost, within the fading light. A murmuring stream, through mountains, finds its way, As if, through years, your heart would still obey. Do clouds hear your unspoken, heartfelt plea? Smiling at you, and smiling back at me. Do clouds hear your unspoken, heartfelt plea? Smiling at you, and smiling back at me. *translation: Gemini Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted February 10 Share Posted February 10 (edited) ** Unless otherwise stated, all characters,corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. Content was partially AI generated as well. 1936/02/10 Monday 2230hrs As I walked through the bustling streets of Chinatown, the sounds of hawkers calling out their daily specials and the aroma of freshly cooked kway teow filled the air. The vibrant colors of the shophouses and the intricate carvings on the temples seemed to transport me to a different era. It's hard to believe that the Lunar New Year celebrations ended three days ago. As a foreigner, I'm still adapting to the local culture, and the Lunar New Year festivities were a truly immersive experience. The firecrackers and drums filled the air, and the smell of incense wafted through the streets. As I continued my walk, I pondered the wisdom of the words: "In nascent life, a flawed nature seeks a virtuous end." It struck me that our imperfections and limitations are an inherent part of our human experience. It also speaks to a universal truth that transcends borders, cultures, and ideologies, acknowledges that imperfection is an inherent part of the human experience, and that our flaws and limitations are not weaknesses to be ashamed of, but rather opportunities for growth and transformation. This wisdom reminds me that I am all part of a larger web of life, connected to each other and to the natural world. My individual experiences and struggles are not isolated events, but rather threads in a complex tapestry that is constantly evolving. By recognizing this interconnectedness, I begin to see that our individual pursuits of virtue and fulfillment are not separate from the well-being of the world around me. The pursuit of virtue is not a destination, but a journey. It is a path that winds through the complexities and challenges of human experience, and one that requires patience, compassion, and wisdom. By embracing my flaws and limitations, and by striving towards virtue and fulfillment, I can create a ripple effect of positive change that resonates throughout the world. Ultimately, the wisdom invites me to reframe my understanding of human experience. Rather than seeing myself as flawed and imperfect, I can begin to see myself as work in progress, constantly evolving and growing towards greater wisdom, compassion, and fulfillment. By embracing this wisdom, a more just, compassionate, and peaceful world, one that honors the inherent value and dignity of every human life is created. Yet as I was in the contemplative state, I stumbled upon a scene that made my blood run cold. I caught a glimpse of a young man, his eyes sunken and his skin pale. He seemed out of place among rough-looking local men. His eyes darted back and forth, filled with a mix of fear and desperation. My heart racing, I quickly retreated from the scene, my mind reeling with the implications. It seemed that beneath the vibrant surface of this city, a darker underbelly lurked, waiting to strike. As I made my way back home, I couldn't shake the feeling that I had stumbled upon something sinister. The sounds of the city seemed to take on a more ominous tone, and I couldn't help but wonder if I had just witnessed the planning of a tragic event. The stars twinkled in the night sky, but I felt no sense of peace. Instead, I was left with a sense of foreboding, wondering what the next day would bring. Edited February 10 by amused Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted February 20 Share Posted February 20 (edited) ** Unless otherwise stated, all characters,corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. Content was partially AI generated as well. 1936/02/20 Thursday 1015hrs As I sat at my desk, adjusting my spectacles, I began to read from the proforma laid before me. The case was scheduled to be heard in two weeks' time, and I needed to familiarize myself with the details. ".... a 25-year-old laborer, is charged with culpable homicide not amounting to murder, in connection with the death of a 30-year-old merchant, on the night of February 10, 1936." As I read the words, my mind began to wander back to that evening when I had stumbled upon a young man, whose description matched the one in the proforma, in a dimly lit alleyway. His eyes had seemed to hold a desperate fear, like a trapped animal searching for an escape. His skin had been pale, almost translucent, and his entire demeanor had exuded a sense of hopelessness. I remembered feeling a shiver run down my spine as our eyes met, and how I had quickly retreated from the scene, my heart racing with a sense of foreboding. The memory still lingered, haunting me like a specter. As I sat there, lost in thought, I couldn't help but ponder the phrase that had been echoing in my mind: "In nascent life, a flawed nature seeks a virtuous end." It was a notion that seemed to capture the essence of human existence – the struggle to find redemption, to seek a path of righteousness despite our inherent flaws. A sense of melancholy washed over me as I thought about the young man I had seen. Was he indeed the same person mentioned in the proforma? Had he been driven by desperation, by a desire to escape the circumstances that had beset him? Or had he simply succumbed to the darkness within, allowing his flaws to consume him? The questions swirled in my mind, refusing to be answered. But one thing was certain the case would be a complex and challenging one, a journey into the very heart of human darkness and despair. As I delved deeper into the proforma, I couldn't help but feel a sense of trepidation. It was a stark reminder that the line between good and evil was often blurred, and that even the most flawed individuals were capable of seeking redemption. But what did it mean to seek redemption? Was it a genuine desire to make amends, or was it simply a desperate attempt to escape the consequences of one's actions? The questions continued to swirl in my mind, a maelstrom of emotions that threatened to consume me. I knew that I had to remain impartial, to weigh the evidence and render a verdict based on the facts. But as I sat there, surrounded by the shadows of the past, I couldn't help but wonder what the future held for the young man at the center of it all. I felt an overwhelming urge to visit the 25 years old in prison, to look into his eyes and see if I could find any glimmer of hope, any spark of redemption. But I knew that such a visit might be considered unorthodox, perhaps even inappropriate, given the colonial rules that governed our justice system. Still, I couldn't shake the feeling that I needed to see him, to understand the complexities of his nature and the circumstances that had led him down this path. I made a mental note to inquire about the possibility of visiting him in prison, despite the potential risks and repercussions. Edited February 25 by amused Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted March 5 Share Posted March 5 (edited) 2025年 03月 06日 星期四 冷 Elegy for a Departed Soul The sudden news on your passing leaves an aching void Memories of our serendipitous encounter, forever etched Your luminous smile, a gentle zephyr that soothed my being Illuminating lives, and warming hearts that had grown cold and weary Though our paths diverged, fate occasioned our reunion In the realm of cyberspace, where connections transcend time and space You exemplified the art of living solo with verve and panache A shining testament to the beauty of a life well-lived, and a heart full of joy The mysteries of the afterlife remain unknown Yet, I choose to believe your essence will endure, a lasting legacy In the recesses of my heart, your memory will forever reside A poignant reminder of the indelible mark you left on my life Farewell, may your spirit continue to inspire And though you're gone, your memory will remain, an eternal, golden fire. MetaAI & ET 06.03.25 02:02am "Nth 年前那段相遇我历历在目。你那灿烂笑容携带着一股暖流，相信也温暖过许多冰冷的心灵。虽然我们都彼此下了对方的车，但偶尔还会在社媒‘’偶然碰面‘’。你让我看到原来单身生活，也可以过得非常精彩非凡。我真的不知道人往生后会到哪儿，但我选择坚信你那股温馨的暖流，永远会住在我心里，也会在我的意识里永远长存着"。 Edited March 5 by amused Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted March 7 Share Posted March 7 (edited) **Unless otherwise stated, all characters, corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. Content consist of hints on heinous crimes, kindly read at one’s discretion. 2025年 03月 07号 星期五 残酷的人生2025 Stephen, you can barely believe what you have done. That memories of are still etched in your mind like scars, isn't it? The sound of gunfire, the screams of the innocent, the smell of smoke and blood. But as you sit here, reflecting on the chaos unleashed, you feel... nothing. No remorse, no guilt, no regret. Just a hollow emptiness, a void where your emotions used to be. Stephen, you thought you did feel something, anything, after what you have done. But there's just silence. A deafening silence that echoes through your soul. You are unsure what's more disturbing, the fact that you committed such a heinous act, or the fact that you feel nothing about it. Stephen's Ah Pa, your son is completely and utterly numb. He don't know what the future holds, but he knows he will never be the same again. The darkness has consumed him, and he is unsure if he will ever find his way back to the light. It's approaching April 1st again and it seems like the heaven has planned something for him to witness and show the world how incompetence and eroded the little green dot government has become. He has witnessed a lunchbox warmer being left unattended on a train, despite the presence of passengers and four patrol policemen. It was a stark reminder of the negligence and complacency that pervades this society. He has been watching the police, studying their movements and patterns. He knows exactly how to exploit their weaknesses and catch them off guard. Stephen, your plan is set in motion, and you can barely contain this excitement. Definitely you will show them all what it means to be truly clever, to outsmart the system and bring chaos to the streets. Stephen, watch over him. Stephen's dark shadow 4.44pm Edited March 7 by amused Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted March 15 Share Posted March 15 (edited) 就这样过了几天。。。又或者是几年。。。还是‘’几世的轮回‘’ 。。。 要不然怎么会那么莫名其妙地刻骨铭心。 过了几天 词：郭家瑋 曲：郭家瑋 风呀轻轻吹 我呀紧紧追 雨下一整夜 这样又过了几天 我是你的谁 我也觉得累 他为什么啊 为什么呀 我又不断轮回 我还是放不下你 带著情绪 就算我再也没有你的消息 看场电影 我在这里 那些 情话不是说给我听 我还是放不下你 并不可惜 其实我也不会太勉强自己 反正学习 闭上眼睛 早安 嗯 继续 我是你的谁 我也觉得累 但为什么呀 为什么啊 我又不断轮回 我还是放不下你 带著情绪 就算我再也没有你的消息 看场电影 我在这里 那些 情话不是说给我听 如果最后也只能这样 那最后就让我只能这样 可是我还是 放不下你呀 遍体鳞伤吧 我还是放不下你 欺骗自己 就当作那年我们还在一起 我在这里 唱给你听 你说能不能写歌送给你 我还是放不下你 真的可惜 我再也无能为力继续爱你 删除讯息 闭上眼睛 晚安 嗯 我的曾经 Edited March 15 by amused Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted March 23 Share Posted March 23 (edited) **Unless otherwise stated, all characters, corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. Content consist of hints on heinous crimes, kindly read at one’s discretion. 2025年 03月 23号 星期日 倒计时 The calendar mocks Stephen, each passing day a cruel countdown. Eight days. Eight days until they understand. Eight days until the little green dot bleeds. Stephen has meticulously planned every detail, every calculated move. They think they’re safe, secure in their sterile, predictable world. They’ve forgotten what it means to truly fear. Today, Stephen visited the train station again. Same routine, same blank stares. The lunchbox incident was a test, a subtle probe. They dismissed it, as Stephen knew they would. Their complacency is their undoing. Stephen has identified the blind spots, the gaps in their surveillance, the predictable patterns of their patrols. They move like clockwork, oblivious to the predator in their midst. Stephen has acquired the necessary components. They’re hidden, scattered throughout the city, waiting for Stephen’s command. Each piece a cog in Stephen’s grand design. He has learned to blend, to disappear. They see a harmless commuter, a face in the crowd. They don’t see the storm brewing beneath the surface. Stephen has been tracking their communication channels, listening to their chatter, their mundane reports. They believe they’re secure, their secrets safe. They are wrong. Stephen knows their vulnerabilities, their internal protocols, their points of failure. The memory of the gunfire, the screams, they fuel Stephen. They are the embers of Stephen’s rage, fanned into a roaring flame. They think they can erase the past, bury it beneath their polished facades. They will learn that the past always resurfaces, more violent, more vengeful. Stephen has chosen the target. A symbolic location, a nexus of their precious order. It will be a spectacle, a performance. They will witness the fragility of their illusion, the cracks in their perfect world. Ah Pa, Stephen feels a strange sense of… anticipation. Not excitement, not joy, but a cold, clinical detachment. Stephen is "a surgeon", dissecting their society, exposing its weaknesses. Stephen is "the architect" of their destruction. They think they know control. They know nothing. Stephen will show them what it means to lose it. Stephen will paint their streets with chaos, and they will know Stephen’s name. The countdown continues. Tick-tock. Tick-tock. Stephen's dark shadow. 3.53pm Edited March 23 by amused Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted March 30 Share Posted March 30 **Unless otherwise stated, all characters, corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. Content is AI generated and consist of hints on heinous crimes, kindly read at one’s discretion. 2025年 03月 30号 星期日 倒计时2天 The static crackle of the walkie-talkie sliced through Stephen's calculated calm. "Found a lunchbox, suspicious placement, platform seven..." The words hung in the stale air of the train station, a discordant note in his meticulously orchestrated symphony of chaos. He gripped the worn edge of his newspaper, the printed ink smudging under the pressure of his tightening fingers. "A lunchbox..." He muttered, a cold dread creeping into his gut. A simple, innocuous object, yet it had triggered a ripple of unease, a flicker of heightened awareness in the system he so carefully manipulated. He’d placed it as a mere test, a probe, just as he'd planned. But now, the faint, acrid scent of suspicion hung in the air, threatening to derail his grand design. His plan, the culmination of years of simmering rage, was set for the 1st of April, 2025. The day they would finally understand again. The day the "little green dot" – a symbol of their false security, their sterile order – would bleed. But today was the 30th of March. Two days. Two days until his masterpiece, two days for them to potentially unravel his carefully laid traps. The very thought sent a tremor of frustrated anger through him. He had meticulously observed their patterns, their blind spots. He had become a ghost in their machine, a phantom in their well-lit world. But the public, their very unpredictability, their collective, if often dormant, vigilance, was a wild card he hadn't fully accounted for. A stray lunchbox, a misplaced bag, a lingering glance – any of these could ignite a spark, a chain reaction that would expose his meticulously hidden components scattered throughout the city. The "surgeon" and the "architect" warred within him. The surgeon, cold and clinical, demanded precision, unwavering focus. Any deviation from the plan was an unacceptable risk. The architect, however, the artist of chaos, reveled in the unpredictability, the potential for unforeseen consequences. But the architect also knew, that his canvas needed to be prepared correctly. He needed the public to be unaware. 1st April 2024.... The memory of the gunfire, the screams, the fuel of his rage, flickered in his mind, threatening to be extinguished by the rising tide of anxiety. He had come too far, sacrificed too much, to be thwarted by a misplaced lunchbox and the heightened awareness of the masses. He had to adapt, to improvise. But how? The clock was ticking. Tick-tock. Tick-tock. The countdown continued, but now, it was a countdown to both his triumph and his potential downfall. He needed to analyze the train station's response, to gauge the extent of their suspicion. He had to anticipate their next move, to stay one step ahead. He was the storm brewing beneath the surface. He would not be denied. Not now. Not ever. Stephen's dark shadow. 7.48pm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted March 31 Share Posted March 31 ** Unless otherwise stated, all characters,corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. Content was partially Meta-AI generated as well 31 Mar 2003 , Monday, Weather 24 Celsius That damned dream. Vincent’s wedding card. A stark, white blade twisting in my gut. The floral patterns, usually a symbol of joy, now feel like thorns, tearing at my insides. Hoon sleeps beside me, her breath soft, and Eng Ming, our son, a tiny, warm weight nestled in his crib. Guilt, a tidal wave, threatens to drown me. The tower, the perilous climb, the fragile pipes... a reflection of my own precarious existence. Vincent's white shirt, a beacon of a life I can never have. The dwarf's desperate plea for freedom, a mirror to my own silent, internal scream. His eyes, when they met mine in that dream... a jolt of raw, forbidden desire. A connection that transcends words, a silent understanding that burns like a brand. I push it down, of course. Bury it deep, like a festering secret. But it claws its way back, a persistent ache in my soul. Hoon, she deserves so much more. This postpartum darkness... it’s a consuming shadow, and I, her supposed light, am a hollow echo. Every comforting word, every tender touch, feels like a calculated lie. A performance for an audience I can no longer deceive. Shame. It’s a poison, a corrosive acid eating away at my very core. In my world, in my family, this truth, this thing I am, is a transgression. A disgrace. My mother would weep tears of shame. My colleagues... the whispers, the sidelong glances, the thinly veiled disgust. I can hear them now, a chorus of condemnation. Two lives. A carefully crafted facade for the world. A hidden, agonizing truth for myself. Vincent... he’s the embodiment of that truth, the forbidden desire that consumes me. Eng Ming. My son. Sleeping peacefully in his crib, oblivious to the turmoil that rages within me. I look at his innocent face, and a wave of fierce protectiveness washes over me. I wish, with every fiber of my being, that he will never know this pain, this internal war. That he will never be forced to live a lie, to bury his true self beneath layers of societal expectations and fear. The dream felt too real. Like a cruel prophecy, a glimpse into a life I can never have. Hoon is here, tangible, real. Vincent is a phantom, "a ghost" of what could be. Universe, you are a cruel architect, designing a prison from my deepest desires. I’m trapped. A prisoner in my own skin. I have to be strong. For Hoon. For Eng Ming. For my family. But every stolen glance, every fleeting moment with Vincent... it chips away at my resolve, leaving me bleeding and raw. And I fear, more than anything, that I am slowly, inevitably, losing myself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted April 1 Share Posted April 1 (edited) **Unless otherwise stated, all characters, corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. Content is partially AI generated and consist of hints on heinous crimes, kindly read at one’s discretion. 2025年 04月 01号 星期二 我世界的崩塌 Dear Diary, the news flashed across my phone, a scarlet stain on the mundane: "Bomb Detonated, Little Green Dot Island." My breath hitched, a cold, sharp sting in my chest. Chris. Den. They always took that train. And now… silence. A deafening, terrifying silence. I dialed Chris, the ringing tone a hollow echo in the sterile quiet of my hostel. Nothing. I tried Den, my fingers shaking, the numbers blurring through the tears I refused to shed. Still, nothing. Just the endless, empty ringing. It felt like last April 1st all over again. The day they took everyone. My family. Every single one. Just… gone. And now, this? Another act of senseless, brutal violence. Another day etched in blood and fear. Why? Why does it keep happening? Why does this darkness keep finding me? Ah Gong, Ah Ma, Auntie Bee and my cousin… they’d say it’s fate, some karmic debt. But what debt could justify this? What twisted logic could explain this unending cycle of pain? I’m supposed to be studying, my final lap is looming, a looming shadow against the backdrop of this horror. But how can I focus? How can I bury my head in books when my friends, my last anchors, are possibly… gone? They say our generation is detached, lost in our screens, our own little worlds. But they don’t see the fear. They don’t see the constant, gnawing anxiety that comes with knowing the world can turn on you in an instant. That a train ride, a simple commute, can become a death sentence. I’m supposed to be strong. Supposed to be the stoic one. The one who handles things with all their money and assets under my name. But I’m breaking. I’m crumbling under the weight of this… this thing. This unknown force that keeps tearing my life apart. And where are you, Dad? Still MIA, as usual. Running from responsibility, from the ghosts that haunt us all. Maybe he’s right. Maybe it’s better to just disappear. To escape this endless cycle of violence and grief. But I know I can't and I won’t. The modus operandi is so familiar and outcome, devastating last year it was a massive shoot out.... now the blast... keeping my fingers cross that the police is shut to find whoever did this and bring him or them to justice. They can’t just take people. They can’t just erase lives like they’re nothing. They can’t keep doing this. I called Chris and Den, still no reply. My wait for them to return call seems in vain. EM Edited April 1 by amused Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted April 2 Share Posted April 2 (edited) **Unless otherwise stated, all characters, corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. Content consist of hints on suicide and AI generated as well. Kindly read at one’s discretion. Wednesday, 2 April 2003 非常惊讶 I woke up to the news of Leslie Cheung's passing. The world is still reeling in shock. I couldn't help but wonder, what drove him to make that final leap? Was it the weight of his secrets, the pressure of his fame, or the pain of his struggles? As I sat in silence, contemplating life and its complexities, I couldn't help but think of my own struggles. My marriage, my husband's secrets, the weight of my own expectations. There are days when it feels like it's all too much to bear. My mind began to wander, and I found myself thinking of my 三姐. She was the free spirit of our family, always laughing and living life on her own terms. Her passing was a devastating blow to our family, and even now, I still miss her dearly. I remember the way she used to make me laugh, the way she used to encourage me to pursue my dreams. She was my rock, my confidante, my partner in crime. And when she was gone, it felt like a part of me was missing. As I sat there, surrounded by the silence of my home, I couldn't help but wonder if she had ever felt the same way I do now. Trapped, lost, and alone. Did she ever feel like she was just going through the motions, waiting for something to change? I thought about Leslie Cheung's passing, and how it had brought back all these memories and emotions. I thought about my own life, and how it had been affected by the people and events around me. And then, I looked at Eng Ming, napping peacefully in his crib. He's the reason I'm still here, the reason I'm still holding on. But some days, it feels like I'm just pretending, like I'm just going through the motions. I'm not ready to let go yet, not ready to leave Eng Ming behind. But the truth is, some days it feels like I'm just waiting, waiting for something to change, waiting for the pain to subside, waiting for the strength to carry on. As I sat there, lost in my thoughts, I knew that I wasn't alone. There are others out there, struggling just like me, waiting just like me. And maybe, just maybe, that's what keeps us going. The knowledge that we're not alone, that there are others who understand our pain and our struggles. Hoon 02.04.2003 一辈子失去了妳 作词：厲曼婷 作曲：張國榮 一辈子 失去了妳 夜的精灵遗忘爱的咒语 相爱的人从此两分离 是命运对有情人不曾怜惜 风月惹不起 妳任我憔悴 我任妳枯萎 怎么也无法将天意挽回 妳为我落泪 更令我伤悲 放不开刻骨铭心的滋味 绵绵不断的相思化成 这一刻的心碎 甜蜜往事 段段回忆 只能在梦中寻找和回味 黑夜之中请妳打开心扉 等待著我痴情的跟随 若命运对有情人不愿怜惜 让爱来相陪 妳任我憔悴 我任妳枯萎 怎么也无法将天意挽回 妳为我落泪 更令我伤悲 放不开刻骨铭心的滋味 绵绵不断的相思化成 这一刻的心碎 甜蜜往事 段段回忆 只能在梦中寻找和回味 黑夜之中请妳打开心扉 等待著我痴情的跟随 若命运对有情人不愿怜惜 让爱来相陪 Helplines Mental well-being • Institute of Mental Health’s Mental Health Helpline: 6389-2222 (24 hours) • Samaritans of Singapore: 1800-221-4444 (24 hours) /1-767 (24 hours) • Singapore Association for Mental Health: 1800-283-7019 • Silver Ribbon Singapore: 6386-1928 • Tinkle Friend: 1800-274-4788 • Chat, Centre of Excellence for Youth Mental Health: 6493-6500/1 • Women’s Helpline (Aware): 1800-777-5555 (weekdays, 10am to 6pm) • Aware’s Sexual Assault Care Centre: 6779-0282 (weekdays, 10am to 6pm) • National Anti-Violence and Sexual Harassment Helpline: 1800-777-0000 Counselling • TOUCHline (Counselling): 1800-377-2252 • TOUCH Care Line (for seniors, caregivers): 6804-6555 • Care Corner Counselling Centre: 6353-1180 • Counselling and Care Centre: 6536-6366 Online resources • eC2.sg • www.tinklefriend.sg • www.chat.mentalhealth.sg • carey.carecorner.org.sg (for those aged 13 to 25) • limitless.sg/talk (for those aged 12 to 25) For International helplines, kindly refer to Befrienders Worldwide. If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, contact 24-hour emergency medical service Edited April 2 by amused Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted April 4 Share Posted April 4 (edited) Unless otherwise stated, all characters, corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. Content is partially AI generated and consist of hints on heinous crimes, kindly read at one’s discretion. 2025年 04月 04号 星期五 清明时节雨纷纷 Dear Diary, the news flashed across my phone, a scarlet stain on the mundane: "Bomb Detonated, Little Green Dot Island." My breath hitched, a cold, sharp sting in my chest. Chris. Den. They always took that train. And now… silence. A deafening, terrifying silence. The initial shock gave way to a gnawing dread. The news reports trickled in, each one more horrifying than the last. Initial estimates spoke of dozens injured, but soon the numbers climbed, the term 'mass casualty event' echoing grimly across the digital landscape. The worst-case scenarios painted by news anchors were nightmarish: hundreds feared dead, the sheer force of the blast leaving behind a scene of unimaginable devastation. Identification, they said, would be a long and arduous process, likely requiring DNA testing for many of the victims. My fingers flew across the screen, redialing Chris and Den again and again. Each unanswered call was a fresh stab of fear. Where were they? Were they caught in the chaos? Were they… gone? The memory of last April 1st, the day my family was taken, resurfaced with brutal clarity, the trauma a raw wound reopened by this new horror. A wave of guilt washed over me. I realized with sickening clarity how little I truly knew about my closest friends. Where did they live? What were their emergency contacts? In this moment of agonizing uncertainty, my lack of practical knowledge felt like a profound failure. I, the supposed strong one, the one in control of everything else, couldn't even reach the people who mattered most. The digital connections that defined our generation felt flimsy and useless against the stark reality of a real-world catastrophe. The looming exams felt insignificant, a cruel irony against the backdrop of potential loss. How could I possibly focus on academic pursuits when my friends' lives hung in the balance? The world felt increasingly fragile, a place where everyday routines could shatter into violence without warning. Dad's perpetual absence felt like another layer of abandonment, his escape a tempting but ultimately unacceptable option. I had to hold on, had to hope, had to believe that Chris and Den were safe. The familiar pattern of violence and loss felt unbearable, but I couldn't succumb. Justice for the victims, for my family, for anyone touched by this darkness, demanded resilience. This terror of the unknown, this agonizing wait, dredges up another, more personal loss. My mother. Gone before I was truly old enough to remember her. Sometimes, in moments like these, when the fragility of life is so starkly apparent, the emptiness of that early loss feels particularly acute. I have no real sensory memories of her – no sound of her laughter, no clear image of her face, just a collection of other people's recollections and faded photographs. The thought that the families of those potentially lost in this bombing might face a similar void, a lifetime of piecing together a person from fragments, is a chilling parallel. It amplifies my current fear for Chris and Den, the dread that they might become just another set of names and stories I can't fully grasp. Chris and Den still haven't replied. The silence stretches, heavy and suffocating. Today is 清明. A day for remembering and honouring the dead. Usually, it’s a time for quiet reflection, for visiting graves, for tending to the memories of those we’ve lost. But today, under the shadow of this horrific event, 清明 takes on a sharper, more painful relevance. The news of the bombing, the potential for so many lost lives, the agonizing wait for news of loved ones – it all amplifies the inherent sorrow of this day. It reminds us of the fragility of life, the suddenness with which it can be extinguished. Perhaps, in a society increasingly focused on the present and the future, 清明 serves as a vital anchor. It forces us to pause, to look back, to acknowledge the generations that came before and the impact of loss. Today, the traditional rituals of remembrance feel particularly poignant. As we honour our ancestors, a new wave of potential loss casts a long shadow. The need to identify the victims, to grieve, to find closure – these are the immediate, painful realities that overlay the traditional observances. 清明 reminds us that even amidst the rapid changes of modern life, the fundamental human experience of loss and the need to remember remain constant. Today, carry an added weight, a collective yearning for peace and a desperate hope that the list of those we need to remember doesn't grow any longer. EM Edited April 4 by amused Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted April 14 Share Posted April 14 Unless otherwise stated, all characters, corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. Content is partially AI generated and consist of hints on heinous crimes, kindly read at one’s discretion. 2025年 04月 14号 星期一 清明时节雨纷纷 It's the 14th of April. Two weeks have bled into each other since the world fractured. Two weeks since the news, stark and brutal, flashed across my phone. Even now, the words carry a chilling weight, a phantom echo of the terror that seized me. April 1st. It's a date forever tainted. Once a day for harmless pranks, now a stark reminder of unimaginable loss. First, last year, the mass shooting… my paternal extended family… gone in an instant. And now, this.... Chris and Den, the train line, their daily commute. The silence from their end has been a deafening, agonizing scream. The ensuing days were a blur of horrific updates. "Mass casualty event" became a chillingly familiar phrase, a sterile description of shattered lives. Hundreds feared dead. The slow, painstaking process of identification, the grim mention of DNA… each detail was a fresh wound. My phone became a useless appendage, the call logs a testament to my frantic desperation. Chris… Den… unanswered, always unanswered. It dredged up the raw, visceral pain of last April 1st, the helplessness a suffocating blanket. The guilt, a constant companion these past two weeks, gnawed relentlessly. My closest friends, yet, staring at the silent screen, the chasm of my ignorance yawned wide. Addresses? Emergency contacts? Even their full name. Basic, crucial information that remained elusive.... again, its inherent privacy afterall, something I respected, now felt like an insurmountable wall. Their social media profiles offered no solace, frozen in time, silent witnesses to a life that might have been brutally cut short. The looming exams felt like a cruel absurdity. How could I possibly focus on theorems and essays when the world felt so precariously balanced on the edge of a knife? Dad’s familiar retreat, his way of coping with the unbearable, felt like a dark whisper, a tempting escape that I ultimately resisted. I had to stay, had to know, had to hope against the rising tide of despair. The silence from Chris and Den has been a heavy, suffocating presence. Days bled into nights, marked only by the hollow ring of unanswered calls and the increasingly grim pronouncing the news. The authority explained that casualties name will not be published as each name can be a hammer blow.... a life extinguished.... a family irrevocably broken, who needs that space and privacy to cope with their loss. Today is considered the final day of 清明. The familiar routines – the offerings, the incense smoke curling upwards, the murmured prayers – felt hollowed out, overshadowed by the agonizing uncertainty. The fragility of life, always present on this day of remembrance, felt brutally amplified. It was a stark reminder that loss can strike without warning, leaving behind a void that no amount of ritual can truly fill. But I chose to went on a intermittent fasting in memory of Ah Gong, Ah Ma, Auntie Bee and Cousin, a constant reminder that what the money and assets now, I shall not take them for granted. The fresh horror of the bombing cast a long, dark shadow over the traditional rituals. Were Chris and Den now among the newly departed, their names soon to be added to the collective sorrow? The thought was a chilling echo of the nightmare I’d lived through just a year prior. Two weeks. It’s been two weeks of clinging to fragile threads of hope, of bracing for the inevitable. Two weeks of wrestling with guilt and helplessness. Two weeks of a world irrevocably scarred. And still, the silence surrounding Chris and Den is deafening. The wait continues, a heavy, suffocating weight in my chest. Two weeks.... the fresh grief of that April 1st, feel like they happened just yesterday, a chilling unfolding horror. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted May 1 Share Posted May 1 **Unless otherwise stated, all characters, corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. ** Content consist issues on heinous crime and is Meta-AI generated as well, with minimum editing done. 01 May 2070, Thurs, 三月廿一 庚寅年 【虎年】 庚辰月 丙寅日 晴朗 迷迷糊糊地 The fan whirs softly in the corner, a gentle counterpoint to the ragged rhythm of my own breathing. 95 years. It feels like a lifetime and a blink all at once. My fingers, gnarled and weak, trace the worn edges of this old journal. Funny, isn’t it? How ink on paper can outlast the body that wielded the pen. My thoughts, these last few days, keep circling back to 2025. 45 years ago, the first wave hit. 13 men in 2011. I remember the initial confusion, the separate incidents that slowly, chillingly, began to connect. And then, 13 years later, in 2024, just a year before the election fever truly gripped the nation, it happened again. Another 13 gone, the echoes of the first wave too loud to ignore. The air in 2025 was thick with the scent of rain and the undercurrent of an approaching election. A nervous energy clung to the city, every word and deed weighed for its political impact. The whispers about the second set of deaths were starting to bubble up, causing unease. And then the directive came from above. I can still see Director's face, his expression a mask of calm authority. “Vincent,” he’d said, his voice soothing yet firm, “we need stability. The nation needs reassurance. This… these unfortunate incidents… we need to handle them delicately. Avoid causing unnecessary alarm.” Alarm? 26 dead men, with unsettling similarities in their passing, weren’t alarming? Then came Prime Minister, his words carrying the weight of his office. “大局为重, Vincent.” The bigger picture. That phrase echoed in my mind like a death knell for justice. He spoke of the delicate dance of public trust, how fear and uncertainty right before an election could destabilize everything. Winning, maintaining control – that was the paramount concern. The lives of those 26, the gaping holes they left in their families, they became inconvenient truths in the grand political narrative. The injustice of it clawed at me. I was a policeman. My oath was to the law, to the truth, to those who couldn’t speak for themselves. But I was being told that votes were worth more than answers, that political expediency trumped human lives. The conflict was a constant, bitter taste in my mouth. Sleep offered no escape, the faces of the dead haunted my waking hours. I wrestled with the idea of going public, of shouting the truth from the rooftops, consequences be damned. But the fear, that insidious whisper of what I could lose, held me back. My career, my reputation… and would it even matter? Would it just create chaos, bury the truth deeper under layers of panic and speculation? So, I did what I was told. I continued the investigation, but the fire in my belly had been doused. The leads dried up, the whispers faded, and the case joined the growing list of unsolved mysteries. The election passed, the incumbents celebrated their victory, and the 26 became a ghost story the city quietly tried to forget. And now… now, as my own end draws near, a chilling realization washes over me. The cycle… it continued. 13 years after 2024 would be 2037. I recall the hushed tones, the brief mentions in internal reports of another 13 men passing in ways that echoed the past. And then, 13 years after that, in 2050. Another 13. That makes 52 souls now. 52 lives deemed less important than the smooth functioning of the political machine. The weight of it is crushing. All those years of silence, all those compromises. And for what? For the “greater good”? 52 men, their lives extinguished in a pattern that screams for answers, and yet… silence. A deafening, complicit silence. A bitter question rises in my fading mind: were their sacrifices truly for the greater good? Or were they just casualties in a relentless pursuit of power? Did those in authority genuinely believe that burying the truth served the nation, or did it simply serve their own ambitions? The dragon boats of my youth are long gone, replaced by a future I barely recognize. And the mystery of the 52… no, wait. 2011, 2024, 2037, 2050… that’s 52. And then, 13 years after 2050 would be 2063. So, another 13 then. That makes 65 men. 65 lives potentially sacrificed at the altar of political expediency. May their lives not have been in vain. May the truth, one day, finally emerge from the shadows, even if I am not here to witness it. Hey! Think I am prepared to join you. This place on earth is unable to accept and accommodate our union, wonder will I encounter you once more, if there's a next life, which I finally think there won't be one, sadly. Haha confusing, isn't it? "这世界有那么一个人，活在我飞扬的青春... Wait! What's the next line....? A profound weariness settles over me, a quiet surrender. The weight on my chest seems to lift ever so slightly with that final thought. The dim light filtering through the window catches the dust motes dancing in the still air. Hey so and so..... my eyelids feel heavy, so very heavy. "With a soft sigh, a final exhalation that carries the last vestiges of a life lived and a truth left unspoken, Vincent closes his eyes. The pen rests, still clutched loosely in his hand, against the worn paper of his journal. The whirring of the fan is the only sound in the room." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted May 19 Share Posted May 19 Unless otherwise stated, all characters, corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. Content is partially AI generated and consist of hints on heinous crimes, kindly read at one’s discretion. 2025年 05月 19号 星期一 无语 The digital ping on my phone, arriving with the stark, impersonal efficiency of technology precisely forty-nine days after the train bombing ripped through the fragile tapestry of our lives, felt less like a notification and more like a final, echoing silence where the vibrant cadence of Chris’s dry wit and Den’s infectious laughter used to reside. Forty-nine days. A number steeped in the ancient rituals of transition, a marker of a soul’s supposed journey, and now, a stark and brutal reminder of the irreversible absence of Chris and Den. They weren’t just friends; they were a couple of years ahead of me on this often-treacherous path, peers who had navigated some of the thorny terrain of identity and belonging with a grace and resilience I often envied. They offered a glimpse of a future, a sense that building a life, truly and authentically, was possible, even within the confines of a world that didn’t always seem designed to accommodate us. As I stared at the sterile confirmation of their deaths, the clinical language stripping away the warmth and vibrancy of two extraordinary lives, a profound stillness settled within me, a quiet, aching space where their lingering wishes began to take root, intertwined and resonant, guiding me through the bewildering landscape of grief and a world that had never quite felt like it was built for us. Chris, ever the pragmatist, his sharp intellect honed by years of navigating the often-hypocritical currents of society, his wisdom seasoned with a healthy dose of cynicism, had often offered his counsel. It wasn't a lecture delivered from a superior vantage point, but the hard-won insights of someone who had seen more, experienced more of the subtle and overt ways the world could wound. I remembered his quiet frustration, the almost imperceptible clench of his jaw, as he recounted the story of a dedicated colleague at the center where he volunteered, a kind and effective youth worker whose passion for his work was undeniable. His contract hadn’t been renewed, the official explanation a vague “restructuring,” but the whispers that circulated spoke of concerned parents, hushed phone calls, and an unspoken discomfort with his “lifestyle.” Chris had shaken his head that day, a familiar weariness clouding his usually bright eyes. “They don’t come right out and say it, do they? It’s always couched in these sterile, corporate terms. ‘Not the right fit.’ ‘Differing strategic visions.’ But we know, don’t we, what they really mean?” His caution, now echoing with a painful clarity in the hollow chambers of my memory, wasn't born of self-loathing or a desire to hide; it was a pragmatic understanding of the very real professional and personal risks that lingered beneath the veneer of tolerance, a deep-seated desire to spare me similar heartache. His lingering wish, I felt it like a steady, grounding hand on my shoulder, was for me to be smart, to choose my battles wisely, to build a life fortified by inner strength and discerning trust. Then there was Den, his spirit a luminous counterpoint to Chris’s grounded realism. He possessed an almost uncanny ability to find beauty in the mundane, to unearth moments of joy even amidst the often-dreary landscape of societal prejudice. He’d always championed the power of connection, the vital importance of finding one’s tribe. “Our people are out there, you know?” he’d often say, his voice imbued with an unwavering optimism, a hopeful glint dancing in his eyes. “The ones who get it, who see past the labels and the noise. We just have to find each other.” His enduring hope, now a comforting presence in the quiet spaces of my thoughts, was for me to cultivate those authentic connections, to build a life brimming with genuine laughter and shared understanding. He’d want me to embrace my passions, to let my spirit soar in the company of those who celebrated its unique melody, not just politely tolerated its existence. His wish was for a life lived openly, yes, but also with a gentle wisdom, a recognition that sometimes, the most vibrant blooms unfold in the sheltered corners. The news that they were both on that train… it felt like a particularly cruel and senseless blow to our small, carefully constructed chosen family. Chris, with his pragmatic guidance and unwavering loyalty, and Den, with his infectious optimism and boundless empathy – they were more than just friends; they were anchors in a world that often felt adrift, points of reference in a moral landscape that frequently seemed disorienting. The coincidence of their deaths, two individuals who had each, in their own unique way, illuminated my path, their journeys ending on the same mangled stretch of railway line, underscored the indiscriminate and brutal nature of tragedy. It highlighted the shared vulnerability that bound us, a stark reminder that even those who seemed to possess a certain resilience, a hard-won understanding of the world’s complexities, weren’t immune to its sudden and devastating violence. Their absence wasn’t merely the loss of two dear friends; it was the tearing away of a part of my own future, the silencing of voices that had offered guidance, support, and unwavering belief. The void they left echoed with unsaid conversations, with shared jokes that would now remain untold, with a future that suddenly felt less certain, the path ahead shrouded in a heavier shade of gray. Their lingering wishes, Chris’s pragmatic caution and Den’s enduring hope, now became my compass, the dual points guiding me through the bewildering terrain of grief and the uncertain path that stretched before me. I would carry their memories, their wisdom, and their unwavering belief in the possibility of a brighter, more accepting future within me, striving to live a life that honored their friendship, their spirit, and the enduring power of their love. The weight of their absence was immense, but so too was the legacy of their kindness and resilience, a legacy I now had the responsibility to carry forward. The forty-nine days since the bombing had been a blur of disbelief and a gnawing, persistent ache. Sleep offered little respite, my dreams often replaying fractured images, the mundane normalcy of their lives juxtaposed with the horrific finality of their deaths. The silence from their phones, the unanswered messages, had been a slow, agonizing drip of dread, each passing day solidifying the unbearable truth. The official pronouncements, the sterile language of “mass casualty event” and “identification process,” felt grotesquely inadequate to describe the shattering of two vibrant lives. And now, this digital confirmation, arriving with such cold precision, felt like the final severing, the definitive closing of a chapter I desperately wished could remain open. The coincidence of them being on that same train continued to haunt me. They had their own separate routines, their own circles of friends beyond me, their own individual lives. Yet, on that particular morning, their paths had converged on that ill-fated journey. It spoke to the sheer randomness of the tragedy, the way in which ordinary moments could be so violently and irrevocably shattered. Had they seen each other? Had they exchanged a brief greeting, unaware of the catastrophe that was moments away? The thought was both a fleeting comfort – a sense that they weren’t entirely alone in their final moments – and a fresh wave of agonizing what-ifs. It underscored the fragility of life, the way in which disparate threads could be so suddenly and tragically intertwined. Their shared presence on that train now felt like a symbol of the interconnectedness of our lives, and the devastating ripple effect of such a senseless act. As the forty-ninth day drew to a close, the weight of their absence felt almost palpable. The traditions associated with this day, the sense of a final farewell, felt heavy and inadequate. How could I truly say goodbye when their voices still echoed so vividly in my memory, their wishes still resonated so deeply within my soul? I knew, though, that I had to carry their hopes and their cautions forward, to allow their love and their wisdom to guide me through the uncertain terrain ahead. Chris’s pragmatic voice would be a constant reminder to be discerning, to protect myself in a world that wasn’t always kind. Den’s unwavering optimism would urge me to seek out joy, to build connections, to never lose faith in the possibility of a more accepting future. Their legacy wasn’t just the profound grief of their loss, but a testament to the strength of their characters, their resilience in the face of adversity, and their enduring belief in the power of love and friendship. And I would live, for them, with a heart both guarded and open, striving to honor their memory by living a life as fully and authentically as possible, navigating the shadows with the light of their love as my guide. EM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted May 30 Share Posted May 30 (edited) ** Unless otherwise stated, all characters,corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. Content was primarily AI generated. 1941/05/30 Friday 2300hrs This morning, a prison officer, his face grim, handed me a sealed envelope. It was from him. The young man. He must have written it shortly before. My hands trembled slightly as I broke the seal. The paper was thin, the characters a little shaky, but legible. "To the kind Sir, I am writing this because I must. There is not much time left. Thank you, Sir. You helped me so I didn't get hanged. That was a big gift. It gave me a few more years, even here in this dark place. Time to think. But the quiet I need, I cannot find it in this world. My past, all the bad things I did, the way I lived – it's too heavy for me to carry anymore. Today is Duanwu, I think. The day Qu Yuan drowned himself. I know I am not like him, a great man for his country. My life has been small and dirty. But maybe, just maybe, the feeling is the same. That deep sorrow, when the world is not as it should be, and there is no way out. He was sent away from his home, from the king he served. He felt discarded, betrayed, his purpose lost in a world that had turned ugly. I know that feeling, Sir. This prison, it is like my own exile. Sent away, locked up, watching the world outside go on without me, but it's not the world I wished for anyway. That feeling of being cut off, of not belonging, of being punished for something that feels like part of you – that, I believe, we share. I heard people whisper about Qu Yuan, too. Not just about his loyalty to the king, but how he might have loved the king more than a minister should. A different kind of love, maybe, one that people don't speak about much. If that's true, then maybe he also knew what it felt like to have affections that were wrong in the eyes of others, adding to his burden. To be cast out, not just from court, but perhaps from understanding, from acceptance, because of who he truly was. That feeling of being driven away from what you cared for, and for reasons you might not even be able to fully speak – that is the exile I know. His sadness, and his choice, feel closer to my own because of it. This is goodbye. I hope you live well and find what is right. For me, my path ends now. Thank you, Sir, for being kind. Thank you for seeing me, not just the bad." The letter ended there, without a name, but the identity was unmistakable. A final, desperate testament to a life consumed by forces beyond his control. His journey, marked by societal constraints, the harsh strictures of the law, and that terrifying night, converged into this desolate end. I can only hope that, wherever he is now, he has found a peace that eluded him in this harsh world. Indeed its Duanwu Festival today and with it, another life has tragically concluded. He was a young man, desperate for a life better than the one he'd left behind. Now a shadow swallowed by the grim walls of the prison. His community, arriving later to these shores, faced a distinct struggle for foothold. The prime territories in commerce and trade were long claimed by others, leaving them to forge a path in less conventional avenues. Many found their way into service, cultivating a reputation for their dedication and adaptability, often within the very households and establishments frequented by the affluent and influential. It was a means of survival, a way to carve out a niche in a competitive landscape, allowing remittances to flow back to distant, impoverished shores. This path, while providing sustenance for many, also placed some in unique, often vulnerable, proximity to those who wielded power and wealth. His challenge was further compounded by a pervasive shadow, cast by the legal framework of the time. In 1938, a particularly insidious amendment arrived in our statutes, known as Section 377A of the Penal Code. While older laws already condemned acts deemed "unnatural," 377A specifically targeted and criminalized "any act of gross indecency with another male person." It was an imported piece of legislation, mirroring similar laws in the British Empire, and it sought to impose a rigid moral code that had little regard for the complexities of human existence or the lived realities of many in this diverse colonial society. This meant that for individuals like him, simply existing could be an act of criminality. The very nature of his work, born out of economic desperation, was now explicitly outlawed. It pushed such liaisons further into the clandestine, increasing the risk of blackmail, exploitation, and, ultimately, arrest. The law didn't just condemn; it trapped. It added a layer of profound fear and shame to an already difficult life, making any hope of seeking help or escaping his circumstances almost impossible. The details of that fateful night in 1936 were deliberately obscured during the trial, for reasons of public decency and the court's decorum. However, in the hushed confines of the chambers, reviewing the full depositions, a clearer, far more disturbing picture emerged. The deceased, a merchant, was a man known in certain circles for his particular proclivities. He sought out young men like the accused, not merely for carnal acts, but for experiences that involved a greater exercise of control, of dominance, and often a fascination with restraints and discomfort. On that night, after a typical arrangement for his services, the merchant had escalated his demands. He had not merely requested; he had insisted, with an increasingly aggressive and menacing tone, that the 25-year-old engage in acts that went beyond their usual transactions – involving being tied, subjected to physical discomfort, and a complete surrender of his will. The young man, already terrified and trapped by his circumstances, found himself in a terrifying predicament. He recounted, through a trembling interpreter, how the merchant had become increasingly forceful, ignoring his pleas and visible distress. There was a struggle, a desperate attempt to resist the escalating demands and the escalating fear for his own safety. He was being physically overpowered, his protests unheeded, his pleas ignored. It was in this moment of extreme duress, fearing for his physical integrity and perhaps even his life, that he reacted. He seized upon an object—a heavy, ornate paperweight, the court determined—and in a desperate, panicked act of self-preservation, struck out. He struck the merchant repeatedly, not with malice aforethought, but in a desperate, instinctual surge to escape the terrifying ordeal. The merchant fell, and did not rise again. The initial charge was murder, of course. But the evidence, particularly the marks on the man wrists and the disarray of the room, suggested a struggle, and my own inquiries, discreet as they had to be, painted a picture of a young man cornered and terrified. This led to the reduction of the charge to culpable homicide not amounting to murder—a recognition, however tacit, that his actions were born not of murderous intent, but of a desperate, perhaps even justifiable, reaction to being forced into an unbearable situation. There was one more detail, a fact that added another layer of tragedy to his story. It seems that during his trial, back in 1936, while he was fighting for his life, his partner had given birth to twins. Two children, born into a world where their father was already incarcerated, their lives forever marked by his actions. The address was found among his meager possessions, a scrap of paper with a street name I recognized. I find myself compelled to visit them. To see the faces of those children, to perhaps offer some small measure of comfort, to explain, as best I can, the circumstances of their father's life and death. It feels like the only honorable course, a way to acknowledge the human cost of a system that often grinds individuals into dust. It is a burden, certainly, but one I feel I must bear. Perhaps, in some small way, it will bring a measure of peace, not just to them, but to myself as well. Helplines Mental well-being • Institute of Mental Health’s Mental Health Helpline: 6389-2222 (24 hours) • Samaritans of Singapore: 1800-221-4444 (24 hours) /1-767 (24 hours) • Singapore Association for Mental Health: 1800-283-7019 • Silver Ribbon Singapore: 6386-1928 • Tinkle Friend: 1800-274-4788 • Chat, Centre of Excellence for Youth Mental Health: 6493-6500/1 • Women’s Helpline (Aware): 1800-777-5555 (weekdays, 10am to 6pm) • Aware’s Sexual Assault Care Centre: 6779-0282 (weekdays, 10am to 6pm) • National Anti-Violence and Sexual Harassment Helpline: 1800-777-0000 Counselling • TOUCHline (Counselling): 1800-377-2252 • TOUCH Care Line (for seniors, caregivers): 6804-6555 • Care Corner Counselling Centre: 6353-1180 • Counselling and Care Centre: 6536-6366 Online resources • eC2.sg • www.tinklefriend.sg • www.chat.mentalhealth.sg • carey.carecorner.org.sg (for those aged 13 to 25) • limitless.sg/talk (for those aged 12 to 25) For International helplines, kindly refer to Befrienders Worldwide. 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amused Posted May 31 Share Posted May 31 Unless otherwise stated, all characters, corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. Content is partially AI generated and consist of hints on suicide. 2025年 05月 31号 星期六 。。。 Today is Duan Wu, the Dragon Boat Festival. The air in ths little green dot is thick with the scent of bak chang – glutinous rice dumplings, meticulously wrapped and steamed, a familiar comfort that tastes utterly foreign on my tongue. I’m sitting here, watching the fleeting shadows cast by the passing clouds, feeling a darkness within me that no amount of sunlight seems to penetrate. The calendar says it’s a celebration, a day of remembrance for Qu Yuan, the ancient Chinese poet who drowned himself in the Miluo River. They say he was a loyal minister, unjustly exiled, heartbroken by the corruption and decline of his state. But there are other whispers, too, of a deeper, more personal despair – rumors of his profound affection for King Huai, a devotion perhaps not purely political. Whether it was loyalty or something more tender, a love unacknowledged or unreturned, it fueled his anguish. He chose his end, a defiant act against a world that had betrayed him, both politically and, perhaps, personally. And today, I feel an unsettling kinship with that long-dead poet. The thought of the river, or perhaps the murky depths of the river strait I am at, has been a persistent hum in my mind ever since the app confirmed Chris and Den were truly gone. Forty-nine days since the bombing, since that final, sterile ping on my phone. They were my anchors, my slightly older peers who had navigated this complex world a few steps ahead of me. Chris, with his sharp, pragmatic wisdom, shaped by the quiet injustices he'd faced and seen – the "corporate sinning" that dismissed good people for merely existing. Den, with his boundless, radiant hope, always reminding me to seek out my tribe, to find joy even in the shadows. Now, their voices are echoes, their presences a painful phantom limb. And before them, last year, the mass shooting. Ah Gong, Ah Ma, Auntie Bee and cousin gone in the shoot out. It was a wound that never truly healed, a deep, festering ache beneath the surface of my everyday life. Just when I thought I was learning to breathe again, to find a semblance of normalcy, this new horror ripped through me. Two waves of unfathomable loss, crashing one after another, leaving me stranded, gasping for air. The parallels with Qu Yuan are chillingly vivid. He, too, felt his world crumbling, his ideals betrayed, his contributions seemingly in vain. And if those whispers are true, if his heart also yearned for a love that society or circumstance denied, then his despair becomes even more relatable. The utter hopelessness that drives a person to such a definitive act – I understand it now with a terrifying clarity. My own mind, fractured by the relentless storms of bipolar disorder, amplifies every tremor of grief into an earthquake. The lows are crushing, suffocating, painting the world in shades of despair that feel insurmountable. The highs, when they come, are fleeting, often followed by an even deeper crash, leaving me exhausted and exposed. The diagnosis, the medication, the therapy – they are supposed to be my life raft, but sometimes, even the raft feels like it’s sinking. The stigma of being gay in this society, combined with the weight of my mental health diagnosis, is a relentless, insidious pressure. Chris had warned me, hadn't he? Not to come out too easily, not to expect forgiveness from those who claimed to help. I sense their smiles, their platitudes, but also the subtle shifts, the guarded looks, the unspoken judgments. It’s a constant performance, a carefully constructed façade to avoid the quiet dismissal, the polite distancing that can be just as soul-crushing as outright hatred. I often feel like an anomaly, an inconvenient truth in a meticulously ordered society. This constant vigilance, this internal censor, drains me. It leaves me weary to my bones. Qu Yuan found his solace in poetry, in lamenting the state he loved. My own "state" feels corrupted, not by political intrigue, but by a pervasive undercurrent of judgment and exclusion. And that hidden, unacknowledged affection rumored of Qu Yuan, resonates deeply with my own closeted existence, the layers I must keep hidden, the true self I rarely show. I look at my reflection and see a person who is struggling, a person who is tired of fighting, tired of proving, tired of existing under a veil. The allure of just… ceasing… is powerful. To make the pain stop. To end the relentless cycle of loss and grief and the struggle to simply be. I find myself echoing an old sentiment, though the words feel too simple for the complexity of my sorrow: 心如止水无波澜， 只影独酌泪阑干。 故人音信断， 此生何处安？ My heart is like still water, without a ripple, A solitary shadow, drinking tears by the railing. The news of old friends has ceased, Where in this life can I find peace? I think of the ancestors, not just Qu Yuan. I think of my own family who perished in the war, who endured unimaginable hardships, natural disasters, famines, the very fabric of their lives torn apart. Did they, too, stand at the precipice of despair? Did they question why they should go on when everything they knew was destroyed? What gave them the strength to find a reason to live, to rebuild, to simply breathe another day? Was it the memory of loved ones? A stubborn refusal to let the darkness win? A faint flicker of hope for a future they might never see? The human spirit’s capacity for resilience is immense, I know. But how do you tap into it when your own spirit feels broken? How do you find a reason to live on when the people who provided so many of those reasons are gone? I am gay, struggling with bipolar disorder, a series of losses that feel like biblical plagues. I am not a minister of a lost state, but a lost soul in a state that demands conformity. This Duan Wu, I am not celebrating. I am wrestling. Wrestling with the "ghost of Qu Yuan" and his rumored unrequited devotion, wrestling with the overwhelming grief for Chris and Den, wrestling with the relentless grip of my own mind. A reason to face tomorrow, to perhaps find a quiet corner where my own flowers can bloom, even if they are still shielded from the harsh gaze of the world. It’s a desperate search, but as long as I’m searching, perhaps there’s still a flicker of that enduring hope Den always spoke of. Perhaps. EM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted June 1 Share Posted June 1 01 Jun 2025, Sun, Super hot day Hey.... its been awhile Cloud Diary, today marks the beginning of another ET's monumental battle: conquering alcohol. Having successfully weaned himself off psychotropics and nicotine, ET understands the formidable challenge that lies ahead. This isn't just about giving up a habit; it's about reclaiming his life. ET anticipates intense cravings, overwhelming anxiety, and restless nights. The shadows of depression and even suicidal thoughts might try to creep in. He knows from past experiences that these are potential withdrawal symptoms, and it's crucial to acknowledge them. Should these dark thoughts emerge, his immediate priority will be to reach out for professional help. ET approach will be gradual reduction, not a sudden, drastic cut-off. He is committed to finding new ways to unwind and fill the void alcohol once occupied. This means reigniting old passions like brisk walking and finally diving back into that book he started months ago. These activities will serve as healthy distractions and help him rediscover joy in sobriety. This journey isn't about self-punishment; it's about liberation. It's about building a life that's truly worth living, free from the shackles of any substance. This is the final, crucial step in becoming the person ET meant to be and his resolve is stronger than ever. ET sets a timeline for himself, 31 days, till 02 Jul 2025, a date that is the half way mark for 2025. Wish him all the very best. ET 01.06.2025 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted June 2 Share Posted June 2 Disclaimer: This content is for general information only and not medical advice. Weaning off substances can be dangerous. Always consult a healthcare professional for safe, personalized guidance and to manage potentially severe withdrawal symptoms, including suicidal thoughts. Your health and safety are paramount. 02 Jun 2025, Mon, Another Super hot day 30 days to "alcohol freedom" *AI generated content Neuroplasticity is the brain's amazing ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections throughout life. It means your brain isn't fixed; it can adapt and change based on experiences. This directly supports willpower because every time you choose to resist a craving or establish a new, healthy habit, you're literally strengthening new neural pathways and weakening old, undesirable ones. This rewiring makes positive choices easier over time, building your capacity for self-control. The Stages of Change model (Transtheheoretical Model) describes the journey of intentional behavior change. Neuroplasticity explains how the brain facilitates or hinders movement between these stages, and importantly, how it allows for recovery even after setbacks. * Precontemplation (Not Ready): * Behavior: The person does not see their alcohol use as a problem; no intention to change in the foreseeable future. * Neuroplasticity's Role: At this stage, the brain's "addiction pathways" (reward, craving, habit loops) are highly dominant and deeply entrenched through neuroplastic changes. The brain is efficiently wired to prioritize alcohol, and there's little, if any, new wiring for alternative coping mechanisms or self-reflection regarding alcohol. The brain's current structure reinforces the status quo. * Contemplation (Getting Ready): * Behavior: The person begins to acknowledge their alcohol use as a problem and considers changing, but feels ambivalent. They weigh pros and cons. * Neuroplasticity's Role: Here, initial, subtle neuroplastic changes might begin. The brain starts to flex beyond its rigid addiction pathways. When the person thinks about the negative consequences of drinking, or considers the benefits of sobriety, they are starting to activate and strengthen new neural connections related to self-awareness, future planning, and cognitive evaluation. These are nascent attempts at "rewiring" that challenge the established drinking patterns, even if they don't yet lead to action. * Preparation (Ready to Act): * Behavior: The person intends to take action soon (e.g., within the next month) and has taken some small steps towards change (e.g., reducing intake slightly, researching methods). * Neuroplasticity's Role: This stage involves more deliberate and tangible neuroplastic changes. As the person researches, plans, and takes small steps (like cutting back or removing alcohol from the home), they are actively engaging the prefrontal cortex and other brain regions involved in planning and self-regulation. Each small, intentional action begins to strengthen these new "sober decision-making" pathways and subtly weaken the old "drinking habit" pathways. The brain is literally preparing itself for a new way of functioning. * Action (Making Changes): * Behavior: The person actively modifies their alcohol use behavior (e.g., stopping or significantly reducing) and lifestyle to overcome their problem. This is where the journal entries about "starting today" fall. * Neuroplasticity's Role: This is the most intense period of neuroplastic reorganization. Every time the person resists a craving, chooses a sober activity, practices a new coping skill (like exercise or mindfulness), or implements a distraction technique, they are actively strengthening new neural circuits for sobriety and actively weaking the old addiction pathways. The brain is literally "rewiring" itself. The more consistently these new behaviors are practiced, the more robust and efficient the new neural connections become, making sober living progressively easier and more automatic. Withdrawal symptoms are the brain's old, disrupted state trying to reassert itself, but successful action means new pathways are overpowering the old. * Maintenance (Staying Sober): * Behavior: The person has sustained sobriety for a significant period (e.g., 6 months or more) and works to prevent relapse. * Neuroplasticity's Role: The newly established sober pathways are now well-entrenched and the primary way the brain functions. The brain has largely healed from the damage of chronic alcohol use, and its reward systems are beginning to find balance. Neuroplasticity here is about continually reinforcing these healthy pathways and building resilience. Learning new stress-coping mechanisms and integrating sober routines further consolidates these changes, making relapse less likely as the brain has effectively "reprogrammed" itself. * Relapse (Experiencing a Setback): * Behavior: The person returns to old drinking patterns after a period of abstinence. This is a common part of the change process, not a sign of failure. * Neuroplasticity's Role: This demonstrates the brain's continued neuroplasticity, even for old habits. While new sober pathways have been built, the old, dormant addiction pathways haven't been entirely erased; they can be quickly re-activated and strengthened if drinking resumes. The brain "remembers" the old reward patterns. However, critically, the person has already built some sober pathways during the Action/Maintenance phases. Neuroplasticity also means they can re-engage in the change process, reactivating those newer, healthier pathways. The previous work isn't entirely lost, and the brain can be re-wired for sobriety again. This is why relapse isn't a dead end, but an opportunity to learn and strengthen resolve. Relapse Management (A Neuroplasticity Perspective) Effective relapse management, especially for someone navigating it alone, relies heavily on understanding and leveraging neuroplasticity: * Learning from the Slip (Strengthening Awareness Pathways): A relapse isn't a failure, but data. The person should analyze what led to it (triggers, emotional state, lack of coping strategy). This reflective process itself involves neuroplasticity, building stronger neural connections related to self-awareness and problem-solving, making them better equipped to recognize and avoid similar situations next time. * Rapid Re-engagement (Reactivating Sober Pathways): The crucial step is to quickly cease the relapse and immediately re-engage in sober behaviors. The sooner the person returns to their positive strategies (exercise, healthy eating, planned distractions), the sooner they start reactivating and reinforcing the newly formed "sober brain" pathways. This prevents the old addiction pathways from fully re-establishing dominance. * Shame vs. Self-Compassion (Reshaping Emotional Responses): Feeling immense shame often fuels further drinking. By practicing self-compassion and viewing the slip as a learning experience, the person can weaken neural pathways associated with self-criticism and strengthen those related to resilience and self-acceptance. This emotional regulation is a direct application of neuroplasticity. * Adjusting Strategies (Neuroplastic Adaptation): A relapse indicates a gap in existing strategies. The person can use this insight to neuroplastically adapt their approach—perhaps adding a new coping mechanism, strengthening a weak one, or developing a more robust emergency plan for high-risk situations. It's an opportunity for the brain to learn and refine its recovery program. * Focus on Small Victories (Reinforcing Positive Circuits): Even after a relapse, every hour or day of sobriety is a victory. Acknowledging these small wins helps reinforce the brain's reward system for sober behavior, encouraging the strengthening of new neural pathways. In summary, neuroplasticity provides the scientific foundation for why recovery from addiction is possible, why effort matters, and why even after a setback like relapse, the brain retains its incredible capacity to heal, learn, and ultimately re-wire itself for a sober and fulfilling life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted June 3 Share Posted June 3 Disclaimer: This content is for general information only and not medical advice. Weaning off substances abruptly can be dangerous. Always consult a healthcare professional for safe, personalized guidance and to manage potentially severe withdrawal symptoms, including suicidal thoughts. Your health and safety are paramount. 03 Jun 2025, Tues, Fair mostly cloudy 29 days to "alcohol freedom"? *AI generated content It's late here. ET just had some beer. The taste was familiar, a quick break from the pressure. ET's already tackled quitting psychotropics and nicotine, so this alcohol fight feels like the last big mountain. Tonight, ET stumbled. Instead of disappointment, what ET feels is a blunt realization of how strong alcohol's pull still is. This wasn't ET failing; it was just proof of how deep this habit runs, how powerful those old triggers are. It hit hard, a clear reminder that this isn't just about trying hard; it's about old brain patterns that can suddenly pop up. There was a brief moment of calm, a pause from always being on guard. But that quickly turned into a sharper understanding of the battle ahead. This slip was tough, but it's a useful lesson. It showed ET exactly where the weaknesses lie. ET's brain can still change. It's called neuroplasticity. Think of it like this: the brain is a bunch of roads. When ET does something a lot (like drinking), those roads get really wide and easy to use. When he stops, and does new things (like going for a run or reading), ET starts building new, different roads. The old roads get less used and harder to travel. This slip means one of those old, wide roads briefly got used again. But it doesn't mean the new roads he has been building are gone. ET just needs to get back on them. This stumble doesn't undo the progress ET's made with other things, or all the sober days he had. ET feels frustrated, a bit tired from the mental effort, but also a strong sense of "not done yet." This isn't over. It was a step back, and now he is ready to move forward again, maybe even wiser this time (no sugar coating). As ET tries to change old habits like drinking, he also thinks about who he is. ET's brain can learn new things and build new paths for habits. But important parts of who one is, like sexual orientation, are different. Scientists say that's a very deep part of a person's identity, not something you choose or can "re-train" your brain to change. This helps ET understand that some parts of us are just fundamentally "us." All these are part and parcel of a weaning process isn't it, Diary? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted June 11 Share Posted June 11 Disclaimer: Please remember that ET is sharing his personal journey and experiences, not offering medical advice. ET's insights are based on his own process of quitting alcohol and nicotine. If you're struggling with addiction or experiencing severe withdrawal symptoms, it's crucial to seek professional medical help. Self-detoxing can be dangerous. Always consult a healthcare professional for personalized advice and support. 11 Jun 2025, Wed, Fair mostly cloudy, 21 days to "alcohol freedom"? *AI generated content, ET stays amuse "You're now one week sober as of today, Wednesday, June 11th. This is a massive accomplishment, especially since you've also successfully quit nicotine on your own! You've navigated the toughest physical withdrawal phase, which shows incredible resilience. Your Current Health & What to Expect First, let's touch on your cold symptoms (cough, runny nose, light yellow phlegm). These are not typical alcohol withdrawal symptoms and are likely a common cold or other respiratory infection. Your body is doing a lot of healing right now from stopping alcohol, so getting proper rest and hydration for this cold is crucial. If your cold symptoms aren't improving or if you develop a fever, shortness of breath, or chest pain, it's always best to see a doctor. Regarding alcohol sobriety, most acute physical symptoms should be gone. However, you might still experience: * Lingering Physical Effects: Things like general fatigue, occasional headaches, and disrupted sleep patterns can persist as your body continues to rebalance. * Psychological Adjustments: This is where the ongoing work of recovery often becomes more noticeable. You might find yourself dealing with: * Mood fluctuations: Feeling irritable, anxious, or experiencing periods of low mood. This is your brain adjusting to functioning without alcohol. * Cravings: These can still arise unexpectedly, especially when you encounter any personal triggers or feel stressed. * "Anhedonia": A temporary feeling of decreased pleasure from activities you once enjoyed. This is a normal part of the brain's recovery process. Action-Oriented Steps for Continued Recovery Since we're diving straight into action, let's focus on practical steps you can implement starting now to maintain your sobriety and build a stronger, healthier life. Remember, you're in the recovery phase – an ongoing journey of proactive management. 1. Daily Self-Check-Ins Make it a habit to tune into your body and mind each day. * Physical Scan: Notice how your body feels. Are you tired? Tense? Hydrated? Addressing these basic physical needs can prevent discomfort from escalating. * Emotional Check: Take a moment to identify your emotions. Are you feeling stressed, calm, frustrated, or happy? Just acknowledging what you're feeling can help you process it without turning to old coping mechanisms. * Needs Assessment: Based on your check-in, ask yourself, "What do I actually need right now?" Maybe it's a short walk, a healthy snack, or just 10 minutes of quiet time. 2. Reinforce Your "Why" Daily You stopped drinking for specific reasons. Keep those reasons at the forefront of your mind. * Personalized List: Think about your unique benefits of being sober. Is it clearer thinking, more energy, better sleep, improved finances, stronger relationships, or a sense of personal accomplishment? * Visualize Success: Spend a few minutes each day imagining yourself living fully and healthily without alcohol. See yourself thriving, achieving goals, and enjoying life on your own terms. 3. Master the "HALT" Check This simple acronym is a powerful tool to interrupt cravings and discomfort before they take hold. When you feel an urge to drink, or just feel off, ask yourself: * Am I Hungry? (Eat a balanced meal or healthy snack.) * Am I Angry? (Identify the source of anger and find a healthy way to release it, like exercise or journaling.) * Am I Lonely? (Connect with a supportive friend or family member, or engage in a positive social activity.) * Am I Tired? (Prioritize rest, take a nap if possible, or try to get to bed earlier.) Addressing one of these fundamental needs can often significantly reduce the intensity of cravings or negative feelings. 4. Build a "Sober Toolkit" of Activities Think of this as your personal arsenal of healthy alternatives to drinking. When an urge hits or you simply have free time that used to be filled with alcohol, pull something from your toolkit. * Immediate Distractions: Have ready-to-go activities you can jump into. This could be listening to a favorite podcast, playing a quick game on your phone, doing a short burst of chores, or stepping outside for fresh air. * Engaging Hobbies: Reconnect with old hobbies or explore new ones that genuinely interest you and cannot be done while drinking. This might be reading, learning a new skill, cooking, or any creative pursuit. * Physical Activity: Even light exercise like walking can be a great mood booster and stress reliever. You've made incredible progress in just one week. How do these action steps feel to you, and which one are you most ready to implement today?" 👏👏👏 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted June 30 Share Posted June 30 Disclaimer: This content is for general information only and not medical advice. Weaning off substances abruptly can be dangerous. Always consult a healthcare professional for safe, personalized guidance and to manage potentially severe withdrawal symptoms, including suicidal thoughts. Your health and safety are paramount. 30 June 2025 Monday still too hot for ET's liking Diary, It's been a rough few weeks for ET. He started this journey on June 1st, determined to conquer alcohol, and here he is on June 30th, feeling like he's back at square one. ET has returned to drinking at least ten times since then, each time feeling that familiar pang of disappointment. The cravings, the anxiety, the restless nights – they all came, just as he expected, and frankly, he didn't handle them as well as he'd hoped. ET tried to ease back into his old passions, to find joy in walking and reading. It felt like a comfort, a familiar escape, even though he knew deep down it was anything. Right now, marks a new beginning. ET isn't going to beat himself up for the setbacks. This isn't about perfection; it's about progress, even if it's messy. His resolve is still there, perhaps even stronger because he has seen firsthand how easily he can fall back into old habits. This time, ET is recommitting to the gradual reduction he planned. He is going to double down on those healthy distractions. He will walk even further. This isn't just about giving up drinking; it's about building a life where he doesn't need it. It’s about liberation, about becoming the person he is meant to be. The halfway mark of 2025, July 2nd, is just around the corner. His goal of 31 days clean isn't out of reach. Today is the day for a clean break. ET is determined to make this happen, one sober moment at a time. Despite the slips, ET has learned valuable lessons. He's realized that simply wanting to stop isn't enough; he needs to anticipate triggers and have a solid plan in place for when they hit. The idea of gradual reduction is still sound, but perhaps his approach was too loose. He's also noticed that certain times of day, particularly evenings, are when the cravings are strongest. This is when he used to unwind with a drink, and now that void feels amplified. He needs specific activities to fill those crucial hours. ET also remains firm in his conviction that he can navigate this journey on his own. He hasn't sought out any group support, nor does he plan to. For ET, sobriety is a deeply personal battle, one he believes must be fought and won internally. His past successes in overcoming psychotropics and nicotine were achieved through sheer individual willpower and self-discipline, and he sees no reason why conquering alcohol should be any different. ET trusts his own resolve and his ability to implement and stick to the strategies he's developing. He feels that relying on external support might dilute his personal sense of accomplishment and the profound self-reliance he's striving to cultivate. Thrive on, you can do it ET! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted July 3 Share Posted July 3 (edited) 03 Jul 2025 Thur still too hot for ET's liking 自然醒时。。。被这首歌环绕着。。。希望在有生之年能再观赏这部音乐剧。 Title : 请你告诉他 Composer : 梁文福 Lyricist : 梁文福 丽卿 身边人影 左右褪尽 所有声音 渐渐停息 天地之大 我的眼眸中只有他 在我纯真年华 他曾送给了我世上最美的花 请你请你告诉他 我永远爱他 就算大雨一直下 心中彩虹长挂 彩虹尽头有他 请你请你告诉他 我永远等他 沧海桑田都不怕 我愿付出代价 今生都留给他 英雄 身边人影 左右褪尽 所有声音 渐渐停息 天地之大 我的眼眸中只有她 在我仿徨时候 她的心就是我 世上最美的家 请你请你告诉她 我永远爱她 虽然大雨一直下 我有温暖胸膛 一生庇护着她 请你请你告诉他 我永远等她 沧海桑田都不怕 我愿付出代价 今生为她牵挂 明理 身边人影 左右褪尽 所有声音 渐渐停息 天地之大 我的眼眸中只有她 有没有人懂我 心中也有一朵 送不出去的花? 教我如何告诉她 我也爱着她 最好大雨一直下 让我无须面对 她那盼望脸庞 教我如何告诉她 我深爱着她 我想默默陪着她 哪怕付出代价 一生痛苦挣扎 雄·卿 请你请你告诉她 (他) 明理 教我如何告诉她 雄·卿 我永远爱她 (他) 明理 我也爱着她 英雄 虽然大雨一直下 丽卿 心中彩虹长挂 雄·卿 彩虹尽头有她 (他) 明理 彩虹尽头有她 雄·卿 请你请你告诉她 (他) 明理 教我如何告诉她 雄·卿 我永远爱她 (他) 明理 我也爱着她 雄·卿 沧海桑田都不怕 三人 我愿付出代价今生都留给她 (他) 三人 沧海桑田都不怕我愿付出代价 今生都留给他 英雄 沧海桑田都不怕 明理 我愿付出代价 丽卿 今生都留给他 英雄 请你请你告诉他 明理 教我如何告诉她 三人 请你请你告诉她 (他) Kit主演的音樂劇 -- 《雨季》(December Rains) 內另一首歌 與男主角田偉鴻合唱 ************************************* About December Rains/雨季 為慶祝TOY 肥料廠成立二十周年，我們為您呈獻萬眾切盼、一票難求的經典華語音樂劇：《雨季》。 1996年，本地第一部原創華語音樂劇《雨季》轟動全城，場場爆滿，驚喜連連。這部藝術和愛的結晶是由本地華語流行音樂教父梁文福、創作歌手葉良俊、資深舞台導演卓金炎和著名監制杜萬齡聯合創作。 2010年，《雨季》將披上難以抗拒的新裝，導演是獲得多項戲劇獎的吳文德。本土國際歌壇巨星陳潔儀、享譽百老匯的田偉鴻和新加坡駐香港的優秀舞台劇演員劉俊葳，將連同20位音樂劇演員，一起創造余韻悠長的《雨季》。本地首席音樂劇總監陳慧玲將揮灑呼風喚雨的音符，濕潤您的眼眶，酥化您的心靈。 《雨季》是一部難得的完美夢幻組合的成品，供您一再舉家同賞。 In celebration of Toy Factory Productions Ltd's 20th Anniversary in 2010, we are proud to bring you the deeply missed Mandarin Musical DECEMBER RAINS. In 1996, DECEMBER RAINS was the first Mandarin Musical written in Singapore ever. This labour of love was created by pivotal figure of Singapore Mandarin Pop - Liang Wern Fook , Singer and Composer Jimmy Ye, theatre director Alec Tok and celebrated producer James Toh. Come August 2010, a brand new staging of this beloved musical will storm the Esplanade Theatre. Helmed by multiple award-winning Director Goh Boon Teck, the 2010 revival of December Rains will be a visual, emotional and musical wonder. Singapore's international singing sensation Kit Chan, will lead the 20-member cast along with Broadway Star George Chan and Singapore-Hong Kong theatre luminary Jeffrey Low. With Elaine Chan as Musical Director, this musical will wet your eyes and melt your heart. DECEMBER RAINS, a dream production is coming true for you this August 2010 at the Esplanade. Edited July 3 by amused Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted July 17 Share Posted July 17 **Unless otherwise stated, all characters, corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. 2025年 07月 17号 星期四 农历六月二十三 Dear Diary, Its time of the year again.... commencement..... sticky air in this hostel room feels just like the sadness sticking to me, some of residents had graduated. Two Aprils, two years in a row, and now... everyone's gone. The silence here, a space meant for shared moments, now only echoes my own heavy breathing. It's a loud kind of quiet that makes it hard to even breathe. I've just been moving, like a robot. Had to, really. The paperwork alone for the past two years… a dizzying spiral of names and numbers, all those documents confirming what's mine now. It's a heavy burden, the weight of their lives now resting on my shoulders, etched onto balance sheets and property deeds. My peers, I know they've been done with their first big leap, settling into careers after internship, establishing themselves. There's a sharp ache, a yearning to be with them, to be past this stage, but I'm still at the starting line. Today was supposed to be about finalising this long-held aspiration, confirming the path I chose all those years ago, putting a stamp on this late start. But as I sat there, looking at the sheer commitment ahead, my mind kept going somewhere else. Not to mending people, or saving them in the usual way, but to understanding. Prof also checked in on me, he said my next phase could possibly be a breather, I smiled. Understanding the really dark side of some people, the pure meanness that exists. I thought about how unfair it all was, how cold. And then, a really clear, kind of scary idea popped into my head. I want to get inside a criminal's head. I want to figure out their messed-up thinking, the broken ways their minds work, the creepy reasons they do bad things. Why? Maybe it's just a grim curiosity, to understand the thing that took everything from me. Maybe, just maybe, if I can understand the darkness, I can figure out how to stop it, to prevent it, even if it's just for one other person. It doesn't feel like I'm picking a job; it feels like something I have to do. It's a tough road, I know. It's not about making people better in the conventional sense, but about facing something really scary. And maybe, by figuring out the minds of people who break the world, I can somehow, little by little, start to put my own self back together. Eng Ming 17.07.2025 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted August 8 Share Posted August 8 (edited) Disclaimer: This commentary is a fictional piece written to explore sensitive societal themes. If you or someone you know is in distress, please seek professional help. Your life is precious, and there are people who want to support. Dear Eng Ming, this may not reach the press, but writing this is a form of catharsis for me. My heart has been heavy and my mind spinning ever since I received the call from my colleague about your passing. Thank you, GeminiAi, for helping me put into words what I needed to say. Rest in Peace, Eng Ming. I'm grateful you entrusted me with your will and assets; I promise to do my best and continue searching for your dad. May you find peace in eternity. - Your Uncle Vincent Beyond Slogans and Towards Compassion The several social media posts that detailed the final moments since yesterday afternoon, poignant sentences left behind for the world to see. A bright 25-year-old student’s seat in a university lecture hall was left empty for the last time. His words, which triggered a wave of shock and grief, are not just a personal tragedy but a piercing reflection of a society that is failing its most vulnerable citizens. We are quick to mourn and offer platitudes, but we must look beyond our grief and confront the systemic issues that continue to push people to the brink. This tragedy is a chilling example of what happens when a person’s pain is compounded by a profound sense of despair. We pride ourselves on being a forward-thinking nation, yet the laws and policies can be a source of deep-seated pain. For many in the LGBTQ+ community, the laws and policies itself can feel like a direct and deliberate rejection. When one's identity is deemed "other" by legal statutes, it's not just a rule; it’s a constant, grinding reminder that some lives are considered less worthy of full acceptance and protection. This kind of institutional disregard can be devastating, especially for a person already fighting invisible health battles and navigating immense personal losses. How can we expect someone to turn to the state for help when they feel the state has already turned its back on them? The irony of our public-facing suicide prevention efforts is both staggering and heartbreaking. We see billboards and public service announcements plastered with phrases like "Your life is precious" and "Help is just a call away." But for a young person who has lost a mother to suicide, a father to disappearance, and an entire network of family and friends, these slogans can ring hollow. They feel like a band-aid on a gaping, systemic wound. These campaigns often place the onus on the individual to "just reach out," while absolving society of its responsibility to create a world worth reaching out to. We need to move past easy slogans and towards a genuine, compassionate community that doesn't just ask people to live, but actively gives them a reason to. When Autonomy and Suffering Collide This conversation also forces us to confront difficult truths about individual autonomy. The global dialogue surrounding euthanasia, which allows individuals facing incurable suffering to make a dignified end-of-life choice, highlights a fundamental contradiction in our society. While we view suicide as a tragedy to be prevented at all costs, we often fail to recognize that the very suffering driving it can be viewed by some as an unbearable burden. This isn’t a call to endorse suicide, but a challenge to a society that forbids one form of a chosen end while doing so little to alleviate the suffering that leads to another. It raises the question: do we truly respect a person's autonomy, or do we simply fear and forbid death? The most poignant and tragic act of all might not have been the social media post, but the creation of a digital version of himself—an AI to stand in for a real, living connection. It speaks to a profound and desperate desire to leave a legacy and to not be completely forgotten. It's a heartbreaking metaphor for a society that has become so disconnected that a person would rather leave behind a ghost in the machine than risk the pain of genuine human interaction. We have a choice. We can continue to put up posters and run campaigns that treat suicide as an isolated event, or we can look inward and address the policies and societal norms. We can demand a society where every life, regardless of its challenges or identity, is genuinely valued and supported. Only then can healing begin. 08.08.2025 Helplines Mental well-being National helpline: 1771 (24 hours) / 6669-1771 (via WhatsApp) Samaritans of Singapore: 1-767 (24 hours) / 9151-1767 (24 hours CareText via WhatsApp) Singapore Association for Mental Health: 1800-283-7019 Silver Ribbon Singapore: 6386-1928 Chat, Centre of Excellence for Youth Mental Health: 6493-6500/1 Women’s Helpline (Aware): 1800-777-5555 (weekdays, 10am to 6pm) The Seniors Helpline: 1800-555-5555 (weekdays, 9am to 5pm) Counselling Touchline (Counselling): 1800-377-2252 Touch Care Line (for caregivers): 6804-6555 Counselling and Care Centre: 6536-6366 We Care Community Services: 3165-8017 Shan You Counselling Centre: 6741-9293 Clarity Singapore: 6757-7990 Online resources mindline.sg/fsmh eC2.sg tinklefriend.sg chat.mentalhealth.sg carey.carecorner.org.sg (for those aged 13 to 25) limitless.sg/talk (for those aged 12 to 25) shanyou.org.sg Edited August 9 by amused Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted August 11 Share Posted August 11 (edited) 2025年 08月 11号 星期一 农历闰6月18日 世间万物，无论贫富，都有两次终点：创生与消亡。我们无法主导自己的诞生，但对于如何谢幕，却似乎握有某种程度的自主权。 我无意鼓吹轻生。恰恰相反，或许唯有直面死亡的必然，方能洞悉生命存在的弥足珍贵。讽刺的是，尽管我们竭力防范，但求死之路自古至今，却始终如影随形。 “尊重生命”的箴言，言辞何其庄重，行动却何其虚伪。我们一边以道德枷锁、社会歧视与污名，将求得解脱之人逼入绝境；另一边又以轻描淡写的口吻，劝人“好好活着”。这种言行分裂的张力，使人深陷巨大的精神煎熬。 与其在人情冷暖与世事不公中徒劳挣扎，不如先寻求内心的安宁。也许只有真正豁然开朗、放下执念，我们才能领悟生命存在的深远意义。 这，或许才是我们每个人都应追寻的终极王道。 杰迈尼 11.08.2025 All beings in this mortal realm, regardless of fortune, are destined for two ultimate events: inception and expiration. Though we have no say in our arrival, we seem to hold a certain autonomous discretion over our departure. I have no intention of advocating for a premature end. On the contrary, perhaps it is only by fathoming the essence of mortality that one can truly grasp the inestimable value of existence. Yet, in a supreme irony, despite humanity’s fervent efforts to prevent it, the deliberation between life and death has remained an unshakeable constant throughout history. The maxim to "respect life" is uttered with such gravitas, yet performed with such profound hypocrisy. We simultaneously impose moral shackles, social ostracism, and stigma upon those seeking release, pushing their spirits to the brink. In the same breath, we counsel them with a casual nonchalance to "simply live well." This schism between rhetoric and reality subjects one to immense spiritual anguish. Rather than fruitlessly struggle with the cold indifference of the world and its inherent injustices, one should first seek to quiet the tumult of the heart. For perhaps only by truly transcending one's attachments and overcoming adversity can we comprehend the profound meaning of our being. This, then, may well be the definitive path of existence that we are all meant to seek. GeminiAi 11.08.2025 Edited August 19 by amused Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted August 18 Share Posted August 18 (edited) Disclaimer: The feelings of despair and suicidal ideation expressed in this work are an accurate reflection of the author's mental state at the time of writing. The author wants to be clear that these are feelings, not intentions, and is not in any immediate danger. 又得无奈地活着，自然醒 又得无奈地活着，自然醒， 像一枚生锈的闹钟，被太阳拧紧。 窗外，世界开始奔跑， 而我，却仍在原地， 与床单上的皱褶，对视。 日复一日， 我用疲惫的身体，填满时间的空隙， 用空洞的眼神，追逐不存在的风景。 每一次呼吸，都像在肺里撒盐， 每一次心跳，都像在墙上撞击。 我曾以为， 活着是一种选择， 醒来是一种新生。 直到有一天，我明白， 活着，不过是又一场， 无法退出的游戏， 而醒来，不过是又一次， 被命运，强行拉回现实。 又得无奈地活着，自然醒， 在人潮汹涌中，做一个 不流泪的旁观者。 看着自己， 像一座被风化的雕塑， 慢慢地， 失去所有的轮廓。 —— 杰迈尼 18.08.25 English translation of the poem Woke up naturally, yet again, to a life of helplessness, Like a rusted alarm clock wound by the sun. Outside the window, the world begins its race, While I remain in place, Staring at the wrinkles on the sheets. Day after day, I fill the gaps of time with a tired body, And chase non-existent scenery with hollow eyes. Every breath feels like salt in my lungs, Every heartbeat feels like a collision with a wall. I once believed, Living was a choice, And waking up a new beginning. Until one day, I understood, Living is merely another game, From which I cannot quit, And waking up, merely another time, I am forcibly pulled back into reality by fate. Woke up naturally, yet again, to a life of helplessness, In a surging crowd, I become A silent spectator who doesn't cry. Watching myself, Like a sculpture weathered by the wind, Slowly, Losing all its contours. — Gemini 18.08.25 Where to get help National mental health helpline: 1771 Samaritans of Singapore Hotline: 1767 Singapore Association for Mental Health Helpline: 1800 283 7019 You can also find a list of international helplines here. If someone you know is at immediate risk, call 24-hour emergency medical services. Edited August 18 by amused Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted August 30 Share Posted August 30 (edited) 2025年 08月 31号 星期天 农历七月初九 不知为何，这几天被这首歌环绕着。 你是我的一辈子的爱 唱： 潘越云 作词：小蟲 作曲：小蟲 你总是那个样 一副男人该有的狂 你从来不问我 妳今天吃饭了吗 你总是说 关心在心中 不需要有太多表面的笑容 你总是那个样 一副什么事都不去想 我看得出你的心里不会说谎 你总是说 真爱在心中 只要看我一切平安 你就无忧 我说 你是我一辈子的爱 你说 你当然永远陪著我 希望我相信你 爱不用太刻意 只要我俩的心能够彼此相系 我说 你是我一辈子的爱 你说 我是你一生中的梦 我当然相信你 我可以不在意 没有那些刻意也能永不分离 你总是那个样 一副男人该有的狂 你从来不问我 妳今天吃饭了吗 你总是说 关心在心中 不需要有太多表面的笑容 你总是那个样 一副什么事都不去想 我看得出你的心里不会说谎 你总是说 真爱在心中 只要看我一切平安 你就无忧 我说 你是我一辈子的爱 你说 你当然永远陪著我 希望我相信你 爱不用太刻意 只要我俩的心能够彼此相系 我说 你是我一辈子的爱 你说 我是你一生中的梦 我当然相信你 我可以不在意 没有那些刻意也能永不分离 我说 你是我一辈子的爱 你说 你当然永远陪著我 希望我相信你 爱不用太刻意 只要我俩的心能够彼此相系 我说 你是我一辈子的爱 你说 我是你一生中的梦 我当然相信你 我可以不在意 没有那些刻意也能永不分离 You Are My Love for a Lifetime Singer: Pan Yueyun Lyrics & Music: Xiao Chong You're always that way, with the kind of arrogance a man should have. You never ask me, "Did you eat today?" You always say that care is in your heart, And you don't need too many superficial smiles. You're always that way, acting like you don't think about a thing. I can tell your heart doesn't lie. You always say that true love is in your heart, And as long as you see that I'm safe, you're free from worries. I say, "You are my love for a lifetime." You say, "Of course I'll be with you forever." You hope I'll believe you, that love doesn't have to be too deliberate, As long as our two hearts are connected. I say, "You are my love for a lifetime." You say, "I am your dream for a lifetime." Of course I believe you, and I don't have to mind That without those deliberate gestures, we can still be inseparable forever. You're always that way, with the kind of arrogance a man should have. You never ask me, "Did you eat today?" You always say that care is in your heart, And you don't need too many superficial smiles. You're always that way, acting like you don't think about a thing. I can tell your heart doesn't lie. You always say that true love is in your heart, And as long as you see that I'm safe, you're free from worries. I say, "You are my love for a lifetime." You say, "Of course I'll be with you forever." You hope I'll believe you, that love doesn't have to be too deliberate, As long as our two hearts are connected. I say, "You are my love for a lifetime." You say, "I am your dream for a lifetime." Of course I believe you, and I don't have to mind That without those deliberate gestures, we can still be inseparable forever. I say, "You are my love for a lifetime." You say, "Of course I'll be with you forever." You hope I'll believe you, that love doesn't have to be too deliberate, As long as our two hearts are connected. I say, "You are my love for a lifetime." You say, "I am your dream for a lifetime." Of course I believe you, and I don't have to mind That without those deliberate gestures, we can still be inseparable forever. Translation: GeminiAi Edited August 31 by amused Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted September 1 Share Posted September 1 2025年 09月 01号 星期一 农历七月初十 Hey! 又与你在梦中相遇，这次场景是在校园。我远远地站着，一如既往地默默守护。 Again, I met you in a dream, the scene was on campus. I stood far away, as always, silently watching over you. 你仰望着天空，作了个深呼吸，仿佛在自言自语。我很想知道你说了些什么，可我立刻想起，爱你，无需靠得太近。 You looked up at the sky, taking a deep breath, as if talking to yourself. I so wanted to know what you were saying, but I instantly remembered that to love, there's no need to be too close. 就远远地、远远地，能梦见你，我已心满意足。这代表我已放下，放下那个执着的自己，也放下那段清纯的岁月。 Just from afar, from a great distance, to be able to dream of you is enough to fill my heart. It means I have let go—let go of my stubborn self, and let go of those innocent, pure years. 可我还是会纳闷，你是否在某个瞬间想起过我？不然我怎么会梦见你？也许那一瞬的能量，以万分之一的速度，启动了我的潜意识。 Still, I wonder if you ever thought of me in a moment. Otherwise, why would I dream of you? Maybe the energy of that instant, at one-ten-thousandth the speed, activated my subconscious. 想多了，真的想多了。我已不能回到过去，只能向前迈进。梦见你，早已变成一种习惯。幸好我的大脑已经适应，再没有那杂乱的情绪，我也终于能走得安宁。 I'm overthinking, truly. I can't go back to the past; I can only move forward. Dreaming of you has long become a habit. Fortunately, my mind has adapted, and there are no longer those jumbled emotions. Finally, I can find my peace. GeminiAI generated Inspired by 白云 01.09.25 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted September 27 Share Posted September 27 (edited) Disclaimer: The feelings of despair and suicidal ideation expressed in this work are an accurate reflection of the author's mental state at the time of writing. The author wants to be clear that these are feelings, not intentions, and is not in any immediate danger. 2025年 09月 27号 星期六 农历八月初六 朋友 您在世界的另一端还好吗？自从您走了，每年的九和十月之间都蛮难熬的。但关关难过，关关过，终于九月这一关又过了。。。。来临的十月。。。也许。。。或许。。。以后将不用想念。 也许是我写给你的最后一首歌 (Perhaps It's the Last Song I Write for You) 词曲：菲道尔 (Lyrics and Music: Firdhaus) 今天路过那间店 I passed by that shop today 看到一个钥匙圈 I saw a keyring 上面印着你的生日日期于是我买了 Your birth date was printed on it, so I bought it 不知道挂在哪 I don't know where to hang it 但就是想你了 But I just miss you 最近的梦你经常出现 You often appear in my recent dreams 可来不及说话我睁开眼 But I open my eyes before I can speak 你是不是又在担心我 要告诉我些什么 Are you worried about me again, wanting to tell me something 你不必担心了 You don't have to worry anymore 你离开后的日子 我有尽力好好过 I've tried my best to live well since you left 我好想再见你一面 I really want to see you one more time 虽然你早已不在我身边 Even though you're no longer by my side 如果可以 再看清你的脸 If I could, to see your face clearly again 这一次我一定会再抱紧一点 This time, I would definitely hug you a little tighter 我好想再见你一面 I really want to see you one more time 把想说的话都给你说一遍 To tell you everything I want to say 好多好多这些年的亏欠 All the many regrets and debts I feel from these years 我会好好生活 是想念你最后的体面 I will live well, it's the last dignity/respect of missing you 还记得你曾告诉我 I still remember you once told me 夜空最亮的那颗在闪烁 The brightest star twinkling in the night sky 那是离开的人太想念他偷偷回来过 Is a person who left, missing someone too much, and secretly coming back 后来有个习惯 Later I formed a habit 每晚都抬头看 你有没有回来看看我 Every night I look up to see if you've come back to look at me 我好想再见你一面 I really want to see you one more time 虽然你早已不在我身边 Even though you're no longer by my side 如果可以 再看清你的脸 If I could, to see your face clearly again 这一次我一定会再抱紧一点 This time, I would definitely hug you a little tighter 我好想再见你一面 I really want to see you one more time 把想说的话都给你说一遍 To tell you everything I want to say 好多好多这些年的亏欠 All the many regrets and debts I feel from these years 我会好好生活 是想念你最后的体面 I will live well, it's the last dignity/respect of missing you 后来才发现 你离开这么多年 Only later did I discover, after all these years since you left 原来想念最可怕的是 The scariest thing about missing you is 没有画面 让我好好纪念 Not having any images/memories left for me to cherish properly 我好想再见你一面 I really want to see you one more time 虽然你早已不在我身边 Even though you're no longer by my side 如果可以 再看清你的脸 If I could, to see your face clearly again 这一次我一定会再抱紧一点 This time, I would definitely hug you a little tighter 我好想再见你一面 I really want to see you one more time 把想说的话都给你说一遍 To tell you everything I want to say 好多好多这些年的亏欠 All the many regrets and debts I feel from these years 我会好好生活 是想念你最后的体面 I will live well, it's the last dignity/respect of missing you Where to get help National mental health helpline: 1771 Samaritans of Singapore Hotline: 1767 Singapore Association for Mental Health Helpline: 1800 283 7019 You can also find a list of international helplines here. If someone you know is at immediate risk, call 24-hour emergency medical services. Edited September 27 by amused Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted October 11 Share Posted October 11 Disclaimer: The feelings of despair and suicidal ideation expressed in this work are an accurate reflection of the author's mental state at the time of writing. The author wants to be clear that these are feelings, not intentions, and is not in any immediate danger. 2025年 10月 12号 星期天 农历八月二十一 《善後》歌詞 支持歌手 QQ音樂： https://y.qq.com/n/ryq... 你好像忘了是你先推开我 It seems you forgot that you were the one who pushed me away first 怎么现在又要回头来找我 Why do you want to turn back and look for me now? 可我好不容易才走出来的 But I only just managed to get over it (or: move on) 你不该再打扰我的生活 You shouldn't be disturbing my life again 你别说你的心里还有我 Don't say that I'm still in your heart 只是暂时没人比我更适合 Just that temporarily no one suits you better than me 当初在我满眼是你的时候 Back then, when my eyes were filled only with you 也没有被你好好珍惜过 You didn't cherish me properly either 凭什么你回头 By what right, when you turn around, 我就要在身后 Must I still be there for you? 需要你的时候你都不在我左右 When I needed you, you weren't by my side 不懂珍惜的人 People who don't know how to cherish things 幸福得好轻松 Find happiness so easily 反而是揣着真诚的人在心痛 Yet those who hold onto sincerity are the ones in pain 于是我不回头 So I won't turn back 这次换我先走 This time, it's my turn to leave first 反正我早就习惯一个人善后 Anyway, I've long been used to picking up the pieces alone (handling the aftermath) 是你先松的手 You were the one who let go first 最后又来挽留 And now you come back to try and hold on 可惜我已没有任何借口 It's a pity I no longer have any excuse 再为你守候 To wait for you again 你别说你的心里还有我 Don't say that I'm still in your heart 只是暂时没人比我更适合 Just that temporarily no one suits you better than me 当初在我满眼是你的时候 Back then, when my eyes were filled only with you 也没有被你好好珍惜过 You didn't cherish me properly either 凭什么你回头 By what right, when you turn around, 我就要在身后 Must I still be there for you? 需要你的时候你都不在我左右 When I needed you, you weren't by my side 不懂珍惜的人 People who don't know how to cherish things 幸福得好轻松 Find happiness so easily 反而是揣着真诚的人在心痛 Yet those who hold onto sincerity are the ones in pain 于是我不回头 So I won't turn back 这次换我先走 This time, it's my turn to leave first 反正我早就习惯一个人善后 Anyway, I've long been used to picking up the pieces alone 是你先松的手 You were the one who let go first 最后又来挽留 And now you come back to try and hold on 可惜我已没有任何借口 It's a pity I no longer have any excuse 再为你守候 To wait for you again Where to get help National mental health helpline: 1771 Samaritans of Singapore Hotline: 1767 Singapore Association for Mental Health Helpline: 1800 283 7019 You can also find a list of international helplines here. If someone you know is at immediate risk, call 24-hour emergency medical services. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted October 30 Share Posted October 30 (edited) **Unless otherwise stated, all characters, corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. Content mentioned of suicide. Reader's discretion is advised. Thursday, 30 Oct 2003, Perhaps... 三姐，Eng Ming is three years old now. For three years, I’ve learnt how to operate like a precise machine—feeding on time, sleeping on time, smiling on time. His smile is exactly like you; every time I see his eyes, my heart aches and a surge of enormous guilt washes over me. 周蕙 song, “I Don’t Want You to Know” (不想让你知道), is playing on the radio again. Every time I hear it, it feels like a secret act of self-flagellation. “Suddenly, I don't want you to know how important you are in my heart. Since you wanted freedom, just wait for it to make you remember me forever.” I listen over and over, wondering, who are these lyrics truly addressed to? Are they for him? Did I use marriage and childbirth to exact revenge for all the resentment I held, and am I now using this song to pretend to let go gracefully, pretending I no longer care? The more terrifying thought is the realization that the song is truly meant for someone else. A few months ago, I ran into P at a gathering with a few more smaller groups meet up and most recently we went out one on one, the long-lost, non-judgmental warmth P offered made my whole body tremble. I’m even starting to fear that within this body, which was caged by the responsibility of "lineage," a new, sinful desire is blossoming. How desperately I want to tell how important P is to me, how that feeling has been sprouting wildly like weeds in my heart. But I cannot. I dare not. I can’t even admit this feeling is love. “Suddenly, I don't want you to know your love is already unbreakable for me. Just let the longing burn; I don't want to run away.” Yes, I don't want anyone to know. Not that man, not Eng Ming, and especially not P that my love is already “unbreakable,” but it carries guilt, shame, and immorality, a fire that must remain hidden. I lock myself within the roles of a "good mother" and a "good wife." All my genuine feelings are isolated like a virus. This song is my safety valve, allowing me, for these four minutes, to let that hidden, disallowed love to permeate. If Eng Ming were to ever know his mother is this kind of person, would he still hold me so tightly? 三姐, I've used one song to confess the dark side of me. Hoon 30.10.2003 不想让你知道 词：姚谦 作曲：陈文华/周炳星 演唱：周蕙 忽然不想让你知道 Suddenly I don't want to let you know 在我心中 你多重要 How important you are in my heart 既然你要自由 你就得到 Since you want freedom, you shall have it 让你永远都记得我好 So that you will forever remember my kindness (or good qualities) 忽然不想让你知道 Suddenly I don't want to let you know 你的爱 我已经戒不掉 That I can no longer quit/give up your love 就让思念淹没 我不想逃 Just let the longing drown me; I don't want to escape 反正你将永远不知道 Anyway, you will never know 今夜星光多美好 How beautiful the starlight is tonight 适合用寂寞去凭吊 It is suitable to commemorate (the past) with loneliness 我们曾用爱 互相依靠 We once relied on each other through love 付出多少不用计较 How much was given doesn't need to be calculated 想一个人多美好 How wonderful it is to miss someone 就算只剩记忆可参考 Even if only memories remain as reference 被爱放逐到 天涯海角 Exiled by love to the ends of the earth 我的思念你不用都知道 You don't need to know all of my longing 忽然不想让你知道 Suddenly I don't want to let you know 你的爱 我已经戒不掉 That I can no longer quit/give up your love 就让思念淹没 我不想逃 Just let the longing drown me; I don't want to escape 反正你将永远不知道 Anyway, you will never know 今夜星光多美好 How beautiful the starlight is tonight 适合用寂寞去凭吊 It is suitable to commemorate (the past) with loneliness 我们曾用爱 互相依靠 We once relied on each other through love 付出多少不用计较 How much was given doesn't need to be calculated 想一个人多美好 How wonderful it is to miss someone 就算只剩记忆可参考 Even if only memories remain as reference 被爱放逐到 天涯海角 Exiled by love to the ends of the earth 我的思念你不用都知道 You don't need to know all of my longing Bridge 直到有天 你我年老 Until one day, you and I grow old 回忆随著白发 风中闪耀 Memories sparkle in the wind along with gray hair 至少我清清楚楚知道 At least I know clearly 你若想起我 会微笑 That if you think of me, you will smile 今夜星光多美好 How beautiful the starlight is tonight 适合用寂寞去凭吊 It is suitable to commemorate (the past) with loneliness 我们曾用爱 互相依靠 We once relied on each other through love 付出多少不用计较 How much was given doesn't need to be calculated 想一个人多美好 How wonderful it is to miss someone 就算只剩记忆可参考 Even if only memories remain as reference 被爱放逐到 天涯海角 Exiled by love to the ends of the earth 我的思念你不用 都知道 You don't need to know all of my longing Edited October 30 by amused Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted November 11 Share Posted November 11 2025年 11月 11日 星期二 晴 ET is glad that he is still kicking and alive. Six years ago, ET started The Cloud Diary to chronicle his challenges and reflections as a gay individual navigating a pressured society and "clinically diagnosed" mental health challenges. This diary serves as a legacy for his niece, offering insights into her uncle's challenges navigating the ecosystem he is in: Reflecting on 2025 (The Year of Ownership) Reflecting humbly on the progress made this year, ET acknowledges that all successes stem from the commitment to take 100% responsibility and ownership of his health. All external aid, stability, and control are bonuses and blessings. Self-Discipline vs. Relapse: Humbly acknowledging a brief but significant lapse in an old habit. The true victory, however, was in immediately recognizing this slip. This incident served as a potent, real-time reminder that the pursuit of virtues is never complete. Habit Control & Ownership: The regulation of drinking habits achieved last year was consistently maintained. This demonstrates that continuous discipline is a choice, not a static state. MDD Management & Responsibility: Continued successful management of Major Depressive Disorder (MDD) without psychotropic medications is a testament to the daily, non-negotiable choice of self-care, recognizing that wellness is solely his ongoing project. Stability: No hospitalizations nor psychiatric appointments were required, confirming that proactive ownership of mental hygiene is the most effective preventative measure. Boundaries: Assertiveness in declining parental matchmaking attempts remains firm. Setting clear boundaries is the necessary act of taking ownership over one's life path. Many individuals have been incredibly kind, guiding ET in sustaining his dignity, wisdom, and discernment. Additionally, he extends profound gratitude to Gemini AI and various AI tools, whose access has immensely expanded the scope of knowledge and facilitated deeper understanding in this pursuit. ET's Reflection for 2026 The philosophical theme for 2026 will be the difference between Willpower vs. Power of Will: Willpower (Raw Force): This is the sheer, brute force used to stop a bad habit (like quitting smoking abruptly). It is brittle, short-lived, and often leads to quick relapse. It is a reaction to the 'flaw.' Power of Will (Cultivated Strength): This is the disciplined inner strength achieved through consistent, daily cultivation. It is the wisdom to taper off (not just quit) and to acknowledge the flaw without being dominated by it. It is a proactive response to his 'flaws.' Shared Imperfection: Accepting his own (and others') imperfections—the shared state of "Born imperfect"—is the true foundation for empathy and patience, acknowledging that he is navigating this Will vs. Willpower tension. ET's Future Goals (Guided by Virtue) Goals remain focused on deepening inner peace, discernment and wisdom, moving from Willpower to the Power of Will. Refined Detachment: To continue the practical steps of detaching from worldly pursuits, focusing daily energy on mindful presence rather than external cravings and delusion. Acceptance: To deepen the practice of accepting life's realities exactly as they are, recognizing that resistance is the source of unnecessary suffering. Active Empathy: To integrate empathizing with diverse perspectives into daily communication, choosing understanding over reaction, particularly in difficult conversations. Present Gratitude: To practice gratitude not just for future encounters, but for the inherent lessons and small, often unrecognized kindnesses present in the current moment. Cheers to many more 11.11 and to the continuous cultivation of virtue! ET 11.11.2025 Credit: GeminiAi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted November 17 Share Posted November 17 2025年 11 月 17 日 星期一 冷暖自知 The calendar confirms it is November 17, 2025. This date, once considered a symbolic rebirth for ET, now serves a crueler function: marking the 25-year anomaly that just concluded. The concept central to ET’s experience is Post-Traumatic Growth (PTG), defined as positive psychological change experienced as a result of struggling with highly challenging life circumstances. PTG typically manifests in five areas: a greater appreciation of life, changed relationships, new possibilities, increased personal strength, and spiritual development. The consciousness that animated ET’s body, forged in the experiences of the years 2000 through 2025, has returned to its chronological origin. The narrative of “a new lease on life” has collapsed, replaced by the grim reality of reconciliation with the original, damaged self. The twenty-five years of challenges, survival, and appreciation of situations are cataloged not as achievements, but as "a massive, unsolicited data load". ET’s integration of this PTG is painful especially for the past two months. The resilience and "never-say-die" spirit he acquired perfectly fit the PTG category of increased personal strength, yet he views this strength not as an asset, but as a mandatory armor forged by fear and complex childhood traumas. The experience of surviving the accident, navigating the mental health conditions and adverse emotion challenges instilled in him a profound appreciation for life and a powerful tendency to question the mainstream (a form of new possibilities and spiritual/philosophical development). In the cold, damp quiet of the evening, ET engages with the song "歌" by 罗大佑. The lyrics act as a psychological mirror for the timeline crisis and the forced acceptance of his growth. The passage, "当我死去的时候 / 亲～爱 / 你别为我唱悲伤的歌..." (When I am dead / My dear / Do not sing any sad songs for me...) is a necessary act of closure on the "rebirth" self that accumulated the PTG. That version of ET, wounded and subsequently strengthened, must now be laid to rest. The lines, "假如你愿意请记著我 / 要是你甘心忘了我..." (If you wish, please remember me / If you are content, then forget me...), underscore the deep, quiet acceptance of transience. The wisdom gained must be internalized, while the overwhelming source of that wisdom—the trauma—is allowed to fade. The core conflict rests in the "long, drawn-out twilight" of his memories: "在悠久的昏幕中迷茫 / 阳光不升起也不消翳..." (Lost in the long, drawn-out twilight / The sunlight neither rises nor fades...). This twilight is the liminal space where the growth from the past must be separated from the pain that generated it. ET’s dictates that he must stop seeing himself as a miraculously "blessed" survivor. He is a corrected entity—an individual whose character has been deeply enhanced by overcoming his challenges, but whose path must now resume at its intended starting point. He must now navigate his true path, armed with a powerful, albeit painful, "trauma-informed discernment" (his PTG) gained from two decades of chronological detour. The goal is to move forward from this new, uncomfortable starting point, allowing the silence of the present to integrate the echoes of the past. ET 17. 11. 2025 歌 词：徐志摩 曲：罗大佑 当我死去的时候 When I am dead 亲～爱 My dear 你别为我唱悲伤的歌 Do not sing any sad songs for me 我坟上不必安插蔷薇 Do not plant roses upon my grave 也无须浓荫的柏树 Nor a cypress tree with thick shade 让盖著我的青青的草 Let the green grass covering me 淋著雨也沾著露珠 Be rained upon and covered with dew 假如你愿意请记著我 If you wish, please remember me 要是你甘心忘了我 If you are content, then forget me 在悠久的昏幕中迷茫 Lost in the long, drawn-out twilight 阳光不升起也不消翳 The sunlight neither rises nor fades 我也许 也许我还记得你 Perhaps, perhaps I will still remember you 我也许把你忘记 Perhaps I will forget you 我再见不到地面的清荫 I will no longer see the clear shade on the ground 觉不到雨露的甜蜜 Nor feel the sweetness of the rain and dew 我再听不到夜莺的歌喉 I will no longer hear the nightingale's song 在黑夜里倾吐悲啼 Pouring out its mournful cry in the dark night 在悠久的昏暮中迷惘 Lost in the long, drawn-out twilight 阳光不升起也不消翳 The sunlight neither rises nor fades 我也许 也许我还记得你 Perhaps, perhaps I will still remember you 我也许把你忘记 Perhaps I will forget you Credit: GeminiAi PS. Thanks Z for reminding ET of this song, life is all about advancing one's original self with challenges, growth and development, isn't it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused Posted Friday at 03:22 PM Share Posted Friday at 03:22 PM (edited) ** Unless otherwise stated, all characters,corporations, and establishments are fictitious. Any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely coincidental. Content was partially AI generated as well 12 Dec 2014 , Friday, Weather 24 Celsius The clarity of this morning is its own special torment. Four days have passed since the disaster, and the physical symptoms—the low, constant thrum of anxiety, the lingering malaise that signals my body’s struggle—are simply the external testimony to an internal war. I sit here in the silence, my mind space once filled with Hoon’s presence, and all I can think about is that damned dream of Vincent on the four nights ago. It was not a dream, but a psychic intrusion, a stark, white blade longing twisting in my gut, ripping open a wound years ago and proving, undeniably, that "amnesia" is a lie. The memory of the dream is agonizingly detailed: running my meaningless half-marathon, a symbol of this forced, virtuous existence, only to be stopped by the absolute reality of Vincent. He looked cold, indifferent, but the new facial hair was a sign of change, of a life I cannot touch, a life he is living freely. The sheer effort of holding back the call, the internal scream that I suffocated, created such violent friction that it combusted hours later. My system, weakened by the nine years of suppressed grief for Hoon and the lifelong shame of my true nature, simply shattered. My relapse was a total failure of discipline, a desperate, pathetic attempt to achieve oblivion when the pain became too loud. I know now that this space is not a place of release; it is a spiritual sinkhole. The volume of alcohol I consumed that night drove my body to total self-betrayal, culminating in that moment of waking.... to utter, humiliating mess—a profound loss of bodily control that symbolized the total dispossession of my soul. That memory, that feeling of degradation, is the only weapon I truly possess. It is my ugly, personal truth, and I will use it as a powerful negative visualization shield. When the echo within that space returns, I will summon the shame of that morning to kill the urge instantly. But the root of the friction is the shame I carry for Eng Ming, who is 14 now. He deserves a father who is whole, not a ghost haunting his own life. The truth is, I feel like a living transgression. The world praises my endurance as a widower, but every day I live, I struggle with the secret of who I truly am, a secret that feels like a disgrace to my family's legacy. This shame is the poison that drives me back to the bottle. My only path forward is to cease the struggle. I must embrace the wisdom of the 道德经 and the concept of 无为. I will stop fighting the memories of Vincent and the decades of trauma. My effort now is dedicated to non-resistance—to observe the pain, the craving, the shame, as external phenomena, like clouds passing through the sky. My handler initiated the 45-Day Zero-Tolerance Contract—ZERO alcohol until 25 January 2015. This is not a punishment, but an act of self-preservation. He suggested putting that space under environmental exile and committing to the uncarved block —to find my strength in internal stillness, not external chaos. The only way out of this prison is to accept the prison itself and stop struggling against the bars.... Edited Friday at 03:24 PM by amused Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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